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Affection & Swinging?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you think it’s possible to show any affection or share affection while swinging? Is it always cold hard sex, or is there an element of kindness and tenderness possible? I spent a night with a contact recently and for me part of the pleasure involved was the fact we slept after then said goodbye in the morning. There were no feelings that this was a relationship missed, or feelings out of place, more a feeling of giving rather than taking and a pleasant ‘thanks you for that’ at the end.

What’s your thoughts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I agree not into cold hard sex.

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By *ickiemintMan
over a year ago

Somewhere NW London


"Do you think it’s possible to show any affection or share affection while swinging? Is it always cold hard sex, or is there an element of kindness and tenderness possible? I spent a night with a contact recently and for me part of the pleasure involved was the fact we slept after then said goodbye in the morning. There were no feelings that this was a relationship missed, or feelings out of place, more a feeling of giving rather than taking and a pleasant ‘thanks you for that’ at the end.

What’s your thoughts?

"

Have recently found a lady who I hope will be a friend for ever. and she feels the same way. Soul mates. And my mrs approves. My lovely ladyfriend is playing in Chams tonight, with a couple of her girlfriends. I'm wishing I was there with them, but not possible tonight, as i'm working in the morning. But i'm hoping that she (and they) have an awesome time. and I still can't wait for the next time I wake up alongside her in the morning. Its a funny old world... Rich

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I wouldn't call it affection but there is room for warmth and human contact. I could not have cold, hard sex I'd hate it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that's lovely...I don't like cold sex as it's too clinical. Much prefer a little tenderness and sensuality - that comes from getting to know the person a little bit first and makes you feel happy and warm afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that's lovely...I don't like cold sex as it's too clinical. Much prefer a little tenderness and sensuality - that comes from getting to know the person a little bit first and makes you feel happy and warm afterwards "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

affections fine emotions time and place. lovey divey stuff no ta.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree with you i enjoy it much more if i meet a kind, affectionate man.

although i dont have anyone staying the night only for a few hours.

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"I think that's lovely...I don't like cold sex as it's too clinical. Much prefer a little tenderness and sensuality - that comes from getting to know the person a little bit first and makes you feel happy and warm afterwards "

Personally - f here but think i speak for us both -affection is good. I need a spark and chemistry, i like to have an attraction to the couple/person as it makes the playing far better.

I'm not adverse to "just sex" in a club environment, but in a meet i like something more for the duration of the meet.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Do you think it’s possible to show any affection or share affection while swinging? Is it always cold hard sex, or is there an element of kindness and tenderness possible? I spent a night with a contact recently and for me part of the pleasure involved was the fact we slept after then said goodbye in the morning. There were no feelings that this was a relationship missed, or feelings out of place, more a feeling of giving rather than taking and a pleasant ‘thanks you for that’ at the end.

What’s your thoughts?

"

This is what I like as well, doesn't mean you can't do nsa, I don't do clinical sex either, just not me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that's lovely...I don't like cold sex as it's too clinical. Much prefer a little tenderness and sensuality - that comes from getting to know the person a little bit first and makes you feel happy and warm afterwards

Personally - f here but think i speak for us both -affection is good. I need a spark and chemistry, i like to have an attraction to the couple/person as it makes the playing far better.

I'm not adverse to "just sex" in a club environment, but in a meet i like something more for the duration of the meet."

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

im always affectionate .. just cant help it .. how could you behave otherwise .. x

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I need the spark and the tenderness.

Cold sex leaves me cold

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

Affection and warmth enhances the swinging experience for me. There has to be some connection (physically and mentally)for it to work for me.

Okay the closeness might diminish rapidly afterwards, this always happens to me as a single man when I'm with a couple but I find cold clinical sex reduces the enjoyment for me - of course I'm not saying I'd kick her out of bed for being a cold fish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think that's lovely...I don't like cold sex as it's too clinical. Much prefer a little tenderness and sensuality - that comes from getting to know the person a little bit first and makes you feel happy and warm afterwards

Personally - f here but think i speak for us both -affection is good. I need a spark and chemistry, i like to have an attraction to the couple/person as it makes the playing far better.

I'm not adverse to "just sex" in a club environment, but in a meet i like something more for the duration of the meet."

Yep me too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hoorah at last a thread that says its ok to be gentle and tender rather than fast and furious all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Affection/ fondness is good.

Not so keen on when they jump away saying a hug is too 'personal' or when you lie on them afterwards and they look like they'd rather chew their own arm off than lie next to you.

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By *orkscrew CurlsWoman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

So long as its mutual and you both (or all if more people present!...) feel comfortable and have a good understanding of each other then affection enhances the experience, especially as you say on an extended session where there will be breaks in the action, or indeed a sleepover...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think it’s possible to show any affection or share affection while swinging? Is it always cold hard sex, or is there an element of kindness and tenderness possible? I spent a night with a contact recently and for me part of the pleasure involved was the fact we slept after then said goodbye in the morning. There were no feelings that this was a relationship missed, or feelings out of place, more a feeling of giving rather than taking and a pleasant ‘thanks you for that’ at the end.

What’s your thoughts?

Have recently found a lady who I hope will be a friend for ever. and she feels the same way. Soul mates. And my mrs approves. My lovely ladyfriend is playing in Chams tonight, with a couple of her girlfriends. I'm wishing I was there with them, but not possible tonight, as i'm working in the morning. But i'm hoping that she (and they) have an awesome time. and I still can't wait for the next time I wake up alongside her in the morning. Its a funny old world... Rich "

You have an understanding wife.... I thought your ' mrs' would be your soul mate. I actually find that worrying but its only my personal opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Affection always makes the meet more sensual and erotic for me, I only have female meets so think it comes with the territory. Not in a position to comment on mf meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So long as its mutual and you both (or all if more people present!...) feel comfortable and have a good understanding of each other then affection enhances the experience, especially as you say on an extended session where there will be breaks in the action, or indeed a sleepover..."

we have luckily found this with one guy we meet regularly and we all get on like a house on fire and the sex is amazing and we all cuddle up and sleep together

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By *lle adie 2Woman
over a year ago

newcastle upon tyne

Nothing wrong with affection, my ex fb and i always spent the night together and even went away for a weekend. We did like each other and enjoyed each others company. Dont like just cold sex...

At the end of the day its up to the persons own choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well im the weirdo on her own yet again. id freak if someone tried to cuddle me or lie beside me after a meet.

once we've fucked, i want them out my house so i can go to sleep.

surely i cant be the only female on here that is only looking for what everyone else calls 'clinical' sex and good hard poundings?

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By *inful_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

We've become good close friends with some of the girls we've been with ... continued to have sex with them even after they became someone we loved as a friend. It still makes no odds to us, and when the sex ends, we're still friends. That wont work for some of course. Some people have a hard time distinguishing friendship love and being "in-love".

But that's all good We don't expect to be close friends with all our girls

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"Do you think it’s possible to show any affection or share affection while swinging? Is it always cold hard sex, or is there an element of kindness and tenderness possible? I spent a night with a contact recently and for me part of the pleasure involved was the fact we slept after then said goodbye in the morning. There were no feelings that this was a relationship missed, or feelings out of place, more a feeling of giving rather than taking and a pleasant ‘thanks you for that’ at the end.

What’s your thoughts?

Have recently found a lady who I hope will be a friend for ever. and she feels the same way. Soul mates. And my mrs approves. My lovely ladyfriend is playing in Chams tonight, with a couple of her girlfriends. I'm wishing I was there with them, but not possible tonight, as i'm working in the morning. But i'm hoping that she (and they) have an awesome time. and I still can't wait for the next time I wake up alongside her in the morning. Its a funny old world... Rich

You have an understanding wife.... I thought your ' mrs' would be your soul mate. I actually find that worrying but its only my personal opinion. "

I agree with this and can only say, tread very, very carefully or it could all blow up in your face

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"I think that's lovely...I don't like cold sex as it's too clinical. Much prefer a little tenderness and sensuality - that comes from getting to know the person a little bit first and makes you feel happy and warm afterwards "

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes


"We've become good close friends with some of the girls we've been with ... continued to have sex with them even after they became someone we loved as a friend. It still makes no odds to us, and when the sex ends, we're still friends. That wont work for some of course. Some people have a hard time distinguishing friendship love and being "in-love".

But that's all good We don't expect to be close friends with all our girls "

There is definitely a distinction between friendship love and being "in-love". I love my FB to bits, but know I am not "in-love" with him. If that were to happen, I think it would ruin what we have right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I wouldn't want to share my bed with a someone I'm just fucking. Just not me. I'd be the one to say good night, good bye and leave.

The person who stays the night in my bed or with me is someone I care deeply about and it's more than just sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well im the weirdo on her own yet again. id freak if someone tried to cuddle me or lie beside me after a meet.

once we've fucked, i want them out my house so i can go to sleep.

surely i cant be the only female on here that is only looking for what everyone else calls 'clinical' sex and good hard poundings?"

no most of my meets are good hard fucks.. I have started to enjoy affection too.. but it's not a constant..

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I meet people, rather than use toys, as I love the tenderness that I can share. A cold person does nothing for me.

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By *inful_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Frimley


"Personally, I wouldn't want to share my bed with a someone I'm just fucking. Just not me. I'd be the one to say good night, good bye and leave.

The person who stays the night in my bed or with me is someone I care deeply about and it's more than just sex."

To each their own, but it's just a box with a duvet on and you close your eyes and regenerate your energy. That's all sleeping is. There's nothing emotional about sleeping. Hell, when you're asleep, your body couldn't give a shit who is there. :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, I wouldn't want to share my bed with a someone I'm just fucking. Just not me. I'd be the one to say good night, good bye and leave.

The person who stays the night in my bed or with me is someone I care deeply about and it's more than just sex.

To each their own, but it's just a box with a duvet on and you close your eyes and regenerate your energy. That's all sleeping is. There's nothing emotional about sleeping. Hell, when you're asleep, your body couldn't give a shit who is there. :D"

Haha. Lucky you. I know I've bed shared in a non sexual way with some girly mates and I can't relax. Definitely don't like it. Plus I like snuggling with Kyle and that to me is emotionally related but as you say each to their own.lol

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