FabSwingers.com forum: Is being polite hot?

By (user no longer on site) OP
33 weeks ago

I’m super polite, also try to use proper sentences and actually read profiles. To provide a good respectful opening message and always attach a face picture.

Is there something I’m missing when sending a message?

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By *rackOfDawnWoman
33 weeks ago

Northamptonshire

That shows respect and intellect, both go a long way towards being a turn on yes

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By *avexxMan
33 weeks ago

cheshire

good man op.. nothing wrong with being polite and respectful

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

I find it a mixed bag on here ! I'm polite, respectful. But all to often, I draw a blank when messaging, so not sure really !

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
33 weeks ago

Telford

I don't know what your messaging but being polite is always the way forward. It can be hard as an single on here, it can take time.

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By *naswingdressWoman
33 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'd say it's necessary but not sufficient.

Failing to be polite is a no, but being polite isn't a yes.

I'm not saying you're doing this, but sometimes boasting about politeness is a turn off. It's almost akin to "I am better than all these other men, I wipe my arse without being asked". Ok, that makes you vaguely acceptable, not extraordinary.

("Wiping own arse" is an exaggeration to illustrate the general point)

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By *ordermanreturnsMan
33 weeks ago

Llangollen

Manners maketh the man..

You've gotta keep plugging away..

Take the attitude when you message you'll not get a reply..then its a surprise when you do..

On occasion and it can work..go for the jugular..forget the politeness ..its timing ..

Just keep plugging away

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By *naswingdressWoman
33 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Manners maketh the man..

You've gotta keep plugging away..

Take the attitude when you message you'll not get a reply..then its a surprise when you do..

On occasion and it can work..go for the jugular..forget the politeness ..its timing ..

Just keep plugging away"

Manners maketh man unless it's inconvenient?

Fascinating.

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By *eroLondonMan
33 weeks ago

Mayfair

No. Well, not necessarily. Being polite is a default attribute. You could be polite to a child or an octogenarian, but you wouldn't be doing it to exude any form of 'hotness', but simply for civility, courtesy and manners.

The same would apply if you're messaging people on here, unless the profile explicitly dictates "speak to me like you wish to degrade me or ruin me".

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By *eroLondonMan
33 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Manners maketh the man.."

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They also maketh the (sic) woman. I interpreted this thread as gender agnostic.

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By *naswingdressWoman
33 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Manners maketh the man..

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They also maketh the (sic) woman. I interpreted this thread as gender agnostic."

I always roll my eyes when I see the expression. It's in the vein of arse wiping to me.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
33 weeks ago

Central

I respond only to polite, respectful men. It doesn't mean someone is fully compatible but it's the minimum to expect

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
33 weeks ago

East Sussex

Be polite because you are not because you expect something in return.

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By *r K and Mrs LCouple
33 weeks ago

Leicester

We’re always polite and very respectful of people, it’s the only way to behave.x

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By *ace400Man
33 weeks ago

near knock

I’m always polite it doesn’t cost anything and goes a long way. I always treat people the way I expect to be treated

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By (user no longer on site) OP
33 weeks ago

"I'd say it's necessary but not sufficient.

Failing to be polite is a no, but being polite isn't a yes.

("Wiping own arse" is an exaggeration to illustrate the general point)"

Yeah I don’t mention I’m polite just my messages are written in a polite manner.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"I’m super polite, also try to use proper sentences and actually read profiles. To provide a good respectful opening message and always attach a face picture.

Is there something I’m missing when sending a message?

It depends how polite. It’s a balancing act. It’s been proven that people will be more drawn to you the more succinct and direct you are.

Over politeness can sometimes show as weakness

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By *naswingdressWoman
33 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I'd say it's necessary but not sufficient.

Failing to be polite is a no, but being polite isn't a yes.

("Wiping own arse" is an exaggeration to illustrate the general point)

Yeah I don’t mention I’m polite just my messages are written in a polite manner."

Nothing I've said changes with your reply.

Necessary, not sufficient, not remarkable.

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By *ust_us999Couple
33 weeks ago

Somewhere

"I’m super polite, also try to use proper sentences and actually read profiles. To provide a good respectful opening message and always attach a face picture.

Is there something I’m missing when sending a message?

I short, yes. If someone sends you messages with broken English (not talking about those where English isn't their first language) it kinda puts you on the back foot straight away.

We are not only here for the physical stuff. I'd like somewhat of intelligent conversations before or after.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

I'd assume it would be on here

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By *naswingdressWoman
33 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I’m super polite, also try to use proper sentences and actually read profiles. To provide a good respectful opening message and always attach a face picture.

Is there something I’m missing when sending a message?

I short, yes. If someone sends you messages with broken English (not talking about those where English isn't their first language) it kinda puts you on the back foot straight away.

We are not only here for the physical stuff. I'd like somewhat of intelligent conversations before or after. "

I see no indication of him communicating in broken English.

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By *ife NinjaMan
33 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Politeness is default for me. I couldn't be anything different. Does it work on here? Hmm...not sure 🤓🥷

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By *ffable but naughtyMan
33 weeks ago

Milnrow, Rochdale

"I’m super polite, also try to use proper sentences and actually read profiles. To provide a good respectful opening message and always attach a face picture.

Is there something I’m missing when sending a message?

Im the same kind of man as the OP. Always polite and chatty after initial shyness. Sadly the only meet I got on here I travelled 4 hours round trip for a no show and a block. Being nice is obviously not working. Mind you single men are not on the majority of swingers shopping lista. But one remains forever hopeful.

I short, yes. If someone sends you messages with broken English (not talking about those where English isn't their first language) it kinda puts you on the back foot straight away.

We are not only here for the physical stuff. I'd like somewhat of intelligent conversations before or after. "

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By *ordan39TV/TS
33 weeks ago

Leicester

I quite like a dom/domme to talk to me like 💩 sometimes is a turn on. But in the right way

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

"That shows respect and intellect, both go a long way towards being a turn on yes "

Best way to be....manners maketh man.

Has served me well on here

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By *he MinionMan
33 weeks ago

Surrey

Being polite shouldnt be an option or a choice.

People should just be polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Being polite should be a given. Shows a level of human decency. That first message is the first impression you’re giving someone. Use it wisely

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