FabSwingers.com forum: Club advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

I’d like to go to a club, but as a single woman, I’m not sure about going on my own. It’d be my first time, so I’ve no idea what to expect. Is it better to go with a partner / friends

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By *ickedwillyCouple
34 weeks ago

Bangor

Much better going with a friend but you will be ok going by yourself as well.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
34 weeks ago

SW Scotland

You’ll be fine to go yourself, it might ease your nerves to go with friends.

Most clubs have group chats on tele so may be able to talk to others before going

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
34 weeks ago

Next Door

Go by yourself.

Look at the clubs website and decide on what sort of an event you want to go too. Contact that club and say you're a 1st timer and want to attend.

The hardest part now is going through the door, once in the staff will be friendly and a tour of the club is usually given. Hopefully they will introduce you to regulars.

Get a drink and start chatting. 10 mins later you will probably think why was I so worried.

Thats what I did 9 yrs ago, never looked back.

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By *parky123Man
34 weeks ago

Lincoln

It must be really hard as a single woman or man going to a club, I’ve only been as a couple. A wingman/woman would be best, but that might be tricky to coordinate. My advice would be to chat to as many other people beforehand that are also going, then you could effectively have multiple safe buddies to chat to and ease in

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By *hatsWhatCoupleCouple
34 weeks ago

Northampton

Check out the club facilities and think about what you want to achieve during the visit

I (Mrs) went to a club on my own for the first time in Prague recently. The spa facilities were really good so I knew I could enjoy those and see where the evening went. It was nice to relax in the sauna and hot tub, before showering and back to the bar. The evening progressed from there

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
34 weeks ago

Tamworth

Look for hosted events as these often have a private chat where you can get to know a few other people who are going.

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By *ife NinjaMan
34 weeks ago

Dunfermline

See if there's a meet up just before. You can relax over a drink with like minded people before you go 🤓🥷

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
34 weeks ago

Coventry

I'd actually say best to go alone and find your feet alone to build the best foundation as a single woman on the scene. It really forces you to push your comfort zone and work things out for your self and find your own way.

As others have said once your in their they are safe and freindly places. So it's not like you've been thrown to the wolves, you'll be OK. And obviously let the club know its your first night. Clubs tend to be very supportive with newbies. They'll show you around, answer your questions and possibly introduce you to a few regulars they think maybe a good match.

Just be a social butterfly. Nothing happens if you sit on the sidelines. And if there's someone you fancy or something you want to join in with just be charming and ask. Do fear people saying no thanks. If they do, they do and that's OK, it's part of it. But chances are it'll yes.

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By *en ukMan
34 weeks ago

harrow London

You can go to a swinger club alone and you will meet and get to know extraordinary people. There is no risk at all at swinger clubs. I have met and seen many single women and they have not had any problems.

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