FabSwingers.com forum: 99.9% of Single Guys

By *tillslutty OP Woman
34 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

The ones that do have brains ruined by porn who think this is a sex hook up site that requires no effort.

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By *host63Man
34 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

I woukd argue 99% of singke men dont do this

Its like saying 99% of womwn of. Here are looking to get money in exchange.

Its not true but feels like it.

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By *tillslutty OP Woman
34 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

But how can they think that approach would ever be successful?

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By *ene FairfaxMan
34 weeks ago

Dover

I am a firm reader of profiles, Taylor messages to them and the statuses and still nothing a lot of the time. Thankfully I have a very thick skin lol

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By *aomilatteCouple
34 weeks ago

Midlands

Is it because they want some pussy?

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Never sent a dick pic as an opener. Never understood how that would work 😂

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By *idethestormMan
34 weeks ago

northants

Not an approach I have ever tried and never will try, there are some of us decent guys here,certainly more than 0.1%

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By *ffable but naughtyMan
34 weeks ago

Milnrow, Rochdale

I’m always respectful and not answer people who are not looking for single guys. Hopefully I’m not in a minority. But it’s sad to be ignored by a lot of people, even though they are happy to meet single men

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Think it’s just a majority problem as there’s so many more guys than couples women etc. I get a mix tbh. Most are as you say op that just get deleted or blocked. But I do get the odd similar from couples. Part and parcel of the site unfortunately. Setting message filters does help reduce the problem I find.

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By *ananabrumMan
34 weeks ago

castle bromwich

How can you expect them to read your profile when they can't even read their own - the amoinu of "straight" guys that contact me is hillarious (they also dont read any of my profile)

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By *ongandharderMan
34 weeks ago

Rotherham

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

I can honestly say I have done none of these

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By *eyeYCouple
34 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

"Think it’s just a majority problem as there’s so many more guys than couples women etc. I get a mix tbh. Most are as you say op that just get deleted or blocked. But I do get the odd similar from couples. Part and parcel of the site unfortunately. Setting message filters does help reduce the problem I find. "

Yup ☝️

The pre wank horn possibly has something to do with it too, hilarious mostly..

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By *ace400Man
34 weeks ago

near knock

Just sad individuals making it harder for those genuine single men

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By *eroLondonMan
34 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Just sad individuals making it harder for those genuine single men"

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How do those "sad individuals" make it "harder for those genuine single men"...? 🤔

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
34 weeks ago

newcastle

Just delete. I have my pics up. If anyone has blank then cheating or not real x

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By *olfandtazCouple
34 weeks ago

Bristol

We hate it when single men spam our inbox. At one point we had 5 messages within 5 minutes all because we had simple read his message. Never mind this is a couples profile and we both arent on at the same time so ended up blocking him.

If they become to much of a pain they get added to the block list.

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
34 weeks ago

North Somerset

It's definitely not 99%.

It's a high number for sure though.

One of our biggest bugbears is obvious cut and paste messages designed for single women being sent to us as a couple.

Given it's often me (the guy) reading and answering them, their cheesy sex chat about what they want to do to me is kinda wasted. And makes it obvious they're just recycling messages used before. Especially evident when half a dozen of our single women friends tell us they've had the exact same message.....🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

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By *its_and_TiramisuCouple
34 weeks ago

North Somerset

"Just sad individuals making it harder for those genuine single men

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How do those "sad individuals" make it "harder for those genuine single men"...? 🤔"

They don't Nero.

They make it waaaaaay easier to spot the good from the bad.

It's actually beneficial when someone puts in zero effort because it makes the decision on whether to engage with them or not so much simpler. 😁

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By *ideshaft1971Man
34 weeks ago

Midlands

It annoys me and I don’t even get many

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By *tickler2000Man
34 weeks ago

St Agnes

I always read profiles that pique my interest.

Primarily to see if I fall withing the criteria they are looking for.

If I don't I see little point in messaging.

I never send unsolicited dick pics.

I mean. You wouldn't flop it out in Tesco when saying hello a lady. Would you?

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By *eyond PurityCouple
34 weeks ago

East Lincs

"Just sad individuals making it harder for those genuine single men"

When I was a single guy on here I found it easier as I stood out for not having dick pics, making an effort and seeing women/couples as humans, not numbers and only reaching out to people who I matched with.

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By *WB85Man
34 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Often desperation and they can't handle rejection.

Its why my partner only looks for the male half of couples and not single men.

Good luck with your search Op.

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
34 weeks ago

Scotland

I had one yesterday which was just a green vomit emoji face 🤣 not sure whether it was my pics or profile that made him feel sick but I was so glad he felt the need to share

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By *r SensualMan
34 weeks ago

London

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

If you’re not meeting, not chatting and just using the forums OP, WHY the hell don’t you just put a filter up to prevent unwanted messages altogether?

Im sorry but this isn’t a genuine question and is a whinge in my book because this is talked about endlessly on here every bleeding day! 😭😩

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By *host63Man
34 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

And out of interest you have pussy pics on your profile.

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By *isterC83Man
34 weeks ago

Kent

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

You answered you own question straight away, they never read profiles

Not that it's any comfort, but it can happen the other way as well

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By *ankoveryouMan
34 weeks ago

hull

I think 99.9% of women and couples are full of crap timewasters

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By *rown.studMan
34 weeks ago

Eccles

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

I can say I’m in that 0.1% who don’t do whatever you just said

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
34 weeks ago

Scotland

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me.

And out of interest you have pussy pics on your profile. "

Having them on the profile is different to sending them. Unless it’s a profile pic someone would have to actively be looking at the profile pics. This is not the same as someone sending an unwanted dick pic

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
34 weeks ago

Telford

I wouldn't say it's that many if single men ha, it can feel like it though.

I think some people just come onto fab when they're horny and think with the other head.

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By *iGuyForCouplesMan
34 weeks ago

"Just sad individuals making it harder for those genuine single men"

How so? Surely all the idiots would make it easier for you, "genuine single men" to stand out?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
34 weeks ago

East Sussex

I'm going to turn this question round.

Why do 99.9% of people who complain about single men not enable their mail filters to block them?

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By *r SensualMan
34 weeks ago

London

"I'm going to turn this question round.

Why do 99.9% of people who complain about single men not enable their mail filters to block them?"

The million dollar question right here! One I’m curious to know the various answers to myself…

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By *ustus5555Woman
34 weeks ago

Nottingham

"The ones that do have brains ruined by porn who think this is a sex hook up site that requires no effort."

Fairly accurate. I deliberately put any of my updates at the bottom of my bio. It's a brilliant filter.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
34 weeks ago

South Wales

Why not just use the filters and then search for people you might be interested in? That way you won’t have to get annoyed with what’s in your inbox xx 😘

We get plenty of messages from single guys, some good, some not so good but it’s easy to ignore the nonsense xx 😄

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"I'm going to turn this question round.

Why do 99.9% of people who complain about single men not enable their mail filters to block them?"

They secretly like the attention

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

No dick pics or expect to be blocked...

Maybe they want blocking

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By *eroLondonMan
34 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Just sad individuals making it harder for those genuine single men

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How do those "sad individuals" make it "harder for those genuine single men"...? 🤔

They don't Nero.

They make it waaaaaay easier to spot the good from the bad.

It's actually beneficial when someone puts in zero effort because it makes the decision on whether to engage with them or not so much simpler. 😁"

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You couldn't have encapsulated it any better. 🩶

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By *r SensualMan
34 weeks ago

London

"I'm going to turn this question round.

Why do 99.9% of people who complain about single men not enable their mail filters to block them?

They secretly like the attention "

Even when said attention is from unwanted suitors… An empty or quieter inbox would make this site a whole lot more boring for some as they’d have nothing to complain about.

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By *rincess and partnerCouple
34 weeks ago

Skelmersdale

We had a couple of guys that seem to o all the right things and we arrange a meet . Then they just dont bother turning up. We as a rule dont send any revealing pics when they ask because of this .

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By *tillslutty OP Woman
34 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"Why not just use the filters and then search for people you might be interested in? That way you won’t have to get annoyed with what’s in your inbox xx 😘

We get plenty of messages from single guys, some good, some not so good but it’s easy to ignore the nonsense xx 😄"

The filters need to be much more in depth. As in, unverified by meet, distance, preferences and so on. X

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By *r SensualMan
34 weeks ago

London

"Why not just use the filters and then search for people you might be interested in? That way you won’t have to get annoyed with what’s in your inbox xx 😘

We get plenty of messages from single guys, some good, some not so good but it’s easy to ignore the nonsense xx 😄

The filters need to be much more in depth. As in, unverified by meet, distance, preferences and so on. X"

All of those are things you can filter profiles out by… honestly, how many more do you really need? Sounds like nitpicking here…

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
34 weeks ago

newcastle

We met on contact mags. Much better. You had to phone and actually talk!! Lol. Much better. And you got long term genuine men xxcx

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By *ellowshipOfTheSwingCouple
34 weeks ago

Manchester

This thread is a bit like complaining that you can’t use a hammer for a screw. The correct tools are there, you just need to use them properly.

Set your filters, go to socials, attend club nights… there are so many filters and techniques to finding people on your wavelength, beyond passively sitting back and watching your inbox and then moaning about the results of doing the absolute bare minimum that you complain about guys doing too!

People are the architects of their own misery

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By *partharmonyCouple
34 weeks ago

Tonbridge

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

To be fair, I think the majority of people don't read profiles whether they are men, women or couples. That's certainly our experience.

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By *orestHardWoodMan
34 weeks ago

Lymington

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

It easy to jus think they are idiots - perhaps its a numbers v effort game - bit like spam emails

Statitistaclly they might get a better hit rate per hour of time invested from sending out 100s of the same message tha someone who reads profiles and carefully crafts a message

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By *hefoxesofpenCouple
34 weeks ago

chester

Ive mentioned this analogy before, but sadly this seems to be how many people use the site, as a direct comparable to their normal life.

Hungry- horny

Open up deliveroo- open up fab

Browse menu- browse fab

Settle on a food type- pick a profile

Order- send message

Normal life- Food arrives within a reasonable time and satisfies my needs

this is where fab then falls over, as they may not get the response they want and default to spitting their dummy out as if I’m a cold pizza, as I had the temerity to say no…..

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By *ellhungvweMan
34 weeks ago

Cheltenham

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

It easy to jus think they are idiots - perhaps its a numbers v effort game - bit like spam emails

Statitistaclly they might get a better hit rate per hour of time invested from sending out 100s of the same message tha someone who reads profiles and carefully crafts a message

I am dubious on the spam hit rate argument. If you look at the guys who are successful then they generally send a lot less mails than an unsuccessful male would.

The message is probably the least important part.

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By *tew008Man
34 weeks ago

edinburgh

Yea I don’t think it’s 99.9%

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By *orthampton jamesMan
34 weeks ago

Northampton

As a single man I do message ladies and couples who take my fancy, I'm always polite, never send pic's unless asked, if they wish to view them then go to my profile, I'll send a face pic after chatting for a while and only if they ask, it costs nothing to be decent on here and I think people appreciate it

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By *CExeCouple
34 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

We have filters on because of it. Guys seem to think with their little brain and just ignore the profile text and go with photos. The number of guys who send the same message every day, who offer to cuckold or pay etc is just too much. Even with filters up, we've had guys message couples, asking them to message us on their behalf.

That said, we've met some truly lovely guys on here who get the lifestyle, but the vast majority of messages we received from singles are pure dross.

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By *CExeCouple
34 weeks ago

Hong-Kong/Exeter

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By *oee25Man
34 weeks ago

Wakefield

Unfortunately single guys get a bad name because of people like you describe

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By *rchie300Man
34 weeks ago

Hamworthy

Also it’s because some people think they are entitled …. Also not enough blood in their bodies to run their cocks and brain at the same time

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By *andDebsCouple
34 weeks ago

city centre Manchester

Because they’re single guys lol

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

I'd argue couples are as bad if not worse. The first line of our bio states we'll block you if you send a FR without speaking to us etc yet we have more couples blocked.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
34 weeks ago

East Sussex

I recently took all our filters off for a while, we received many more messages but none of them were terribly unpleasant. I wonder if people are less likely to be unkind to older people 🤔

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By *hirleyMan
34 weeks ago

Wine bar

Just like 99.9% of women; they don't take rejection very well.

Similarly, people in general don't like harsh truth so they ask pointless questions

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By *hirleyMan
34 weeks ago

Wine bar

"I recently took all our filters off for a while, we received many more messages but none of them were terribly unpleasant. I wonder if people are less likely to be unkind to older people 🤔 "

No it's because you're 'nice' so who would want to be horrible to you?! You even said so in your user!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
34 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I recently took all our filters off for a while, we received many more messages but none of them were terribly unpleasant. I wonder if people are less likely to be unkind to older people 🤔

No it's because you're 'nice' so who would want to be horrible to you?! You even said so in your user!"

Irony, Mr W, irony.

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By *ellowshipOfTheSwingCouple
34 weeks ago

Manchester

"I'd argue couples are as bad if not worse. The first line of our bio states we'll block you if you send a FR without speaking to us etc yet we have more couples blocked."

Couples can be more lazy and entitled, definitely. They think that they don’t need to put the effort in or are more likely to ghost on arrangements

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By *tillslutty OP Woman
34 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"I'd argue couples are as bad if not worse. The first line of our bio states we'll block you if you send a FR without speaking to us etc yet we have more couples blocked."

Interesting

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By *hisIsMe58Man
34 weeks ago

Winchester

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

I would be baffled too, I'm guessing there are a large number of males out there that just spam women and couple with a cut and paste message and dick pick, hoping one will engage with them.

Then when they get rejected it's a blow to their over inflated ego and they feel they have to insult that person to still feel like a man and are still on charge.

This is just me hypothesising as I rarely if ever message, have never posted a photo of my genitalia and believe in treating people as you would expect them to treat you.

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By *onny PetersonMan
34 weeks ago

Harrogate

I dont do any of these. Happy to be in the 0.1%

As a single guy I've no idea of what its like to be a single woman or couple on here and I try behave accordingly.

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By *og and MuseCouple
34 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

No idea but even when you’re super horny & bored and say say fuck it lets just meet one of them for a laugh usually turns out they can’t so they ruin the 0.00001% chance they had of getting laid

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
34 weeks ago

newcastle

Don't expect anything else. If it says woman then that's it!! But your perfectly right. This used to be my husbands page until I sort of stole.it. and.even I get them. But its better than no one right? Xxxx dee

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By *he_turtle_movesMan
34 weeks ago

Manchester

Just to contribute an interesting point to this,

When I was younger and thirstier I plaid fab as the numbers game to try and hook up rather than looking for some more interesting people.

I actually recieved more responses to messages that included dick pics than others, I was only skim reading profiles because to be honest at the time I wasn't interested.

Now what I've learned since then is that realistically those people were also using me as a cheap hookup and since then I've managed to learn to read profiles be more respectful and make connections with people and couples that I really get along with where the sex is more than just a hook up and so is infinitely better.

But to those who say, why do guys ever think this tactic will work I've got to answer because for some people it does. And because men are men they fling out the easiest possible option and see what the net reels in

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By *ubmissive guyMan
34 weeks ago

Liverpool

I'm glad you put 99.9% not all guys are the same and hate it just as much, when we all get tared with the same brush.

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By *J coupleCouple
34 weeks ago

stone

About 1/3 of the messages we get contain photos of their cocks. I think we make it quite clear that we don’t want them. It’s a good filter that means we have no qualms about hitting the block button.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Unfortunately men think with there cocks ! And they also think all women would like to see one ! But for those men that send good messages without cock picks normally get left on hold and maybe ignored, some lovely kind men out there but , they are generally passed by !

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By *sacambsMan
34 weeks ago

Huntingdon

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

Baffles me too. Spoils it for the rest of us

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

I know what you mean, but let's be honest. This is a "meat" market! We allowed to see porn on this site, for a reason. They don't come here to take you out for a romantic dinner when they can see titties for free!

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

This means I’m in the top 1% of single guys on fab! 🤩 😆

I’m glad there’s guys on here doing this as something needs to make me look above average 😆

Sad for everyone that has to put up with them though 😢

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By *otMediterraneanWoman
34 weeks ago

No i actually disagree with this

I’m going to say 80% respectfully even if that’s probably the same proportion that doesn’t read

5% pester

5% read profile

9 % catch my attention

With the remaining 1% becoming abusive

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Very good question, I don't send dick pics until I'm specifically asked and I'll let you all know it's not that impressive lol, but I also think that the art of seduction has died with the introduction of the mobile phone, you don't actually have to talk to anyone anymore. The thought of actually going to a pub and talking to someone absolutely petrifies most of the keyboard warriors on here. They wouldn't just get it out in a pub would they?

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"No i actually disagree with this

I’m going to say 80% respectfully even if that’s probably the same proportion that doesn’t read

5% pester

5% read profile

9 % catch my attention

With the remaining 1% becoming abusive "
and that's why we are friends lol xxx I respectfully enjoy your pics and comments daily and the thought of actually meeting you one day is the reason you are No1 in my hotlist

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By *uzzieboyMan
34 weeks ago

Somerset

Me personally I read a profile and for all the people that don’t put us genuine single man in a bad spotlight. When I message I’m always polite introduce myself who I am what I am and if anything progresses from that that’s a bonus.

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By *igBeardyDanMan
34 weeks ago

Bilston

I rarely message on here now because it just gets lost in a sea of yellow

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

Because people can do what they want and don’t have to adhere to your rules. Just as you can reject them if you’re not interested

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me.

If they want to see titties for free great. There are the free titties.

If they want to see, touch, feel, smell, taste, hear real titties slapping together, motorboat real titties and tit wank real titties in person in real life...they had better stop cock blocking themselves and do something to get me in the mood at least!!

Doesn't have to be a romantic dinner but it sure isn't a dick pic, abuse or multiple boring ass messages.

As the Bajan in me would say they better come correct.

The Karen in me would say: I have nearly 20 sex toys and 10 real playmates from clubs...That's your competition to boost my low libido and cranky bitchy ass mood. Lol!

I have no chill now in my mid-40s. Domme mode until these bitches earn sub mode. I will spank and tie up a man. I leg press 279. I will fuck them in more ways than one.

One pissed me off so I told him I have an STD/STI. As effective as reporting them to the police but with less hassle. End of communication.

Domme me thinks of ways every day to punish and repel men.

They might think it's a meat market but they are the prey.

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By *arlo56Man
34 weeks ago

Newcastle

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

I honestly don't do any of that stuff.

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By *rishmanabroadMan
34 weeks ago

Dublin Belfast

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

We were sent to annoy the rest of the world 😂

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"The ones that do have brains ruined by porn who think this is a sex hook up site that requires no effort."

This is why I've learnt how to fuck with men's ( people's) brains.

I'm like sure we can hook up at a club where I tie you up and put the condom on and then you can fuck me with your hands behind your back. Then if I like how your cock and hips work, I will untie your hands.

I watch porn too...just a different kind of porn from what most men watch. Lol!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me.

We were sent to annoy the rest of the world 😂"

I'm not annoyed. I use men as mentalisation, Domme and rope bondage practice.

Bro, Thank you for sending your dic pic, I have 5 fake dics that sit in reach of my bed of different shapes and sizes and 10 real dicks on stand by of different shapes and sizes. Please convince me on how to add you to your collection when I've never seen or felt it's performance and it inspires no arousal in me. Pussy is dry ASF. Maybe if I show your dick pic to the other real dicks, they might themselves become aroused.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"I had one yesterday which was just a green vomit emoji face 🤣 not sure whether it was my pics or profile that made him feel sick but I was so glad he felt the need to share

Meh...Send him one back along with the poo, peach, eggplant and water droplets ones...just to mind fuck him and for mild entertainment.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Just like 99.9% of women; they don't take rejection very well.

Similarly, people in general don't like harsh truth so they ask pointless questions

I'm happy to be rejected by rude people and people who do not understand me. Less hassle in middle age.

Pointless questions are for my own light mild trolling entertainment. Got to let out the Karen sometimes on the keyboard, otherwise she comes out in person and then the authorities are called and I end up on TikTok.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Very good question, I don't send dick pics until I'm specifically asked and I'll let you all know it's not that impressive lol, but I also think that the art of seduction has died with the introduction of the mobile phone, you don't actually have to talk to anyone anymore. The thought of actually going to a pub and talking to someone absolutely petrifies most of the keyboard warriors on here. They wouldn't just get it out in a pub would they? "

I live next door to 2 pubs in London.

One of them, I would expect certain people to get so blind d*unk their cock comes out. I also don't look out my window at certain times because the pub landlord for that one sleepwalks naked.

But to fair, I leaned out my window one summer to chat to them in the pub garden and me boob slipped out. They never let me live it down. They also know I'm a kinky nudist swinger so more piss takes, but I tell them at least we are sober and drama free and don't seriously hurt ourselves! Lol!

Indecent exposure- intentional unrequested nudity or sexual activity intended to cause distress and outrage.

Some of the younger people are learning the art of seduction so there is some hope. The swinger clubs and kink and fetish events ban phones. They have consent monitors now. It's actually nice to see different generations doing sexy time together.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me.

Because people can do what they want and don’t have to adhere to your rules. Just as you can reject them if you’re not interested "

This is how many men get banned from clubs, events and shows and are reported to the police.

No you cannot fucking do what you want.

In fact, in the newer apps, you send a dic pic, you automatically get reported and banned and they are tracking people who don't adhere to any rules.

I had to get verified 6 different ways to get into Torture Garden and someone was still SA'ed in the couples' room.

Yup the no rule people are just fucking it up for the rest of us who understand the need for boundaries.

I have to tell people not to touch my subs/bottoms and monitor that they don't get too close to them in a vulnerable position. No don't just stick your dick near my sub's face. Sigh.

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By *avej500Man
34 weeks ago

Stevenage

I never send a cock picture still don’t get a reply

Yet you see so many women with pictures of just they ass or pussy

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"I never send a cock picture still don’t get a reply

Yet you see so many women with pictures of just they ass or pussy "

They don't send it in DMs

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By *atentHeelsCouple
34 weeks ago

Salford

Ego

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By *unguy2429Man
34 weeks ago

worthing

Some are just so disrespectful which ruins it for real men

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By *rad110Man
34 weeks ago

rayliegh

"I'm going to turn this question round.

Why do 99.9% of people who complain about single men not enable their mail filters to block them?"
love it

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By *eroLondonMan
34 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I'm going to turn this question round.

Why do 99.9% of people who complain about single men not enable their mail filters to block them?"

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I suspect because they would experience 'cold turkey' and the withdrawal symptoms of a diminishing inbox. They would rather suffer the spectre of an ever-increasing inbox than actually send a message themselves. I guess... ...

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By *artin84Man
34 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I suppose it's nice to know that I'm in the 0.1%.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"I never send a cock picture still don’t get a reply

Yet you see so many women with pictures of just they ass or pussy "

I'd say you are in a niche as a bisexual man outside of London who wants to be pegged.

As a single dad that will also limit your time availability.

3 of my playmates are single dads and there are times that they've had to cancel to look afer their kids.

It doesn't bother me because I want the kids to always have their dad. You only get one dad. I have many cocks real and fake that I can choose from should the need arise.

You need to plan time away, maybe once a month to get verifications from people at swingers clubs and then you are more likely to meet people on here.

And more sexy photos needed. um...GQ, underwear ad etc.

One of my playmates was a rugby player too and his ass and thighs were what attracted me to his photos and then I met him in person at a club. The rest is history.

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

Fair point on unsolicited dick pics I suppose. But I do find it funny when people talk about this site as if it's just like facebook or something. It isn't, it's a sex site. And you have a photo of you grabbing a cock as your profile pic!

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"I'm going to turn this question round.

Why do 99.9% of people who complain about single men not enable their mail filters to block them?

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lol! my inbox is tiny now.... If I see a man I want/like/this is funny, I message him.

To be fair, I mostly message the London ones simply due to a higher probability of meeting. Plus I like the clubs.

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By *eroLondonMan
34 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I'm going to turn this question round.

Why do 99.9% of people who complain about single men not enable their mail filters to block them?

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lol! my inbox is tiny now.... If I see a man I want/like/this is funny, I message him.

To be fair, I mostly message the London ones simply due to a higher probability of meeting. Plus I like the clubs."

•

Ooft that was brutal! Wounded! 🩸

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By *ornych87Man
34 weeks ago

cannock

Not all men are the same some just wanna meet new people and chat

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me.

Oh luvvy son, you are sorely mistaken, some of the people here have been swingers before you were born.

And swinging comes with different boundaries and rules from sex sites or hook-up apps or whatever it is you people in your twenties and early 30s do on the internet to get sex.

Certainly, the straight males of couples do not want to be sent DMs of your cock even if there are pictures of their cock on their profile.

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By *tillslutty OP Woman
34 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"No idea but even when you’re super horny & bored and say say fuck it lets just meet one of them for a laugh usually turns out they can’t so they ruin the 0.00001% chance they had of getting laid "

So true

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
34 weeks ago

Round the bend

We've not had the same experience as you. Sure, we've had some of it, but wouldn't say 99.9% by a long shot.

Lots of lovely single guys on here.

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By *tillslutty OP Woman
34 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"We've not had the same experience as you. Sure, we've had some of it, but wouldn't say 99.9% by a long shot.

Lots of lovely single guys on here. "

Ì must attract them lol

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By *hirleyMan
34 weeks ago

Wine bar

"I recently took all our filters off for a while, we received many more messages but none of them were terribly unpleasant. I wonder if people are less likely to be unkind to older people 🤔

No it's because you're 'nice' so who would want to be horrible to you?! You even said so in your user!

Irony, Mr W, irony.

I was being ironic yes🤷‍♂️

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"I'm going to turn this question round.

Why do 99.9% of people who complain about single men not enable their mail filters to block them?

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lol! my inbox is tiny now.... If I see a man I want/like/this is funny, I message him.

To be fair, I mostly message the London ones simply due to a higher probability of meeting. Plus I like the clubs.

•

Ooft that was brutal! Wounded! 🩸"

Oii you get plenty of messages from me. I can't be your personal stalker...I'm sure you have plenty of those.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
34 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

"Not all men are the same some just wanna meet new people and chat "

I meet new people and chat in the swingers club or the naked jacuzzi. Not online. Lol!

I mean there are webcam chat rooms for that too. lol!

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By *he Happy ManMan
34 weeks ago

Merseyside

"Just sad individuals making it harder for those genuine single men"

It does the opposite. The idiots make the good single males stand out. Too many single men blame other single men for their lack of meets.

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By *eroLondonMan
34 weeks ago

Mayfair

"I'm going to turn this question round.

Why do 99.9% of people who complain about single men not enable their mail filters to block them?

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lol! my inbox is tiny now.... If I see a man I want/like/this is funny, I message him.

To be fair, I mostly message the London ones simply due to a higher probability of meeting. Plus I like the clubs.

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Ooft that was brutal! Wounded! 🩸

Oii you get plenty of messages from me. I can't be your personal stalker...I'm sure you have plenty of those.

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Yes, that's fair and I apologise that I never reply to you. But you're cognisant of the rule: a no reply is a response in itself. 😘

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By *arkdawsonMan
34 weeks ago

around

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

My apologies no joke fab sent me a warning they said I have a tendency to in there opinion have an over aggressive courting style they said !

I wrote back fuck you im not aggressive

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
34 weeks ago

Chichester

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

Fab is a game is why. Numbers / attrition in play

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By (user no longer on site)
34 weeks ago

Part of the 0.1%. Never message anyone.

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
34 weeks ago

Cheshire

Guys have 2 brains. As do women. Both 2nd brains are between the legs.

Big brain starts the search. Little brain gets a rush of blood. Big brain has all the logic. Little brain is primeval & reactive & takes over.

Most guys can operate & balance both together. Some just can't. When the Little brain is flooded with blood & testosterone then the big brain is just there for functionality.

Don't be fooled. Women do it too. Just not quite as early as men. The control of the big brain leaves the room way further on in a situation for women. But it does happen. And before you say it, yes, I've seen it happen many times for both m & f.

Unfortunately men sometimes get that rush of blood at the photo & messaging stages. Women tend to get it when in a more contact filled situation.

It doesn't make it right, but it goes some way to possibly answering the questions.

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By *rNightMan
34 weeks ago

Coventry

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

I always read the profile to find a conversational opening for my message. Never send dick pics and always play by their rules/requests. Certainly never be rude. Still rarely only gets me a polite no 0.01% of the time.

Possibly a contributing factor for some, not that it’s good reason to do those things.

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By *pgroupsexMan
34 weeks ago

Kingston

"It does the opposite. The idiots make the good single males stand out. Too many single men blame other single men for their lack of meets. "

Does it though? I imagine, certainly supported by several threads I've perused, that a couple's (let alone a single girl's) inbox, gets very speedily filled by a ton of copy/paste and/or banal nonsense from countless chancers.

Against that, it must be quite hard to sort the 'wheat from the chaff' so to speak.

When I see a message unread, I imagine (possibly incorrectly!) that it's more than likely simply an overwhelming inbox situation.

I'm certainly not blaming others for that (each to their own), just imagining that it's very possible for someone that's made a genuine, well written effort, to easily slip through the recipient's over full net, however well intentioned the message it is.

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By *ouple4voyeurCouple
34 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me."

It's the reason why we block 99.9% of messages 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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By *erkshireGuyMan
34 weeks ago

Reading

"I woukd argue 99% of singke men dont do this

Its like saying 99% of womwn of. Here are looking to get money in exchange.

Its not true but feels like it."

Agreed.

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By *erkshireGuyMan
34 weeks ago

Reading

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By *erkshireGuyMan
34 weeks ago

Reading

Because you read a coupe of guys but men have to play the odds and try to more to get a response.

That is the answer to all points except rudeness. Usually men who are abusive to women want to feel power over someone as never stood up and been a man, frustrated emasculated pussies.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
34 weeks ago

Tamworth

I don’t agree with those stats.

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By *avin77Man
34 weeks ago

camberley

Hard work being a decent single fella on here as theres a lot of idiots that dont do us any favours

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By *ny1localMan
34 weeks ago

READING

I sometimes wonder why these 'knock the blokes ' posters are here. Is it just for attention, or 'tongue in cheek 'banter.?

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By *tillslutty OP Woman
34 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

"I don’t agree with those stats. "

Lol they may be a tad over but I needed the rant

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By *cgmcgMan
34 weeks ago

kingston

It may feel like 99% of your inbox, but there are plenty like me who read your profile, and realise it's a non starter for whatever reason. What is your views/messages ratio?

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By *drenaline rushMan
34 weeks ago

Burnley

The struggle is real to stand out from the dross but just be yourself cream always rises to the top

Seriously tho guys just be normal if you would not do it in the street don’t do it here

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By *parky123Man
34 weeks ago

Lincoln

I read profiles, never send unsolicited dick pics and am always respectful. But like others, I know that women get 00s of messages a day so won’t always read my messages. And then I know I’m not everyone’s taste….It’s a small % game

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By *arkdawsonMan
33 weeks ago

around

"Why do single guys...

Never read profiles.

Send dick pics when profiles state they dont like them.

Send loads of repeat messages after they get deleted.

Become abusive and or threatening when rejected.

It's a genuine ask and not a whinge. It just baffles me.

It's the reason why we block 99.9% of messages 🤣🤣🤣🤣"
💯 now I just a D

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