FabSwingers.com forum: how can I get my wife into swinging

By *heboobieman OP Man
over a year ago

aust bristol

How can I get my wife into swinging I've been to afew clubs and house partys and had some good meets on here and I'd really like to get the wife in to it but don't know how to approach it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take her to park usuallly swings there

sorry could not resist.

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By *ooneyCouple
over a year ago

Chester

"How can I get my wife into swinging I've been to afew clubs and house partys and had some good meets on here and I'd really like to get the wife in to it but don't know how to approach it "

so for understanding you have been to a few clubs and partys but with out your wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can I get my wife into swinging I've been to afew clubs and house partys and had some good meets on here and I'd really like to get the wife in to it but don't know how to approach it "

Has she shown any interest in involving others in your sex life? Revealed fantasies about fucking others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Talk to her about it.

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By *now-bbw-bunnyCouple
over a year ago

southend-on-sea

have u got sky or cable ? program about swinging wives . maybe flick to that program one night and see her reaction

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can I get my wife into swinging I've been to afew clubs and house partys and had some good meets on here and I'd really like to get the wife in to it but don't know how to approach it "

Sit down and talk to her she will say yes or no and it needs not to be a loaded question when you ask her it has to be her choice.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Show her your profile and explain about you meets.

Offer to take her along

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"have u got sky or cable ? program about swinging wives . maybe flick to that program one night and see her reaction

Bad idea, it's car crash tv!

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By *cEvil and BlueangelCouple
over a year ago

Co Durham

Given the fact you been on here over a year and have a face pic as your avatar....just bide your time.

Someone may 'approach 'her on your behalf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have several choices as I see things :

a) you open a conversation along the lines of : " you ever fancied swinging "

b) you offer to take her out for the evening and end up at a swinging club

c) you tell her you have already done it and ask her to become involved

Do let us know how it progresses please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have you got any idea what her views on swinging are?

if not i reckon it's too risky to bring the subject up straight away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell her about how much fun it is and how great the people you are.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"Show her your profile and explain about you meets.

Offer to take her along"

Ouch!

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By *uck_us_hardCouple
over a year ago

N.E Lincolnshire

"have u got sky or cable ? program about swinging wives . maybe flick to that program one night and see her reaction

Bad idea, it's car crash tv!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried the direct approach once and was clearly told in no uncertain terms by the husband then that all swingers are fat and dirty and there is no way in hell he would ever swing!

Good job he wasn't one for sweeping statements and generalisation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just talk to her when your having a naughty moment ask her if she has any fantasys and reassure her you will help her with anything she would like to try , tell her you would like a little more from your sexlife and you think maybe swinging could be one way of doin it, be prepared just incase she asks you for something you may not be prepared for hee hee

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

"Show her your profile and explain about you meets.

Offer to take her along

Ouch! "

Major ouch!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you have been swinging without her for a year I think your fecked, you cant just reveal 'hey darling want to swing? i have and its great!' because swinging will be the last thing on her mind as she chases you with the frying pan before breaking down into heartbreak and destroyed trust! but let me know how it goes!

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By *anemartinCouple
over a year ago

lochgelly

Tell her u were talking to one of ur female friends and she confessed that her and her man swing. And she told u how great it was not just for sex but for making new friends. If she looks intrigued mention that tous could go to a club for a drink and see what people get up to. A friend of mine done that and it worked wonders. They r hard swingers now. And yes please keep us updated!

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By *inful_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Cheating on your wife is the last way to get her into it. Jeez :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What would you do if she was agreeable to a party or club, and half the people there already know you?

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By *EXY50ishWoman
over a year ago

Anywhere and nowhere

"What would you do if she was agreeable to a party or club, and half the people there already know you? "

Or already know her !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just my Male opinion:

As your profile doesn't mention that you are Married:

Please do not forget to tell your wife that you Cheat on her.

I would imagine she will love the Cheating bit, forgive you and be so wonderfully happy

Enjoy your week end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just say "have you ever fancied swinging darling" be prepared for "oh yes I wondered when you'd bring that up.I've been on a site for ages and had more cock than you possibly imagine,lets join forces as a couple"

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Surely all the guys that start threads like this should know their wives well enough to already know the answer???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What would you do if she was agreeable to a party or club, and half the people there already know you? "

This. OP the answer is that you can't unless you are willing to take a huge risk of your past catching up with you.

And out of interest what is your motivation for her joining you? the cynic in me can't help but think it's because you realise that being one half of a couple is a hell of a lot easier than being a single guy? But swinging wont repair a struggling relationship.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You do know that neither this thread nor your attempt to involve your wife can end well don't you?

Men have asked this same question before and you'll get the same replies some aimed at helping you further deceive your wife some telling you that you are wrong to have been here a year without her already.

All I would say is that I hope that whatever the outcome the hurt to your wife is minimal.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Another man who needs to go to costa and seriously wake up and smell the coffee!!

I think everyone posted above has pretty much said the same thing. Maybe you should have that conversation before you joined the site as a single man.

You really want advice??

Sorry but you dont want to hear my advice. Dont think you could handle it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One word - Rohypnol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get yourself off here on a single male profile,work on your marriage and then if that works suggest it. But be prepared for people to recognise you having done it on your own and thus cheated on your wife.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Show her your profile and explain about you meets.

Offer to take her along

Ouch!

Major ouch!!

What could possibly go wrong?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can I get my wife into swinging I've been to afew clubs and house partys and had some good meets on here and I'd really like to get the wife in to it but don't know how to approach it "

Does wifey know your here OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I tried the direct approach once and was clearly told in no uncertain terms by the husband then that all swingers are fat and dirty and there is no way in hell he would ever swing!

Good job he wasn't one for sweeping statements and generalisation

very funny, lol love it

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By *anemartinCouple
over a year ago

lochgelly

"Surely all the guys that start threads like this should know their wives well enough to already know the answer???"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"One word - Rohypnol"

Two words - never funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women get so turned off by men doing things behind their back.

Women's intuition is such a real thing and if you are cheating I bet she senses something is wrong but doesn't want to admit their is a problem.

Be bold, bring it up and be ready for a big storm in a tea cup. The trouble is she will bring up the inevitable question which is have you been at it already and if you have can you look her in the eye and either lie or come clean. Good luck. You are probably going to need it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Women get so turned off by men doing things behind their back.

Women's intuition is such a real thing and if you are cheating I bet she senses something is wrong but doesn't want to admit their is a problem.

He's looking her in the eye and lying every time he sees her, don't think it will be a problem.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Women get so turned off by men doing things behind their back."

think given what the OP's been up to his wife's level of turn off may well probably be exhibited by a kick in the bollocks for starters..

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By *hris148Man
over a year ago

Get a different wife.....

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

"Get a different wife....."

He probably already have....other mens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you just ask her

if you have asked her about a hundred times and she says no that means she isnt interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talk to her about it."

Jeez, would pay good money for a ringside seat for that.

"Hi, honey would you like to legitimise my adultery by accompanying me on my swinging adventures the length & bredth of the motorway network ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Get a different wife.....

He probably already have....other mens"

Love it

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Just read the ops verfications mentioning the word respect..... thats rich.

Op you havent made any comnents since the original post I dont think. I guess you didnt get the replies and assistance you wanted??...

.....strange that

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By *inful_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

He's getting a new asshole ripped in this thread... Cheaters are not welcomed here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's getting a new asshole ripped in this thread... Cheaters are not welcomed here."
lol bet shes on ere secretly aswell x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only way to know for sure is the honest way and ask her if she wants to try it.

You could hint and get feedback from her reactions but it will eventually lead to actually asking her outright.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've been on here a while now, why suddenly do you want your wife involved. Is it because you think she would really enjoy the swinging scene or is it because you think being a couple will offer more opportunity for sex.

If it's the former, get into a conversation about swinging, fairly easy thing to do, talk about a programme on tv etc, you'll be able to gauge her reaction from that, though if you've been married a while you should know what her reaction is likely to be.

If it's the latter then I find it selfish and disrespectful to try and coerce a partner to have sex with others just so you have more opportunity to get your end away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Show her your profile and explain about you meets.

Offer to take her along

Ouch!

Major ouch!!

Double ouch!!!

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By *leepyangelCouple
over a year ago

over the hill and far away

"Given the fact you been on here over a year and have a face pic as your avatar....just bide your time.

Someone may 'approach 'her on your behalf

I presume your poor wife has no idea about your double life on the swinging scene. You need to be open and honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think u should let her play on her own n enjoy fun aswell, like u did

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By *ex4unowCouple
over a year ago

near you

Realisticly your done mate she will take you to the cleaners then the irony is she will probably be curious and try it with a new guy in years to come so only solution stop for a year or so and bring it up then fresh but will probably only work if she has men first so feels its not about you but equal but really you have stuffed yourself by being selfish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You've been on here a while now, why suddenly do you want your wife involved. Is it because you think she would really enjoy the swinging scene or is it because you think being a couple will offer more opportunity for sex.

If it's the latter then I find it selfish and disrespectful to try and coerce a partner to have sex with others just so you have more opportunity to get your end away.

Good balanced response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want to know why he hasn't replied to any of the posts

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I want to know why he hasn't replied to any of the posts"

I expect he's busy chatting to his wife about a new hobby he'd like her to join him in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How can I get my wife into swinging I've been to afew clubs and house partys and had some good meets on here and I'd really like to get the wife in to it but don't know how to approach it "

...ask her.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

And I think we can leave it there...

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