FabSwingers.com forum: Married man in open relationship

By *wing85xxxM OP Man
38 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Hi there I am a happily married man that has a open relationship, I Have. Set up a singles profile but after 3 months am really struggling to get any traction. Anyone have any advice ? TIA

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
38 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

The couples profile it links to says no meeting solo, only as a couple.

But generally, most men don't get a lot of meets compared to couples 💜

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By *eys00Man
38 weeks ago

have boots will travel

For a single male not getting your first meet within 3 months honestly isn’t unusual, it’s probably par for the course I’m afraid! Perhaps the couple profile skewed your expectations but being a single guy here can be a slog at times 🥲 Hang in there buddy, have patience and hopefully those fun chats with those profiles that catch your eye lead to more than online chats 🙏😊

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By *aomilatteCouple
38 weeks ago

Midlands

Do you meet as a couple? You would increase your chances if you did.

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By *r SensualMan
38 weeks ago

London

I have the same relationship dynamic as you OP albeit I’m not married. Only difference is me and my partner met each other on fab so I’ve had this profile longer than I have my couples one.

A lot of women and couples don’t wish to meet partnered men who play solo even if and when his partner is fully aware. Even yesterday I had a very horrible response from a woman saying she doesn’t want to “be another one that I ‘hit’ then go back to my woman” 🤨

My advice would be to hit up club events and parties then you don’t have to overcome people immediately closing you off because they can’t understand the concept of ethical non-monogamy.

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By *un couple 2Couple
38 weeks ago

Tynemouth.

We would meet you, if you were local too us.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Yea it's quite frustrating as a guy here, the amount of messages I've sent that are just deleted / ignored can be disheartening but you just have to learn to accept it I'm afraid.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
38 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"... because they can’t understand the concept of ethical non-monogamy. "

As someone who happily practices ethical non monogamy, I tend to avoid people who have a primary partner already established. Going in knowing that I'll always be a secondary consideration doesn't appeal to me.

Different people do ENM differently 💜

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By *ambalayaMan
38 weeks ago

Newport

I've been here over 12 years I think, never had a meet. Admittedly, I do not reach out to that many but as others have said, it's difficult for blokes, messages being deleted etc. I'm single and live in hope until hell freezes over! Hang in there.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
38 weeks ago

East Lincs

I think the way people set up their profiles is integral as to their potential level of success on FAB too.

You’ll lose a good percentage of people for the fact that you have a partner, whether they are aware or not. You’d lose some from mainly having cock pics on your profile.

One of them you aren’t going to change - one you can.

When someone asks where they are going wrong - I’d say 95% of the time, it’ll be the profile.

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By *wing85xxxM OP Man
38 weeks ago

Basingstoke

So remove the cock pics and keep going

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By *wing85xxxM OP Man
38 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Completely understand and well put

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By *wing85xxxM OP Man
38 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Updated and will keep going thanks

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By *wing85xxxM OP Man
38 weeks ago

Basingstoke

We do but not at the moment work commitments cause issues

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By *wing85xxxM OP Man
38 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Uea looking to do some events in the coming month hopefully in the flesh I am more successful

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By *wing85xxxM OP Man
38 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Shame

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By *wing85xxxM OP Man
38 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Hanging in

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By *esparate danMan
38 weeks ago

glasgow

" Even yesterday I had a very horrible response from a woman saying she doesn’t want to “be another one that I ‘hit’ then go back to my woman” 🤨 "

What do ypu think she meant by that. Why was it horrible?

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By *hesubtlegentMan
38 weeks ago

surrey

Having a conversation with yourself OP?…

I’ve found since I’ve started to go to socials and meet people face to face, I’ve got more meets 121 after.

You might find more success doing that too and it won’t matter you’re married to some.

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