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By *lay2018 OP   Couple
over a year ago

westmeath & roscommon.

out the fuck buddies on this site. We are a cple who have been together 15yrs and will only ever consider meeting married cples or long term cples for some adult fun. We both hate the thought of meeting fuck buddies just so we can be another notch on their bed post. We are here to meet like minded cples who are in a similar position to ourselves who have fucked each other done this last 15 years but want to meet other cples who are in a similar situation.

Does anyone know away of finding out if the cples we are meeting would be married to each other or are long term partners.

We know a few swinging ladies who all say that after sleeping with cples for a few times, they end up finding out theyre fuck buddies etc.. They say theyve no problem with this but would have liked to know before hand and also for us to watch out for this for future meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

???

Are you saying you want to know if a couple you are chatting to or eyeing up is in a long term marriage/relationship and is not just a couple of people who've teamed up as a couple on here.

Ask 'em?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can sell you one of my patented "Jodielicious Commitment Status Divining Rods"

For just £99.99 you can own one of these remarkable devices which trembles when in the presence of people who've been together more than 2 years.* Thus giving you enough information pre-bonk. Never again suffer the shame of humping with casual partners**

*may also tremble due to hand shake, gravity, wind strength, earths rotation. Jodielicious Inc take no responsibility for false positives.

**Shame may still be felt depending on the munterosity of the person (s) humped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

root out?

isn't it called simply asking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can sell you one of my patented "Jodielicious Commitment Status Divining Rods"

For just £99.99 you can own one of these remarkable devices which trembles when in the presence of people who've been together more than 2 years.* Thus giving you enough information pre-bonk. Never again suffer the shame of humping with casual partners**

*may also tremble due to hand shake, gravity, wind strength, earths rotation. Jodielicious Inc take no responsibility for false positives.

**Shame may still be felt depending on the munterosity of the person (s) humped. "

That made me laugh out loud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to meet people that are in relationships aswell rather than fb. We just ask how long you been together. Never failed yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if the fuck buddies have been fucking each other for 15 years?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've got to rely on there honesty

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

You can tell when you meet them if they know each other well. It isn't about the marital status so much for us as how confortable they are with each other and if the are comfortable fuck buddies thats fine

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By *leasurexxWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

talk to them...you can tell most of the time...x

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By *cEvil and BlueangelCouple
over a year ago

Co Durham


"What if the fuck buddies have been fucking each other for 15 years?"

Or the married ones only for 1 year ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For your information, my friend are I are friends with benefits and don't see meeting a couple as another notch on the bed post so I don't know where you get that idea from. If its your choice not to meet us, its our choice not to meet you. And we would let people know before hand if we had the time, after all we are well aware that some won't meet us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'faux couples' have been around ages.

Years ago they were 'frowned upon' especially in clubs; however, now they are more accepted. I guess the only way is too actually ask if they live together or how long they've been together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't help with finding out prior to meeting other than to ask......

But very easy to tell during a meet as the ones that have been together 15 years don't want anything to do with their own partner.... That comment is through experience before you comment.

Hopefully.... Gulp.... This is not relevant with regards to the OP....lol

Fuck Buddies all the way, at least you know you are getting TWO active players that are both up for fun..... And not ONE greedy sod a someone who likes spectator sports.....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Why are fuck buddies so frowned upon? What makes married couples soooo Mich better than anyone else?

I guess the only way to know how is to hire a private eye to investigate any potential meet, ask the couple to prove how long they have been together or provide a copy of their marriage certificate in triplicate

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I'm wondering what the difference is?

If you're meeting a couple who have a relationship together and they fit what you're looking for and you fit for them, why does it matter that they aren't married?

/curious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can sell you one of my patented "Jodielicious Commitment Status Divining Rods"

For just £99.99 you can own one of these remarkable devices which trembles when in the presence of people who've been together more than 2 years.* Thus giving you enough information pre-bonk. Never again suffer the shame of humping with casual partners**

*may also tremble due to hand shake, gravity, wind strength, earths rotation. Jodielicious Inc take no responsibility for false positives.

**Shame may still be felt depending on the munterosity of the person (s) humped. "

Brilliant

Just ask them and unless you were wanting more than the swing experience im not sure why it would matter if they had been a couple for 6 months or 16 years..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was wed and yes I was we didnt like meeting with fb/fwb as you wouldn't know if they had a hubby/wife/bf/gf/other label at home and were cheating.

If you meet a genuine couple then the cheating factor is null and void.

Also some couples like to share their partner with others in the same situation, which as fb/fwb change to suit, isnt the case.

There are a number of other reasons, but as I've been divorced over 7 years I'll let others fill them in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm wondering what the difference is?

If you're meeting a couple who have a relationship together and they fit what you're looking for and you fit for them, why does it matter that they aren't married?

/curious"

The difference for us is we are in a living relationship where everything in our lives is centred around us. Fb as far as we think is just there for mutual pleasure. We only want to share each other with people in the same position as ourselves. I don't think a fb couple would necessarily have the respect for each others partners as someone in a loving relationship. They also don't have anything to lose if they cross the boundaries or break the rules were as a couple in a steady relationship do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm wondering what the difference is?

If you're meeting a couple who have a relationship together and they fit what you're looking for and you fit for them, why does it matter that they aren't married?

/curious"

I was at a club once with a guy I had met off here, we was in a room and a couple was stood watching us, the women came over and started touching us, they seemed ok so we let them join in

It just happened that they had booked a room at the club and was in the room next to ours, we saw them at the end of the night and started talking and had a drink and a fag with them outside the room and she asked us how long we had been together, so I told her we was just friends who met on fab to which she kicked off saying we had tricked them by coming in as a couple and that they didn't meet fuck buddies etc

I have to agfree, what difference does it make, they saw us playing, obviously liked us, came and joined in, had a good session, had a chat after, everything was good till she knew we wasn't a couple, did it make the sex any worse? did it make us any less attractive? I doubt it, so what not take it for what it was, a good session with people they liked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm wondering what the difference is?

If you're meeting a couple who have a relationship together and they fit what you're looking for and you fit for them, why does it matter that they aren't married?

/curious

I was at a club once with a guy I had met off here, we was in a room and a couple was stood watching us, the women came over and started touching us, they seemed ok so we let them join in

It just happened that they had booked a room at the club and was in the room next to ours, we saw them at the end of the night and started talking and had a drink and a fag with them outside the room and she asked us how long we had been together, so I told her we was just friends who met on fab to which she kicked off saying we had tricked them by coming in as a couple and that they didn't meet fuck buddies etc

I have to agfree, what difference does it make, they saw us playing, obviously liked us, came and joined in, had a good session, had a chat after, everything was good till she knew we wasn't a couple, did it make the sex any worse? did it make us any less attractive? I doubt it, so what not take it for what it was, a good session with people they liked"

Because you aren't sharing a loving partner with others in the same boat. Your sharing someone you might meet up with every now and then to have sex with. But to be fair she shouldn't have gone off on one with yous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For your information, my friend are I are friends with benefits and don't see meeting a couple as another notch on the bed post so I don't know where you get that idea from. If its your choice not to meet us, its our choice not to meet you. And we would let people know before hand if we had the time, after all we are well aware that some won't meet us"

Exactly this...we've met married couples at socials who are just as keen on getting up the numbers of notches and are less than respectful to others...surely it's a matter of how a couple comes across and treats you both rather than their status as a "couple" or not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't help with finding out prior to meeting other than to ask......

But very easy to tell during a meet as the ones that have been together 15 years don't want anything to do with their own partner.... That comment is through experience before comment

"

Sorry but that is a load of bollocks it may have been in your experience with some but would say that's a minority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm wondering what the difference is?

If you're meeting a couple who have a relationship together and they fit what you're looking for and you fit for them, why does it matter that they aren't married?

/curious

I was at a club once with a guy I had met off here, we was in a room and a couple was stood watching us, the women came over and started touching us, they seemed ok so we let them join in

It just happened that they had booked a room at the club and was in the room next to ours, we saw them at the end of the night and started talking and had a drink and a fag with them outside the room and she asked us how long we had been together, so I told her we was just friends who met on fab to which she kicked off saying we had tricked them by coming in as a couple and that they didn't meet fuck buddies etc

I have to agfree, what difference does it make, they saw us playing, obviously liked us, came and joined in, had a good session, had a chat after, everything was good till she knew we wasn't a couple, did it make the sex any worse? did it make us any less attractive? I doubt it, so what not take it for what it was, a good session with people they liked"

Maybe club owners could have a big red stamp with FB on it and could stamp it on the foreheads of the FB couples so all of the "real" couples with a sense of superiority engendered by their marital status could avoid like the plague...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" They also don't have anything to lose if they cross the boundaries or break the rules were as a couple in a steady relationship do. "

but on the flip side a FB couple is less likely to have rules to break so less likely to have a domestic mid play, ive had this many times with couples, its the reason I only meet singles now because I was fed up with being sat in the middle of a bust up with couples on meets

The women from the last couple I met slung me out the house at 1am because of something he hubby said to me that pissed her off....who needs that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The truth is, it all comes down to sharing the most precious thing in your life and you expect the same commitment from whoever your sharing with.....simple.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what if you're a couple that love each other, are not married and don't live together but have been a couple for 5 years?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The truth is, it all comes down to sharing the most precious thing in your life and you expect the same commitment from whoever your sharing with.....simple.

XXXX"

I do get that but for couples who meet couples and singles what the difference between meeting a single man, a single woman or a single man and woman together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what if you're a couple that love each other, are not married and don't live together but have been a couple for 5 years?

"

We'll a couple isn't defined by living together or being married, it's about the commitment between 2 people. So we would say they are a "real" couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The truth is, it all comes down to sharing the most precious thing in your life and you expect the same commitment from whoever your sharing with.....simple.

XXXX

I do get that but for couples who meet couples and singles what the difference between meeting a single man, a single woman or a single man and woman together?"

Well yeah, as a couple who mostly only ever met couples, we struggle to get our heads around that too.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So what if you're a couple that love each other, are not married and don't live together but have been a couple for 5 years?

"

being as the op said fb couples, and not couples that arnt married yet.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't help with finding out prior to meeting other than to ask......

But very easy to tell during a meet as the ones that have been together 15 years don't want anything to do with their own partner.... That comment is through experience before comment

Sorry but that is a load of bollocks it may have been in your experience with some but would say

that's a minority "

Not a load of bollocks at all!!! Like we say its through personal past experience. We chat thoroughly to everyone we meet. It's just a shame that SOME couples don't want to admit that the hubby prefers to watch or that the wife is NOT bi sexual....just slightly curious!!! And that is fact of OUR past experience on here.....

Problem is with forums is that you are expected to have a free opinion yet really you are not!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's up to the OP's personal preference who they do and don't play with. I'd advise the best way of finding out whether they are an FB couple or not is to just ask them. I think most would be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im part of a fuck buddie couple been together 8 months very comfortable with each other and it says in both out profile that we are fuck buddies and we will also tell the people we are speaking to that is wot we are... if they dnt want to meet after that then its upto them but we are honest from the start xx

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