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By *londe_hotwife OP   Couple
38 weeks ago

kent

Mrs spent the night with a guy recently and all was well until it came to putting the condom on..try as he might, he just could not stay hard.

Same again in the morning.

Anyone else had this problem and what is the way around it?

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By *ustin666666Man
38 weeks ago

Nottingham

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By *artorialMan
38 weeks ago

weymouth

Get her to put it on and keep teasing whilst doing it

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By *unguy2429Man
38 weeks ago

worthing

I hate the bloody things

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By *ustin666666Man
38 weeks ago

Nottingham


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Git gard straight away but as soon as a balaclava was eventually put on he went soft so they said don't bother with it.

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By *spotpleasurerMan
38 weeks ago

Norwich

Sounds like the experience was too much for him, was it his first threesome?

ED pills or a cock ring can help. Otherwise, play without penetration. Have a condom ready in case he gets relaxed enough to slip one on as quickly as you can.

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By *ovetolearnMan
38 weeks ago

middlesbrough

its only happened to me once where as soon as the condom went on I lost my erection, once it was off again I was instantly hard. The lady was very understanding and wanked me off to completion before we had a laugh about it.

god knows why it happened but it didn't ruin the meet just altered what we could do safely

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By *ick Weapon-XMan
38 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

All I can say is ladies, don't give up. Use your sex appeal, dont make it an issue, and just take charge of the situation. Met a woman once whose motto on this subject was "If I (she) can't make him aroused, then it's my (her) fault and responsibility." I personally feel the same way in reverse about making women wet and cum, it's my job.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Is guess that being understanding that it happens sometimes will ease his concerns and potential embarrassment factor. Any pressure he may feel, will only ramp up if you make a big deal of it.

I have had it happen myself, and with a very understanding couple. We spent much more time doing other things besides penetration.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
38 weeks ago

Stockport

We only play safe , and as soon as mr j sees a condom , and knows he's getting some , he's hard and ready to go

Its the age old thing of , do you want sex with my other half ? If its a yes , then grab a condom

Not to bad a price to pay

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By *londe_hotwife OP   Couple
38 weeks ago

kent


"We only play safe , and as soon as mr j sees a condom , and knows he's getting some , he's hard and ready to go

Its the age old thing of , do you want sex with my other half ? If its a yes , then grab a condom

Not to bad a price to pay "

Our thoughts exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"We only play safe , and as soon as mr j sees a condom , and knows he's getting some , he's hard and ready to go

Its the age old thing of , do you want sex with my other half ? If its a yes , then grab a condom

Not to bad a price to pay "

I don’t think it’s anything to do with trying to get away with not using one. Sometimes the acts of putting one on can cause the old chap to droop involuntarily.

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By *emptme1993Man
38 weeks ago

manchester

I’ve never had an issue, even when I have to remember where I’ve put them and find them

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By *m3232Man
38 weeks ago

maidenhead

Never had the problem.

Maybe it’s how long it took to put it on if it’s quick I can’t see how you would loose it.

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
38 weeks ago

Stockport

We actually had a man , a full grown man who folded at the sight of a condom

He actually uttered the words , he gets shy when he sees a condom

It was like the cock was in charge and running things ? And the guy was just along for the ride !

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

This is a super commom problem and one that can be overcome with patience and understanding.

No shame in it for the guy.

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By *parky123Man
38 weeks ago

Lincoln

Stage fright is a real fear

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By *lexi_and_MattCouple
38 weeks ago

Glasgow

I wonder how many men, having read this thread, are now worrying about their next meet. LOL.

I've not experienced a man with stage fright, but have had a man blow his beans when putting the condom on. Nothing we could say could make him feel any less embarrassed.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago


"I wonder how many men, having read this thread, are now worrying about their next meet. LOL. "

Hopefully, none.

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By *ensualDivaWoman
38 weeks ago

Galway, Mayo

Probably an excuse not to wear one? Or I'd assume he's not that into me...

If it kept happening 🤔

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By *hesubtlegentMan
38 weeks ago

surrey

I’ve had this happen several times. I changed make of condoms. I was an old fashioned guy using durex. Switched to latex free skins large size and hardly happens now. So fellas, make sure you get good condoms that fit properly

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By *ixey and CopperCouple
38 weeks ago

Exeter


"Probably an excuse not to wear one? Or I'd assume he's not that into me...

If it kept happening 🤔"

Oh dear

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By *hunky GentMan
38 weeks ago

Bedford


"Probably an excuse not to wear one? Or I'd assume he's not that into me...

If it kept happening 🤔"

I can't see that happening 😘😉

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By *rs GGWoman
38 weeks ago

Up North


"Probably an excuse not to wear one? Or I'd assume he's not that into me...

If it kept happening 🤔

Oh dear "

Agreed, oh dear!

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By *parky123Man
38 weeks ago

Lincoln

So the next question is - would the guy get a second chance? It assumes that he would have done all the right things leading up to that point…so ladies/couples - would he get another chance?

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By *WANDTGCouple
38 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

It happens a lot, I've had a few hit and miss moments, can't stand the things as they are passion killers, but if needs must, then I'll wear them.

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By *hunky GentMan
38 weeks ago

Bedford

Tip for the ladies - put the condom on with your mouth.

Just saying 😌

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Never had that issue myself

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By *heNaughtyThreesomeCouple
38 weeks ago

Kent

I've had this issue at times, I put it down to only being with Mrs for last 20+ years so had been a very long time since having to use them 🤷‍♂️ as the more I've used them the better it's got 😊

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By *ongandharderMan
38 weeks ago

Rotherham

Never had the issue myself

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By *atandasmileMan
38 weeks ago

Edinburgh

It might be worth checking the girth on the brand / type in use. Even just a little too tight can cause problems and I've noticed that the standard girth has dropped in the last few years across a few brands, starting with the supermarket ones. Standard used to be between 54 and 56mm and now seems to sit between 52 and 54 ish. Perhaps a special kind of shrinkflation? Or the ego boost of having to buy larger sizes boosts sales?

Anyway, get a comfortable girth or else it might not stay up and there's more danger of splitting.

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By *oupleSeducedCouple
38 weeks ago

Canterbury/Greenwich

I've seen this happen to guys when we play with other couples. It's also happened to me. I think it comes down to familiarity with your own partner if you've been together for a while. You can't wait to play with the other woman but your brain is telling you something else so you don't get hard.

Depending on the scenario I'll start with my Mrs be super hard, then go on to the other partner. Or if I'm not getting hard enough go back to my own partner for a short while until I'm hard. If it happens to the other guy I usually tell him to take his time, no pressure and that usually helps. The Mrs is very good at oral and that usually helps to

So guys you're not alone, happens to most of us from time to time

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Chichester

Guys can practise wanking wearing condoms to get used to them.

I’d wager in most cases. They simply aren’t used to wearing one for sex

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By *iglesMan
38 weeks ago

Helston

I found most condoms to be too tight, which just about killed my erection when rolled on. Switched to bigger condoms which aren't so tight on the old chap and I'm back in business.

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By *pringbok95Couple
38 weeks ago

Limavady


"Mrs spent the night with a guy recently and all was well until it came to putting the condom on..try as he might, he just could not stay hard.

Same again in the morning.

Anyone else had this problem and what is the way around it?"

Yes loads of times very frustrating for the guy & me. I did find a way that got past this issue PM to find out

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