FabSwingers.com forum: Single vs Married

By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

If you're mid-aged and still single, must be something wrong with you. Agree, disagree?

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By *ing00Man
38 weeks ago

Northants

Dunno. You single then?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
38 weeks ago

It's not about me, but yes, in my opinion there's definitely something off with you if still single

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By *ing00Man
38 weeks ago

Northants

Hm. Suppose it depends on the reason. If it's something you've chosen, nothing wrong with that.

"Must be something wrong" probably isn't a helpful start.. could be they're shy, or have had a difficult previous experience, or some other personal situation that holds them back in some way.

But for me, "must be something wrong" isn't a useful place for anyone to begin.

Just my 2 cents..

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By *ookieMonsterMan
38 weeks ago

B’stoke

Lots of famous and decent people are single in there 60s when I look around.

No wait something is off according to you!! Yeah they do things like create this post. 🤦🏻‍♂️

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By *olo180Man
38 weeks ago

Greater London

"If you're mid-aged and still single, must be something wrong with you. Agree, disagree?"

Disagree. You could be middle aged and newly single (divorced etc) or single by choice. You don’t have to be in a relationship to be ‘normal’.

Nothing wrong with being single and happy!

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By *olo180Man
38 weeks ago

Greater London

"It's not about me, but yes, in my opinion there's definitely something off with you if still single "

Odd choice of words. What’s your reasoning behind this?

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
38 weeks ago

Cornwall/Devon

That’s a very judgmental position to take when part of a liberated lifestyle.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
38 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm not sure if I qualify as middle aged as I'm 59. I'm single but don't think there is anything "wrong" with me. I was 46 when I was widowed.

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
38 weeks ago

Gloucester

Very odd choice of words OP.

Just because there is something wrong with you (going by your own comment on this thread) doesn’t mean there is with other people.

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
38 weeks ago

Somerset

I, the male half of this couple, was single from my late thirties to late forties through choice and lived my best life. I had a few wonderful FBs, travelled, a wide circle of friends. I deliberately avoided relationships and dated married women or women who were happy with no prospect of a relationship but wanted good company and sex. Then I fell in love with one of the married women who luckily split up from an unhappy marriage and my life got awesomely even better, most unexpectedly. Two kids and a house together later I still can’t believe how lucky I am. For me, it was lucky she didn’t think there was something off about a single middle aged man.

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By *arleycplWoman
38 weeks ago

Frodsham

I guess I qualify, widowed and single now, not interested in a relationship now, will I be in the future, I don't know,

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By *og and MuseCouple
38 weeks ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"If you're mid-aged and still single, must be something wrong with you. Agree, disagree?"

Definitely not, not everybody wants or needs a partner. I think the view you expressed comes out of fear of being alone as you grow old, like those friends that agree to get married if they are still single at 50 or something

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
38 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Disagree entirely. Even if it's just a generally single that includes divorced and widowed people that have had long term relationships.

Even more so if it's the idea that someone who hasn't got married by a certain point is faulty. Some people don't want to commit to that. And that's okay.

I'm happy dating people who have been single for decades, people who are divorced, and people who are married as long as their wife is on board with the situation 💜

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

I'm single by choice as been let down too many times and don't fancy any of the 'I'm dating but really just want a quick fuck' I get on dating apps

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
38 weeks ago

East Sussex

Disagree.

I have a few friends in their 50s who are single. There's nothing wrong with them they just prefer the single life.

I don't think being in a minority group albeit a large one means there's anything wrong with you

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

every bloke we met, 99% claim to be "single" but we are not stuipd, lol

Many then admit they have a wife/gf and she does not know

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By *issmorganWoman
38 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Nope. Some people choose to be single, because they're happier that way.

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By *ustauseerTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Manchester

What a very odd post. Being in a relationship might be the end goal for some people but for others there’s other things they’re focused on, careers etc.

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By *FallenAngel-Woman
38 weeks ago

Kings Langley

Definitely disagree with your statement. I'm single because I choose to be single, doesn't mean there is anything wrong with me

Ok, maybe I'm a bit weird and scatty at times, not sure if that makes it something wrong me 😂😂

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By *onnie 90Woman
38 weeks ago

Leeds

"It's not about me, but yes, in my opinion there's definitely something off with you if still single "

So, by your own rationale, there's either something off with you or you're cheating?

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By *appy-go- luckyMan
38 weeks ago

pothole city

Was married but now divorced and single. Im pretty sure there’s nothing wrong with me.

At least i hope there isn’t.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
38 weeks ago

Chichester

"If you're mid-aged and still single, must be something wrong with you. Agree, disagree?"

Disagree

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By *ddfellowMan
38 weeks ago

New ferry wirral

if your middle age there is something wrong with you, matters not if you are married or single everyone has issues

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Ignoring that there are a load of people either divorced or widowed, including the equivalents who weren't married, some people just don't want long-term relationships.

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By *pgroupsexMan
38 weeks ago

Kingston

"If you're mid-aged and still single, must be something wrong with you. Agree, disagree?"

I've never been married and I'm well past middle aged (certainly by societies definition and how people act around here)!

I've had two long-term significant relationships (one 30+ years). In both cases, the partners in question, had terrible first marriage experiences and simply had no desire to go there again. It didn't bother me one bit.

I'm not religious or one to need paperwork to prove commitment and I certainly don't consider being single my entire life, means there is something wrong with me. It's just the way things played out.

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By *partharmonyCouple
38 weeks ago

Tonbridge

"If you're mid-aged and still single, must be something wrong with you. Agree, disagree?"

Disagree. This is very judgemental.

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By *unguy2429Man
38 weeks ago

worthing

Ohh dunno about that. My x wife has put me of relationship

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By *allySlinkyWoman
38 weeks ago

Leeds

" in my opinion there's definitely something off with you if still single "

Do you mean an "off" smell like rotting fish ?

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By *ngelLordCouple
38 weeks ago

Newport

No idea sure is something wrong as we married 22yrs

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By *artin84Man
38 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

What is classed as middle aged?

I'm 41 on Thursday, seperated from an 18 year relationship with 3 children. Ive got no plans for another relationship right now as I want to enjoy being me.

Why should there be anything wrong with me?

I don't understand why people feel the need to judge or label everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"If you're mid-aged and still single, must be something wrong with you. Agree, disagree?"

If it’s you … then I agree .. if it’s me then I disagree …. 🍒

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

Haha, im single and 50 so deffo something wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

"It's not about me, but yes, in my opinion there's definitely something off with you if still single "

Wow, just fucking wow. How to win friends and influence people....

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By *eaches254Woman
38 weeks ago

Bury

Nothing wrong with it.

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By *PMGMan
38 weeks ago

Surrey

Absolutely nothing wrong with being single? Why not? I travel a massive amount, and I love this lifestyle and want that aspect in my life. So I need to find a lady thats willing for me to be away a lot and swing! Good luck with that one I hear you say

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By *ongJohnSilva2.0Man
38 weeks ago

Right up your street

Pass me the popcorn 🍿

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

No.

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By *an SummersMan
38 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"If you're mid-aged and still single, must be something wrong with you. Agree, disagree?"

Disagree entirely.

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By *artorialMan
38 weeks ago

weymouth

Why? It's a bit like asking women or couples why haven't you got kids - could well be any multiple reasons all of which have nothing to do with you!

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By *ace400Man
38 weeks ago

near knock

"If you're mid-aged and still single, must be something wrong with you. Agree, disagree?"

Disagree I’m only single and enjoying life again after 20 years of marriage

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By *tannersMan
38 weeks ago

stanley

I honestly can’t believe the absurdity and ignorance that conceived this thread.

No single person’s situation or life will have been the same. What if people are single because they escaped an abusive relationship and don’t want to risk that sort of thing happening again, is there something wrong with them OP?

Or people who are single because their partner died, is there something wrong with them too OP?

Does the whole world need to conform to your narrow minded view of the world OP, or can you perhaps realise that it ain’t all about you and nobody needs your seal of approval to live their lives how they want

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38 weeks ago

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