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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as many as i like..and those that have an issue...well...fuck off is my usual retort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine. "

You have enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"as many as i like..and those that have an issue...well...fuck off is my usual retort"

exactly this.....who gives a damn???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"as many as i like..and those that have an issue...well...fuck off is my usual retort

exactly this.....who gives a damn???"

this lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"as many as i like..and those that have an issue...well...fuck off is my usual retort"

Nice one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to see min 4. Max .... Who cares!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"as many as i like..and those that have an issue...well...fuck off is my usual retort

exactly this.....who gives a damn???

this lol "

Ive lost out on meets...but to be honest..really past caring, who or when how much,where whatever

I love the verifications, mostly they reflect how the meet was(in whatever capacity it was)..I'm passed the being 'genuine' stage...so now its what others like to write about me...and yes..I could give my password out and show the bad verifies..if there was any(ppl tend not to bother verifying really if thats the case lol)

some people are a buit thick mind..they see every verify as being someone uve shagged....perhaps they dont understand some of the social aspects of the scene...

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

1 is enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your worried, just delete some of the older ones !

I don't bother showing veris if I see them on a regular basis, I let the odd good one slip in !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think they are good and bad depending on the person reading them,i certainly do not want to shag someone who has had hundreds of meets on here and yet theres others who love it,also theres a certain type of fabber who emails people saying they were reccommended by one of your verifications...sad wankers usually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they've showed up at least once or twice, I'm happy because Verifications don't mean they'll meet me.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I think it astonishing that in the 21st century and on a site like this anyone would consider a woman to be a slapper.

I show all veris. Any guy who is too 'precious' to handle that is not the type I would meet. I'm not here to be judged.

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By *oadsafunMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

I like to keep verifications up to date, and maybe lose old ones. Seems strange some time when the most recent veri is 5 years old.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your worried then when you get a new verification post the newest ones so that it show you are genuinely mewing at that time ad then remove one of the older ones that you possibly don't like as much. That way you don't have to look too promiscuous if you don't want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will show all mine altho I had 2 block 1 guy cos he was getting nasty cos I had met the same guy 3 times like it was anything 2 do with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will show all mine altho I had 2 block 1 guy cos he was getting nasty cos I had met the same guy 3 times like it was anything 2 do with him "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will show all mine altho I had 2 block 1 guy cos he was getting nasty cos I had met the same guy 3 times like it was anything 2 do with him "

sorta pointless having the same verification so near each other really...

not that it is anyones business..but it still is rather futile, unless there was something especially standoutable..like u's had a shag one day..then attended a party the next

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


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sorta pointless having the same verification so near each other really...

not that it is anyones business..but it still is rather futile, unless there was something especially standoutable..like u's had a shag one day..then attended a party the next"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your worried then when you get a new verification post the newest ones so that it show you are genuinely mewing at that time ad then remove one of the older ones that you possibly don't like as much. That way you don't have to look too promiscuous if you don't want to "

why would anyone on here worry about being promiscuous.

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By *resh princeMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"If your worried then when you get a new verification post the newest ones so that it show you are genuinely mewing at that time ad then remove one of the older ones that you possibly don't like as much. That way you don't have to look too promiscuous if you don't want to

why would anyone on here worry about being promiscuous. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive hidden mine as i got some comments on a few and someone who had left one was mailed for an opinion on me lol

I will just send a couple if anyone asks for them but otherwise its my business...if there are dozens noone will read them all a couple is enough to get an idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've a few I'm happy with now, any new ones I get I will drop the oldest one off the profile. Just so new people interesred on me know I'm current, so to speak.

For example, I think one verification from 2 years ago proves nothing. You could have changed out of all proportion in that time.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I publish the ones I like, that make me blush and giggle. If it's a 'met at a social nice girl' I don't really bother, though I will thank the person for it. I agree with others re: promiscuity, as long as you don't have 50 veris from a week saying how they all barebacked you I wouldn't think it's anyone's business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a Swingers sex dating/meeting site and i think if someone writes nice things about your meet, why shouldn't we display them regardless of how many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ps;

I guess some might see me as a Bi male tart and dont care what others think of me; im only concerned what the people i meet think ...the others can take a run and jump lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if we get a very good very after a meet, I don't put it on profile as if I do all my friends askin, "what did you get up to" etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if we get a very good very after a meet, I don't put it on profile as if I do all my friends askin, "what did you get up to" etc

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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago

Falkirk

Having loads does put me off but at the same time I no longer really care about verifications since a lot of them are faked these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I DO read VERIs BUT two profiles I viewed had over 100 each!!! I thort that was unnecessarilly excessive posting em all. Very few people would bother reading 100 - it comes over as 'look how popular we are n all the sex we're having ' . They weren't social VERIs but shag VERIs

Surely it makes sense to post a sensible number that can b read but not go OTT - still woteva floats ya boat I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine. "
Is one not enough and the rest hidden so you can show whoever may be interested a few more if they do work on the verification system and have any doubts?

We dont ask for verifications from other couples we meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If your worried then when you get a new verification post the newest ones so that it show you are genuinely mewing at that time ad then remove one of the older ones that you possibly don't like as much. That way you don't have to look too promiscuous if you don't want to

why would anyone on here worry about being promiscuous. "

I've heard it all now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I DO read VERIs BUT two profiles I viewed had over 100 each!!! I thort that was unnecessarilly excessive posting em all. Very few people would bother reading 100 - it comes over as 'look how popular we are n all the sex we're having ' . They weren't social VERIs but shag VERIs

Surely it makes sense to post a sensible number that can b read but not go OTT - still woteva floats ya boat I guess "

to be honest I can't be bothered to go through and hide my old ones...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its better just to display your recent ones, say the last 6 months or so...

Whats the point in showing veris for 3 plus years ago, waste of time as ppl change so quickly!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I use them as a filter - if anyone tells me I have to many I won't meet that person. It's my profile. I'll do what I want with it.

HOWEVER!!

I do believe that people won't scroll for ever so have hidden any more than a year or so old. I know they are read because some of the guys I meet tell me that they read them.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

One.

Surely all you need is for someone to have verified that you're a genuine person?

I like discretion and I don't need to read the ins and outs (ooer) of other people's sex lives on their profiles. I have a mind of my own and can decide for myself whether I'm going to meet someone or not. I don't need references.

All too often the content of verifications can just as easily put me off meeting someone. If they're there I'll read them and follow the trail. More for my own amusement than anything else.

As everything goes, each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The other thing with veri's that i have found is that when you get a good one - every man and his dog go knocking on the door of the person who gave it asking if they can have some sex......now i know we all deal with the dickheads in our own ways ; but sometimes its annoying and can prevent the genuine veri's being posted - i have two couples and both will not post veri's for that reason

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By *occosboysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Manchester

Well I'm always suspicious of people with only one or two verifs especially if other parts of the profile don't ring true. Funny how many people with very few vers are verified by others with just one or two the word fake springs to mind..

That said I know a lot of the real active swingers on here do a verification cull now and then to avoid some of the points above.. Maybe lose some of your older ones but keep the more recent?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I don't show mine because who I've fucked is my business. I'm happy to give verifications to people I've met but it would never be graphic. The whole point of a verification system is to show someone is genuine. It shouldn't be a reference. Or maybe that's what people want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"as many as i like..and those that have an issue...well...fuck off is my usual retort

exactly this.....who gives a damn???

this lol

Ive lost out on meets...but to be honest..really past caring, who or when how much,where whatever

I love the verifications, mostly they reflect how the meet was(in whatever capacity it was)..I'm passed the being 'genuine' stage...so now its what others like to write about me...and yes..I could give my password out and show the bad verifies..if there was any(ppl tend not to bother verifying really if thats the case lol)

some people are a buit thick mind..they see every verify as being someone uve shagged....perhaps they dont understand some of the social aspects of the scene..."

I think it's a bit like reading profiles, some people don't actually read them to find out if it was a social meet or a shag meet...if only they would read things before they comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine. "

It varies depending on who is reading your profile. I've had ladies say over 3 veris marks out a slapper or that it makes me the male equivalent.

Likewise I've had ladies contact me based on my having more than this as it marks me out as having something that makes lots of women want to sleep with me.

My own personal opinion is similar to Fucktographer's near the top. I like to read through my veris as then I can happily reminisce on damn good times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really think people should be able to put what they like or show how ever many verifications they like. You will always find those who don't like but then again they will probably be the type of people you don't want to meet anyway.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine.

It varies depending on who is reading your profile. I've had ladies say over 3 veris marks out a slapper or that it makes me the male equivalent.

Likewise I've had ladies contact me based on my having more than this as it marks me out as having something that makes lots of women want to sleep with me.

My own personal opinion is similar to Fucktographer's near the top. I like to read through my veris as then I can happily reminisce on damn good times! "

Tart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Browsed a profile the other day with 240+ verifications!!! A popular girl

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I really think people should be able to put what they like or show how ever many verifications they like. You will always find those who don't like but then again they will probably be the type of people you don't want to meet anyway. "

Precisely.

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By *otwifeguyMan
over a year ago

Exeter


"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine. "

You got two veris on the same day !! Impressive . I think the ideal number is three . I have two , can anyone help me ??

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine.

You got two veris on the same day !! Impressive . I think the ideal number is three . I have two , can anyone help me ?? "

It is possible to end up with multiple veris on the same day but have only had one meet that day - some people can take a while to send a veri. Sometimes I have verified people when they returned to the site after deleting a previous profile and they re-sent one to me. Makes it look like you have met more than one in a day but may not be the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hide my verifications from Day 1, so no one knows how many meets I have had, and it does not appear to have done me any harm.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I really think people should be able to put what they like or show how ever many verifications they like. You will always find those who don't like but then again they will probably be the type of people you don't want to meet anyway. "

That pretty much hits the nail on the head... from both sides.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even the verification display is under scrutiny from the PC brigade now! I say show what you like as long as its not your genitals in public!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine. "

Damned if you do, damned if you don't. Do what pleases you as you can't please everyone so why try?

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre


"I DO read VERIs BUT two profiles I viewed had over 100 each!!! I thort that was unnecessarilly excessive posting em all. Very few people would bother reading 100 - it comes over as 'look how popular we are n all the sex we're having ' . They weren't social VERIs but shag VERIs

Surely it makes sense to post a sensible number that can b read but not go OTT - still woteva floats ya boat I guess

to be honest I can't be bothered to go through and hide my old ones... "

And you don't have to. Since when did swinging become about so much rules? Boring! I say people should mind their own business!! If it bothers them, they shouldn't email that person, period!!

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine.

You got two veris on the same day !! Impressive . I think the ideal number is three . I have two , can anyone help me ?? "

Think my record is 7 from the same event...I show all mine, if folk want to read them, fair enough, if not, also fair enough

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Everyone has so many opinions on this. I have been through many stages of thought now.

Initially when I joined I was put off by lots of verifications. But that was a confidence issue really, just thought I would not measure up.

Then I started using them to see what the guy had wrote. Rather than what was wrote about them. So liked seeing lots of them. Also showed that they had experience.

Now I see verifications just as what they are meant to be. They verify the person is real. The number makes absolutely no difference to me. If I like the man he could have 1 or 100. Who cares!

I only hide mine because of my wee stalker.

We are a fickle bunch aren't we? You really cannot please all if the people all of the time can you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has so many opinions on this. I have been through many stages of thought now.

Initially when I joined I was put off by lots of verifications. But that was a confidence issue really, just thought I would not measure up.

Then I started using them to see what the guy had wrote. Rather than what was wrote about them. So liked seeing lots of them. Also showed that they had experience.

Now I see verifications just as what they are meant to be. They verify the person is real. The number makes absolutely no difference to me. If I like the man he could have 1 or 100. Who cares!

I only hide mine because of my wee stalker.

We are a fickle bunch aren't we? You really cannot please all if the people all of the time can you?"

Perhaps there is an argument to b made then that people could post say 20 max of their favourite VERIs n then a little box where u can just display number of meets u have had. Cos if u get to 500 VERIs NO ONE is gonna b reading all if dem!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Evening all just thought I would throw this into the pot. I have been swinging for a good number of years on and of though my current profile is under a year old. I have what I think is a reasonable number of verifications. Is there a point at which I should stop postings new ones for fear of looking like a slapper or do more verifications make me look more genuine. "
not bothered if you have 100 or none Aslong as the person meets your requirements go for it, as we have said before yet to see a bad verification and we don't for 1 min think everyone's encounter have always been good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got slated coz we have only 1 on our profile, so what does that mean we are bad ppl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First two weeks on here I had 3 meets (like ya do wen ya 'fresh' meat! ) . I never thort to ask for verifications BUT then in fourth meet the couple said we nearly didn't contact u cos u had no verifications - I pooh poohed it saying 'oh I don't need everyone knowing who I been wiv ' but they convinced me otherwise! So now I do sort verifications. where possible - from 32 meets I've posted up 13 - of course ya can't ALWAYS get a verification, particularly from ahem 'straight' guys lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have probably got too many, pair of tarts that we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

753.

After that any additional veri's are just overkill and unnecessary!!

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