FabSwingers.com forum: how to pick the right meet??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

right Im hoping im not the only person that is having this issue but how the hell are you meant to know who the right people are to meet??

im a single bi-curious woman and am new to this site (but not to the lifestyle) but im finding it hard to decide who to meet. theres a couple of people that i want to meet but im not sure who should be first or if they're even the right people, how do you guys choose??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the guy who chats the longest without getting pervy and makes you laugh

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Guys that send good detailed messages . Guys that are prepared to chat on msn awhile before the initial meet who dont want a cam or phone wank beforehand or to see lots of other pictures. The ones that can hold a conversation without involving sex and after all that i use good old fashioned womens intuition

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Dunno we just get a gut feeling for people.

If in doubt give them some roap and see if they hang themselves.

I know we aint been very helpful but it really is that simple

Or you could ask Zoe to check them out cos she is so right about people on here she drives me mad lol

Steve

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

"Guys that send good detailed messages . Guys that are prepared to chat on msn awhile before the initial meet who dont want a cam or phone wank beforehand or to see lots of other pictures. The ones that can hold a conversation without involving sex and after all that i use good old fashioned womens intuition"

*waves*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"right Im hoping im not the only person that is having this issue but how the hell are you meant to know who the right people are to meet??

Always meet the ones with the beards first

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

*waves*

*waves back"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

as said above , somone who doesnt go stright for the sex talk, makes u smile when u see there online or u have a message from them ...xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks everyone one i hope i pick the right people

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"thanks everyone one i hope i pick the right people

use a stringent filter system - check profiles - pics - have a phone chat and we usually meet initially for a 'no pressure' drink in a very public place! All the best - Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instinct!!! Never underestimate its value or importance...

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

"Dunno we just get a gut feeling for people.

agreed - go with your gut instinct.

Remember just because you meet, there's no obligation to play.

If you're unsure then take things in small steps.

Try going to the local socials first, you can get a chance to meet several couples in an environment where no-one is expecting anything more than a few drinks and a chat.

if you meet anyone you like the look of , why not suggest a social meet or two first to see how you all get on - if you want to take things further but don't feel ready to jump right in, why not suggest a little "soft" play - or just watch the couple play and you join in as and when (and most importantly IF) you feel comfortable.

Remember that as a single woman, it is YOU who is the hot property - YOU are the one in the greatest demand, so its YOU who calls the shots.

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

ps - who is Curious Sid and why do you want to explore him?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"ps - who is Curious Sid and why do you want to explore him?

lol hadnt noticed the miss spell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah the gut feeling is a good thing to go by. But if the person makes you laugh and you like the look of them it is a good sign. We had a eye on one single guy who we got on well with and when the chance came about to hook we went for it. He happened to be looking for a meet at the time so we were iin luck. But we met for a drink and found out we had a lot more in common than what we chatted about in the chat room. So things went from good to pleasurable,

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

instinct

failing that

the one that calls you first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"the guy who chats the longest without getting pervy and makes you laugh "

yeah i'll go with that, its a sex site we know what we are after, we dont need to talk about sex all the time, to get a feel for someone you need to talk to them and on a subject that dont involve, how many men you have shagged and if you take it up the arse lol sexy banter is fine but i want to meet a person not a cock lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat to them all, drop the ones you don't like how they say things, meet many (Public places) then drop the ones that you didn't like. Meet the ones you did like again to double check then, enjoy them

Your in charge, only meet where and when you want.

And combine this with some tips from above, oh Hello

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

thanks guys ill keep all this in mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"ps - who is Curious Sid and why do you want to explore him?

hey you blocked me for pointing this out lol

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

All decent points, however who you pick should be based on what interests you. Some women (although not many I might add) very well could be interested in the phone-sex, cam-wanking loners (lets face it, there wouldn't be so many guys into that if there wasn't some ill-advise going round that some lady wants it).

I don't feel there should be a suggestion as to who to meet "first", its not a race. You have options the type of people you want to meet and how many ()some are seeking "only one"), so base it on those who match your interests (socially? sexually? both?) and those who hold your attention (ideally) an those that show they are willign to meet and best of all can make the arrangement for a time and place that suits you both (or all, if more that 2).

Just one way of lookign at it.

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