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By *tomCom OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

Do you think Jealousy is a big issue in the swinging scene? Not just between couples but also between different meets ?

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

not encountered it and been on here for years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

swingers get jealous at times, just like everyone else, they dont usualy admit it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will admit it. Been there done that, part of me always will be. I dont think we can totally bury our emotions

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By *tomCom OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"I will admit it. Been there done that, part of me always will be. I dont think we can totally bury our emotions

Well nice to see that some people can be honest with their feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sexual side isn't jealous... My submissive side is awful for it... I can watch guys I play with have sex or hear about fun with a huge smile.. but if for whatever reason I think my submission is at risk.. that's it.. total break down.. total bitch.. and totally irrational.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I like the women I have sex with having other sexual partners cos it means to me that they are sexually attractive to other guys and I like that. So, not jealous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say yes, jealousy is an issue for some people. I know of a number of single ladies who shall we say, mark their territory by contacting a guys previous meets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will admit i'm going through this right now after having a regular fb for months then suddenly he finds someone new to play with. Its sometimes hard to push your emotions away I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say yes, jealousy is an issue for some people. I know of a number of single ladies who shall we say, mark their territory by contacting a guys previous meets!

I've seen a few status notes that have implied this too. Not the thing to do on a swinging site!

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By *tomCom OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"I would say yes, jealousy is an issue for some people. I know of a number of single ladies who shall we say, mark their territory by contacting a guys previous meets!

DAMN !

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By *cEvil and BlueangelCouple
over a year ago

Co Durham

Now I have a different kind of relationship yes I do get jealous.

Before D/s came into it I never did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now I have a different kind of relationship yes I do get jealous.

Before D/s came into it I never did"

is yours like mine then.. okay sexually but as a submissive very possessive...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say yes, jealousy is an issue for some people. I know of a number of single ladies who shall we say, mark their territory by contacting a guys previous meets!

Iv had this happen to me. Someone I had seen a few times had a meet with a new lady. She got hold of his phone found me in his phone and rang me to back off him as she wanted him all to herself. Was not happy that she had contacted me via phone invading my privacy.

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By *ondonpride69Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

I can honestly say I don't get jealous and that's not because I think I'm something special . There's loads if jealousy in and out of the swinging scene and experienced it in both. If people talked more and were honest and open I think a lot of it would be unnecessary and the person with the jealousy would see there's no need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can honestly say I don't get jealous and that's not because I think I'm something special . There's loads if jealousy in and out of the swinging scene and experienced it in both. If people talked more and were honest and open I think a lot of it would be unnecessary and the person with the jealousy would see there's no need. "

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By *cEvil and BlueangelCouple
over a year ago

Co Durham

Oh Cali....very very possesive sub here

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

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"Do you think Jealousy is a big issue in the swinging scene? Not just between couples but also between different meets ?"

Yes it is! There are men/women I would like to meet but they have been 'branded' with a hot iron.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh Cali....very very possesive sub here

it's terrible isn't it..

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

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"Do you think Jealousy is a big issue in the swinging scene? Not just between couples but also between different meets ?"

I will only meet couples in clubs...the reason being it gives me a good idea of how strong their relationship is and wheather I will be able to play as equals and avoid drama.. I positively hate drama and jealousy is drama!

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By *cEvil and BlueangelCouple
over a year ago

Co Durham

"Oh Cali....very very possesive sub here

it's terrible isn't it..

A D/s dynamic is different from other relationships inho.

If your in it you will know what I mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I`ve had this s few times now, once resulting in a series of threatening texts (she got my number from his phone) I have now very recently made a decision I will not play with a man who has a regular fb, not because of any unpleasantness, but because I really don't want to be in the middle, I don't need to know what they are doing and I really don't want to be rubbing anyone's nose into my affair, it's not nice for either person. Personally I don't get jealous, envious maybe that I don't get enough time to play with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh Cali....very very possesive sub here

it's terrible isn't it..

A D/s dynamic is different from other relationships inho.

If your in it you will know what I mean.

it is but many can't see why there is a difference... I'm perfectly fine unless I think someone is messing with my submission.. I can get myself very very upset about it.

Not sure I could ever manage a multi sub house.. although I guess if it was my dominants choice I would have to accept it.

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Its human nature and even the most hardened swingers can fall foul of it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it only happens when we play with a single male, Its not negative jelousy its a sort of morning after low, need an hour on my own to collect my thoughts and go through the night in my head, but in a positive way and it makes me more attentive towards Donna, where as Donna becomes more cuddly and romantic after, I think its our way of slipping back into reality, with couple meets the low doesn't occur, possibly makes no sense but it did in my head when I wrote it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once met a female on her own and her husband knew and encouraged her to meet me and yes we had a lot of fun and she went home...me thinking great meet end of.. but then got abusive threatening texts off him...

Clearly the thought of her with a man was exciting for him, but afterwards clearly could not handle it...

So maybe the only thing I would say is either enjoy sex for what it is (sex) or don't come on a swingers site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did have one guy I met only once n he became obsessed wiv every meet I had anyone that verified me after a meet got threatened to stay away as I was apparently HIS! N HIS alone! One of my friends showed me one of the message he left them really nasty stuff so after that he never got a second meet (as originally planned as he seemed ok n fun was had) n got reported luckily had nothing ba like that since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience some clearly confuse swinging with dating,that's when problems can arise. If you suffer from any jealousy issues,perhaps this scene isn't for you.

Im the complete opposite luckily I enjoy seeing everyone enjoying themselves,if im involved or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some are a bit possessive at times, but out and out jealousy is not one i have noticed yet ....but you come anywhere near my friends i bit your willy off ....ops did i come across jealous then ??? lol heheheh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few guys over the year get funny with me because I have met other guys and not asked them for a re meet

I think there is a lot of it in swinging, ive also heard so many couples fall out in clubs over who's played with who, I've also met couples in the past who have had full on domestics mid play because of something one or the other have done

its why I tend to not do re meets, I think the less times you meet someone the less bothered they are about who you meet after, i've had a few guys pester me for re meets after i've said I don't want to meet them again but the only time I have had guys get arsey with me for meeting others have been guys I have re met so I tend not to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a couples profile and we both have single profiles but we don't have any jealousy at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think Jealousy is a big issue in the swinging scene? Not just between couples but also between different meets ?"

I deffo think it is an

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think Jealousy is a big issue in the swinging scene? Not just between couples but also between different meets ?"

I deffo think it is an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think sometimes people mistake envy for jealousy..

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

MrH is just a voyuer and loves to watch without a hint of jealousy, it is his turn on. I however when we used to play with couples I did not enjoy it, it was not jealousy it was just a case of it did not turn me on. Fortunatly we both enjoy the way we now play..

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By *avindaWoman
over a year ago

North Wales

"I do think sometimes people mistake envy for jealousy.. "

I agree with this and sugarkisses comments about not having emough time to play.

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Oh Cali....very very possesive sub here

I am not a possessive sub at all...My play Doms can play with whoever they wish and I will do the same..

perhaps it is because they are ONLY play Doms....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do think sometimes people mistake envy for jealousy.. "

Think I'm envious, not jealous. I agree with your earlier D/s comments.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"I would say yes, jealousy is an issue for some people. I know of a number of single ladies who shall we say, mark their territory by contacting a guys previous meets!

Sadly been on the receiving end of this. Thankfully, it tends to be rare (or maybe i've just been lucky)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No jealousy here. Why do people commonly think that admitting to jealousy is being honest about your feelings but that saying you aren't jealous isn't really true?

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By *tomCom OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"No jealousy here. Why do people commonly think that admitting to jealousy is being honest about your feelings but that saying you aren't jealous isn't really true?"

Some (though not all) people pretend that they are not jealous about a person's other Mets, though inside they can feel hurt.

I do agree that if you do still getting jealous, then maybe this is not the scene for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I encountered it once when I was playing with a couple, the male got all in huff as I was clearly showing his wife the best time of her life (her words) he slammed the bedroom door we just carried on lol

We then secretly met as he was all upset over it, it soon fizzled out as I got bored

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

I think if people say they do not feel jealousy on here then the chances are that they are telling the truth. It would seem more strange to me that a person who felt jealous would continue to do this. Would you not just stop doing it ??

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I have noticed jealousy in the forums occasionally, usually with alpha fems butting heads over who they believe is THEIR meet/friend and not the others'

I approve of this behaviour. It is only a shame that is isn't IRL... with mud.. and nudity.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

I've only come across it once with a guy I'd met once who then got a bit arsey cos I'd met my fb a couple of days later. His words were why would I want to meet anyone else when I'd had him!!! Hmmm he werent that freaking good and I told him so!!

I certainly don't get jealous when guys Ive met meet others and the day I do is the day I hang up my fab hat!! This site isn't a place for jealousy and if you are the jealous type then your just gonna make your life a misery on here. The sites just for fun simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think Jealousy is a big issue in the swinging scene? Not just between couples but also between different meets ?"

yea i do!i think sum women can be a bit bitchy!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No jealousy here. Why do people commonly think that admitting to jealousy is being honest about your feelings but that saying you aren't jealous isn't really true?

Some (though not all) people pretend that they are not jealous about a person's other Mets, though inside they can feel hurt.

I do agree that if you do still getting jealous, then maybe this is not the scene for you.

I think also it's very difficult for someone who doesn't experience jealousy to understand it and vice versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The main difference between envy and jealousy is that envy is an emotion related to coveting what someone else has, while jealousy is the emotion related to fear that something you have will be taken away by someone else.

I won't let myself get emotionally involved to become Jealous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the reasons I left before was some guy threatening to fill me in if I ever met a particular lady again. Thing is shed never met him but he was desperately trying to get to meet her and didn't like the fact I did.

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We wondered if it might be when we started, but the answer is no, even when we're playing or even sleeping with others in separate rooms. If only one of us was having fun it might be different, but we both get the same amount!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The main difference between envy and jealousy is that envy is an emotion related to coveting what someone else has, while jealousy is the emotion related to fear that something you have will be taken away by someone else.

I won't let myself get emotionally involved to become Jealous x "

see this is my problem with my submissive side.. I lost it all once.. and when you give so much, it can become a real genuine fear that it will be taken away again.

However actions have been better than words and I now feel reassured... Not really sure any dominant could manage more than just me submissive wise anyway.

Sexually I don't suffer jealousy.. it's really odd

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

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I won't let myself get emotionally involved to become Jealous x "

Perfectly put missy

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Do you think Jealousy is a big issue in the swinging scene? Not just between couples but also between different meets ?"

Anyone who has shown jealousy has been history. It's not what I am here for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think we all can get a little jealous no matter how much we try not to,we just have to try and not let it get the better of us to the point where we lose the friends we make.

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By *tomCom OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"Think we all can get a little jealous no matter how much we try not to,we just have to try and not let it get the better of us to the point where we lose the friends we make."

Do you speak from experience ?

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By *uck_us_hardCouple
over a year ago

N.E Lincolnshire

YES! We got caught up between a couple...awkward! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been a victim of this. My housemate (male) has a bunny boiler FB who luckily lives in Holland. She's jealous we're good friends and have a liberated houseshare arrangement! She knew I was on here so set up a profile as a man and pumped me for information about him! Freaky bird! She's now his ex-FB!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think a lot of people wont admit to being jealous, maybe because it can be seen as a sign of weakness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would openly admit to being jealous if I was.

Hopefully I can keep that at bay while I'm on here x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Do you think Jealousy is a big issue in the swinging scene? Not just between couples but also between different meets ?"

Do you really have to ask?!! The territory marking on here, even by married people is off putting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think we all can get a little jealous no matter how much we try not to,we just have to try and not let it get the better of us to the point where we lose the friends we make.

Do you speak from experience ?"

Yes,was jealous of a woman that was involved with a guy that i was seeing...it took a while for me to get thru it but i did and we all been mates now for over 17 years.....the guy and I still play but she dont know it xx so it can work out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think Jealousy is a big issue in the swinging scene? Not just between couples but also between different meets ?

Do you really have to ask?!! The territory marking on here, even by married people is off putting.

I agree, the marking territory over a few single guys with the various threads on the forum be really cringeworthy at times.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

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"Do you think Jealousy is a big issue in the swinging scene? Not just between couples but also between different meets ?

Do you really have to ask?!! The territory marking on here, even by married people is off putting.

I agree, the marking territory over a few single guys with the various threads on the forum be really cringeworthy at times. "

Strangely enough, the guys don't do that! Well, not that I have seen anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've recently blown it big time with a guy I rather liked that I met on here. I do NOT have a issue with him having emotionless sex with meets from here. We discussed this and agreed that if either of u want to meet the other checks them out and either agreed or says no! I'm more than happy with this. Recently he's been away so can't get fab or Skype in his area so used Pof to contact me. I found out he's been chatting a lass up and I got really upset by it. To me Pof is a dating site to go on dates and build love trust etc. fab is sex. I'm hurt and upset as I know being jealous caused it all and now I've list him. I wish I could turn time back and change a few things but unfortunatly due to the past jealousy is a big issue of mine as is trust. This bumble has well and truly lost her sting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never been a jelous person in the past. And id like to think i never will be but i am new to swinging and i havent as of yet seen my boyfriend fuck another women. (We have played with men together and he has played alone with women and it dont bother me in the slightest). But i say to him i have no idea how i will react when the time comes id like to think ill be toattly cool but who knows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a toughy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think Jealousy is a big issue in the swinging scene? Not just between couples but also between different meets ?

Yes it is! There are men/women I would like to meet but they have been 'branded' with a hot iron."

Oh me too, been warned off and now unfriended!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never been a jelous person in the past. And id like to think i never will be but i am new to swinging and i havent as of yet seen my boyfriend fuck another women. (We have played with men together and he has played alone with women and it dont bother me in the slightest). But i say to him i have no idea how i will react when the time comes id like to think ill be toattly cool but who knows.

you sound cool...

Think my bf looks so hot playing with other women omg it turns me on and makes me so proud and want him so much.! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you think Jealousy is a big issue in the swinging scene? Not just between couples but also between different meets ?

Do you really have to ask?!! The territory marking on here, even by married people is off putting.

I agree, the marking territory over a few single guys with the various threads on the forum be really cringeworthy at times.

Strangely enough, the guys don't do that! Well, not that I have seen

anyway."

No the guys don't seem to do it, though some revel in the adoration and I've seen an air of superiority at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We regularly discuss our boundaries and what we tolerate the other person doing in the relationship. We believe its the right thing to do and shows a respect for one another. Jealousy does still occur and naturally always will is what we find.

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By *tomCom OP Man
over a year ago

Wellingborough

"Do you think Jealousy is a big issue in the swinging scene? Not just between couples but also between different meets ?

Do you really have to ask?!! The territory marking on here, even by married people is off putting.

I agree, the marking territory over a few single guys with the various threads on the forum be really cringeworthy at times.

Strangely enough, the guys don't do that! Well, not that I have seen

anyway.

No the guys don't seem to do it, though some revel in the adoration and I've seen an air of superiority at times

Well I have never had any ladies staking their territory with me.. Maybe I am nomad .. hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've only come across it once with a guy I'd met once who then got a bit arsey cos I'd met my fb a couple of days later. His words were why would I want to meet anyone else when I'd had him!!! Hmmm he werent that freaking good and I told him so!!

well put .... so we are meeting when ????

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

Oh yeah, that is definitely a problem on here, which is strange.

I had been chatting to someone on here that I wanted to really meet. Then I had a meet a few days after we started talking and suddenly every question or comment had to do with that meet and how glowing the verifications were. Then finally, she said I think it's wise for me and that meet to keep seeing each other since we had glowing verifications about each other. Jesus! Some people.

I mean who has the right to tell people what to do with their lives, especially when you haven't even met them.

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