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"I'm very much a chunky gal. I'm tall and have a wobbly tum with big hips. I find it very hard to believe that the amount of much younger lads in my inbox are actually attracted to me. I get an overwhelming suspicion that some guys on here just think that because I'm fat, I'm desperate. Does anyone else get this? Not just girls, but do guys get anything like this similar? P.s not desperate, actually demi Sexual so but if a nightmare on this site. " Definitely think some men do think like that often makes me wonder if guys think because we're bigger that we'd be grateful for any offers which were not | |||
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"As a man on the fluffier side of average build, I’m not sure it works in the opposite direction. Some women do like a cuddlier man, but I think it’s more preference rather than an easy target" Ah fluffier thats a cute way of putting it | |||
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"Yes but then guys in general are often even easier. Too many men will fuck almost anything." Too true  | |||
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"I'm very much a chunky gal. I'm tall and have a wobbly tum with big hips. I find it very hard to believe that the amount of much younger lads in my inbox are actually attracted to me. I get an overwhelming suspicion that some guys on here just think that because I'm fat, I'm desperate. Does anyone else get this? Not just girls, but do guys get anything like this similar? P.s not desperate, actually demi Sexual so but if a nightmare on this site. " I believe that too (about myself, obviously). | |||
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"Some of us love the squish Adore the curves" All the women in your profile pics are all slim? | |||
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"I completely agree with you! Im wibbly wobbly (massive arse, boobs and belly) and make that clear in my profile from the outset I can't believe all those that land in my inbox actually find me attractive - it's certainly not reflective of the real world if that was the case. I get the impression that they would literally stick their dick in anything which is just gross Im not grateful for that attention as it makes it more difficult to actually find the genuine ones. I have self respect so unless I get thr sense that there is an attraction there it's a no from me. Lastly, Im OK with people not finding me attractive, I get it, I'm not going to be for everyone and that's OK we are all allowed preferences (yes, even fat little me) "Just from the profile and pic you have on show you are a confident,intelligent and beautifully curvy if your up for a chat let me know. | |||
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"I'm straight, but I can see that you are attractive. 😍 Every person has their own traits that they are attracted to. I don't know how to accept people being attracted to me but some are. One guy was really fit... I didn't believe him when he said he was attracted... but turned out I looked disturbingly like his 1st wife 😅 That was odd lol " Disturbing for him or for you?  | |||
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"was talking to a guy at the weekend who half way through the chat said pretty much what your saying op i then had a right go at him the truth is all sizes will get slagged of at some point alot of men are strange creatures..many are of the opinion any hole is a goal no matter your shape size gender sex " Well that's awful. I'm sorry you experienced that. | |||
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"I personally dont think any woman is easy regardless of size but the women i have got to know are on the big size and have the best times with them and always enjoy their company. I always put the effort in to getting to know a woman but thats just my opinion " Well, I wonder why the plus size gals you experienced are just more carefree? | |||
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"I'm very much a chunky gal. I'm tall and have a wobbly tum with big hips. I find it very hard to believe that the amount of much younger lads in my inbox are actually attracted to me. I get an overwhelming suspicion that some guys on here just think that because I'm fat, I'm desperate. Does anyone else get this? Not just girls, but do guys get anything like this similar? P.s not desperate, actually demi Sexual so but if a nightmare on this site. Definitely think some men do think like that often makes me wonder if guys think because we're bigger that we'd be grateful for any offers which were not " I also think like that, it's almost like I'm fat so I must be desperate for attention | |||
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"As a man on the fluffier side of average build, I’m not sure it works in the opposite direction. Some women do like a cuddlier man, but I think it’s more preference rather than an easy target" I absolutely love the term fluffier. I also like guys in all shapes and sizes, but I will say this... The more athletic and short they are, the more I feel like a whale that will crush them | |||
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"I don't necessarily think easy, but more approachable. I think when guys use the word "easy" they might mean approachable. Women who carry themselves as if they’re too hot to approach are usually not approached by the average guy in person, but rather by a guy who is often overconfident or an extreme chancer. However online is different doesn't matter full of chancers lol" I'm very rarely approached in day to day life. In fact, I don't think I've ever been asked out that wasn't online in the past decade. | |||
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"I think you're being overly suspicious personally. Your pics are very good, so I can see why you're popular. I don't think it has anything to do with perceptions of bigger women personally" Well thank you, I'm a photographer so that's why the pics are flattering. | |||
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"I don't necessarily think easy, but more approachable. I think when guys use the word "easy" they might mean approachable. Women who carry themselves as if they’re too hot to approach are usually not approached by the average guy in person, but rather by a guy who is often overconfident or an extreme chancer. However online is different doesn't matter full of chancers lol I'm very rarely approached in day to day life. In fact, I don't think I've ever been asked out that wasn't online in the past decade. " I’m out of touch, but could that be indicative of all sorts of things? Fear of rejection on their part, people doing everything online, as well as those who simply don’t fancy you? | |||
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"I don't necessarily think easy, but more approachable. I think when guys use the word "easy" they might mean approachable. Women who carry themselves as if they’re too hot to approach are usually not approached by the average guy in person, but rather by a guy who is often overconfident or an extreme chancer. However online is different doesn't matter full of chancers lol I'm very rarely approached in day to day life. In fact, I don't think I've ever been asked out that wasn't online in the past decade. I’m out of touch, but could that be indicative of all sorts of things? Fear of rejection on their part, people doing everything online, as well as those who simply don’t fancy you?" Oh I'm very much aware that I'm not conventionally attractive. I'm also sober, so I'm not out drinking every weekend. How else do people meet these days? | |||
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"I'm very much a chunky gal. I'm tall and have a wobbly tum with big hips. I find it very hard to believe that the amount of much younger lads in my inbox are actually attracted to me. I get an overwhelming suspicion that some guys on here just think that because I'm fat, I'm desperate. Does anyone else get this? Not just girls, but do guys get anything like this similar? P.s not desperate, actually demi Sexual so but if a nightmare on this site. " I am sure there are many many men where "any hole is a goal" OP, but then there are guys that prefer slim, and those that prefer the fuller figure. Personally, I find curves attractive to look at and wonderful to hold. BTW, your profile photos are awesome! | |||
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"I'm very much a chunky gal. I'm tall and have a wobbly tum with big hips. I find it very hard to believe that the amount of much younger lads in my inbox are actually attracted to me. I get an overwhelming suspicion that some guys on here just think that because I'm fat, I'm desperate. Does anyone else get this? Not just girls, but do guys get anything like this similar? P.s not desperate, actually demi Sexual so but if a nightmare on this site. I am sure there are many many men where "any hole is a goal" OP, but then there are guys that prefer slim, and those that prefer the fuller figure. Personally, I find curves attractive to look at and wonderful to hold. BTW, your profile photos are awesome! " Seconded x | |||
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"I'm very much a chunky gal. I'm tall and have a wobbly tum with big hips. I find it very hard to believe that the amount of much younger lads in my inbox are actually attracted to me. I get an overwhelming suspicion that some guys on here just think that because I'm fat, I'm desperate. Does anyone else get this? Not just girls, but do guys get anything like this similar? P.s not desperate, actually demi Sexual so but if a nightmare on this site. I am sure there are many many men where "any hole is a goal" OP, but then there are guys that prefer slim, and those that prefer the fuller figure. Personally, I find curves attractive to look at and wonderful to hold. BTW, your profile photos are awesome! " Thank you, I'm a photographer so I appreciate the compliment on my photos. | |||
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"I often think this and i get messages from people who take very good care of themselves but my own body insecurities mean i rule them out.. especially if their verifications show only thinner people Ill just keep going for the ones who prefer my chunky parts" I do the EXACT same thing. Imposter syndrome is also an issue of mine in my work so I rekon it's all tied in together. | |||
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"I'm very much a chunky gal. I'm tall and have a wobbly tum with big hips. I find it very hard to believe that the amount of much younger lads in my inbox are actually attracted to me. I get an overwhelming suspicion that some guys on here just think that because I'm fat, I'm desperate. Does anyone else get this? Not just girls, but do guys get anything like this similar? P.s not desperate, actually demi Sexual so but if a nightmare on this site. I am sure there are many many men where "any hole is a goal" OP, but then there are guys that prefer slim, and those that prefer the fuller figure. Personally, I find curves attractive to look at and wonderful to hold. BTW, your profile photos are awesome! Seconded x" Thank you so much, as I mentioned above, I'm a photographer so I appreciate the compliment on my pics x | |||
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"I think some people are easy. I don’t think it’s related to their body shapes. I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. And I think ‘easy’ is probably a bit too derogatory a term. What’s a better description? ‘Sex positive’ works, but sounds a bit academic. Let’s go with ‘enthusiastic’. Some people are enthusiastic." I agree it's derogatory but for the nature of the subject and how it makes me feel (and potentially others too) then I think a derogatory term is correct. It feels derogatory to assume someone is more enthusiastic to have sex because they are bigger in size. | |||
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"I'm very much a chunky gal. I'm tall and have a wobbly tum with big hips. I find it very hard to believe that the amount of much younger lads in my inbox are actually attracted to me. I get an overwhelming suspicion that some guys on here just think that because I'm fat, I'm desperate. Does anyone else get this? Not just girls, but do guys get anything like this similar? P.s not desperate, actually demi Sexual so but if a nightmare on this site. " You are absolutely gorgeous xxx yes you are! | |||
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"I often think this and i get messages from people who take very good care of themselves but my own body insecurities mean i rule them out.. especially if their verifications show only thinner people Ill just keep going for the ones who prefer my chunky parts I do the EXACT same thing. Imposter syndrome is also an issue of mine in my work so I rekon it's all tied in together. " Yeah im trying to work on it and also avoid the guys who think big girls are a fetish  | |||
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"Some of us love the squish Adore the curves All the women in your profile pics are all slim?" Ah men...and then reality hits. They want a slim woman on their arm (ego) but fucking a bigger woman in the clubs/meets. I definitely believe that a smaller woman makes men feel more dominant psychologically. Well I don't want to be dominante with out permission so I will keep lifting weights and wear 6 inch heels if I want to be 6 foot. Lol! I'm 5'6. I'm a switch. A lot of men say they are dominant but what they really mean is that they like to dominate women significantly smaller than them. A woman the same height and weight as them makes them feel insecure in their masculinity. I'm never going to shrink myself for a man. My whole reason for being a swinger/nudist/kinkster is to accept and connect with my body and then distrubute that acceptance and connection with others. Plenty of glory holes and sex only apps and website around for those who just want a hole and a pole and a poke.  | |||
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"I'm very much a chunky gal. I'm tall and have a wobbly tum with big hips. I find it very hard to believe that the amount of much younger lads in my inbox are actually attracted to me. I get an overwhelming suspicion that some guys on here just think that because I'm fat, I'm desperate. Does anyone else get this? Not just girls, but do guys get anything like this similar? P.s not desperate, actually demi Sexual so but if a nightmare on this site. " You're a woman, on a swingers site. Therefore, you must want shagging senseless. That's what some of the delusional, half wit, immature guys on here think. Not all, but a fair few. Obviously, I do like being shagged senseless but depends who's doing it. Liz. Xx | |||
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