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By *aron Van Winkle OP   Man
5 days ago

In fair Verona.

Ever find yourself drawn to someone by looks alone… only to realise you’re just not their type?

Is it worse or more common for couples?

Attraction doesn’t happen often for me — that instant physical spark and when it does, it stings a bit when it’s one-sided.

Not fishing here, just wondering how often eryone else gets that same kind of mismatch?

When you’re attracted but it’s just not mutual.

Makes the rare connections feel even more meaningful.

Curious if others feel the same.

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By *peedyGMan
5 days ago

Telford

Yes it happens quite often 😂

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By *morousCouple8Couple
5 days ago

Cumbria

It’s hard as a couple to find a 4way interest. Sometimes mine and hubs disagree on the woman of the other couple. Or sometimes she’s much more attractive than the guy. Or you get an imaginary picture of how someone will look while waiting for a face pic and it doesn’t match.

I get why people hide face photos but it would be so much easier if people shared them more freely.

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By *hickthighs25Woman
5 days ago

Stockton

Yes lots. Aside from all the i fancy you bollocks for a bit of fun. Most people i have an attraction to isnt reciprocated it makes me feel crappy for a day but then i just accept it for what it is. And like you say it makes it even more meaningful when its mutual x

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By *aron Van Winkle OP   Man
5 days ago

In fair Verona.


"Yes lots. Aside from all the i fancy you bollocks for a bit of fun. Most people i have an attraction to isnt reciprocated it makes me feel crappy for a day but then i just accept it for what it is. And like you say it makes it even more meaningful when its mutual x"

I understand what you mean with the ‘i fancy. You stuff (bollox)’, as I know people are attractive, but it’s just we can’t be sexually attracted to everyone and want to try to take things further - that’s what’s rare. X

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By *hickthighs25Woman
5 days ago

Stockton

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By *hickthighs25Woman
5 days ago

Stockton


"Yes lots. Aside from all the i fancy you bollocks for a bit of fun. Most people i have an attraction to isnt reciprocated it makes me feel crappy for a day but then i just accept it for what it is. And like you say it makes it even more meaningful when its mutual x

I understand what you mean with the ‘i fancy. You stuff (bollox)’, as I know people are attractive, but it’s just we can’t be sexually attracted to everyone and want to try to take things further - that’s what’s rare. X

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Absolutely i love that cute almost crush like attraction and when its reciprocated it is lush 👌 the kind were you want to rip each others clothes off but take the piss out of each other at the same time .. love it x

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By *nesCouple
5 days ago

Milton Keynes, city of dreams


"It’s hard as a couple to find a 4way interest. Sometimes mine and hubs disagree on the woman of the other couple. Or sometimes she’s much more attractive than the guy. Or you get an imaginary picture of how someone will look while waiting for a face pic and it doesn’t match.

I get why people hide face photos but it would be so much easier if people shared them more freely. "

100%

Four-way attraction is bloody difficult!

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By *MCMan
5 days ago

London/EA

Quite regular, attracted to a profile, see face pics and they don’t quite match up… disappointing but is what it is, polite no thanks and move on.

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By *ancashireredheadWoman
5 days ago

Up North


"Yes lots. Aside from all the i fancy you bollocks for a bit of fun. Most people i have an attraction to isnt reciprocated it makes me feel crappy for a day but then i just accept it for what it is. And like you say it makes it even more meaningful when its mutual x

I understand what you mean with the ‘i fancy. You stuff (bollox)’, as I know people are attractive, but it’s just we can’t be sexually attracted to everyone and want to try to take things further - that’s what’s rare. X

Absolutely i love that cute almost crush like attraction and when its reciprocated it is lush 👌 the kind were you want to rip each others clothes off but take the piss out of each other at the same time .. love it x"

Ahh, the holy grail. It is rare but I agree it’s very fun when it happens

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By *atgirl and RobinCouple
5 days ago

Durham


"Yes lots. Aside from all the i fancy you bollocks for a bit of fun. Most people i have an attraction to isnt reciprocated it makes me feel crappy for a day but then i just accept it for what it is. And like you say it makes it even more meaningful when its mutual x

I understand what you mean with the ‘i fancy. You stuff (bollox)’, as I know people are attractive, but it’s just we can’t be sexually attracted to everyone and want to try to take things further - that’s what’s rare. X

Absolutely i love that cute almost crush like attraction and when its reciprocated it is lush 👌 the kind were you want to rip each others clothes off but take the piss out of each other at the same time .. love it x"

Ooft, you literally just described our perfect scenario. Being able to have a laugh and take this piss a bit should be mandatory in a meet

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By *peedyGMan
5 days ago

Telford

There are probably a handful of profiles tops i've seen and thought 'wow' On here and they know who they are as i've told them.

It's a lot harder to get that online than in person in my opinion and yes i does feel a bit crap when it's not reciprocated but what can you do about it 🤷‍♂️.

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By *morousCouple8Couple
5 days ago

Cumbria

Or you find some but they’re too far away! Though I did travel 300 miles for hubs charm, I won’t do that for sex

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By *eroLondonMan
5 days ago

Covent Garden


"...just wondering how often everyone else gets that same kind of mismatch?"

My approach is to accept everything as a "mismatch" on here until I start to pick up on attraction, aesthetics, chemistry and personality from the other person, and vice versa.

Even when I openly flirt on here - on the 'forum games' and 'forum challenges' I'm never quite sure if the responses from the other people are just polite or well-intentioned. Matching with someone on here never really follows a pattern or logic that I can fully grasp.

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By *aron Van Winkle OP   Man
5 days ago

In fair Verona.

It’s comforting knowing this isn’t just myself that thinks like this. 👍🏻

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By *ensman100Man
5 days ago

Hounslow

Oh yeah...in the USA she was stunning and sadly a rabid Trump supporter.

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By *aron Van Winkle OP   Man
4 days ago

In fair Verona.


"Oh yeah...in the USA she was stunning and sadly a rabid Trump supporter. "

Making Fab sexy again? 🤷‍♂️

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