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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having been on here for a while now and read quite a few threads about people meeting and finding out the person they are meeting is cheating i was wondering would it be better if you didnt know ?

Would people find honesty the best policy everytime or would you turn a blind eye to someone who were young fit and good looking but possibly be party to helping someone cheat on their partner be that male or female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have met a few married men doesn't bother me

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By * pool 1Couple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Honesty is the best policy everytime with honesty comes trust.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I prefer to be given the option to make up my own mind whether to meet or not. I don't not meet married men because they are married, but because married men aren't as available, reliable, or relaxed as truly single men.

Also, getting a text or phonecall from a wronged partner isn't something I enjoy.

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I won't knowingly meet anyone who is cheating.

I'd rather they were honest about it on their profile and allow anyone thinking of meeting them to make an informed decision on whether or not to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't want to meet married men or women if their partners are unaware, I don't believe in cheating as it ruins trust, if I found out someone had lied I would be majorly pissed off and would probably tell them that too.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

agree with those above... people should be honest and allow potential meets to make up their own mind.

Personally only interested in people who are free to have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lots of men i have met then found out they were married, its not my concern.

i think i would rather not know if it means i dont get to hear them moaning about how crap their sex lives are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best to be honest, even if it may reduce the number of people interested.

Everyone has their reasons but don't mislead potential meets too as they are not responsible for any difficulties in your personal lives ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been on here for a while now and read quite a few threads about people meeting and finding out the person they are meeting is cheating i was wondering would it be better if you didnt know ?

Would people find honesty the best policy everytime or would you turn a blind eye to someone who were young fit and good looking but possibly be party to helping someone cheat on their partner be that male or female.

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Which ever you do you will get some who castigate you for doing so. Some see a cheater as the biggest sinner in the world others understand people better. You have to understand some have experienced this others mainly couples have this as the bogeyman in the closet and fear it. They say honesty is the best route but as so few are truly honest on here it begs a question as to join them or not and only you can choose that.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Honesty every time it gives people the freedom to make a choice. Just don't start a thread dissing your wife/husband, moaning that people won't meet you or justifiying your position.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

if they cant be honest with the person they profess to love more than any other, then why should you expect them to be any more honest with you... nieve

honest enough to get a leg over

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


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Also, getting a text or phonecall from a wronged partner isn't something I enjoy."

. This happens.

I saw my mother being cheated on time and time again, it was devastating to watch her go through it. I could never be knowingly involved in someone cheating.

Honesty is best so all involved can make an informed decision. But that is for everything, honest and recent face pic is just one example.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"honest enough to get a leg over"

It's not just attached people who lie to get a shag, Fabio.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer to be given the option to make up my own mind whether to meet or not. I don't not meet married men because they are married, but because married men aren't as available, reliable, or relaxed as truly single men.

Also, getting a text or phonecall from a wronged partner isn't something I enjoy."

That's exactly why I don't like to meet married guys....

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"honest enough to get a leg over

It's not just attached people who lie to get a shag, Fabio. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have read other profiles where the person has said they are in a sexless relationship but have to stay together for financial or family reasons and have to get whatever sexual fix from somewhere but still need to be with their partner.

If they had any sort of respect for their partner then they would be able to speak to them and say that even though there isnt a sexlife as such would it be ok for them to meet other people ? even down to meeting a working person, bringing in someone else behind their backs who has no knowledge of a partner seems so wrong and tempting fate

Thats my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honest! There is nothing worse than the surprise contact from the partner

But sadly honesty isn't their strong points :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only reason why I don't meet married men is because they don't really have time for meets, I have met a few in the past and they just want quickies before running back to their wifes, spend the whole time clock watching and tend to have to go home before I have finished

I'd sooner meet single guys who have no one to rush off back to and who are after quality sessions not random quickies while the wifes at bingo

I would sooner know up front they are martried so I can assess the situation and decide if its worth me meeting them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been on here for a while now and read quite a few threads about people meeting and finding out the person they are meeting is cheating i was wondering would it be better if you didnt know ?

Would people find honesty the best policy everytime or would you turn a blind eye to someone who were young fit and good looking but possibly be party to helping someone cheat on their partner be that male or female.

Which ever you do you will get some who castigate you for doing so. Some see a cheater as the biggest sinner in the world others understand people better. You have to understand some have experienced this others mainly couples have this as the bogeyman in the closet and fear it. They say honesty is the best route but as so few are truly honest on here it begs a question as to join them or not and only you can choose that. "

What a bizarre anology.

So either u see them as a sinner or u understand people..

Serious?

What about understanding for the family being lied and decieved?

How about just not wanting strings when playing.. Strings being more than emotions.. How about the strings through others emotions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honesty is the best policy everytime with honesty comes trust. "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's never nice if you're a partner, and wondering why your other half is somehow detached, or if he/she is cheating. That said, we each have to make our own morals, and decisions in how we operate with others, so I'd advise you to do what feels right. I also don't feel it's particularly healthy for the soul, to tell lies : not a a religious standpoint though.

If it's sensuous one on one play, versus a 'greedy girl/guy' type event, then everyone is likely to be more relaxed and available if honesty is shared. It partly depends on the event, the people and everyone's needs and morals. I'd think it wrong for someone cheating to lie to those who state they won't meet attached others, without partner's consent etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Only reason why I don't meet married men is because they don't really have time for meets, I have met a few in the past and they just want quickies before running back to their wifes, spend the whole time clock watching and tend to have to go home before I have finished

I'd sooner meet single guys who have no one to rush off back to and who are after quality sessions not random quickies while the wifes at bingo

I would sooner know up front they are martried so I can assess the situation and decide if its worth me meeting them"

This

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By *uckknowsMan
over a year ago

here

What about the married women who's oh doesn't know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about the married women who's oh doesn't know? "

don't meet women so can't comment on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having been on here for a while now and read quite a few threads about people meeting and finding out the person they are meeting is cheating i was wondering would it be better if you didnt know ?

Would people find honesty the best policy everytime or would you turn a blind eye to someone who were young fit and good looking but possibly be party to helping someone cheat on their partner be that male or female.

"

I'd rather know all the facts upfront then finding out later

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I've never played with a married man or woman behind their partners back then I'm happy

If I found out afterwards I'd be livid

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

How honest is honest, is marital status all you need?

What about the presence of FBs, previous partners, children, job, hours worked, birth certificate for age, medical certificate on case of illnesses etc

If not absolutely everything then it's only ever partial honesty

Maybe there should be an option where you can attach a CV to a message

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I have to honestly say that plurals don't usually need an apostrophe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It only becomes a problem if the person being dishonest has other intentions other than getting a woman's pants off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I think/suspect someone is being dishonest with me, about anything. I decline them, no matter how young, hot, fit or what ever else

If in doubt, dont put out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about the married women who's oh doesn't know? "

Same to me as a married man :/

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"What about the married women who's oh doesn't know?

Same to me as a married man :/"

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

honesty on a profile allows an informed choice to be made, nothing more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about the married women who's oh doesn't know?

Same to me as a married man :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me it's not an ethical issue, but rather one of practicality. (Fortunately, the result tallies with my ethical framework, so all is well.)

Simply put, I don't get involved with one of a couple without the partner's knowledge because I am allergic to drama. And having been raised as a Catholic, I've had quite enough unnecessary guilt, thanks all the same :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was honest with my wife but it seems she didn't want me to be that honest after she damaged the frying pan over my head.

So being honest hurts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

throw this into the mix,,, what about recently separated men or women??? is that considered cheating??

and i will openly admit I am separated, with a veiw to stay single!!!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I don't meet married men simply because they're not fit for my purpose!

In the past I've had married men come into MY home with bespoke bars of soap and heavy perfume with the _iew of me using it as it's their wives soap and scent and the wife is part bloodhound and can sniff out other women!

Married men in my experience are unsatisfactory playmates: they are frightened of being marked, always watch the clock, check their mobiles every minute, are hard to get rid off as they're on a timetable and can't go home early...the list is endless.

Why the drama when there are sooooo many single men to choose from?!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty all the time. The way we tend to do our meets we could tell 99% of the time if they were cheating and if we found out while they were at ours they would be told to leave. As we always ask before arranging to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This forum leads me to believe not a lot. It seems to have a meet, you need to bring proof of address and a cv of your past.

wtf if you like the look of eachother see what happens if you don't I'm sure you know where the block button is!PS never ever bareback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IMHO, honesty is the best option.

Afterwards, it is a small world and words do get around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"throw this into the mix,,, what about recently separated men or women??? is that considered cheating??

and i will openly admit I am separated, with a veiw to stay single!!!"

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It depends if it is separated and leads separate lives, as in free to do whatever he/she pleases, with no intention or possibility of getting back together again.

If the intention is to get back together after a break, then I would not consider the person as being single and unattached.

And my _iews of married/attached playing away without the other half's knowledge is the same regardless of gender.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honest informed choice is best policy - chat flirt - exchange mobiles - talk on phone - social meet - etc but above all ....just be honest after all 99.99% of time those that join this site only here because they want sex....so why complicate it with lies ???

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull


"I prefer to be given the option to make up my own mind whether to meet or not. I don't not meet married men because they are married, but because married men aren't as available, reliable, or relaxed as truly single men.

Also, getting a text or phonecall from a wronged partner isn't something I enjoy."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ps; Also those that know me from AFF and UKCB know i was stalked for 6 months by a fem id "wronged" --- the truth was she told me she was a pretty looking 34 year old single mum and size 14/16 with a cracking body------ the reality was i turned up at arranged time to meet here and she was/is circa size 24/26 ish looked absolutely horrid (not a sexiest remark just telling truth) she smelt appalling and looked dirty ---- I politely said no thank you and said good bye there and then.....she harassed me / bombard me with messages/emails/text messages and phone calls for 6 bloody months....all because she lied .... now some of you might not have sympathy for me , that ok because i don't need it ...i never gave up and my friends stood by me ....all i'm to demonstrate is that we MUST remain careful when arranging meetings

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