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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm having a slight issue with oral sex. A few things....I've never come from it. I cant ask 4it. I feel selfish laying bk for ages so I tend to move men on... What I want to do is lay bk and relax... Any thoughts ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm having a slight issue with oral sex. A few things....I've never come from it. I cant ask 4it. I feel selfish laying bk for ages so I tend to move men on... What I want to do is lay bk and relax... Any thoughts ?"

Music, massage, dim lights, right guy. Well on your way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you haven't found someone good enough at it yet...

No matter how much you want it, if your partner is bad, you'll never come, sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe you haven't found someone good enough at it yet...

No matter how much you want it, if your partner is bad, you'll never come, sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm the same, I've never cum from oral and I've had a lot of sexual partners. I just don't bother anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe you haven't found someone good enough at it yet...

No matter how much you want it, if your partner is bad, you'll never come, sorry

The more worried and conscious about it you are the less likely you are to come. You need to find somebody particularly skilled in that area too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think what I need is a guy who's willing to put in the work lol!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Don't put any pressure on yourself, just enjoy any sensations and if you come good if not you can always achieve.orgasm another way.

Don't feel.guilty about the man being down there for ages most guys on here claim to love doing it for hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot don't like it but then a lot of guys champion it as some sort of magnet to attract women. I think we are partly to blame or some women not all pushing the VWE requirements and also some guys who feel inadequate dive in with the tongue. If everyone was more honest about what they like and don't then it might be more relaxed and fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't put any pressure on yourself, just enjoy any sensations and if you come good if not you can always achieve.orgasm another way.

Don't feel.guilty about the man being down there for ages most guys on here claim to love doing it for hours."
guys say that .... Do they mean it?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

"I think what I need is a guy who's willing to put in the work lol!"

If you feel that's the issue. Then I would agree. But the above poster is correct, the more concerned you are about it, the harder it is to do.

I know my wife (hope she does not mind me sharing this) gets very self conscious about squirting. Even infront of little old me her hubby. Yet when I was blindfolded and tied to a post, she masterbated herself and used a vibrator to bring herself off. She squirted in her panties and was far less concerned.

Bodies are funny things an oral is not going to be the same every time. Sometimes my wife can cum almost the second I start, other times it's more of a slow build. I would not give up, but I would not make too big a deal of it. With time and variation I'm sure it (you) will cum.

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

There's quite a few women who don't cum with oral, I've only managed it about twice ever, but I don't care as fingers or cock work much better for me.......I'd get bored if they were down there too long !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find I get bored unless clit stimulated and fast n furious fingerfucked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oral can best be seen as a starter lol sometimes it fills you up, orgasm, other times it makes you hunger for main course....lol

If the man wants to let him, for as long ashe wants or u enjoy..get bored move on you can always go back for round two ....at least he can rest his toungue lol. If u only expect pleasure and not the big o then pressure to come removed and may happen ...all ppl m and f have different styles some will suit you others wont .

Dont get hangups over it enjoy it dish by dish lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't put any pressure on yourself, just enjoy any sensations and if you come good if not you can always achieve.orgasm another way.

Don't feel.guilty about the man being down there for ages most guys on here claim to love doing it for hours. guys say that .... Do they mean it?"

I can't speak for every guy but I personally do!! But it really turns me on, so...

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By *luemeanie69Man
over a year ago

north/south

Don't feel guilty about lying back and enjoying it. I could spend hours between a woman's legs. I get so turned on giving a girl pleasure. There's plenty of guys out there willing to spend the evening taking you to the heights of extract with their mouths.

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By *1ckeyMan
over a year ago

Camberley

Perhaps get them to use fingers first, then move onto oral. Fingers are far better at exploring and exciting, and that leaves a fresh tongue to work on an already engorged clit and sensitive lips. But there are some women who just can't come from this.

Now where are all the snake tongued men...

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Being relaxed is key though, if you put too much pressure on yourself it will never happen. If you are thinking "oh I don't orgasm this way" you won't.

I personally prefer fingers first like another poster stated, it then makes you more sensitive and receptive to a mouth.

Also let the guy know when he hits the right spot, we are all different and he won't know unless you tell him.

I know from experience that there are a lot of guys out there who do genuinely love giving oral.

After saying all that ultimately it doesn't matter if it doesn't do it for you, you can then just focus on what you do enjoy.

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By *elaxedsexyfunMan
over a year ago

Northants

My ex just couldn't come from oral sex.

She said she enjoyed it and I loved doing it to her but she needed more pressure than my Tongue could give.

She always had to rub her clit really hard to orgasm but everyone is different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not blowing my own trumpet. But, i love giving oral and love being down there til she cums.

I havent had any problems making someone cum through oral alone. But, i do know that she has to be relaxed and know that the other person knows what they are doing.

..let your body be the guide. Thats what i say. With every action there is a reaction and they should respond that.

I would have said message me and lets arrange something...or am i being too forward lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i never enjoyed oral sex until i met a man a few years ago who gave me oral sex and made me cum.

then i met another man who realy enjoys going down on me and he made me cum twice quite quickly.

some men are just realy good at it.

where as when some men do it it just sends me to sleep.

you need to meet men who realy enjoy it

not just ones who do it because they think they should.

i have met a lot of men who just want me to suck their cock all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well like poeye -- I have never been with a woman who hasnt cum through oral -- not that i am saying that i am gods gift ( I am just an ordinary guy) but I do have a huge tongue -- perhaps that does help --- but it certainly does take time and patience and dont forget you have to lick all round the clit and not just straight on top that some women find too intense to start with --- blimey i sound like a gynocologist LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well like poeye -- I have never been with a woman who hasnt cum through oral -- not that i am saying that i am gods gift ( I am just an ordinary guy) but I do have a huge tongue -- perhaps that does help --- but it certainly does take time and patience and dont forget you have to lick all round the clit and not just straight on top that some women find too intense to start with --- blimey i sound like a gynocologist LOL"

I agree. too much pressure straight on top of clit is too sensitive to start there

I also find the ears on a rabbit, used at same time is very good!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those who were good at it could make me climax within a short period of time; whereas those who were bad at it would take so long I had to politely request them to stop so that I could finish myself with a vibe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think what I need is a guy who's willing to put in the work lol!"

Believe it or not there are a few of us guys out there who enjoy giving oral and are quite happy to stay down there for as longs as needs be

MMMMM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmmmm, not sure if I like it for hours on end though.

Those who can finger skillfully while giving oral at the same time are like hen's teeth for certain!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Don't put any pressure on yourself, just enjoy any sensations and if you come good if not you can always achieve.orgasm another way.

Don't feel.guilty about the man being down there for ages most guys on here claim to love doing it for hours. guys say that .... Do they mean it?"

I'm sure some if them do.

My point is that you need to take what men say at gave value an you need to trust your own feelings. I personally dislike oral sex being performed on me, lots of men tell me it's only because they haven't done it to me or try to imply that it's a body confidence issue but it's just the plain simple fact that I don't enjoy it. If you can't reach orgasm through oral sex stop trying, encourage the man you're with to stop trying and both enjoy all the other many and varied ways there are for a woman to reach orgasm.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

And that's face value.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

And I don't mean stop trying oral sex if it's something you enjoy, just when you get to the point where you've had enough encourage the man to move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think what I need is a guy who's willing to put in the work lol!"

I need fingers inside too and the right speed and pressure....so it is about technique for sure. I cum easily generally but I still need oral just right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it! And could easily do it for hours! It's a massive turn on! Pleasuring someone else x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Those who were good at it could make me climax within a short period of time; whereas those who were bad at it would take so long I had to politely request them to stop so that I could finish myself with a vibe.

Totally agree! I'm 38 and never came orally and thought it was down to me. Met D and he has me done in about 3 minutes flat

I'm obsessed with it now and he has to Give me head at least twice a day now as I've discovered a whole new love for it

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By *1ckeyMan
over a year ago

Camberley

"Hmmmm, not sure if I like it for hours on end though.

Those who can finger skillfully while giving oral at the same time are like hen's teeth for certain!

That would be Davy Jones - pirates of the caribean

But I agree, if you keep your left hand down, mouth to the right hand side, your lovers left leg over your right shoulder, your right hand can come around the leg to reach the top - simplex xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mallery never came orally...until me.

This isnt self promotion but i do believe the giver plays a huge part.

I personally love giving it, dont have to be asked and dont care how long it takes.

If the giver is unselfish and makes you feel relaxed and unhurried the results will "cum"

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