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"Hopefully not too common. All our meets have gone well and been surreal." It's abit gutting as she's been really building her confidence to this moment and now . Any advice how to bounce back from it.? I think it's put her off future meets with guys | |||
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"Hopefully not too common. All our meets have gone well and been surreal. It's abit gutting as she's been really building her confidence to this moment and now . Any advice how to bounce back from it.? I think it's put her off future meets with guys " May be best to just try again with a guy that would be more suitable for the fantasy. | |||
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"Hopefully not too common. All our meets have gone well and been surreal. It's abit gutting as she's been really building her confidence to this moment and now . Any advice how to bounce back from it.? I think it's put her off future meets with guys May be best to just try again with a guy that would be more suitable for the fantasy." He was suited that's the thing.to be honest he made her feel very comfortable too but the sex didn't go the way we wanted it. Was more 4play than sex | |||
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"Hopefully not too common. All our meets have gone well and been surreal. It's abit gutting as she's been really building her confidence to this moment and now . Any advice how to bounce back from it.? I think it's put her off future meets with guys " Why didn't it go well? Maybe a meet with a "couple" would be better? | |||
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"Hopefully not too common. All our meets have gone well and been surreal. It's abit gutting as she's been really building her confidence to this moment and now . Any advice how to bounce back from it.? I think it's put her off future meets with guys May be best to just try again with a guy that would be more suitable for the fantasy. He was suited that's the thing.to be honest he made her feel very comfortable too but the sex didn't go the way we wanted it. Was more 4play than sex " What about round 2, etc.? | |||
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"We wanted a threesome . He was the perfect guy personality wise to so it started off great. Made her feel at ease. Four play was amazing.. our hotel room was very hot and he said he struggled with the heat so they started having sex but he would only do it for a few minutes before stopping again as he would go semi then same cycle she would give him oral then would get hard then do same again and lasted a couple hours..don't get me wrong when he was hard he was making her cum but was very stop and start and my wife likes to get into a flow . Also to top it off he couldn't finish so that offended her also which is rightly so . Other than that it was good we still enjoyed ourselves and we understood it was hot no ac in the room so maybe a factor" There was a lot of pressure on that single guy. I don't think there's any reason for her to feel offended because he experienced a problem due to heat, nerves or whatever. I really hope he's not reading this | |||
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"We wanted a threesome . He was the perfect guy personality wise to so it started off great. Made her feel at ease. Four play was amazing.. our hotel room was very hot and he said he struggled with the heat so they started having sex but he would only do it for a few minutes before stopping again as he would go semi then same cycle she would give him oral then would get hard then do same again and lasted a couple hours..don't get me wrong when he was hard he was making her cum but was very stop and start and my wife likes to get into a flow . Also to top it off he couldn't finish so that offended her also which is rightly so . Other than that it was good we still enjoyed ourselves and we understood it was hot no ac in the room so maybe a factor There was a lot of pressure on that single guy. I don't think there's any reason for her to feel offended because he experienced a problem due to heat, nerves or whatever. I really hope he's not reading this" I agree . I'm not saying that..my question was we expecting too much? We absolutely enjoyed ourselves still like I said . Nothing against him . Just u know you expect the real thing to be like the fantasy I guess | |||
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"We wanted a threesome . He was the perfect guy personality wise to so it started off great. Made her feel at ease. Four play was amazing.. our hotel room was very hot and he said he struggled with the heat so they started having sex but he would only do it for a few minutes before stopping again as he would go semi then same cycle she would give him oral then would get hard then do same again and lasted a couple hours..don't get me wrong when he was hard he was making her cum but was very stop and start and my wife likes to get into a flow . Also to top it off he couldn't finish so that offended her also which is rightly so . Other than that it was good we still enjoyed ourselves and we understood it was hot no ac in the room so maybe a factor" She was offended because he couldn't finish? Nerves, heat and all sorts of factors could have played a part on a meet. The guy not finishing or having difficulty staying hard is very very common. | |||
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"^^ I guess that depends on your fantasy. I wonder if his fantasy was fulfilled 🤔" I felt for him to be fair though as a guy sometimes it's not easy keeping a erection with heat + performance anxiety | |||
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"I do not see much of a problem, first of all he turned up which with a lot of single men is an issue! Secondly when he was hard your partner was pleased. It is hot, like on another level hot! Give the guy another chance expect this time get a decent hotel with AC "Yeah it's absolutely ridiculously hot we stayed in a travelodge so no ac in Manchester town centre it was roasting | |||
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"We wanted a threesome . He was the perfect guy personality wise to so it started off great. Made her feel at ease. Four play was amazing.. our hotel room was very hot and he said he struggled with the heat so they started having sex but he would only do it for a few minutes before stopping again as he would go semi then same cycle she would give him oral then would get hard then do same again and lasted a couple hours..don't get me wrong when he was hard he was making her cum but was very stop and start and my wife likes to get into a flow . Also to top it off he couldn't finish so that offended her also which is rightly so . Other than that it was good we still enjoyed ourselves and we understood it was hot no ac in the room so maybe a factor There was a lot of pressure on that single guy. I don't think there's any reason for her to feel offended because he experienced a problem due to heat, nerves or whatever. I really hope he's not reading this" Absolutely this. This is a person you’re talking about not a fantasy dispenser. The pressure to perform is huge and it is common for guys to lose and regain their erections during meets. It’s common for anyone to struggle to orgasm with someone new. I think you need to adjust your expectations. | |||
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"I do not see much of a problem, first of all he turned up which with a lot of single men is an issue! Secondly when he was hard your partner was pleased. It is hot, like on another level hot! Give the guy another chance expect this time get a decent hotel with AC
Yeah it's absolutely ridiculously hot we stayed in a travelodge so no ac in Manchester town centre it was roasting "Your other thread says it was a Premier Inn. Not many hotels in this country will have air conditioning unfortunately. | |||
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"Hi OP, This is a tricky situation isn't it, I do totally understand where you're coming from. I wouldn't get disheartened too much, it does happen for various reasons and can be anticlimactic for all involved. I personally haven't had a successful meet in a few years, for similar reasons to you. It has even got to a point for me earlier this year where I preferred to just be a voyeur rather than get my hopes up and then be frustrated or mildly disappointed. I must admit that my temptation for swinging opportunities are currently not being sought out as I don't feel a desire for it, but doesn't mean that it will never happen again. I am just not pushing for it. Keep the communication going with your partner, make sure you continue to enjoy each other, and keep the naughty desire for a third person going. Then eventually it will happen and fingers crossed it will be successful for all involved. Good luck both Mrs" Thank you very much for understanding I definitely understand on what others are saying also I know as a guy it can sometimes be hard to keep erection in the heat . It's just cos it took us a long time to get to the point of getting here as a couple that's what I mean ..It's definitely not his fault..I definitely should of picked a better day for it all | |||
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"It didn't live up to the fantasy is this common? Bit gutted as a couple but is this normal?" Aw sorry to hear this. Unfortunately yes it’s happed to me and my partner the first time we had a meet outside of a club or event. Since then it’s gotten better though. Sometimes thing just aren’t quite what you expect. Hopefully the next one will be better. | |||
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"It didn't live up to the fantasy is this common? Bit gutted as a couple but is this normal? Aw sorry to hear this. Unfortunately yes it’s happed to me and my partner the first time we had a meet outside of a club or event. Since then it’s gotten better though. Sometimes thing just aren’t quite what you expect. Hopefully the next one will be better. " Thank you. At this precise time she doesn't want to do it again but she's on a come down today she feels overwhelmed as was our first time aswell doing anything like this she said she feels emotional as coming back down to reality | |||
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"It didn't live up to the fantasy is this common? Bit gutted as a couple but is this normal? Aw sorry to hear this. Unfortunately yes it’s happed to me and my partner the first time we had a meet outside of a club or event. Since then it’s gotten better though. Sometimes thing just aren’t quite what you expect. Hopefully the next one will be better. Thank you. At this precise time she doesn't want to do it again but she's on a come down today she feels overwhelmed as was our first time aswell doing anything like this she said she feels emotional as coming back down to reality " i would loce a private chat but i cart with your settings your wife needs a slow sensual meet like i gave my wife that i met went at her pace she was smiling all the way through please message me love to help you guys | |||
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