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"I'm beginning to think I'm just too fussy and hard to please. Either I fancy only one of the couple, or if I do both, I'm out of their age bracket or not their type, they live too far or something else. "To be fair to you Berry Wild, we swapped face pics with you a year ago and you were openenough to say you didn't feel the vibe on both of us...which was a shame as we both thought you were gorgeous. Still, much better than being ghosted...so we appreciated it. Xx | |||
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"I'm beginning to think I'm just too fussy and hard to please. Either I fancy only one of the couple, or if I do both, I'm out of their age bracket or not their type, they live too far or something else. "Could you meet singles with your husband? Then you only have to fancy one extra person. | |||
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"We have the added stumbling block of not sending face pics on here. We are occasionally happy to send via another platform (depending on the vibe) but that doesn't always work out!" Can we ask your reasons there, no judgement, we come across it regularly and honestly without attraction we don't take it to another platform 😘 | |||
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"I have found the same OP, very difficult to find or its a female just taking one for the team, which is even more unattractive Im no longer looking for couples, I would play if I saw them at a club/party and had attraction. There are plenty of gorgeous couples out there, just some ruin it for others. 🤷♀️" 25 January 2022.. Still a favourite picture on Fab 😘 | |||
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"We have the added stumbling block of not sending face pics on here. We are occasionally happy to send via another platform (depending on the vibe) but that doesn't always work out! Can we ask your reasons there, no judgement, we come across it regularly and honestly without attraction we don't take it to another platform 😘" Yes of course. We have had issues in the past after sending so just decided to stop. We attend clubs quite regularly so those we have met know how we look 😉 | |||
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"We have the added stumbling block of not sending face pics on here. We are occasionally happy to send via another platform (depending on the vibe) but that doesn't always work out! Can we ask your reasons there, no judgement, we come across it regularly and honestly without attraction we don't take it to another platform 😘 Yes of course. We have had issues in the past after sending so just decided to stop. We attend clubs quite regularly so those we have met know how we look 😉" Appreciate you taking the question as it was intended 👍 What kind of issues out of interest, your trust being abused or their pictures not truthful or forthcoming? As OP asked we struggle with 4 way attraction and have occasionally miscommunicated between ourselves, (more my side 🤦) so clubs don't always work that well for us. Y Xx | |||
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"Yeah we have the same problem with couples. A lot of couples profiles either have no pics of the man or if they do, it’s generally his cock only, like his body or anything else doesn’t matter. It gets conversations off on the wrong foot if you’re having to ask for something that should be standard on a couples profile, if they are both looking to meet. " Agreed, the first thing I ask D if he even mentions a couple have messaged us. Think it's indicative of the scene in general unfortunately, unless he's a 6' plus Adonis the guys get little attention from ladies or couples here, so understand why many would shy away, just imagine it vice versa ladies #confidencekiller. I like a little eye candy and a handsome face to sit on 😉😈 Luckily I have one, partly the reason we're so sporadic 🤷😘 | |||
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"I'm beginning to think I'm just too fussy and hard to please. Either I fancy only one of the couple, or if I do both, I'm out of their age bracket or not their type, they live too far or something else. "Yep exactly the same here too 😂 | |||
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"It's even more difficult as a couple. Made yet more difficult when also seeking couples. However it is what it is and when you find that awesome mutual chemistry and attraction its well worth the wait "Totally agree , I’m in a couple too as well as my hotwife account and it’s extremely hard to find good matches | |||
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"It's even more difficult as a couple. Made yet more difficult when also seeking couples. However it is what it is and when you find that awesome mutual chemistry and attraction its well worth the wait
Totally agree , I’m in a couple too as well as my hotwife account and it’s extremely hard to find good matches "You pair have problems?! There's no chance here then.. 😉😉 Your both hot and go to the best nights going (SH) so maybe we'll get to meet up sometime 😘 | |||
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"I'm beginning to think I'm just too fussy and hard to please. Either I fancy only one of the couple, or if I do both, I'm out of their age bracket or not their type, they live too far or something else. "Hi OP, you're not fussy, what's the point of being on Fab, running the risk of being exposed / judged as a swinger, if you have to settle for less than you want. Anyway, not only is this a conundrum of Fab but also of life. And even when everything aligns for you, they have to fancy you too. It does mean that when you do find what you're looking for and you're what they are looking for, a lot of great fun will be had - it doesn't happen that often for me, which makes those times that it does, even more memorable. | |||
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"Yeah we have the same problem with couples. A lot of couples profiles either have no pics of the man or if they do, it’s generally his cock only, like his body or anything else doesn’t matter. It gets conversations off on the wrong foot if you’re having to ask for something that should be standard on a couples profile, if they are both looking to meet. Agreed, the first thing I ask D if he even mentions a couple have messaged us. Think it's indicative of the scene in general unfortunately, unless he's a 6' plus Adonis the guys get little attention from ladies or couples here, so understand why many would shy away, just imagine it vice versa ladies #confidencekiller. I like a little eye candy and a handsome face to sit on 😉😈 Luckily I have one, partly the reason we're so sporadic 🤷😘" Agreed, women get much more attention on here. It’s why we have more pics of C now - it used to much more equal but as you say, it becomes a bit disheartening when guys get so little attention. But there should be some pics of Mr, at least to determine an attraction or whether you are at least intrigued. We used to reach out and ask for a pic but now we just move on as it becomes a bit of a back and forth to get a pic and then when you get one, it’s awkward saying there’s no attraction, after so much effort. K | |||
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"We are in thr same boat. It's very difficult to find someone with some level of attraction. Mrs is a little more picky than me. Happy to chat or share pics if needed. We are actively looking to expand our horizons... " My top tip would be to get a couples profile. Meeting as a couple is generally a lot easier that way. | |||
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"We have the added stumbling block of not sending face pics on here. We are occasionally happy to send via another platform (depending on the vibe) but that doesn't always work out! Can we ask your reasons there, no judgement, we come across it regularly and honestly without attraction we don't take it to another platform 😘 Yes of course. We have had issues in the past after sending so just decided to stop. We attend clubs quite regularly so those we have met know how we look 😉 Appreciate you taking the question as it was intended 👍 What kind of issues out of interest, your trust being abused or their pictures not truthful or forthcoming? As OP asked we struggle with 4 way attraction and have occasionally miscommunicated between ourselves, (more my side 🤦) so clubs don't always work that well for us. Y Xx " Trust being abused. We don't make definite meet plans before a club visit as who knows how everyone will feel on the night and then it can become quite awkward 🫣 | |||
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"I'm beginning to think I'm just too fussy and hard to please. Either I fancy only one of the couple, or if I do both, I'm out of their age bracket or not their type, they live too far or something else. "I understand all of this. When looking for a couple (on my couples account) there always seems to be one of those things that means it’s a no. It’s slightly frustrating at times. Either that or everything looks great but then they aren’t into me or my partner lol. | |||
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"Ffs. It's always the good looking couples that moan on about finding it hard to get that '4 way" attraction. What about us plain couples? If we waited for you good looking ones to decide,we would be drawing our pensions. It's only sex,ffs. Not love,or a lifelong attraction. You put it in, you pull it out, finished. I know a lot of you will be up in arms after this,but as we're unlikely to meet you in the flesh...." Pretty sure there would be people who you wouldn't find sexual my attractive and would break that "it's just sex ffs" statement. Unless you literally will enter into it with quite literally anybody, regardless of age, size, looks etc and if that's the case, you should at least be self aware enough to know you're in a tiny minority there. Not giving you grief, just saying | |||
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"I'm beginning to think I'm just too fussy and hard to please. Either I fancy only one of the couple, or if I do both, I'm out of their age bracket or not their type, they live too far or something else. "I'm sure you'd like both of us. We're very nice people. | |||
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"Ffs. It's always the good looking couples that moan on about finding it hard to get that '4 way" attraction. What about us plain couples? If we waited for you good looking ones to decide,we would be drawing our pensions. It's only sex,ffs. Not love,or a lifelong attraction. You put it in, you pull it out, finished. I know a lot of you will be up in arms after this,but as we're unlikely to meet you in the flesh.... Pretty sure there would be people who you wouldn't find sexual my attractive and would break that "it's just sex ffs" statement. Unless you literally will enter into it with quite literally anybody, regardless of age, size, looks etc and if that's the case, you should at least be self aware enough to know you're in a tiny minority there. Not giving you grief, just saying " So your not agist, sexist or sizeist? As long as they're beautiful with rippling muscles and a body a model would die for! Of course that statement would come from one of the 'beautiful' ones. I'm not saying you have to jump into bed with Quasimodo or someone with supplicating boils all over their body,but when you've got the body and the goods,don't moan on about finding it hard to get 4 way compatability. | |||
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"Ffs. It's always the good looking couples that moan on about finding it hard to get that '4 way" attraction. What about us plain couples? If we waited for you good looking ones to decide,we would be drawing our pensions. It's only sex,ffs. Not love,or a lifelong attraction. You put it in, you pull it out, finished. I know a lot of you will be up in arms after this,but as we're unlikely to meet you in the flesh.... Pretty sure there would be people who you wouldn't find sexual my attractive and would break that "it's just sex ffs" statement. Unless you literally will enter into it with quite literally anybody, regardless of age, size, looks etc and if that's the case, you should at least be self aware enough to know you're in a tiny minority there. Not giving you grief, just saying " I tend to agree. I think that often people dislike boundaries when it excludes them but encourage those boundaries when it includes them or keeps them safe. Having a baseline of attraction is a prerequisite for most of the people around here (ourselves included) and shouldn’t be disregarded or dismissed | |||
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"We have spent many nights in clubs, looking for and waiting for, the ideal, perfect couple to show up (very rare) and sat and watched loads of other couples going off to play in foursomes and groups every two minutes on the spur of the moment... and sometimes wish we were more like that, when eventually going home without playing with anyone at all... "This seems to be us too. I think a lot is the fact we aren’t regular club goers due to having to drive an hour. Also my partner is older (14 years) than me and has a beard, plus we are both a little shy in clubs, we always just seem to play with one another then go home. | |||
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"We have spent many nights in clubs, looking for and waiting for, the ideal, perfect couple to show up (very rare) and sat and watched loads of other couples going off to play in foursomes and groups every two minutes on the spur of the moment... and sometimes wish we were more like that, when eventually going home without playing with anyone at all... "I think there is a middle ground. When we started we were probably a little too picky, looking for the perfect hookup. We left a few club nights without playing (tho that's totally fine in itself). There was a realisation that we aren't trying to find a life partner here, and good sex could be had with people who fit 'some' but not all our preferences and we accepted that we should put ourselves out there more - still needs to be some attraction though | |||
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"Yeah we have the same problem with couples. A lot of couples profiles either have no pics of the man or if they do, it’s generally his cock only, like his body or anything else doesn’t matter. It gets conversations off on the wrong foot if you’re having to ask for something that should be standard on a couples profile, if they are both looking to meet. Agreed, the first thing I ask D if he even mentions a couple have messaged us. Think it's indicative of the scene in general unfortunately, unless he's a 6' plus Adonis the guys get little attention from ladies or couples here, so understand why many would shy away, just imagine it vice versa ladies #confidencekiller. I like a little eye candy and a handsome face to sit on 😉😈 Luckily I have one, partly the reason we're so sporadic 🤷😘 Agreed, women get much more attention on here. It’s why we have more pics of C now - it used to much more equal but as you say, it becomes a bit disheartening when guys get so little attention. But there should be some pics of Mr, at least to determine an attraction or whether you are at least intrigued. We used to reach out and ask for a pic but now we just move on as it becomes a bit of a back and forth to get a pic and then when you get one, it’s awkward saying there’s no attraction, after so much effort. K " Nail and head!! Yes deliberate choices as we all hope for but many time's it's more a case of stone and blood 😉😜😘 | |||
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"We have the added stumbling block of not sending face pics on here. We are occasionally happy to send via another platform (depending on the vibe) but that doesn't always work out! Can we ask your reasons there, no judgement, we come across it regularly and honestly without attraction we don't take it to another platform 😘 Yes of course. We have had issues in the past after sending so just decided to stop. We attend clubs quite regularly so those we have met know how we look 😉 Appreciate you taking the question as it was intended 👍 What kind of issues out of interest, your trust being abused or their pictures not truthful or forthcoming? As OP asked we struggle with 4 way attraction and have occasionally miscommunicated between ourselves, (more my side 🤦) so clubs don't always work that well for us. Y Xx Trust being abused. We don't make definite meet plans before a club visit as who knows how everyone will feel on the night and then it can become quite awkward 🫣" Oh yeah! Been there before and Christ it's awkward when it's been assumed and on meeting the conversation is more drying than an hour in the Sahara! 😉😂🤷 | |||
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" We haven't looked for single males as couple so don't know how difficult that is." It’s easier. A lot easier. | |||
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"I don't need perfection, as in body size or build. What is perfection anyway, does it exist? Our tastes vary and are so subjective. For me facial attraction is the most important physical aspect, without it it won't work. I am perhaps picky, but at the same time not desperate to have sex with just anyone." This is me (mr) for sure It’s been hard to find d that four way attraction so we’ve decided to take a step back from meets and just be happy to get out the house and hit a club | |||
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