FabSwingers.com forum: What is it about guys and Anal?

By *iny_tight_puss OP Woman
3 weeks ago

wednesbury

So I had a meet earlier today(making best use of term time) and the guy “accidentally” pushed it up my bum. I stopped him, telling him it was the wrong hole. He apologised and put it were it was designed to go. About 5 mins later we changed positions and he did the same thing again, but this time the whole head was in.

I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.

Is this something others have experienced?

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By *hil most chillMan
3 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe

That sounds pretty dodgy. He was either really inexperienced, or more likely not that bothered about consent

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By *r TriomanMan
3 weeks ago

Malmesbury

Sounds like he was obeying the first rule of Fab Club (and society as a whole), which is (all together now...) no, means no!!!!.

I only ever do anything that is consented to.

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By *erICorknowCouple
3 weeks ago

cork

I would think think it’s the fact it can be tighter, that said once you said no once that should be it!

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By *eenALongTime.....Man
3 weeks ago

Bristol/Newcastle

Given the fact your name is tiny tight puss he shouldn't need a tighter hole?!

Despite that, he should ask or be invited or at least listen after the first warning!!

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By *myKnightCouple
3 weeks ago

London

I think it's the taboo, but porn has made guys think that they can just push it in which is why it's only been young men that have tried that on my meets. Actual experienced men know better

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By *hortieWoman
3 weeks ago

Northampton

How can you not stop them before the head goes in???

Even after the try the first time?????

Erm... What???

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By *iny_tight_puss OP Woman
3 weeks ago

wednesbury

"I think it's the taboo, but porn has made guys think that they can just push it in which is why it's only been young men that have tried that on my meets. Actual experienced men know better"

His guy was in his early 20’s

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By *eenALongTime.....Man
3 weeks ago

Bristol/Newcastle

"I think it's the taboo, but porn has made guys think that they can just push it in which is why it's only been young men that have tried that on my meets. Actual experienced men know better

His guy was in his early 20’s"

Definitely been watching too much porn?!

Was it hot otherwise and would/could you trust him again??

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By *iny_tight_puss OP Woman
3 weeks ago

wednesbury

He just sort of pulled out then thrust forward. I do get very well lubricated but even then it stung like hell. It happened that quick

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By *myKnightCouple
3 weeks ago

London

"I think it's the taboo, but porn has made guys think that they can just push it in which is why it's only been young men that have tried that on my meets. Actual experienced men know better

His guy was in his early 20’s"

How did I know!

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By *amster1210Man
3 weeks ago

Haslingden

Sounds a know head

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By *onforming_deviantWoman
3 weeks ago

Hull

It's sexual assault

He's a dickhead and just thinks he can try his luck.

It's incredibly common or at least it was when I was in my twenties

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By *onforming_deviantWoman
3 weeks ago

Hull

"How can you not stop them before the head goes in???

Even after the try the first time?????

Erm... What??? "

Waaaaay to victim blame! Go you!!!

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By *usie pTV/TS
3 weeks ago

taunton

Wtf this guy has it on a plate in front of him and he wants her bum, perverted he needs to date a boy next time.

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By *heeky12399Man
3 weeks ago

Shrewsbury

"So I had a meet earlier today(making best use of term time) and the guy “accidentally” pushed it up my bum. I stopped him, telling him it was the wrong hole. He apologised and put it were it was designed to go. About 5 mins later we changed positions and he did the same thing again, but this time the whole head was in.

I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.

Is this something others have experienced?"

Honestly that messed up a friend of my had a guy do that to her but it kept happening and she actually reported it as sexual assault because it happened on like 3 different meets multiple times.

The appeal is that it's forbidden fruit in the sense it's not an every time thing. It's tighter the reactions and different that when in a pussy. However forbidden fruit or not can't just put it in without consent and even if you do got to warm up to it

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
3 weeks ago

Gloucester

I am sorry you had this experience OP, the second time he had tried that on me I’d have ended the meet. I do not do anal or bum stuff (no not even rimming 🤢) at all with meets off here and if they go near my ass they get one warning then it’s game over.

Hope you’re ok.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
3 weeks ago

Herts

Accidents occasionally happen. Especially when it's wet down there. But I know I'm girthy. So they'd soon tell me. Kind of fucked up to do it without discussion though.

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By *nJayBeeMan
3 weeks ago

Pershore

Firstly, he shouldn't have tried it a second time, he sounds like a bad egg.

But, personally, I think the obsession side does stem from culture. Growing up, for me, it was something that wasn't really considered a sexual act, if that makes sense. It was a taboo topic, almost like a punishment. Then you have people on TV saying things like "you can stick it up your arse!" And then the taboo thoughts grow until it becomes something that you can't stop thinking about.

I don't know how the kids of today think and act, but probably porn has a lot to do with it, but I still think it's something naughty that a boy wants to try and get away with.

Just to clarify, I'm 100% behind consent and do not condone these actions, just my feelings on why people might have such an interest in doing it.

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By *eyeYCouple
3 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

We both love it, but even D asks before he slides it up my bum.. 🤷🙄

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By *ackson692024Man
3 weeks ago

Pontypridd

He sounds like a right knob!

I love anal, but I'll only ever attempt it when my partner asks for it (I'll rim her without asking as she loves it anytime, but fingers, buttplug or cock is always something I wait to be asked for)

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By *oelMan
3 weeks ago

Midlands, London, Brussels

I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.

Is this something others have experienced?"

Getting off on breaking rules, taking risks, not cool

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By *umalotagainMan
3 weeks ago

a town called malice

Consent consent consent and No means No

Ffs guys like this get all the meets and literally screw it up for everyone

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By *peedyGMan
3 weeks ago

Telford

If you haven’t asked or discussed it beforehand then you dont do it, very simple.

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By *uttercupWoman
3 weeks ago

Borders

He was doing it deliberately, and totally out of order. If it wasn't agreed beforehand then it's a no.

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By *hunky GentMan
3 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

By the time I get to meet someone things like that have been spoken about.

If it's not her thing then it's not happening.

Same as if something isn't my thing.

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By *Silver-Man
3 weeks ago

North Wales

Do you say no anal at the start

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By *myKnightCouple
3 weeks ago

London

"Do you say no anal at the start"

Erm, that's not the point..

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

I don't know I am much more of a fan off regular vaginal sex. Nature made the perfect place for pleasure and there is no need to deviate for me

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Don't know it's maybe the taboo of it knowing that it's not.meant to go in that hole no idea really.

Pussy feels much better

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Central

Most reasonable people would be ultra cautious and careful, after making that assumed mistake.

I think porn has influenced people to assume anal is part of regular sex. Even people who are open to it would want preparation and consent

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By *hunky GentMan
3 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

If in doubt, ask.

Even in the heat of the moment

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By *amieLDN22Man
3 weeks ago

London

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By *orks and Scots girlCouple
3 weeks ago

leeds

Accidentally..!! I would have punched his cock off if that happened to me, I like anal fun but have to be in the mood and then only when ‘ warmed up’ there’s no fucking way it’s accidentally going in as mistake from my pussy.. that guy new what he was doing.. I’ve never heard of it accidentally happening

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By *amieLDN22Man
3 weeks ago

London

By second attempt this meet should have been over.

I blame Brando and Last Tango in Paris. 80s and 90s porn is where i first seen a lot of fixation on this act.

I've seen people sticking their fingers in without consent. Taking the cock out of pussy and shoving in ass without asking. Consent should go both ways.

Anal is not high on my agenda. I love licking and going deep on a wet pussy. But I do like DP and DVP so I'm rather flexible. But no way I'd stick it in without asking or at least discussing what's on the menu before the meet.

I would have sent this man home back to his mum and tell him to think about what he did. Leave an update on fabs with his username to warn others perhaps. Clearly he's only concerned with his satisfaction only.

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By *lanenakedMan
3 weeks ago

eaglesham

What a weirdo .. id never do something like that .. how do guys like that get meets ???? ..

Guys who want to do anal are gay/bisexual tbh in my book.

Never catch me doing that.

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By *pgroupsexMan
3 weeks ago

Kingston

As someone that's fond of a bit of anal (particularly in conjunction with an MFM DP) I simply can't envisage a scenario where someone just "pops it in" by mistake.

Certainly, in my experience, Anal requires proper preparation (for it to be truly pleasurable), so just trying to do it without any consideration and to someone that wasn't in anyway 'ready', would be an absolute no no.

Just to pick up on the previous comment here, I'm also not gay or bi-sexual.

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
3 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

That is where someone that guy was trying to anally r*pe you because that’s what it is when there no consent given & there are consequences for this behaviour no one has to put up with this I’m sorry this happened to you op some guys have just got to push there luck

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
3 weeks ago

West Suffolk

"Wtf this guy has it on a plate in front of him and he wants her bum, perverted he needs to date a boy next time."

Wanting anal with a female doesn’t make him perverted

Mrs

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By *allipygousMan
3 weeks ago

Leicester

I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.

Is this something others have experienced?

Honestly that messed up a friend of my had a guy do that to her but it kept happening and she actually reported it as sexual assault because it happened on like 3 different meets multiple times.

Surely she never gave the same man 3 separate opportunities?

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By *ernowKinkMan
3 weeks ago

Redruth

Shouldn’t of been attempted at all without consent!

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By *ickD80Man
2 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.

Is this something others have experienced?"

You have ‘Anal’ in your list of interests….

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By *_Doe2024Man
2 weeks ago

Middle of nowhere, the centre of everywhere

I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.

Is this something others have experienced?

You have ‘Anal’ in your list of interests…."

And?... What's your point??

The issue here is consent.

You've anal on your list of interests, I guess you're open to anyone slamming your back door in without consent or warning right??

If nothing, you've just highlighted a reason why you should be avoided. Bravo! 👌🏻👏🏻

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By *intyballsMan
2 weeks ago

Meath

My biggest fantasy ever to give anal but only if the lady would be up for it.

Always communicate with the lady never just stick it in.

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By *haiababeWoman
2 weeks ago

North devon

As anal is something i have only started doing more recently (it never appealed to my ex at all) i am very particular over who i let fuck my arse. And say so when guys ask, either in messages or during sex. I personally need a level of trust to let a guy upthere. One guy did start to tease my arse with the tip of his cock on our 1st meet and i said not this time and he was fine with it and carried on fucking my pussy instead. I would say he was asking with his cock not his mouth.

I would say the same thing as op if ut had happened more than once.

But i did remove anal from my list of intrests to stop the attitude some people have shown where if its listed it must be okay to just do without asking.

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By *aughtyenglishboyMan
2 weeks ago

Poole

"the guy “accidentally” "

This is not right and I would seek support as it has clearly impacted you. Consent is always needed.

"Is this something others have experienced?"

Sadly yes. I had a close female playmate who loved anal, as do I, but we never had anal.

We planned to have anal on our next meet but first some idiot did exactly the same thing to her before our next meet, actually forcing it in, hurting her which seriously then put her off anal.

So whilst we continued having sex, we never ever did anal. We are still friends now but just not sexually, so long term impact from one twat on her past enjoyment of anal, due to a bad meet.

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By *aughtyenglishboyMan
2 weeks ago

Poole

The issue here is consent.

You've anal on your list of interests, I guess you're open to anyone slamming your back door in without consent or warning right??

Exactly consent. The law is consent means consenting to the acts first, you cannot just slam your cock in someone's mouth or bum and assume consent because they have done that or are interested in trying that. Consent means getting consent.

If nothing, you've just highlighted a reason why you should be avoided. Bravo! 👌🏻👏🏻"

I think you have just done that for yourself, as you clearly don’t understand what consent is.

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By *rPunxMan
2 weeks ago

Hull

As most of the posters have already said. Young kid trying it on, dick move, non consensual, sexual assault, no respect for your boundaries, and totally there for his own selfish enjoyment. You would have to be very careless for it to happen 'accidentally ' and even then you would (as a guy) know the difference. To do it a second time is just showing a total lack of respect for you. It wouldn't surprise me if he's tried this with other people too

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By *hesubtlegentMan
2 weeks ago

surrey

I love anal but I always talk it over before a meet as some women have different ideas about it. They may be curious to try some play first etc but I’d only go as far as they are comfortable with. I had a meet where we were playing, she wanted me to fuck her arse, was well lubed but partly in she said it was stinging so I withdrew and we just continued playing without anal fun and enjoyed the rest of the session.

There has to be clear boundaries and consent. If I haven't discussed any anal before a meet, I’m not going to try to fuck her arse, I might ask if she’d like to try some anal play and go from there. If is a no then that’s it, I wood or pursue or try to persuade. If a guy carries on or ‘accidentally’ puts it in the wrong hole then that is sexual assault. Men like that need to be called out and be warned about.

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By *hesubtlegentMan
2 weeks ago

surrey

*would not. We should be able to edit on here 🙈

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
2 weeks ago

Norwich

I had it once. I stopped it right there and never saw him again. They know what they're doing. Especially a second time. Its not okay but some men dont know the meaning of no sadly.

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By *ndymac888Man
2 weeks ago

Dumbarton

Was the meet ok other than those instances ?

It’s can be easy to get exited on a meet and well slippery when wet.

If his character seemed good outside of those instances and otherwise seemed like he was actively trying to play his part in a positive encounter then it deffo could have just been an accident.

I would judge the experience as a whole including interactions outside the bedroom. If you have doubts then don’t see him again.

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
2 weeks ago

Gloucester

I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.

Is this something others have experienced?

You have ‘Anal’ in your list of interests…."

So do you so are you happy for someone to shove a dildo up there with no warning or warm up?

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By *sLillyMrWolfeCouple
2 weeks ago

near you...

Tbf this has happened to me more with straight men than bi men who at least ask well ahead and are more understanding if we say no x

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By *atador...Man
2 weeks ago

Aylesbury

I do love girls that love anal, butt I'd ask first and respect their wishes, showing his immaturity there

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
2 weeks ago

scunthorpe

I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.

Is this something others have experienced?

You have ‘Anal’ in your list of interests…."

Wow…really??!!

So because it’s in the ladies list of interests that means a man can try to shove his cock up her arse without consent?!

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By *samyhotwifeWoman
2 weeks ago

Dublin

I love anal so I like guys slipping it in but he definitely should have asked you

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By *hunky GentMan
2 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

Question - does anyone accept a little rub of the anus as a way if asking permission?

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By *asepaul71Man
2 weeks ago

Buxton

Probably the wrong thing to say but if they pester offer to use a strap on and say "you first". Show them how painful it can be if not done right and without consent

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By *lowhands7Man
2 weeks ago

South Leicestershire and Staffordshire

I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.

Is this something others have experienced?"

100% poor form and totally disrespectful.

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By *rookedsmileMan
2 weeks ago

Derbyshire

Idiot plain and simple. No manners or respect.

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By *hank you sirMan
2 weeks ago

colchester

So that doesn't sound like an accident to me.

I love anal but I wouldbt just try to shove it in, it takes time, patience, and lots of attention

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By *emptme1993Man
2 weeks ago

manchester

I don’t think I’ve ever got the 2 mistaken tbh

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By *ommo83Man
2 weeks ago

Salford

I can take it or leave anal. I love to lick and rim a girl I'd they like it and do anal if they ask tho obviously 🤪

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Haywards Heath

I think the worse is, they expect anal.

Giving anal is a whole lot different and it can take a much bigger cock, with patience.

Better to stretch that hole a bit and give it up, because anal is the way to a mans and woman's heart!

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By *apt peteMan
2 weeks ago

Peterborough

Seems very inexperienced, nevertheless it's easy to disguise between bot holes.

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By *emma200Woman
2 weeks ago

Warwickshire

ugh.. i hate this!

I think regardless if you set the boundaries before this should not happen.

Some men think they are entitled, however I've been lucky enough to not have this issue.

hope you are okay OP x

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By *layfullsamMan
2 weeks ago

Solihull

I told him if it happened again the meet was over. And strangely it didn’t happen again.

Is this something others have experienced?"

Did you accidentally punch him on the nose in return

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By *alo10Man
2 weeks ago

oxford

A victim of overdosed porn nowadays.

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By *ike_looking_forMan
2 weeks ago

Cumbria

totally wrong and not OK - boundaries are there for a reason.

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By *xfordNoirMan
2 weeks ago

South Oxon

I've enjoyed anal from time to time. Personally I prefer a nice wet pussy. Normally the woman guides me to her ass. I would never assume.

Sounds like he needs to learn

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
2 weeks ago

scunthorpe

"I think the worse is, they expect anal.

Giving anal is a whole lot different and it can take a much bigger cock, with patience.

Better to stretch that hole a bit and give it up, because anal is the way to a mans and woman's heart!

Crikey, thank goodness I don’t feel the need to ‘give it up’ for any man!

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By *reeny777Man
2 weeks ago

chatham

i once fabbed with a woman on here who liked it but it required preparation and a decent amount of lube. she would orgasm within about 30 seconds of me sliding myself in. the feeling of the muscles tightening and pulsing around my penis was great, very different to a vagina

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By *vonne5exMan
2 weeks ago

Doncaster

You can tell during foreplay if there is a chance of anal or not, I'd go with him being a that for going for penetrative inter course without any prep work.

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By *haron StonerTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Haywards Heath

I recommend a butt plug to keep it off limits.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
2 weeks ago

Telford

Yes it's happened to me on a couple of occasions, it was incredibly painful you cannot just go in there out of the blue.

I stopped immediately it's just out of order.

Once could possibly be an accident if your feeling generous twice is no accident.

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By *ittleLiaisonsWoman
2 weeks ago

Birmingham

I've abruptly ended a meet because of this. If you discuss boundaries before hand and they try to test them in the slightest, just cut it dead. People know what they are doing and adults are responsible for their actions.

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By *aughtyenglishboyMan
2 weeks ago

Poole

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By *tanlee1512Man
2 weeks ago

Epsom

He should've backed off after the first warning

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