FabSwingers.com forum: Rejection

By *lasterbates OP Couple
2 weeks ago

Cleckhudderswyke

My wife tends to be a bit more picky than myself so any meet up has to be well planned in advance. The likely male has to be very acceptable and so far we've had no problems.

But has anyone been in a situation where either you or the other couple have decided that even after phone / video calls that it ain't going to work and a shag ain't going to happen ? How did you feel?

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By *alfback09Man
2 weeks ago

Peterboro

Yes happened to us on a social , pics swapped etc all good met in a bar but Mrs just didn’t get that vibe had to kindly say we are sorry but no thanks he got proper angry! Calling us all sorts!

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By *antsGerfMan
2 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Had a couple of socials where things didn't fully click so didn't take it further.

Not everyone is for everyone just be honest that they are not gir you, better than going further just cos you feel guilty.... You will only regret/hate yourself for it.

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By *neeyedwillieMan
2 weeks ago

Darlington

Had it happen a few times over the years where it's wasn't happening for various reasons.

Depends on the situation though.

When I meet with my wife on our couples account, my wife is only intrested in women so we keep that to the clubs and its fine. We dont go there with expectations and we have plenty of freinds there anyway.

We gave up using fab for meets as a couple as it wasn't working in our area but the clubs are great.

If im playing solo..well at the club again..I dont go with expectations.

As long as its all done politely, just take it as it is.

I dont acctually get meets through fab on my own. I can take the usual obvious no thank you which is zero response but you get the odd rude reply or accused of cheating and thats the only thing that annoys me.

I just think about the people who do enjoy my company and remember, there will always be others who enjoy my company at the club so i stop.worrying about it.

Would be nice to meet outside of clubs though...but it is what it is.

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By *omRachCouple
2 weeks ago

Wirral

All of our social meets are purely that, we NEVER play at a 1st meet - and never is it promised - so that we can go home and chat and decide if we want to see that guy again.

It also gives the guy time to choose if we are for him or not also.

This helps avoid nasty and potentially embarrassing situations where somebody doesn't take a rejection badly.

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By *inky PerkyCouple
2 weeks ago

Kingston

The whole point of a social is surely to get a better sense of the person you've been chatting to.

In real life, people can be very different from their online persona - sometimes in good ways and sometimes in not so good ways. We had a guy who was super-charming at the texting stage and then revealed himself to be less than charming when he absolutely lost his shit after we tried to reschedule the first meet. Bullet dodged.

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By *evonrobMan
2 weeks ago

Kingsbridge

Some great advice on here. Make the use of the social so much more important too!

Although why anyone would get upset at being politely rejected is beyond me. It’s such a privilege to even be asked to meet people isn’t it?

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Chichester

I just tell people if not vibing. I don’t need to go into detail with them other than it’s not feeling right for me at all social.

Tell them as an adult I expect them to have the ability to grasp this and it’s just how life is. Sometimes people have gotten abit mouthy at time over it but reminding them to give their head a wobble before they embarrass themselves in public usually does it

It’s mostly the abusive message later where these sorts gobboff. Most people are pretty decent with it at time though I find

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By *herrybakewellCouple
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Rejection is part of the journey....over time you become hardened to it a little.

Now were a little more experienced we push for a social meet as soon as you can, its best to meet early and realise its a no than spent weeks chatting and someone to not be as expected.

On messages and calls. People always tell you what you want to hear to get what they want, but its not so easy in person.

Good luck to you both.

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By *ustus5555Woman
2 weeks ago

Mansfield

Have been on both sides of the fence. At the end of the day we are all supposed to be adults so should be able to take the odd knock back. I've been lucky and not had any bad experiences either here or on the cpls account but have heard a few horror stories over the years. X

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By *ocketman20Man
2 weeks ago

Douglas

Ive met a couple twice for a social. The female is stunning, but I just don’t think the sexual chemistry is there. Just the way it goes, I don’t believe there are any hard feelings on either side.

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By *tlanshiaWoman
2 weeks ago

Chatham

Rejection is part and parcel of anything in life.

I always do a social first which is in public and I always ensure they know I'm busy afterwards.

People get angry for weird reasons here

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By *icecouple561Couple
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2 weeks ago

East Sussex

"All of our social meets are purely that, we NEVER play at a 1st meet - and never is it promised - so that we can go home and chat and decide if we want to see that guy again.

It also gives the guy time to choose if we are for him or not also.

This helps avoid nasty and potentially embarrassing situations where somebody doesn't take a rejection badly."

This is what we do too.

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