FabSwingers.com forum: Why are men messaging me?

By *atador... OP Man
3 weeks ago

Aylesbury

This never used to happen before does anyone have the same issue? It clearly states on my profile what I prefer

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By *hickthighs25Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

I dont think the "fab straight" men help your cause tbh

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By *emptme1993Man
3 weeks ago

manchester

You can’t expect all guys to be able to read and wank at the same time can you

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By *hickthighs25Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

"You can’t expect all guys to be able to read and wank at the same time can you"

I can i always strum and scroll

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By *ornucopiaMan
3 weeks ago

Bexley

"This never used to happen before does anyone have the same issue? It clearly states on my profile what I prefer

Do you get propositioned by smokers as well?

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By *aomilatteCouple
3 weeks ago

Midlands

You can set your filters so Men can't message you, problem solved.

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
3 weeks ago

Perpignan and cap

This happens a lot!

Remember they're not always after fucking you or being fucked by you. They might be testing the messaging service to see if it still works, just looking for a chat with someone with similar interests, or perhaps just looking for a friend. Lot's of dudes reach out to me and if they're gay and I'm not interested I'll tell them so.

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By *ad Bod AdonisMan
3 weeks ago

Birmingham

I get them as well. I'm not sure whether they think I'll say "Oh, go on then. Seeing as you asked so nicely, I'll suck your cock."

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By *arrenhertsmanMan
3 weeks ago

Hatfield

"You can’t expect all guys to be able to read and wank at the same time can you

I can i always strum and scroll "

When you need a hand with the strumming.. I know someone who can help …

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By *heVikingJarlMan
3 weeks ago

behind you

I just thought it was part of the course, had loads proposition me. Offered to convert me,offered to do it while I'm blindfold or do through a glory hole.

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By *otrod73Man
3 weeks ago

holbeach

It's a low IQ thing. low IQ gay guys can't accept that some men are actually straight.

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By *attooboy100Man
3 weeks ago

Sedgley

I've had it since day 1 mate. I just mentally filter it out. I guess it's the same with straight guys messaging when they haven't understood someone's preferences though.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Bristol

I get so many 'straight' guys message me.

I ask them to explain and weirdly it's always "women won't talk to me if I'm bi"

Yeah right...

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By *iss_Juicy79Woman
3 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Change your message filters then they won't be able to message you

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By *umagain58Man
3 weeks ago

London

Does it matter? Think of it as an opportunity to consider, You don’t have to meet them if not your thing

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By *rith47Man
3 weeks ago

Erith

99% of men who message me have 'straight' on their profile. It is impossible to know who likes what

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By *aphunterMan
3 weeks ago

woking

"This never used to happen before does anyone have the same issue? It clearly states on my profile what I prefer

I’ve blocked men, one good thing about being a guy on here 🤣🤣🙄😘

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By *eff lynnexxxMan
3 weeks ago

telford

As a bi male, swingers has 80% straight men messaging me.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
3 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Easily fixed.

"Messages.

Menu.

Message filters.

Males (can mail you) Block them."

Job's done 💜

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"This never used to happen before does anyone have the same issue? It clearly states on my profile what I prefer

I get men messaging me all the time as well, offering to suck me off etc. It clearly states on my profile that I'm straight but clearly they take no notice of that.

It is possible to filter them out which I do time to time but I occasionally enjoy chatting with guys and if I've got the filter on then I can't.

I imagine this is what it's like for all the women on here, getting unwanted messages from guys

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By *iker64worceMan
3 weeks ago

redditch

It says Bi on my profile but there are plenty of "Straight Lads" who like to dabble you either end up chattin or don't.

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By *ampshire lad XXXMan
3 weeks ago

Petersfield

Yeah …. It’s painful lol

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By *artyboy83Man
3 weeks ago

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Because TT encourages it I’m sure…… haha

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By *ampireLoveMan
3 weeks ago

Essex

To be fair, I don’t care who messages me as long as they have something interesting to say. I chat to anyone. Doesn’t mean they fancy me. Although how rude of they don’t and message me 😂😂

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By *hickthighs25Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

"Because TT encourages it I’m sure…… haha "

😱😱😱😱

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By *hickthighs25Woman
3 weeks ago

Stockton

"To be fair, I don’t care who messages me as long as they have something interesting to say. I chat to anyone. Doesn’t mean they fancy me. Although how rude of they don’t and message me 😂😂"

I absolutely refuse to believe they dont fancy you. If anyone messages me who doesnt fancy me then off the plank they bloody go! Cheeky buggars! 🤣

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By *issolvedOrdersMan
3 weeks ago

Bristol

I absolutely refuse to believe they dont fancy you. If anyone messages me who doesnt fancy me then off the plank they bloody go! Cheeky buggars! 🤣"

Oh I’m so tempted to message him now 😎

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By *teinsGateDuoCouple
3 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

Go to My Account - Message Filters and block them there.

No need to reason why, just block.

https://www.fabswingers.com/my/filters

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By *atador... OP Man
3 weeks ago

Aylesbury

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
3 weeks ago

Stourbridge

Is it a quiz?

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By *atador... OP Man
3 weeks ago

Aylesbury

"Interesting replies everyone, some guys saying yeah it's annoying, girls seem to go straight for the solution of blocking/ghost without actually considering the cause lol, some actually look at my profile and state I'm looking for a mum scenario hints I must be into men, the limited text on profile opens me up to speculation, I will accept that, I don't block anyone because everyone has their right to message whoever they like

That's mfm btw damn predictive text

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By *aomilatteCouple
3 weeks ago

Midlands

"everyone has their right to message whoever they like"

That's incorrect, not everyone can message everyone. Many are blocked from doing so because they're the wrong sex or age, as many profiles use message filters.

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By *atador... OP Man
3 weeks ago

Aylesbury

"everyone has their right to message whoever they like

That's incorrect, not everyone can message everyone. Many are blocked from doing so because they're the wrong sex or age, as many profiles use message filters."

Yes and that is your choice, fully accepted

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By *asepaul71Man
3 weeks ago

Buxton

"This never used to happen before does anyone have the same issue? It clearly states on my profile what I prefer

You shouldn't be so god dam sexy lol, if it says on a guys profile blurb "not looking for men" then I won't message but other than that nothing ventured nothing gained

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By *anyaTgirlTV/TS
3 weeks ago

manchester

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By *de81Man
3 weeks ago

Hitchin

I get that too, it's not particularly offensive most of the time. I just tell them I'm straight and it's not my thing, but happy to chat. I wouldn't say I pity them, rather am empathetic and a human being so I'm always polite and respectful.

It's hard for some to approach people regardless of orientation, so am always mindful of not wanting to crush someone or spoil their experience on here!

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By *issmorganWoman
3 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

People don't read profiles lol

I get couples and ladies message me, I'm not looking for either.

I've blocked couples, so many are after that ffm and don't read that I'm straight & do and think they'd be different.

Use your filters, it makes life more peaceful on here.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Central

Lots of people don't read profiles

or ignore what doesn't suit their agenda.

Use your filters to block men

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By *atador... OP Man
3 weeks ago

Aylesbury

"People don't read profiles lol

I get couples and ladies message me, I'm not looking for either.

I've blocked couples, so many are after that ffm and don't read that I'm straight & do and think they'd be different.

Use your filters, it makes life more peaceful on here. "

Ppl don't read profiles, thats just lazy

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By *hunky GentMan
3 weeks ago

Nottingham and Stamford

My profile says I'm "straight, straight not Fab straight" and I still get messages from guys.

It's not a big issue, I just say 'no thanks'.

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By *atador... OP Man
3 weeks ago

Aylesbury

I'm not bothered I just wonder why it happens and why did I never get this much guy attention before when I last was on fab! Lol it makes no sense, I've had the odd varied gent invite me over to hotels to gangbang his wife so don't really want to block anyone, never know when you might miss out

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By *emonochromeMan
3 weeks ago

Watford

I travel a lot and don’t sleep well 😴 if I log on late I am guaranteed to get an offer from a man to suck me off 9/10

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By *atador... OP Man
3 weeks ago

Aylesbury

"I travel a lot and don’t sleep well 😴 if I log on late I am guaranteed to get an offer from a man to suck me off 9/10

Well at least you have that option lol

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By *eroLondonMan
3 weeks ago

Mayfair

I'm quite bemused by how many men on here are contacted by other men. All my filters are open and have been for the last four years, or thereabouts. In all that time I've had perhaps just half a dozen men message me.

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By *ornucopiaMan
3 weeks ago

Bexley

"I'm not bothered I just wonder why it happens and why did I never get this much guy attention before when I last was on fab! Lol it makes no sense, I've had the odd varied gent invite me over to hotels to gangbang his wife so don't really want to block anyone, never know when you might miss out

What makes you think that the bloke's wife will come with him to the hotel, or even exist.

At best, she is normally still waiting for her visa to leave Thailand!

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By *icki222TV/TS
3 weeks ago

Lincoln

My “straight” messages have hit an all time high atm

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By *atador... OP Man
3 weeks ago

Aylesbury

What makes you think that the bloke's wife will come with him to the hotel, or even exist.

At best, she is normally still waiting for her visa to leave Thailand!"

That is true, however he did have a very respectable veri list so even though it probably isn't his wife I didn't have a big reason to doubt him

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By *hite-THUNDERMan
3 weeks ago

Stockton

i get messages every day from men. Offering blowjobs, gloryhole, want fucking etc.

If i was bi, id be doing really well on here lol.. but im not

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By *ewtfaceMan
3 weeks ago

Bracknell

I get it a lot too. It used to p!ss me off, but now, I don't mind so much. Sometimes I'll have a chat if we have common interest; other times, I'll ignore them. I block them if they get to gross or pushy.

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By *h3rry Bomb80Man
3 weeks ago

from mars

I don’t get messages …. Turned my filters on

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By *oelDorianMan
3 weeks ago

vanaheim

"This never used to happen before does anyone have the same issue? It clearly states on my profile what I prefer

You can block those that aren’t in what you are looking for to message you

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