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By *um n raisin OP   Woman
6 weeks ago

taunton

so you get a nice message from a guy great pics and you decide to chat and within 2 or 3 messages the whole thing goes sexual ie like a porn script ... how do you feel ladies / couples does this kill it for you or it works for you...

ive found so many doing thisto me it kills the vibe and im no prude yes there sexual talk as in what you like but to give a script of what your going to do is a massive turnoff for me ...so wondering how it is for you ???

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
6 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

It instantly kills it for me

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By *omandsub72Couple
6 weeks ago

Barnsley

This completely kills it for my Mrs. I get we met on a sex site but she likes to get to know someone and feel comfortable with them and this just puts her off. They just want dirty talk to get themselves off.

S

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I just stop chatting, if they start going down that route.I then write a private note on their profile, so I know to avoid them.

Bores me to death, had one man message me, I replied and all he takes about for 3 messages were my boobs.

I tried to steer the conversation away and then blocked him.

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By *ineapplePixie69!Couple
6 weeks ago

Neverland/Wales

Not a fan myself, I like some naughty talk of course but I like to just chat for a while and build up to that if the connection is there.

Pineapple 🍍 x

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By *parkle1974Woman
6 weeks ago

Leeds

I had a guy earlier message me with a long story of what he wanted to do to me..couldn't be arsed reading after the first sentence.

I dont know why guys do this as it's definitely not a turn on....

Would be nice if they took the time to actually find out if the recipient was into half the things they come out with!

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
6 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

And why does a random lurker need to message me telling me how he chats to women before he gets to the horny bit what do you expect me to say good for you

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
6 weeks ago

Gloucester

Kills the vibe for me. Unfortunately sexting does nothing for me unless I’ve met and have a connection with someone.

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By *ickylouCouple
6 weeks ago

Birmingham


"I just stop chatting, if they start going down that route.I then write a private note on their profile, so I know to avoid them.

Bores me to death, had one man message me, I replied and all he takes about for 3 messages were my boobs.

I tried to steer the conversation away and then blocked him. "

Thank you. Don’t know that feature was on here until you said

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By *attooboy100Man
6 weeks ago

Sedgley

I find it all a bit cringe tbh don't mind a flirt but I always feel like people's imagination is always better than real life.

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By *issmorganWoman
6 weeks ago

Calderdale innit


"I just stop chatting, if they start going down that route.I then write a private note on their profile, so I know to avoid them.

Bores me to death, had one man message me, I replied and all he takes about for 3 messages were my boobs.

I tried to steer the conversation away and then blocked him.

Thank you. Don’t know that feature was on here until you said "

You're welcome

They're great little things and I love finding one I've written in the past.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
6 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

If they do that it absolutely murders the vibe and I will politely tell them that the conversation will probably end there.

At which point I was too fat for them anyway apparently.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
6 weeks ago

Central

It depends but 🚩🚩🚩start appearing, as this may be a guy who's just looking for a wank. I become more cautious and less likely to respond in the heat of the moment

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
6 weeks ago

Gloucester


"If they do that it absolutely murders the vibe and I will politely tell them that the conversation will probably end there.

At which point I was too fat for them anyway apparently."

Oh I get this too! Some guys really can’t handle the fact we are ok to say no to them and have to try and make us feel bad about ourselves. It makes me laugh

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
6 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

You're lucky. On the couples profile it's usually the opening message we get.

Biggest disappointment is when things are going nicely, chat is entertaining and non sexual, and then when you've decided 'yep, we'd like to meet for a drink'.....they drop into conversation they're married and playing away.

Here endeth the convo. 🤦‍♂️🤷‍♂️😬

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
6 weeks ago

Gloucester


"You're lucky. On the couples profile it's usually the opening message we get.

Biggest disappointment is when things are going nicely, chat is entertaining and non sexual, and then when you've decided 'yep, we'd like to meet for a drink'.....they drop into conversation they're married and playing away.

Here endeth the convo. 🤦‍♂️🤷‍♂️😬"

Oh know this feeling so well on our couples profile.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
6 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge


"If they do that it absolutely murders the vibe and I will politely tell them that the conversation will probably end there.

At which point I was too fat for them anyway apparently.

Oh I get this too! Some guys really can’t handle the fact we are ok to say no to them and have to try and make us feel bad about ourselves. It makes me laugh "

It is amusing. I go from SSBBW goddess to unfuckable cow in the space of 2 massages 😂

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By *4bimMan
6 weeks ago

Farnborough Hampshire

im surprised guys havnt learn by now that sending a long winded message to a women about this and that will get you nowhere.

shes only interested in talking about herself.

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By *parkle1974Woman
6 weeks ago

Leeds


"im surprised guys havnt learn by now that sending a long winded message to a women about this and that will get you nowhere.

shes only interested in talking about herself."

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By *hortieWoman
6 weeks ago

Northampton

I delete and move on.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
6 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge


"You're lucky. On the couples profile it's usually the opening message we get.

Biggest disappointment is when things are going nicely, chat is entertaining and non sexual, and then when you've decided 'yep, we'd like to meet for a drink'.....they drop into conversation they're married and playing away.

Here endeth the convo. 🤦‍♂️🤷‍♂️😬"

We had a guy come to our house for a meet who had a "little confession" that he was actually married but would we mind overlooking it since he drove for 30 minutes.

He nearly got thrown out of a window

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By *um n raisin OP   Woman
6 weeks ago

taunton

just been told its my fault for being on here wanting sex ??? how some think is dreadful

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By *tlanshiaWoman
6 weeks ago

Chatham

It's when I start ignoring them, because I can't be asked to attempt to educate them.

Or explain why it does nothing for me.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
6 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Couples dont tend to be desperate for sex so have a nice approach to messaging.

Some are desperate hence how conversation goes.

Thats my logic anyway.

Its a real turn off.

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By *uzzieboyMan
6 weeks ago

taunton

Well I’ve always sent a very polite message and honestly nothing sexual until it’s mentioned for the other person just respect I think 🤔

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By *olvesxcoupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Total turn off

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By *for77Man
6 weeks ago

Adlington


"so you get a nice message from a guy great pics and you decide to chat and within 2 or 3 messages the whole thing goes sexual ie like a porn script ... how do you feel ladies / couples does this kill it for you or it works for you...

ive found so many doing thisto me it kills the vibe and im no prude yes there sexual talk as in what you like but to give a script of what your going to do is a massive turnoff for me ...so wondering how it is for you ???"

I’ve been on here for a hair few years now so can give a fair assessment on messages. I’m on here as a single bloke, at the minute (yes. The wife approves), but have had a couples profile too. I would never dream of sending anything perverted or sexy through messages. I/we have had our fair share. In person is a different story, if you get that far. Even as a single guy, despite saying I’m not interested in single guys, I get some very graphic messages. Instant block!!!

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By *ickD80Man
6 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I can sympathise with this as every message i get from men will either be sexual from the start or turn sexual within 3 messages….similarly any message i get from a couples profile will always be from the male partner who’s either home alone or his partner is asleep upstairs and will either be sexual from the start or turn sexual within 3 messages.

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By *irty workmanMan
6 weeks ago

lincolnshire

Love chat banter and laugh

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By *ust want fun 888Man
6 weeks ago

nearby

Most of the time, I just would love to chat, but then finding out what to chat about is part of the fun

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By *ust and PoundCouple
6 weeks ago

Cheshire

"Meet now?"

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By *J66Woman
6 weeks ago

London

It’s the first message opener that gets me “you like a big cock inside you” with 6 pics of his cock attached. When I asked “does that line ever work for you” I get told to “get off my high horse…” I wouldn’t mind but it was a skanky specimen. I’m just going to stick to rolling my eyes, blocking and moving on.

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

I'm always polite and respectful and never send dick pics unless I'm asked to. I always send a Face pic with my first message though

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