FabSwingers.com forum: winkers...

By *adybee77 OP Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

and no its not a typo... when you wink what do you mean?

Are you trying to initiate conversation, or just let someone know you're interested?

I tend to bulk delete my winks, as I find a wink and no chat lazy... should i pay more attention to them?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

a show of interest for me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never winked anyone, never will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have said in my profile I delete winks and I get some every day I don't even look at who's winked I just delete as op has said winks and no chat is just lazy xx

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

I bulk delete em too. Have too many messages to spend time responding to them all, let alone having time to respond to winks too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a wink is like a flirt in some other sites an i do send them now an again

just to show an interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always look at winks....have even met when it started as I wink. I don't think anyone winking is being lazy...just see it as an initial "I'm interested, are you?".

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By *tashMan
over a year ago

near you

I wink just to show i am interested its not lazy you only get so many messages

and as a single guy if you messaged every one your interested in well you do the maths the wink is to let you know there is an interest have a look if you dont like then dont wink back

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We very rarely wink and when we do, it is usually in return to one we have received.

But we don't always check them so do prefer a message.

See winks as a way of testing the waters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we see it like this, if someone winks us, we'll have a look at their profile, if we like what we see we can then wink back or send a message, either way its an ice breaker and gets the ball rolling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only sent a few as a show of interest, but if i get a wink and i'm interested i wink back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont get this winks are lazy. they are what they are. a nod to someone to say they like the look of them or their profile. Whats the point in writing some long introductory message to someone who is going to take one look at you and delete your message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WELL ! winking is just to show your interested ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wink at us in a pub get ignored - talk to us in a pub get a response.

we deem the same on here - but sadly we cant turn them off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't mind them, shows an interest we think, still prefer a message though

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I will admit, I never look at who has winked, I don't even bother to delete, sometimes I get a pleasant surprise a few months down the line when I come across someone's profile and see the 'they winked at you.....'

I've too many messages at times, so sit and wonder what the wink meant! So it is a feature I don't use on here

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By *adybee77 OP Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I'm not being big headed, but single bi fems get lots of messages a day - and maybe I am odd, but I do reply to everyone (unless they have been rude or disrespectful), even if its a no thanks, but I don't see the point for winks as well.

But I guess if some people are using them that way, then I need to edit my profile AGAIN lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Occassionaly do to express interest

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By *ipper DeVineTV/TS
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"and no its not a typo... when you wink what do you mean?

And why do people miles and miles away wink you? What are they expecting back? And if you go and kook at there profile...... There's no photo and a description that says looking for fun!!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

i get winked at by blokes and im straight

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By *CupWoman
over a year ago

Rochdale

I really don't mind winks, like someone said if i get a wink, i'll have a look at their profile and if i like i wink back. Sometimes wink guys too when i'm browsing. I don't consider it lazy, just have an appreciation for how hard guys work on here sending messages and how many times they actually get a reply back.

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By *ipper DeVineTV/TS
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I'v also noticed, if you were to wink back at them? They dont tend to trouble you any further,

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"We always look at winks....have even met when it started as I wink. I don't think anyone winking is being lazy...just see it as an initial "I'm interested, are you?". "

Exactly! I wink to show my interest as well x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to wink

It just means I love to wink

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't think I've winked at anyone for ages! If I did it would be a sort of 'I like your profile' sort of shorthand message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A show of interest from me as well as a way of initiating conversation especially if a profile is not really saying much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We always look at winks....have even met when it started as I wink. I don't think anyone winking is being lazy...just see it as an initial "I'm interested, are you?".

Exactly! I wink to show my interest as well x"

Same here...no issue with them. Have met a few guys where initial contact was a wink either sent or received. It's an easy way of showing an interest and if the interest is returned then it breaks the ice a bit to me in a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and no its not a typo... when you wink what do you mean?

Are you trying to initiate conversation, or just let someone know you're interested?

I tend to bulk delete my winks, as I find a wink and no chat lazy... should i pay more attention to them?

I ( Pip ) think it means " Here I am. What do you think? If you ignore me then your not impressed. If you contact me maybe Im in with a small chance....Which s generally the way. We reply to winks with a thank you message if think the sender is what we're looking for, or ignore if theyre not. No harm in a wink lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We always look at winks....have even met when it started as I wink. I don't think anyone winking is being lazy...just see it as an initial "I'm interested, are you?". "

yep too many on here take swinging too seriously and think winks are below them though,wonder if same folk ignore other people in the street who just say "hello" or "hi"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't mind winks, and if they take our fancy we will wink back and then hope they send a mail.

If we wink them and they return we will send a lovely introductory email.

We also wink people further a field as us, as we love nothing more than meeting new people and trying new clubs so we do travel some distances, on many a occasion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I like the profile I wink back but I won't send a message.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"We always look at winks....have even met when it started as I wink. I don't think anyone winking is being lazy...just see it as an initial "I'm interested, are you?".

yep too many on here take swinging too seriously and think winks are below them though,wonder if same folk ignore other people in the street who just say "hello" or "hi"?"

Ok, now the majority of my messages are of the 'Hi' variety, if you can give me a decent reply to them, then I'll consider it!

Until then, I wont, harsh it may seem, but I already have a job thanks, but I will always read the profile and again, if it's a one liner, then I will continue to ignore!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is it really so hard just to reply and ask what they have in mind??who knows what a bit of courtesy could lead to??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lets face it.

Initial contact is all about aesthetics. So a wink is simply a 'hi, hope I pass"

People on this site complain about guys sending out pasted messages.....

Accept the wink, be flattered, check the persons profile out...... And reply with a wink. It's like eye contact in a bar and a smile.

Keep on winking winkers!!!!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"is it really so hard just to reply and ask what they have in mind??who knows what a bit of courtesy could lead to??"

To be honest it is! As most haven't even bothered to read my profile, otherwise they wouldn't have messaged me in the first place, now, I'm sure you will at least agree with me there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YES! people do seem to take swinging too serious , aWINK is fun , come on people , relax and lets enjoy our fun , FRANKIE XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"YES! people do seem to take swinging too serious , aWINK is fun , come on people , relax and lets enjoy our fun , FRANKIE XX"

winks are part of the fun,swinging is supposed to be fun?or are we missing something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might add that I also like to use winks to wind up those that I have already become friends with, when I think they have forgotten about me.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really don't mind winks, like someone said if i get a wink, i'll have a look at their profile and if i like i wink back. Sometimes wink guys too when i'm browsing. I don't consider it lazy, just have an appreciation for how hard guys work on here sending messages and how many times they actually get a reply back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"never winked anyone, never will. "
i wink all the time at you .poppyxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lets face it.

Initial contact is all about aesthetics. So a wink is simply a 'hi, hope I pass"

People on this site complain about guys sending out pasted messages.....

Accept the wink, be flattered, check the persons profile out...... And reply with a wink. It's like eye contact in a bar and a smile.

Keep on winking winkers!!!!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a good way of showing initial interest, if its Someone i think may make a good meet i return the wink or send a thanks for the wink message. I've had a few meets that began as a wink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's a good way of showing initial interest, if its Someone i think may make a good meet i return the wink or send a thanks for the wink message. I've had a few meets that began as a wink.

Damm could spend all day winking at you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rock on winking! If you're stood at a bar and were to wink at a group of ladies more often than not you spend most of the evening chatting or flirting. If it's good enough for Ronaldo, who one stylish fella then it's good enough for me on fabs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's a good way of showing initial interest, if its Someone i think may make a good meet i return the wink or send a thanks for the wink message. I've had a few meets that began as a wink.

Damm could spend all day winking at you

You would end up with cramp in your eyelid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's a good way of showing initial interest, if its Someone i think may make a good meet i return the wink or send a thanks for the wink message. I've had a few meets that began as a wink.

Damm could spend all day winking at you

You would end up with cramp in your eyelid!

better than cramp in your wrist I guess !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's a good way of showing initial interest, if its Someone i think may make a good meet i return the wink or send a thanks for the wink message. I've had a few meets that began as a wink.

Damm could spend all day winking at you

You would end up with cramp in your eyelid!

better than cramp in your wrist I guess !!!"
indeed indeed young t .poppyxc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wink just to show i am interested its not lazy you only get so many messages

and as a single guy if you messaged every one your interested in well you do the maths the wink is to let you know there is an interest have a look if you dont like then dont wink back

Totally agree, sometimes for me it can be a way of simple appreciation for a nice picture or a well written profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use em a bit as I'm not supposed to use my phone at work but I generally mail people I've sent em to when I have more time, as adding people to got list tends to clog your updates with stuff you really don't need to know. Also yep they are a good way of showing appreciation. I quite like receiving em but its not for everyone I guess

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