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For cples who meet single guys. What was your first meet like

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By *lay2018 OP   Couple
over a year ago

westmeath & roscommon.

Just as the title suggests. We are interested in hearing from cpls who meet single guys and what was your first experience like.

Me and the misses get really excited about the fact that we'll be meeting another guy for some adult for for the first time but there is also a nervousness about it that we dont like to be honest. We are both afraid of turning up and not being able to preform on the night and ruining it for everyone.

Now dont get me wrong, when we both get the kit of , we both are 2 dirty fuckers under the sheets but are really afraid of letting the nervousness taking over and destroying it for all involved.

Even the thought of choosing someone over the internet is proving difficult and we now think were being to picking, for example, we have been chatting to single guys, everything sounds good, good body, nice thick cock then the face pic comes then the misses isnt to keen after seeing the face. I dont know if its the fact that when we actually see the face, it hits home that we'll be sharing our sexual experience with him or theres just no attraction there.

Just really starting this thread for some good advice and to hear from people who were in our situation before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just as the title suggests. We are interested in hearing from cpls who meet single guys and what was your first experience like.

Me and the misses get really excited about the fact that we'll be meeting another guy for some adult for for the first time but there is also a nervousness about it that we dont like to be honest. We are both afraid of turning up and not being able to preform on the night and ruining it for everyone.

Now dont get me wrong, when we both get the kit of , we both are 2 dirty fuckers under the sheets but are really afraid of letting the nervousness taking over and destroying it for all involved.

Even the thought of choosing someone over the internet is proving difficult and we now think were being to picking, for example, we have been chatting to single guys, everything sounds good, good body, nice thick cock then the face pic comes then the misses isnt to keen after seeing the face. I dont know if its the fact that when we actually see the face, it hits home that we'll be sharing our sexual experience with him or theres just no attraction there.

Just really starting this thread for some good advice and to hear from people who were in our situation before. "

We did one single guy he was only interestd in getting his rocks off with Paula on a one to one basis , didn't want to take turns, or help with a spit roast, turned up without vodka or rum,

Wanted to have a go first and then left ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

take your time, I was exactly the same, thought id found the right guy and then got a face pic and changed my mind lol

now I always ask for a face pic and then save msg so can look lots of times to makesure

we have met some really nice guys on here and also some not so nice and even ehen you meet if not happy, just say, its difficult but has to be said

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would imagine there is nerves and anxiety in both your minds but I can say from the view of a male who's not on a couple profile I would be nervous aswell because im meeting two people as oppose to just one but as the others have said get your face pic early and when your fully sure go for it and have fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when my,now ex wife and i decided to have a threesome we met a guy who just played with her not full sex to see if we liked it. the second time the wife had sex with the guy and it was so exciting so my only advise would be take your time,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first went ok...just about lol, it was in a club and we had agreed on him, went to a private room...played and then condom on and he got about 2 inches in and came

We did try again later...not much better and he seemed to hang about with us then all night!

He said he had been swinging for many years etc so it must have just been my effect on him

Happy to say other meets have gone a lot better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is nerve wracking as the single man to meet a new couple for the first time too.

I always try and make them as relaxed as I can but it does not stop me being nervous. The biggest fear for the 3rd party male is that the nerves stop his key bit from working and you are left looking a fool.

I suggest you try and find people who have played with couples before and have experience. Also look for someone your age or older. If you are the man make sure he looks really ugly then you will have no fear of the wife running off with him. LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just as the title suggests. We are interested in hearing from cpls who meet single guys and what was your first experience like.

Me and the misses get really excited about the fact that we'll be meeting another guy for some adult for for the first time but there is also a nervousness about it that we dont like to be honest. We are both afraid of turning up and not being able to preform on the night and ruining it for everyone.

Now dont get me wrong, when we both get the kit of , we both are 2 dirty fuckers under the sheets but are really afraid of letting the nervousness taking over and destroying it for all involved.

Even the thought of choosing someone over the internet is proving difficult and we now think were being to picking, for example, we have been chatting to single guys, everything sounds good, good body, nice thick cock then the face pic comes then the misses isnt to keen after seeing the face. I dont know if its the fact that when we actually see the face, it hits home that we'll be sharing our sexual experience with him or theres just no attraction there.

Just really starting this thread for some good advice and to hear from people who were in our situation before.

We did one single guy he was only interestd in getting his rocks off with Paula on a one to one basis , didn't want to take turns, or help with a spit roast, turned up without vodka or rum,

Wanted to have a go first and then left , "

That's just out of order! I mean come on.

How could he do such a thing?

No vodka or rum?

The bloomin cheek.

Silk

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By *inful_coupleCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

Fine for us. Nerves etc were there but we had already had hundreds of single girl threesomes so we decided that we would see how it went and if we didn't like it, we'd just chalk it up to experience. In the end it was actually lots of fun and we're still friends now

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By *orney hunCouple
over a year ago

galway

we have loads of expeirence of guys with wife can recomend a few guys that are genuine sound clean and non pushy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still not had ours, plenty of false starts though!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Just as the title suggests. We are interested in hearing from cpls who meet single guys and what was your first experience like.

Me and the misses get really excited about the fact that we'll be meeting another guy for some adult for for the first time but there is also a nervousness about it that we dont like to be honest. We are both afraid of turning up and not being able to preform on the night and ruining it for everyone.

Now dont get me wrong, when we both get the kit of , we both are 2 dirty fuckers under the sheets but are really afraid of letting the nervousness taking over and destroying it for all involved.

Even the thought of choosing someone over the internet is proving difficult and we now think were being to picking, for example, we have been chatting to single guys, everything sounds good, good body, nice thick cock then the face pic comes then the misses isnt to keen after seeing the face. I dont know if its the fact that when we actually see the face, it hits home that we'll be sharing our sexual experience with him or theres just no attraction there.

Just really starting this thread for some good advice and to hear from people who were in our situation before.

We did one single guy he was only interestd in getting his rocks off with Paula on a one to one basis , didn't want to take turns, or help with a spit roast, turned up without vodka or rum,

Wanted to have a go first and then left ,

That's just out of order! I mean come on.

How could he do such a thing?

No vodka or rum?

The bloomin cheek.

Silk

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"Just as the title suggests. We are interested in hearing from cpls who meet single guys and what was your first experience like.

Me and the misses get really excited about the fact that we'll be meeting another guy for some adult for for the first time but there is also a nervousness about it that we dont like to be honest. We are both afraid of turning up and not being able to preform on the night and ruining it for everyone.

Now dont get me wrong, when we both get the kit of , we both are 2 dirty fuckers under the sheets but are really afraid of letting the nervousness taking over and destroying it for all involved.

Even the thought of choosing someone over the internet is proving difficult and we now think were being to picking, for example, we have been chatting to single guys, everything sounds good, good body, nice thick cock then the face pic comes then the misses isnt to keen after seeing the face. I dont know if its the fact that when we actually see the face, it hits home that we'll be sharing our sexual experience with him or theres just no attraction there.

Just really starting this thread for some good advice and to hear from people who were in our situation before. "

It's exactly the same for us single girls! There is nothing worse than thinking after messaging, hmm he seems ok so far, and then you get the face pic and think bugger, it's not going to happen! Yes I am fussy, but I need to be attracted to someone if I want to play with them!

And yes I have been called shallow because of it! But I can't change who I am and what I find attractive, so will just have to carry on looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first far exceeded our expectations, the other bloke (off this site) was a true gent who made us feel at ease and took things slow, we had a drink, chatted about life for about an hour and it all flowed from there, I think it depends how you look at it aswell, at no point in the evenings events was any of us left out so all ended up satisfied, so id say pick the right man for the job and always remember its a 3 way thing, he hasnt joined for you and you arnt there for him, your there for mutual 3 way pleasure

Possibly makes no sense but it did when I was writing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think couples should set a few pointers with the guy 1st.

i have met couples off other websites. seems be v few on here who want to meet single guys why???

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

been swinging that many years cant remember. cos i did swinging in the days when you looked for people from a contact magazine so u wrote letters sooo long ago

b4 all these sites and even some clubs were invented xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we have been very lucky always strangers and around our age so everyone feels comfy ,met some fantastic guys on here and out of about 15 guys only one was a bit ignorant the others all gents and gentle with missus, pleasing her first and foremost as the male my fantasy just gets better ,love it

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By *ngieandMrManCouple
over a year ago

hereford

Picking on the OP's main points...

It's perfectly reasonable to go off the guy at any point for any reason, he's got to look right for both of you to be comfortable with him. For us 'comfortable' is key. Emailing, looking at pictures is a good place to start but what really matters is when you meet... does it feel 'comfortable' and fully relaxed.

Failing to perform... well if you have got past the first meet and you all feel totally comfortable and relaxed with each other, performance pressure doesn't exists.

Try and enjoy your nervousness and trepidation because in the end its all just excitement In time it will dilute, you'll miss it when its gone and look back fondly to when you first started out on this adventure... enjoy

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