FabSwingers.com forum: Body image problems

By *rebus1975 OP Man
3 weeks ago

I guess it’s a sensitive topic, but how do you deal with body confidence issues?

I’m relatively relaxed with my body, but I do have major hang ups on a few bits - skin colouring in certain places (horribly referred to as ‘staining’ but im as clean as a whistle!) etc…

I know I’ll never be everyone’s cup of tea, but some comments have really knocked me since being here which felt harsh.

I guess it’s just part of life?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

It is part of life but that doesn't make it right. I don't know why people feel the need to comment negatively on a person's body.

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
3 weeks ago

Cardiff

"I guess it’s a sensitive topic, but how do you deal with body confidence issues?

I’m relatively relaxed with my body, but I do have major hang ups on a few bits - skin colouring in certain places (horribly referred to as ‘staining’ but im as clean as a whistle!) etc…

I know I’ll never be everyone’s cup of tea, but some comments have really knocked me since being here which felt harsh.

I guess it’s just part of life?"
I can’t see anything of what you have mentioned so dunno why some would say anything 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *sStephenPickleMan
3 weeks ago

Ends

I do struggle with body confidence and had some cbt around it. Helped a fair bit. Your feelings are valid. But I hope you know that most people in this world won’t be bothered by your body or body type.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

Some people make it their mission to go around pointing out ‘flaws’ in other people on here…usually while hiding behind a silhouette or an other total anonymity.

I’ve been called all sorts on here. Meh. I get meets when I want them.

Don’t put too much credence on what idiots on the internet say.

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By *aizyWoman
3 weeks ago

west midlands

Nothing wrong with your body from what I can see. I know it is easier said than done but don't let moronic comments from strangers get to you, you often find with people who are negative or nasty do it because they are miserable themselves and they like to try and bring others down.

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By *uck69xMan
3 weeks ago

cramlington

Body shaming is horrible in fact I'd say its up there with racism bigotry and any other form of hatered . Every body is different and all body shapes are beautiful its such a shame that intolerance of each is becoming a big issue in society these days

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By *orayGuy86Man
3 weeks ago

Moray

Unfortunately I know all to well some of what it is your going through. I struggle badly with the image of my body. Infact part of the reason I joined fab was in the hope of finding that maybe I'm not as bad as I am. Unfortunately that's yet to be proven but your definitely not alone like.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
3 weeks ago

The Heart of Hollownest, Dudleyish.

Myself and Mrs CD are both sides of the coin.

I have no body issues at all, I'm happy with myself and any changes I would do for just for myself.

Mrs CD while much better than she used to be still struggles with body issues being a large woman in a society and climate that calls them unattractive.

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By *emonochromeMan
3 weeks ago

Watford

I’ve had to learn to fall in love with myself as I’ve gotten older because I was a real skinny teen and then one day just became really broad taller hairy etc and just really felt disgusted by myself. I started posting on Reddit got a lot of positive comments and that really helped me feel like I wasn’t a monster and then confidence slowly came back

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By *ust and PoundCouple
3 weeks ago

Cheshire

We've found as we got older body confidence has improved greatly.

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By *hortieWoman
3 weeks ago

Northampton

This is my jalopy. Bits are rusted, dented, taped up.. you name it. But it's to carry me around, no fucker else. And if you don't want to ride in it 'because it don't look right', then that really isn't a me problem, sweetheart. Showrooms over there, fill yer boots.

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By *ear-necessitiesMan
3 weeks ago

Leeds

I used to be so cautious off my body mainly my moobs

I was the one who never had is top off scared what people said and thought

But you know something who cares? Why should I or anyone care about anyone else's opinion of you?

One day I woke up and realised I am alot more that skin and bones and this body is just a vessel 'i" use to get about

If someone wants to speak negative about your looks and try dampen your day weather there super model or not there immediately an ugly person to me

Now I get my tit's out and if you don't like it look away because I'll jiggle these bad boys right at you

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By *orayGuy86Man
3 weeks ago

Moray

"I used to be so cautious off my body mainly my moobs

I was the one who never had is top off scared what people said and thought

But you know something who cares? Why should I or anyone care about anyone else's opinion of you?

One day I woke up and realised I am alot more that skin and bones and this body is just a vessel 'i" use to get about

If someone wants to speak negative about your looks and try dampen your day weather there super model or not there immediately an ugly person to me

Now I get my tit's out and if you don't like it look away because I'll jiggle these bad boys right at you "

Thanks for posting this as it's exactly where I've been and where I want to be at actually really refreshing to read.

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By *ear-necessitiesMan
3 weeks ago

Leeds

"I used to be so cautious off my body mainly my moobs

I was the one who never had is top off scared what people said and thought

But you know something who cares? Why should I or anyone care about

anyone else's opinion of you?

One day I woke up and realised I am alot more that skin and bones and this body is just a vessel 'i" use to get about

If someone wants to speak negative about your looks and try dampen your day weather there super model or not there immediately an ugly person to me

Now I get my tit's out and if you don't like it look away because I'll jiggle these bad boys right at you

Thanks for posting this as it's exactly where I've been and where I want to be at actually really refreshing to read. "

Honestly mate I just feel like I haven't got the time to worry about them and more times than not no one is even looking or bothered

F*ck em even if they are

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By *orayGuy86Man
3 weeks ago

Moray

"I used to be so cautious off my body mainly my moobs

I was the one who never had is top off scared what people said and thought

But you know something who cares? Why should I or anyone care about

anyone else's opinion of you?

One day I woke up and realised I am alot more that skin and bones and this body is just a vessel 'i" use to get about

If someone wants to speak negative about your looks and try dampen your day weather there super model or not there immediately an ugly person to me

Now I get my tit's out and if you don't like it look away because I'll jiggle these bad boys right at you

Thanks for posting this as it's exactly where I've been and where I want to be at actually really refreshing to read.

Honestly mate I just feel like I haven't got the time to worry about them and more times than not no one is even looking or bothered

F*ck em even if they are "

Honestly thanks for this like. Dinnae get me wrong I'd swap yours for mine in a second but genuinely nice knowing that there's a way passed it.

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By *arlequin_tearsMan
3 weeks ago

Sheffield

Okay, general health point as I've been caught out by this (Has naught to do with the OP). If you notice changes to your skin get it checked out. It could be naughty, it could be something as simple as a fungal infection, but there are other possibilities.

Similarly if you're with someone and notice a lump, bump or bad mole when playing with someone. Point it out you could save their life

Now, that said, people giving someone flack over how they look is bang out of order. We're grownups be polite.

Fab isn't always the best place for your mental health and body confidence particularly if you're a single bloke.

The constant rejection, unread messages, unanswered messages, concerns about your performance, size, looks, waistline can be hell.

If you find it's getting to you, there is no shame in taking a break and hanging out in the real world for a while.

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By *orbidden eastMan
3 weeks ago

london dodging electric scooters

I have to say, OP are used to be very conscious but I think it’s a age thing for me anyway that I’ve got to appoint in my life where I don’t really care what people think.

I just do things for myself and that’s it. We are never gonna be everybody’s cup of tea and us humans just come in all different shapes and sizes.

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By *lyingsolo1000Woman
3 weeks ago

Reading

As a larger woman, I used to be full of self doubt and conscious of my body and all of the lumps and bumps. I can remember being amazed the first time I went to a club that men actually found me attractive and wanted to have sex with me. That confidence has grown over the years, and although I will always see the bits I don’t like in photos, I am less bothered by it now.

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By *peedyGMan
3 weeks ago

Telford

I suffer terribly with body issues, I try to not let it bother me but it's so hard not too.

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By *punk n gushCouple
3 weeks ago

deal

Think we all suffer with this issue at some point i know when I was younger I was so skinny I hated it always wished I was bigger then after having kids put loads of weight and spent the last god knows how many years wishing I was skinny again as I realky think I look horrible now

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By *ou only live onceMan
3 weeks ago

London

I think the vast majority of us have body confidence issues of one kind or another. You've got to be pretty conceited to think you have no faults.

That said, we are also usually our own worst critics and the stuff we worry about is not even noticed by others, thankfully!

I guess what I'm saying is, ignore anyone who finds a reason to criticize your body and focus on the people who will like you for you.

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By *YDB75Man
3 weeks ago

Beverley

Always had body hang ups and it goes back to my school days when i was the but of jokes in school showers. Was “cut” when you and was made fun of “ look at the time lads its half past cock “ or half a cock etc etc

Things like that stay with you for ever

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By *athan92Man
3 weeks ago

Bexhill

I would try not to worry about it. Everyone has loads of things that they aren’t entirely happy with about their body but I bet 99% of the time when you meet someone they’re not thinking the same thing you are they’re just excited to be there with you.!

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By *nspecifiedEntityMan
3 weeks ago

Hanwell, The Shades.

Oh i am not happy with my body at all. Never have been. But I figured out that it's not me that has to like it. It isn't the right way to think but it helps a bit!

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By *xydadbodMan
3 weeks ago

Milton keynes

To be honest, it took me a good long time to be confident in my own body. It was so bad that I wont even look at myself naked.. but being in this lifestyle has helped me overcome that as my confidence grew bit by bit

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By *ngelLordCouple
3 weeks ago

Newport

Quite some issues since had a bypass

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By *ingerRapunzelWoman
3 weeks ago

Somewhere Over The Rainbow

I think lots of people feel like this. I have loads of birthmarks and freckles I wish I didn't have. Spot outbreaks are enough to knock my confidence. I'm a very insecure person, refuse to believe compliments, even more so being on fab where there's so many people we can compare ourselves to. We can be our own worst enemy, but anyone who is criticising another for stuff that's not fixable isn't worth your time, effort or having you question yourself

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By *ickie76XXXMan
3 weeks ago

dartford

"I think lots of people feel like this. I have loads of birthmarks and freckles I wish I didn't have. Spot outbreaks are enough to knock my confidence. I'm a very insecure person, refuse to believe compliments, even more so being on fab where there's so many people we can compare ourselves to. We can be our own worst enemy, but anyone who is criticising another for stuff that's not fixable isn't worth your time, effort or having you question yourself"

This is perfect advice. It’s easy to say Don’t worry about it but we are generally our own worst critics. We all have our flaws and lumps and bumps we aren’t happy with but that is what makes us human and individuals and genuine people aren’t shallow like that I’ve always found.

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By *JB1954Man
3 weeks ago

Reading

Basically for me . I was at school . ‘ the seven stone weakling ‘ . Even though did lot of sports. Now still not weight as per height . Nothing I can do about . Yes very lucky I do not put weight on . Say like most. So body size and cock size cannot do really anything about . So just be myself ?

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By *lueEyesEnigmaMan
3 weeks ago

Dublin

The best think is be happy with you, I know from my own experience watch what you eat it really bothers you

You may get the odd wink here, they make my day

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
3 weeks ago

Next Door

I just dont look in the mirror.

Im happy to go naked on a beach and strip off infront of someone. I just don't have to look at myself, problem solved

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"Some people make it their mission to go around pointing out ‘flaws’ in other people on here…usually while hiding behind a silhouette or an other total anonymity.

I’ve been called all sorts on here. Meh. I get meets when I want them.

Don’t put too much credence on what idiots on the internet say. "

This exactly, a lot of the time these bored idiots take great pleasure from trolling behind a screen and let’s be honest they’d probably never say it in real life! Plus unfortunately insulting others somehow makes them feel more oblivious about their own flaws

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By *orayGuy86Man
3 weeks ago

Moray

"I just dont look in the mirror.

Im happy to go naked on a beach and strip off infront of someone. I just don't have to look at myself, problem solved"

I went topless on the beach last week and felt totally and utterly fine with it actually felt like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. But lye in the bath god no or those full length mirrors in hotels fuck that just don't want to see myself

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