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By *rSinful OP   Man
over a year ago

mysteryville

With so much attitude rejection and insult some people receive on here. Time waisters and fakers. Does fab make loose your faith in people and as a result put you off sex. People on this country used to be at least friendly to each other if nothing else but that's gone now it would seem. What are your expiriances

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

totally different to yours clearly !

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By *rSinful OP   Man
over a year ago

mysteryville


"totally different to yours clearly ! "

Clearly! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes sometimes. But for every fake, timewaster and picture collector there's always a nice genuine man who restores my faith!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are a single male in Fab you need to get prepared for summary rejection, rudeness, belittling and insults by complete strangers; simply because of your gender and status.

Does it put me off sex? Hell no! just some people.

My eternal thanks though goes to the handful of really good people who I have met on here who respond politely, even if they have no interest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes sometimes. But for every fake, timewaster and picture collector there's always a nice genuine man who restores my faith! "

Very pleased to hear that.

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By *ickloverMan
over a year ago

Devizes

I'm a genuine man ! At least I was the last time I looked !! Lol. Xx

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By *rSinful OP   Man
over a year ago

mysteryville

Interesting stuff I've still not met many genuine people in 4 years and most of them seem odd

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Interesting stuff I've still not met many genuine people in 4 years and most of them seem odd"

Do you think that after 4 years the problem might be you and not them?

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By *rSinful OP   Man
over a year ago

mysteryville

No not at all. I deal with real people on a daily basis in a care home environment and as a self employed business man. I don't have any problems in real life. Except paying the bills like many of us. It could be that I don't devote hours of my time to this site. It could also be that I can't judge well who to talk to from photos of knickers boobs and stuff like that. Not the same as first impressions of the whole human being in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interesting stuff I've still not met many genuine people in 4 years and most of them seem odd

Do you think that after 4 years the problem might be you and not them?"
+1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No not at all. I deal with real people on a daily basis in a care home environment and as a self employed business man. I don't have any problems in real life. Except paying the bills like many of us. It could be that I don't devote hours of my time to this site. It could also be that I can't judge well who to talk to from photos of knickers boobs and stuff like that. Not the same as first impressions of the whole human being in real life"

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

Could understand why it would put you off being on here...

But put you off sex???? Really!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With so much attitude rejection and insult some people receive on here. Time waisters and fakers. Does fab make loose your faith in people and as a result put you off sex. People on this country used to be at least friendly to each other if nothing else but that's gone now it would seem. What are your expiriances "
...We lost our faith in people a long time ago,but no dose not put us of sex,Why should it.xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4 years is a long time to persevere with something having the kind of luck you've described....I would be long gone if my experience was anything like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is a bit of a roller-coaster at times. Many a time I have felt a bit depleted through rejection.

Then there is other days (like y'day) where I arranged meets with two couples so again its up and down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With so much attitude rejection and insult some people receive on here. Time waisters and fakers. Does fab make loose your faith in people and as a result put you off sex. People on this country used to be at least friendly to each other if nothing else but that's gone now it would seem. What are your expiriances "

I'm sorry but I don't agree with this suggestion that people used to be friendly. People may change but I do not think as a population you can say we are less friendly

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By *orkscrew CurlsWoman
over a year ago

Loughborough Leics

Put me off sex? God no! It provides me with many opportunities for which I am eternally grateful.

Over time though you (should) learn to have the happiest experience you can, alot of it entails taking things not too seriously and trusting a robust selection process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put me off sex? God no! It provides me with many opportunities for which I am eternally grateful.

Over time though you (should) learn to have the happiest experience you can, alot of it entails taking things not too seriously and trusting a robust selection process. "

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

We meet some lovely people on here...yes there are the usual time wasters but as an whole this site is the best UK swinging site having tried most of them xx

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By *dward and WallisCouple
over a year ago

lincoln

We are so pleased we joined fab we have met a good number of delightful couples who we are now very pleased to call very good friends.

We don't meet every week but when we do the sex is just as good, if not better than he 1st time we met. You will have rejection in life as well as on swinging sites but its always better to drink from a glass that's half full and not half empty in every walk of life

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By *bw queen of spadesWoman
over a year ago

neath


"No not at all. I deal with real people on a daily basis in a care home environment and as a self employed business man. I don't have any problems in real life. Except paying the bills like many of us. It could be that I don't devote hours of my time to this site. It could also be that I can't judge well who to talk to from photos of knickers boobs and stuff like that. Not the same as first impressions of the whole human being in real life"

i have found on here that the biggest problem is simply either people dont read (or dont care about others profile)

which gets the messaged people annoyed then a rude responce is given!

eg i get over 200 messages a day from guys asking to meet even though i clearly state i wont in my profile

some guys are curtiouse with a no thanks while others wont take a hint even to the point of me having to b rude

so next time a girls gives an answer u may feel rude stop and think howmany dosens if not hundreds of messages she would have already rejected first and u would b no better (or worse) than them i hate inpolite people but sometimes on here i and other women simply have no other choice! happy swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some girls here that respond to messages (provided you bother to read my profile). I understand that single guys have it hard, but it's not all roses as a single girl either. If I had £1 for every message I got asking me to go round and give them a blow job without any prior conversation, I'd be a very rich girl

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By *rSinful OP   Man
over a year ago

mysteryville


"No not at all. I deal with real people on a daily basis in a care home environment and as a self employed business man. I don't have any problems in real life. Except paying the bills like many of us. It could be that I don't devote hours of my time to this site. It could also be that I can't judge well who to talk to from photos of knickers boobs and stuff like that. Not the same as first impressions of the whole human being in real life

i have found on here that the biggest problem is simply either people dont read (or dont care about others profile)

which gets the messaged people annoyed then a rude responce is given!

eg i get over 200 messages a day from guys asking to meet even though i clearly state i wont in my profile

some guys are curtiouse with a no thanks while others wont take a hint even to the point of me having to b rude

so next time a girls gives an answer u may feel rude stop and think howmany dosens if not hundreds of messages she would have already rejected first and u would b no better (or worse) than them i hate inpolite people but sometimes on here i and other women simply have no other choice! happy swinging "

Eye I know there are lots of wankers on here my gf got 500 emails first day most were disturbing and they wreck it for those of us that's nice,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are some girls here that respond to messages (provided you bother to read my profile). I understand that single guys have it hard, but it's not all roses as a single girl either. If I had £1 for every message I got asking me to go round and give them a blow job without any prior conversation, I'd be a very rich girl "

Its funny you should mention such a scenario as I have just had the offer of such a arrangement from a new profile on the site! Sure its fake but fingers crossed lol.

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By *rSinful OP   Man
over a year ago

mysteryville


"4 years is a long time to persevere with something having the kind of luck you've described....I would be long gone if my experience was anything like that. "

To be fair I didn't rely try before as I was unsure I wanted to do it now I've decided I am ready to swing.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex


"There are some girls here that respond to messages (provided you bother to read my profile). I understand that single guys have it hard, but it's not all roses as a single girl either. If I had £1 for every message I got asking me to go round and give them a blow job without any prior conversation, I'd be a very rich girl "
Pop round & give me a blow job...got my pound ready lol!

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By *bw queen of spadesWoman
over a year ago

neath

my example proven lol while i wrote my post iv had 14 messages only 1 within my preferance and had actually read my profile lmfao xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my example proven lol while i wrote my post iv had 14 messages only 1 within my preferance and had actually read my profile lmfao xx"

that volume of messages is scary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly think far too many people on here take the site FAR too seriously! And yeah, its MOSTLY guys. IMO some gals use the site like a vernons catalogue. Why? Because they are the minority on here and can afford to be choosy.

I know for a fact that i can go out at the weekends and pick up a gal in my local pub/club for sex, yet the ' very same' gal may just delete my message on here because she knows that someone better will be along shortly! I don't take it to heart, its part and parcel of the site!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Fab encourages me to have sex and provides it too.

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By *rSinful OP   Man
over a year ago

mysteryville


"I honestly think far too many people on here take the site FAR too seriously! And yeah, its MOSTLY guys. IMO some gals use the site like a vernons catalogue. Why? Because they are the minority on here and can afford to be choosy.

I know for a fact that i can go out at the weekends and pick up a gal in my local pub/club for sex, yet the ' very same' gal may just delete my message on here because she knows that someone better will be along shortly! I don't take it to heart, its part and parcel of the site!"

Indeed your right. With so many horny men out there perhaps we would be better off encouraging more women to join and advertising the site however I fear that may result in a restraining order lol. I'm suprised fab don't advertise more or have a Facebook page that would get the site full up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes!

We are starting to get fed up with trying to plan a meet or playing, and probably going back to ad hoc that we find at a club.

So leaving fab a lot more for friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With so much attitude rejection and insult some people receive on here. Time waisters and fakers. Does fab make loose your faith in people and as a result put you off sex. People on this country used to be at least friendly to each other if nothing else but that's gone now it would seem. What are your expiriances "

It's not put us off sex, we don't look here anymore for it, too many timewasters etc , and Paula iand i are more than capable of pulling someone in a pub ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try attending your local club and take things from there perhaps.

Silk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"With so much attitude rejection and insult some people receive on here. Time waisters and fakers. Does fab make loose your faith in people and as a result put you off sex. People on this country used to be at least friendly to each other if nothing else but that's gone now it would seem. What are your expiriances "

Doesn't really put either of us off sex but does make us aware of a certain gener of profile to avoid. Difficult to quantify but we see a certain type of profile and click "Block user" faster than Chelsea sack a mananger, Iincidentally some of our meets actually make us feel more "on" to sex and the whole swinging thing increases our sex drive and pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put us off sex....No!

Put us off meeting on sites......Absolutely!

We just can't believe the lies and deception both single and attached guys will come up with just to try and get a shag.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put us off sex....No!

Put us off meeting on sites......Absolutely!

We just can't believe the lies and deception both single and attached guys will come up with just to try and get a shag.

XXXX"

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone

We're only looking for bi femmes, which can be rather frustrating, i say this because my honest reply would be unprintable.....with ensueing forum ban and hate mail to follow. luckily we are a couple, so we have all the tools at our disposal to go fuck ourselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. It may be unusual for a single male to say this, but I have met some wonderful people on here. That is not intended to sound smug. Of course it takes effort but you wouldn't expect to go down to Sainsburys and score immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far from it we have had good positive interaction here we assumed most others did too. I guess it can't be all thongs to all people though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've said it before, and I'll say it again, over the last few years fabs has thrown me some real diamonds great sex, and friendships.

I do think it is effort in = effort out

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


"Interesting stuff I've still not met many genuine people in 4 years and most of them seem odd"
talking of odd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say keep fabs and sex as fun dont take it too seriously x

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford


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I know for a fact that i can go out at the weekends and pick up a gal in my local pub/club for sex"
really could you honesly hmmmm

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By *am123Man
over a year ago

essex chelmsford

honestly that is

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

We use this site as a small tool to aid our lifestyle - it isn't the be all and end all - in our experience more lovely friendly people than rude - certainly wouldn't ut us off sex! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last nite a guy on here sent me a really nasty abusive msg after i politely declined his offer. He was awful. But its not put me off being on here or meeting guys. He clearly was immature and cldnt handle rejection. Thankfully the nicer guys out weigh the drongo's

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By *bw queen of spadesWoman
over a year ago

neath


"Last nite a guy on here sent me a really nasty abusive msg after i politely declined his offer. He was awful. But its not put me off being on here or meeting guys. He clearly was immature and cldnt handle rejection. Thankfully the nicer guys out weigh the drongo's"
im finding the rejection hating abusive drongos out way the nice ones but hey hey fab alowes block so its all good

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

If the problem is consistently you then the problem lies with YOU and how you go about things on the site.

FAB has enough tools to help you choose wisely who and what you meet if you are unable to do this then the issue lies with you!

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By *bw queen of spadesWoman
over a year ago

neath


"Interesting stuff I've still not met many genuine people in 4 years and most of them seem odd"

in all honusty hun reading ur profile its understandable that you have difficulty meeting aswell very little there to make u stand out combined with keeping friends pics and veris conceled will look to others as u have somthing to hide and shoot up huge redflags to any f that reads it

dont get me wrong at the mo my own profile idnt up to anything resemballing decent

im not critisysing tbh just trying to give a lil genuine advice and subjective feedback to try help ur situation x

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By *rSinful OP   Man
over a year ago

mysteryville


"If the problem is consistently you then the problem lies with YOU and how you go about things on the site.

FAB has enough tools to help you choose wisely who and what you meet if you are unable to do this then the issue lies with you!

"

Well if being polite and nice to people is a problem then I'm at a loss. Trouble is nice is interpreted by many today as boring. But to jump in and be too open is considered freaky.

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By *rSinful OP   Man
over a year ago

mysteryville


"Interesting stuff I've still not met many genuine people in 4 years and most of them seem odd

in all honusty hun reading ur profile its understandable that you have difficulty meeting aswell very little there to make u stand out combined with keeping friends pics and veris conceled will look to others as u have somthing to hide and shoot up huge redflags to any f that reads it

dont get me wrong at the mo my own profile idnt up to anything resemballing decent

im not critisysing tbh just trying to give a lil genuine advice and subjective feedback to try help ur situation x"

Well my profe used to have a load of stuff and I was told to change it to its current form as too much info is boring apparently.

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By *rSinful OP   Man
over a year ago

mysteryville

Yea I never seen the point in lying I could never do it. Except if its a white lie resulting in a nice suprise for someone

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