FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting cheating married dudes

By *aradiselost747 OP Couple
2 weeks ago

dundonald

What’s everyone’s opinion on meeting married dudes who are clearly in here without consent?

Was always a no for me (Sarah) but Gareth has met a few married women and men and the sex is awesome.

Good handsome single dudes on here seem to be getting thin on ground .

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By *orkmanlookingMan
2 weeks ago

York

I'm obviously one of them guys and I'm honest about it in my profile but it does mean most people won't meet

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By *ndymac888Man
2 weeks ago

Dumbarton

The problem I have dealing with married people is there availability lol

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By *eachrunner1Man
2 weeks ago

Farnham

At the risk of being shot down by everyone (dont bother, I've heard it all before) there is a gigantic case of double standards on here when it comes to people with partners or marrieds playing alone without consent.

Married women are welcomed with open arms by pretty much everyone without the slightest judgement or comment.

More often than not married women are actively encouraged in their efforts to get laid without their husbands' knowledge on a sort of 'you go girl! you deserve it' basis. The assumption being that she MUST be being neglected sexually by her ignorant/lazy/unattractive etc hubby. i.e It's his fault if she's making the choice to do this.

Married men on the other hand more or less get passed over by all but a few and most are derided, insulted or dismissed. Married men seeking to get laid are usually instructed to 'get a divorce' or, even less helpfully, 'try talking to your wife'. i.e It's your own fault if you aren't getting what you need.

This isn't me complaining, it's just the truth.

However, men shouldn't really take this personally.

None of us on here are in a position to start taking the moral high ground on anything toward anyone. We're all just making use of others to fulfil our own personal needs in one way or another, so regardless of what we want to tell ourselves or how supposedly 'ethical' we think we are being or how we choose to justify it, each and every one of us has pretty loose moral standards (cue massive outrage from the self-satisfied smug brigade).

Unless you know the exact personal situation of everyone you play with - and let's face it, no one does really - the chances are you have played with people who are playing away and you have therefore enabled their behaviour. Just because you 'didn't know' doesn't make it defensible.

The reason that married men are usually rejected has nothing to do with moral choices even if it's dressed up that way. It has everything to do with the simple fact that 'single' and single men on here far exceed the demand from either single or 'single' women and couples.

Rejecting married men is nothing more than a simple and effective way of filtering a sizeable chunk of the requests.... and frankly, that's fair enough.

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By *ust and PoundCouple
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

A solo male or female who is married and meeting behind their partners back wouldn't be for us. Don't want to be part of a messy breakup/divorce.

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By *ewshygirlWoman
2 weeks ago

Ormskirk

Had a meet last week which stated as a social and got carried away into car fun. Then found out he wasn't single. So disappointing! I try not to let it ruin my experience of fab, but it's difficult not to. Probably back off from meets to improve my vetting technique lol

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By *tirlingbenMan
2 weeks ago

stirling

I'm here for sex, not judgement.

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By *r peeperMan
2 weeks ago

Bournemouth

"Had a meet last week which stated as a social and got carried away into car fun. Then found out he wasn't single. So disappointing! I try not to let it ruin my experience of fab, but it's difficult not to. Probably back off from meets to improve my vetting technique lol"

At least you had great sex!

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By *ewshygirlWoman
2 weeks ago

Ormskirk

Mediocre

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By *ravelling ChappieMan
2 weeks ago

Stroud

I am married. She has no interest in sex with me or anyone else. She knows I play away, and doesn't want to know the details. Not exactly "permission" but certainly understanding. Tbh I find my age is the main obstacle to getting meets from here!

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By *luttynutterCouple
2 weeks ago

Peterborough

Personally, we don’t see a problem with it. We’re all here for the same thing and that’s socials/sex. Providing there’s no dramas that come from it then all is good!

The chances of a single guy on here actually being single is pretty slim anyway I’d say. We would rather complete honesty about someone’s situation though

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
2 weeks ago

Stoke

"Personally, we don’t see a problem with it. We’re all here for the same thing and that’s socials/sex. Providing there’s no dramas that come from it then all is good!

The chances of a single guy on here actually being single is pretty slim anyway I’d say. We would rather complete honesty about someone’s situation though

Until their wife finds out like we had and we didn't even know he was married, never again! Nightmare!!

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By *dalisqueWoman
2 weeks ago

land of make believe

I find it a hilarious double standard the amount of women on here who will slate men for cheating in quite an abusive manner then go read their verifications.

Lots have met taken men themselves.

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By *ornym66Man
2 weeks ago

Col /ips

I'm in a relationship had a threesum for years my other half did no about then she hit the menopause now it's totally gone she said if you want sex go find it else where I'm not interested so that's why I'm here just looking

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I wouldn't knowingly meet anyone cheating, why? because I'd hate it done to me, so I wouldn't want to potentially cause anyone else any hurt.

Years ago & not from here, I was seeing a man, claimed to be single and no kids. He was in a ltr, I found out when she saw a text on his phone and rang me.

I was honest with her & she eventually realised I hadn't a clue she existed. It caused her so much upset and hurt, that i avoid anyone who appears to be here on the sly.

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
2 weeks ago

Prestwich

The idea of meeting and fucking a married woman turns me on so much

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By *orthern36G!Woman
2 weeks ago

wigan

Personally? I find it very sexy and for me a huge turn on

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"At the risk of being shot down by everyone (dont bother, I've heard it all before) there is a gigantic case of double standards on here when it comes to people with partners or marrieds playing alone without consent.

Married women are welcomed with open arms by pretty much everyone without the slightest judgement or comment.

This isn't me complaining, it's just the truth.

However, men shouldn't really take this personally.

Rejecting married men is nothing more than a simple and effective way of filtering a sizeable chunk of the requests.... and frankly, that's fair enough."

I'd be exactly the same with a man or woman playing away,I'm straight so don't meet ladies though.

I am half a couple and we wouldn't meet anyone that's a FB married to someone else, that applies equally to men & women.

Women can get an easier ride from some,probably men and bi fem couples, because they want to have sex with them, regardless of their marital status. So they won't slate them on threads.

Also many men have fantasies about sleeping with cheating wives & feel they're getting one over on their partners.just look at all the threads started about it.

Lastly women don't as a rule tend to come on the forums moaning about their partners or inviting comments about them cheating.

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By *ollyHogCouple
2 weeks ago

Seemingly good Village

We never used to judge single guys. Give them the benefit of the doubt so to speak.

But one night changed our outlook forever.

We met this guy a few times probably 4-5 in total at hotels. Until one day we invited him back to our home.

Little did we know he was married until his wife knocked on our door. She had followed him 😭 our car had already taken a battering by then as she decided to scratch it with a dining fork

she thought he was having an affair with a woman.

She was surprised as us when she realised we were a couple.

Anyway that is our experience.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

East Sussex

My opinion is meet them if you want to and not if you don't.

Nobody else's circus has my monkeys in it

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By *ewshygirlWoman
2 weeks ago

Ormskirk

I appreciate honesty, so I can make the decision from there... what else could they be lying about. Don't want any of that drama in my life

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By *ulie RobertsTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Southampton

"Personally? I find it very sexy and for me a huge turn on

Me too!

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By *attooboy100Man
2 weeks ago

Dudley

There's something really hot about fucking somebody's wife I have to say ! 🥵

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By *_welshMan
2 weeks ago

liverpool / chester

"There's something really hot about fucking somebody's wife I have to say ! 🥵"

Ditto.

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By *otgirl32Woman
2 weeks ago

Ashton Under Lyne

"What’s everyone’s opinion on meeting married dudes who are clearly in here without consent?

Was always a no for me (Sarah) but Gareth has met a few married women and men and the sex is awesome.

Good handsome single dudes on here seem to be getting thin on ground .

I enjoy cheating married lads and don't judge them

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By *llFunPlayMan
2 weeks ago

Woking

"What’s everyone’s opinion on meeting married dudes who are clearly in here without consent?

Was always a no for me (Sarah) but Gareth has met a few married women and men and the sex is awesome.

Good handsome single dudes on here seem to be getting thin on ground .

I enjoy cheating married lads and don't judge them"

RIP your inbox

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By *alf GarnetMan
2 weeks ago

Adlington x

Met a few Married cheating ladies on here over the years .

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By *nlyessexCouple
2 weeks ago

Hornchurch

As a cuck couple we like married men as there’s no emotions just sex I get to be caged while they enjoy each other we don’t judge

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By *ideshaft1971Man
2 weeks ago

Midlands

I’m always honest on here, best policy !!

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By *rew2475Man
2 weeks ago

cleckheaton

I’m always honest and upfront,I have a wife with a brain tumour who I’m not prepared to leave so what choice do I have ?

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By *luttynutterCouple
2 weeks ago

Peterborough

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By *attooed_BlueeyesMan
2 weeks ago

Tameside

I enjoy cheating married lads and don't judge them"

You're gonna get a lot of "wuup2" messages now haha.

If a married lady wanted to meet me, I doubt I'd say no based on that fact. Tbh, as a single guy on here, we're not exactly swimming in opportunities haha. Also I think for a guy the primal brain side of things is like you're competing for this woman, and she's picked you over her husband.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
2 weeks ago

Worsley

Our moral compass prevents us from partaking in that activity.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
2 weeks ago

Worsley

"I’m always honest and upfront,I have a wife with a brain tumour who I’m not prepared to leave so what choice do I have ?"

What choice do you have?

That’s just a poor excuse to be unfaithful if she ain’t consenting to what you’re doing.

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By *hickthighs25Woman
2 weeks ago

Stockton

I think you could also use the point in fact that if a guy sleeps with a married woman he gets a pat on the back and others think its hot but if a woman sleeps with a married man its viewed as morally wrong/homewrecker.

I personally stay in my own lane and do me and dont be the morality police to anyone else as its not my business 🤷‍♀️

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By *aughtyloversCouple
2 weeks ago

Hull

Guys just love emptying in to married pussy

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
2 weeks ago

Telford

I wouldn't arrange a meet with either gender of they were playing away on here.

If I'm at a club I don't always know for sure so I more than likely have.

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By *aughtyPeepzMan
2 weeks ago

London

Thats a shame that's happening. But still, there are lots of us single good ones hidden amongst the masses. It's a searching geme

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
2 weeks ago

Cheshire

Swinging is about being open and honest. If someone wants to cheat that's on them but we would like to be informed about it at least to make our own decision.

Unfortunately if a guy is prepared to cheat on his wife chances are we wouldn't be playing along.

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By *orfabfriendsonlyWoman
2 weeks ago

Poole

My view is it's them that's cheating not me so it's there problem not mine especially if it's a one off meet. However I do have 'no married men' on my profile (but most do not read profiles) and the main reason is simply because they are rarely available, often wanting daytime meets and no socials

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By *ilverfox for youMan
2 weeks ago

Hull

Dudes ???

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By *iredhand2Man
2 weeks ago

Sale

As a married man guilty of playing behind his partner’s back, I do understand that some people aren’t prepared to cross that line, and that’s fair enough. However, if you’re not looking for a regular partner, I’m not sure why it matters? It’s just sex isn’t it?

Personally I consider swinging to involve at least 3 people, any less than that and it’s just a hook up. While the site originated as a swinging website, there seems to be a lot of people only looking for hook ups. I’m open about my status, and would never contact someone who states that they don’t meet married guys. It’s just a shame that the site doesn’t have a filter for those who’d prefer to block ‘single’ married people, as that would make life a little easier.

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By *urves and HeelsWoman
2 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I agree with a few comments on this topic. I don’t have an issue if a guy is married and he tells me because as another lady said it’s not me cheating. However most men aren’t honest about their status and always want to meet “next Wednesday or an afternoon “

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By *otwife and sexy beastCouple
2 weeks ago

rochester

It's nice when someone admits to having a partner upfront, we appreciate that.

It's not a road we'd be looking to go down, but we aren't being judgemental, you have to walk a mile in man's shoes before you can do that. We'd just prefer to not risk getting caught up in someone else's "domestic".

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

On our couples profile we were having a positive chat with a single guy recently. All progressing to a social meet up til he dropped in the fa t he was married.

Cue end of conversation.

If people want to do it that's on them. If others are happy meeting them that's their prerogative.

But to many the key factor in any interaction is consent. And if someone doesn't know what their partner is doing then that consent isn't there. Aside from the potential for drama and being dragged in to someone else's domestic issues, there's the simple fact of considering 'how would I feel if it was me?'.

Singles playing away are usually easy to spot, even if they're not upfront about it in chats and on their profiles. Restricted times they're free to talk and meet. Inability to accomodate. Frequent references to 'being really discreet' about everything from photos to where they're happy to meet for a coffee and an unwillingness for it to ever be somewhere public.

Too much hassle. And no. It wouldn't matter if it was a man or a woman. The claim of double standards is usually one made by men, simply because they generally find it harder to meet. If people don't want to meet married folks they usually won't care what gender the person is.

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By *yColourBlueCouple
2 weeks ago

Washington

I don't really have a problem with it personally, however I don't want to get caught in the drama so I'm always a bit hesitant.

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By *iny_tight_pussWoman
2 weeks ago

wednesbury

I love it.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
2 weeks ago

Coventry

Not something we go out of our way for and in general something that's a little disappointing to find out (especially when we like them) and as a rule of thumb off putting. Yet not something we haven't done in a club setting when a guy, woman or even couple (some fab couple on the scene who are both cheating) ticks the other boxes despite not being an endearing feature. And in all fairness doesn't detract from the fun of the play if they tick the other boxes.

At the end of the day we are here to satisfy our own desires not to police the morals of other people who's shoes we don't stand in.

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By *reakbedsnotheartsMan
2 weeks ago

bedford

"I think you could also use the point in fact that if a guy sleeps with a married woman he gets a pat on the back and others think its hot but if a woman sleeps with a married man its viewed as morally wrong/homewrecker.

I personally stay in my own lane and do me and dont be the morality police to anyone else as its not my business 🤷‍♀️"

Definitely agree

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By *ot_spicedCouple
2 weeks ago

Queenstown

As a couple, we always play together, so we never do anything behind the other's back.

As for people that we meet, no judgement.

Whatever situation other people are in, is their lifestyle to manage.

We have met married guys, and women, and have yet to encounter any problem

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By *ealArtfulDodgerMan
2 weeks ago

Newcastle

"I agree with a few comments on this topic. I don’t have an issue if a guy is married and he tells me because as another lady said it’s not me cheating. However most men aren’t honest about their status and always want to meet “next Wednesday or an afternoon “ "

This I feel hits the nail on the head..

Men, Women & Couples on Fab & in life are often liars..

We all lie, white lies personally.

Yet absolute lies nonetheless!

Swinging for me is attending clubs, engaging with Men, Women & MF Copules & especially club staff.

Sex is why we exist and apart from Trump, Putin and WW III

We shall always exist.!

Personally I could not cheat on a significant other..

However when not dating or in a relationship..

I use Fab and get plenty of action at clubs..

You can all wake up now as I've shut the F Up!

Arthur xx

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By *pgroupsexMan
2 weeks ago

Kingston

I don't think you can simply judge all men that are here, and in relationships (married or not), by the same, one size fits all, "it's wrong" standard.

I'm not married, but I've been with my life partner for over 30 years and I have no interest in harming that very committed relationship or indeed, and I think importantly, the relationship of any couple I meet in these parts.

You won't get any of that "leave him for me" nonsense here, for me this is about having sex with a couple (actually my favourite thing if everyone is really up for it!) and hopefully enhancing their scenario and enjoyment, risk free; I absolutely don't want, or indeed need, anything like (in conventional, i.e. not Fab terms) an 'affair' or to nick someone's wife.

I'm not going into the detail of how my private life works in a public forum, but my partner and I no longer have sex due to medical complications on her part. In the past though, we've done loads together, including living for a long while in a ménage à trois.

It's a personal head fuck, for her, that things are the way they are, and while I certainly could discuss this with her (and know I would 100% get her approval), doing so would ultimately be very hurtful and make her feel worse about things than she already does.

Everyone's scenario is obviously different, but tarring me with the same brush, as someone having their cake and eating it, is way too simplistic IMHO.

Apologies if the idioms seem a tad too much

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By *ayHaychMan
2 weeks ago

Leeds (Home) / Sheffield (Work)

I don’t have it in my profile as it often attracts abusive messages, however I do mention it in the first or second message when chatting. I find for the people who are happy to meet, they appreciate that I am discreet, NSA, and the fact I won’t be playing silly beggars and pestering them if things don’t work out for additional meets. However, yes, availability can be difficult…

I think there are a lot more women and couples on here that enjoy married men, than people wish to admit. It’s taboo isn’t it, many of them don’t have it in their profiles and only disclose they enjoy married men in private messages.

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By *tephanie63Woman
2 weeks ago

BRIDGWATER

I used to meet married men but I don't anymore.. They generally can't host. I can't be arsed with hearing about mens marital difficulties anymore.

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By *tormchasingCouple
2 weeks ago

Essex

It's so hard to vet whether someone is genuinely single or cheating. Even with couples, we have met with people who we suspect are playing outside of their own respective marriages without their real partners knowing.

For us, we don't judge, it's their business and as long as it doesn't bring drama to our door it's fine.

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By *aradiselost747 OP Couple
2 weeks ago

dundonald

"It's so hard to vet whether someone is genuinely single or cheating. Even with couples, we have met with people who we suspect are playing outside of their own respective marriages without their real partners knowing.

For us, we don't judge, it's their business and as long as it doesn't bring drama to our door it's fine.

This is kinda the avenue we r going down

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By *tmostakiss1Man
2 weeks ago

Mainly use this if I was travelling with work and have a hotel room to share.

Try not to play too close to home, and would ideally look for someone in the same situation or at least a willing couple who want an extra

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By *orth_London_Guy100Man
2 weeks ago

London

For us, we don't judge, it's their business and as long as it doesn't bring drama to our door it's fine.

This is kinda the avenue we r going down "

I quite agree: it's their business, if they can justify it, and if your not deeply involved, why not!

Personally, I do like meeting / hooking up with married "straight" guys! They're not that straight!

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By *herrybakewellCouple
2 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We have been approached with these situations both solo and as a couple.

For us its always a no, people tend to get found out, and we don't need the drama.

Mr.

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By *ssex BareMan
2 weeks ago

Southend

I'm married wife went through the menopause many years ago has no interest in sex although we were naturist/swingers together before hand. She knows I'm on here not interested in details. We share a house because we couldn't afford to get one each if we parted.

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By *lym4realCouple
2 weeks ago

plymouth

Well if they are upfront/honest about it then it's down to personal choice surely ? but known way to many who've been caught out by it and can and does get rather messy rather quickly and so aslong as you are prepared for any fall out ? but seems some on hereaccept females that are attached without any blame/insult etc etc being attached to them a some kind of weird double standards at play ! and yes we got caught out as seen him with his partner and kids and the fact he had lied that's what pissed off Mrs4 so much ( As Plymland is a quite small place and so the odds of getting caught are ??) otherwise he could still be coming around and ...xxx

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By *ornym66Man
2 weeks ago

Col /ips

"I'm married wife went through the menopause many years ago has no interest in sex although we were naturist/swingers together before hand. She knows I'm on here not interested in details. We share a house because we couldn't afford to get one each if we parted. "

Same as you m8 but we didn't swing or naturists

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By *erseykevMan
2 weeks ago

St Helier

If the lady or couple read the profile before slagging you off they would realise that we all have our reasons for being on this site

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By *ssex BareMan
2 weeks ago

Southend

Same as you m8 but we didn't swing or naturists "

Good luck with your search finding someone

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By *outhstaffscoupleCouple
2 weeks ago

cannock

Honestly were not bothered if someone we meet is married. They're usually going to be pretty discreet about things anyway.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I really don't think it's worth it.

I've actively avoided cheaters for as long as I can remember, but thanks to a certain adept liar I still ended up with a screaming wife on my doorstep not so long ago.

People have their reasons for doing whatever they're doing. But I don't want to be caught in the crossfire. And if someone is that dishonest with the person they pretend to live, what chance has a fuck job on the side got of getting respect and honesty out of them 💜

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By *ockatwoCouple
2 weeks ago

leeds

"I really don't think it's worth it.

I've actively avoided cheaters for as long as I can remember, but thanks to a certain adept liar I still ended up with a screaming wife on my doorstep not so long ago.hear hear xx

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
2 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I really don't think it's worth it.

I've actively avoided cheaters for as long as I can remember, but thanks to a certain adept liar I still ended up with a screaming wife on my doorstep not so long ago.

It's usually hard enough to match free time with someone single or a married couple due to work/life balances, childcare commitments and other responsibilities.

Overcomplicating things further because your time is restricted by when you can get away from a spouse/partner is just one extra hurdle to overcome. There's enough genuinely single folk and couples in happy relationships to not need to add additional complications into the mix, and that's before we go down the road of 'consent' of course.

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By *axtanMan
2 weeks ago

los Cristianos now

Who cares!!

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
2 weeks ago

kendal

Nobody knows why anyone else is here though do they?.....

How far do people want other people to go to prove they're not in a relationship.... like do they want to do a home visit and check there is no partner present in thier lives?

For me personally, I'm here for my own gain, to scratch my own itches and satisfy myself.

It's not my place, or responsibility to keep other people's houses in order.

People have a plethora of reason why they won't do things like....

Accommodate (I don't ever accommodate and never will, after a fabber turned up at my house, unannounced in the middle of the day, whilst my children were at home)

Meet in the evenings (people have children, and no childcare apart from school, some people work nights or shifts, ir have evening commitments, not everybody has the luxury of only working 9 to 5 5 days a week, i cant remember the last weekend i had off work, as im sure many others cant)

Chat at certain times (again, things like work, children, lives, hobbies etc all take priority for some, over swinging)

That doesn't make them a cheat or an unfaithful partner to someone else, it just means they have a life, and commitments outside of swinging that take priority.

Have I met married men and women before? Yes.

Will I meet them in the future? Yes.

Am I going to steal someone's husband/wife? Absolutely NOT!

That's not why I'm here!!

The vast majority are here, like me, to satisfy thier sexual desires, have fun and enjoy the lifestyle.

I'm not about to start interrogating potential playmates about thier home life etc..... because to be very frank about it.... I don't actually care.

If we look at it in a very black and white kind of fashion the vast majority of people are here to fulfill fantasies and experience the lifestyle.....

To the vast majority of couples, I am essentially just a flesh light with a face.

To the vast majority a single male is essentially just a dildo with a voice,

And to most people other couple are just the perfect mix of both....

Aren't they?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"How far do people want other people to go to prove they're not in a relationship.... like do they want to do a home visit and check there is no partner present in thier lives?"

Pretty much yeah. After that screaming wife on my doorstep I've not been with anyone new without first seeing where they live or at least talking directly to at least one of their partners 💜

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By *orknmindy21Couple
2 weeks ago

Newtownards

Not for us can have too many repercussions

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By *bi HaiveMan
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2 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

To the vast majority of couples, I am essentially just a flesh light with a face.

To the vast majority a single male is essentially just a dildo with a voice,

And to most people other couple are just the perfect mix of both....

Aren't they?

Nope.

I like to think of people as human beings, with individual personalities, their own preferences, wants and desires.

Not simply a lump of flesh to use as a means of getting off.

If people want to see others as just tools or a means to an end that's their prerogative. Likewise if they're happy to be seen as such themselves then likewise.

But I and many I know need more than just a convenient hole or human dildo to enjoy swinging. And I like to think I'm more than just a human didlo for someone else's enjoyment. 🤷‍♂️

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By *an SummersMan
2 weeks ago

Near you?

To the vast majority of couples, I am essentially just a flesh light with a face.

To the vast majority a single male is essentially just a dildo with a voice,

And to most people other couple are just the perfect mix of both....

Aren't they?

Nope.

I like to think of people as human beings, with individual personalities, their own preferences, wants and desires.

Not simply a lump of flesh to use as a means of getting off.

If people want to see others as just tools or a means to an end that's their prerogative. Likewise if they're happy to be seen as such themselves then likewise.

But I and many I know need more than just a convenient hole or human dildo to enjoy swinging. And I like to think I'm more than just a human didlo for someone else's enjoyment. 🤷‍♂️"

Oh, I’ve definitely just been a hired cock for (largely) the male to get his kicks watching the Mrs being pleasured and fucked more times than I care to mention. Until I got used to the red flags and spot those who fancy something mutual.

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By *ssex BareMan
2 weeks ago

Southend

"Nobody knows why anyone else is here though do they?.....

How far do people want other people to go to prove they're not in a relationship.... like do they want to do a home visit and check there is no partner present in thier lives?

For me personally, I'm here for my own gain, to scratch my own itches and satisfy myself.

It's not my place, or responsibility to keep other people's houses in order.

People have a plethora of reason why they won't do things like....

Accommodate (I don't ever accommodate and never will, after a fabber turned up at my house, unannounced in the middle of the day, whilst my children were at home)

Chat at certain times (again, things like work, children, lives, hobbies etc all take priority for some, over swinging)

That doesn't make them a cheat or an unfaithful partner to someone else, it just means they have a life, and commitments outside of swinging that take priority.

Have I met married men and women before? Yes.

Will I meet them in the future? Yes.

Am I going to steal someone's husband/wife? Absolutely NOT!

That's not why I'm here!!

The vast majority are here, like me, to satisfy thier sexual desires, have fun and enjoy the lifestyle.

I'm not about to start interrogating potential playmates about thier home life etc..... because to be very frank about it.... I don't actually care.

If we look at it in a very black and white kind of fashion the vast majority of people are here to fulfill fantasies and experience the lifestyle.....

To the vast majority of couples, I am essentially just a flesh light with a face.

To the vast majority a single male is essentially just a dildo with a voice,

And to most people other couple are just the perfect mix of both....

Aren't they?

Very well said

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

Meeting someone who is cheating is not ideal. I have done it unknowingly once and they told me after we'd played a couple of times. I was furious that they had lied to me.

I've also found that people who are attached often are not available at the times I am free (eg weekends and evenings), able to host or they have to rush and do a quick fuck and go .... which really is rather unsatisfactory and mediocre sex.

Then there is not wanting drama to land on your door step because their other half suddenly found out.

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By *xfordjohnMan
2 weeks ago

Oxford

My thoughts about this question are quite ambivalent. I've only ever played with my partners or with their consent, but I am now meeting a cheating wife (or so she claims to be). Knowing that she lies to her partner makes me cautious in opening up to her on a personal level as I don't feel I can trust her, so to me it does slightly take the edge off the experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
2 weeks ago

Absolutely no problem meeting someone else who is married and cheating. I actually find it quite hot. It can be messy though and hard work.

My opinion is im here for nu own fun. If your a willing adult and you like the risk then we'll lets have fun

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

"If the lady or couple read the profile before slagging you off they would realise that we all have our reasons for being on this site "

Nobody is saying you don't, but equally many of us have our own reasons for not wanting to meet anyone here on the sly too.

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By *ittlemisshotbotCouple
2 weeks ago

near you

"What’s everyone’s opinion on meeting married dudes who are clearly in here without consent?

Was always a no for me (Sarah) but Gareth has met a few married women and men and the sex is awesome.

Good handsome single dudes on here seem to be getting thin on ground .

Each to their own, personally that’s my exact criteria

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
2 weeks ago

Coventry

"I really don't think it's worth it.

I've actively avoided cheaters for as long as I can remember, but thanks to a certain adept liar I still ended up with a screaming wife on my doorstep not so long ago.

I think this is a risk when it comes to meeting people in the context of a normal meet. I would say things are different in a club setting. Clubs are almost a different time and space detatched from the outside world. In all fairness in clubs people tend just to fuck who they're attracted to rather than ask too many background details like are you single or what's your age, etc. When we have got talking to singles and couples you'd be suprised (or maybe not) how many people in clubs are cheating.

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By *uncornladMan
2 weeks ago

runcorn

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By *ittlebirdWoman
2 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

"I really don't think it's worth it.

I've actively avoided cheaters for as long as I can remember, but thanks to a certain adept liar I still ended up with a screaming wife on my doorstep not so long ago.

Couldn’t agree more. I don’t want the drama and I do have a life outside of fab that I’m not going to move around to accommodate someone else’s partner that knows nothing of their cheating spouse.

That and I can’t abide lies of any kind 😘

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By *tlanshiaWoman
2 weeks ago

Chatham

Ironically, and this is something I think some men struggle with.

In order to have sex with someone, I have to be able to trust them, if they're own wife who they agreed to love and remain faithful too can't trust them, why should I?

Id there wife who they share a life and kids with can't trust them to ensure they're sexually safe, why would I feel safe with them?

By cheating you demonstrate that your untrustworthy, which makes you unattractive. Male or female.

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By *23RouteCouple
2 weeks ago

Huddersfield

No problem so far !

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
2 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"I really don't think it's worth it.

I've actively avoided cheaters for as long as I can remember, but thanks to a certain adept liar I still ended up with a screaming wife on my doorstep not so long ago.

It's less of a risk in clubs in as much as the wife is unlikely to get your home address by following him when she gets suspicious.

A one off fuck at a club night is generally less risky and involved than actually meeting other people properly 💜

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
2 weeks ago

Merseyside

For us we won’t meet married/ involved peoples whose partners aren’t aware - no judgement just not for us as don’t want to be part of upset or drama

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By *ddfellowMan
2 weeks ago

wirral

I's say the majority of guys I meet are married, and I have no issue with that, in fact prefer it as they are far more likely to turn up, and have a good idea of what they want.

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By *heknobbyoneMan
2 weeks ago

gateshead

My wife has advanced MS and any sexlife is a distant memory now, I couldn’t possibly leave her but I can’t face the rest of my life without at least the prospect of some fun now and again.

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By *oneyandbearCouple
2 weeks ago

Dundee

We like the idea of a married guy or two

But realistically they are a pain to arrange a meet and don’t usually host

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By *heHotwifePairCouple
2 weeks ago

South

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By *heHotwifePairCouple
2 weeks ago

South

"We like the idea of a married guy or two

But realistically they are a pain to arrange a meet and don’t usually host "

Exactly this

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By *K lad 89Man
1 week ago

kilkenny

It’s a lot easier to cheat outside of fab when you meet someone on a night out.

I find the wedding ring is a big attraction to a lot of women from my experience, maybe it’s the good looks to!

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By *.hrisMan
1 week ago

Bath

I might put a ring on my finger and start telling people that I'm a married guy, see if that gets some attention

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By *e voyageur sexuelMan
1 week ago

Near you

You have to be careful when speaking to someone who is on here without consent when married.

Its generally a huge red flag regarding their behaviours and how they treat people in general let alone the action itself. Lying as a default lifestyle.

Tread lightly

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
1 week ago

Gloucester

No matter your gender if your hear without consent it’s not swinging and we (I have a couples profile too) won’t meet you.

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By *hortieWoman
1 week ago

Northampton

I'm here for my own fun, not to be the moral guardian of others.

Piss in my pool though, and I will shit in yours.

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By *ayPrimeMan
1 week ago

Leeds

Is it that time of the week again already?

I feel like there should be a blue tick style sticker with a thumbs up or down for what you think of infidelity.

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By *ealArtfulDodgerMan
13 hours ago

Newcastle

Married women are welcomed with

open arms by pretty much everyone without the slightest judgement or comment.

This isn't me complaining, it's just the truth.

However, men shouldn't really take this personally.

Rejecting married men is nothing more than a simple and effective way of filtering a sizeable chunk of the requests.... and frankly, that's fair enough."

As a Single Male, this is exactly what is 💯 so very wrong with Fab in general terms 🤜🤛

I started off 'club swinging' & have never looked back tbh

Fab is just Pornhub for the Masses & Meets/Meats are as rare as 🦄💩

Not a criticism whatsoever, yet it's so true 😳

wykyk guys n gals

Just awaiting to be lambasted, like the proverbial... 🤭🤭🤭

Arthur xx

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
10 hours ago

Coleraine

All but two guys we have met over the years had a GF of was married. Not had a single incident yet and some wonderful meeting because we get to know them, understand them and always plan things well.

We have no interest in other peoples relationships or judging people (as happens frequently on this site) we simply wanted meets that worked well and guys that suited us.

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By *ngelLordCouple
10 hours ago

Newport

"All but two guys we have met over the years had a GF of was married. Not had a single incident yet and some wonderful meeting because we get to know them, understand them and always plan things well.

We have no interest in other peoples relationships or judging people (as happens frequently on this site) we simply wanted meets that worked well and guys that suited us.

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By *orksBBW36Woman
10 hours ago

Mansfield

Hard no for me. Just my preference.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
10 hours ago

The Heart of Hollownest, Dudleyish.

Regardless of gender we aren't meeting anyone who is playing away.

Tell your story walking.

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By *23RouteCouple
9 hours ago

Huddersfield

My wife loves cheating guys !

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By *tleystagMan
9 hours ago

ilkley

"My wife loves cheating guys ! "

Oh MY. Hope you are ready for the influx of DMs

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By *heSilverFox1701Man
9 hours ago

Near Sleaford

Why was it disappointing? Surely it doesn’t matter if their married or not?

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By *ewshygirlWoman
8 hours ago

Ormskirk

Why was it disappointing? Surely it doesn’t matter if their married or not?"

When people lie, better not to have them in your life in any capacity. Allowing them into my peroneal space just feels even worse. There are plenty of honest and nice people I'd rather fuck

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By *omandsub72Couple
8 hours ago

Barnsley

As a couple we don't mind as it's not our problem. However we find it can be hard for them to message regularly so we can get to know each other and they can only meet certain times

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
8 hours ago

Carlisle usually

Why was it disappointing? Surely it doesn’t matter if their married or not?"

If it doesn't matter, there's be no reason not to mention it before that point.

The choice not to, when nobody can claim they're unaware that it's a contentious issue that many people won't want to be involved in and telling the truth may prevent them from getting laid, shows how much respect they have for your consent 💜

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By *arc19Man
8 hours ago

filey

I suppose you only live once

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By *issmorganWoman
7 hours ago

Calderdale innit

Why was it disappointing? Surely it doesn’t matter if their married or not?"
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Of course it matters, to those who don't want to meet anyone cheating on a partner.

The fact they didn't tell them, says it all.

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