FabSwingers.com forum: Photos, fears and friends

By *lcherasDreamTime OP Couple
7 weeks ago

Manchester

Hi.

Question for other secret life/secretly bi people.

We haven't been members long, we uploaded some photos to our profile but got nervous and hid them even though I'd removed/camouflaged identifying tattoos etc. also they were quite explicit and I wasn't fully comfortable with that either.

Obviously a profile without photos isn't the best, but also worried about being recognised by locals,friends, family etc.

Maybe my question is more to do with how to get past the fear of being recognised than photo recommendations.

I don't necessarily want to plaster our bits on here, nor our faces so could do with tasteful suggestions that meet somewhere in the middle if you have any please.

For clarity, husband is bi (not openly), we're looking for bi male fwb for him, that's not really something we want people we know-knowing about us.

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By *rastarMan
7 weeks ago

london

"Hi.

Question for other secret life/secretly bi people.

Obviously a profile without photos isn't the best, but also worried about being recognised by locals,friends, family etc.

Maybe my question is more to do with how to get past the fear of being recognised than photo recommendations.

I don't necessarily want to plaster our bits on here, nor our faces so could do with tasteful suggestions that meet somewhere in the middle if you have any please.

For clarity, husband is bi (not openly), we're looking for bi male fwb for him, that's not really something we want people we know-knowing about us.

Please post any replies in forum rather than by private message.

Embrace this kind of life, simple xx

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By *lcherasDreamTime OP Couple
7 weeks ago

Manchester

Embrace this kind of life, simple xx"

I wish we were brave enough.

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By *ndymac888Man
7 weeks ago

Dumbarton

Do you travel at all ?

If privacy is important to you then maybe pick a different city, you don’t need to make up excuses to go for weekends with your parter.

That way you can set up a profile in that post code and it will maybe build your confidence going forward, you could also check out the club scenes in that area if that’s your thing.

The only other alternative is the direct approach to the profiles that catch your eye and set a picture as an introduction so they can yay or nay without losing to much time.

Hope this helps 👍

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By *xfordjohnMan
7 weeks ago

Oxford

As someone who also has to live in a parallel universe when being sexually active,I've been through the same thought process. I asked myself whether anyone would recognise me without a face, and concluded that as they wouldn't expect me to be on this site and had never seem me naked, it's enough to hide one's face.

In your case, why not try photos below neck level, with nice clothing hiding your privates if that worries you. There are plenty of other profiles that do that and only reveal themselves when they've got to a level of confidence with the people they want to interact with.

One step at a time and you'll find the right level for yourselves, I'm sure.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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7 weeks ago

East Sussex

Plausible deniability

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By *easidersCouple
7 weeks ago

Wirral

Get yourselves to the next Northwich Sauna bi-day Friday, July 4th. No need to post photos here, you can check people out when you get there and see if anybody is suitable for what you’re looking to experience. No chance of being seen by anybody who’s not also in a similar situation.

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By *iscreetfuncpl12Couple
7 weeks ago

Somerset

You don’t need to have a photo that could identify you, just something that gives a general impression of the male’s body as you seeking a male/TV for him. Crop/blur it. Single males are easy to find. If you feel your job could be at risk by being exposed as bi (it won’t be), imagine how your employer may feel about your liking of class As detailed on your profile. Seriously, I would leave that bit for the a private conversation after you have found someone of interest.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
7 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

Your best workaround might be to have a straight couple profile with photos and a single bi profile which is less identifiable. You can then refer someone you’re interested in to your couple profile after chatting if you feel comfortable with that. Set your location somewhere you could travel to rather than exactly where you are.

The references to class As are much more likely to get you into trouble than being bi though.

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