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has swinging ever broke up ur relationship or almost??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

basically the questions in the title has anyone ever lost someone they loved or almost. or fell in love with someone else whilst swinging???

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By *wingerdelightCouple
over a year ago

eastliegh

For us its had the opposite affect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If either party has insecurities about either themself, their partner or their relationship, becoming involved with the swinging scene is not adviseable imho.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

having sex with someone else while partner there or knows isnt cheating but as soon as say even texts or phonecalls exchanged without partners permission would u be miffed??

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By *acciWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I started to swing with my ex,we only played with women (his choice not mine). I let him have sex with other women,i arranged the women for us. But he still felt the need to meet behind my back,was just greedy i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say it has?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

If the idea/ or the practice of swinging were to put a strain on the relationship then there is something not quite right with the relationship and that needs to be addressed beforehand. I have seen couples at parties where there seemed to be issues of jealousy and insecurity and it is not healthy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"having sex with someone else while partner there or knows isnt cheating but as soon as say even texts or phonecalls exchanged without partners permission would u be miffed??"

It would, for me, depend on the content and context of the text and whether the partner was open and patent with me about them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said there is no room for jealousy or insecurities is swinging, and if the couple had these before they started to meet!! Well it's asking for disaster! Honesty and communication are key in this life style!!

And as long as the texts were open for both to see! Can't see how it's deemed as cheating!

Cheating starts when things are hidden from the other person in the relationship

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"having sex with someone else while partner there or knows isnt cheating but as soon as say even texts or phonecalls exchanged without partners permission would u be miffed??"

I wouldn't use the word permission but if texts or phonecalls were being excahnged without my knowledge then I'd be more tham miffed and A would feel the same. Its one of the reasons we have issues with guys who contact us and direct all their messages to me alone, we're not interested in doing any of this behind the others back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost has that's why we've stopped for a while insecurities and confidence issues weren't there when we started 5 years ago but they are here now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"having sex with someone else while partner there or knows isnt cheating but as soon as say even texts or phonecalls exchanged without partners permission would u be miffed??"

Depends if they were trying to hide it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Almost has that's why we've stopped for a while insecurities and confidence issues weren't there when we started 5 years ago but they are here now "

Things change and good for you for recognising it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us its had the opposite affect"
..Same here brought us closer and more open with each other.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"For us its had the opposite affect"

I like that

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"For us its had the opposite affect..Same here brought us closer and more open with each other. "

I'd say we're more open with each other in some ways but as someone said above issues can arise that weren't previously there and you need to keep lines of communication well and truly open.

I don't think swinging will break a relationship up that wasn't destined to failure anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us its had the opposite affect

I like that "

That's lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"having sex with someone else while partner there or knows isnt cheating but as soon as say even texts or phonecalls exchanged without partners permission would u be miffed??

It would, for me, depend on the content and context of the text and whether the partner was open and patent with me about them.

"

We met a couple where after we met the male half of the couple tested crystal an awful lot. Nothing inappropriate but the frequency was a little OTT. we've never met them again because of it and rarely swap numbers now.

crystal did nothing wrong and no drama here but id have been more than miffed if she'd been initiating that much contact.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"For us its had the opposite affect

I like that

That's lovely "

So are you Minnie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For us its had the opposite affect

I like that

That's lovely

So are you Minnie "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My 1st ffm with my ex he left me for the other girl 2 weeks later .

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By *mokeynbubblyCouple
over a year ago

poole


"For us its had the opposite affect"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes lost a f/b who was also my closest friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had our moments.

Good advice about communication.

This has always been the underlying problem when we've not had a good time.

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By *obroyman17Man
over a year ago


"For us its had the opposite affect

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are they still together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep .. I fell out of lust with my ex and started to swing to see if it would re ignite my flame .. Alas my flame was super charged by the variety and change of partners and did not re ignite for our relationship to survive .

He was jealous of the "new " me , despite being in a relationship with his lady half his age who is in an open marriage . He likes commitment , I don't .. Simple ... But we live under same roof to bring young family up .

I am not in the slightest , jealous or envious of his young lover ... I am very very happy she can give him what I can't ... Win win situation

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

me !!! my husband of 22 yrs ran off

with a woman we had met thru swinging

and i wasnt aware we had problems .

he just not got balls to say to me i not love you i need to move out for a while.

so here am i broken hearted wondering wtf

happened to my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As others have said there is no room for jealousy or insecurities is swinging, and if the couple had these before they started to meet!! Well it's asking for disaster! Honesty and communication are key in this life style!!

And as long as the texts were open for both to see! Can't see how it's deemed as cheating!

Cheating starts when things are hidden from the other person in the relationship "

I absolutely agree with this, perhaps I should not have mentioned trying swinging to my ex wife as we were mid way through a row that led to our break up ! I really loved that teapot too ! She never did like my apparently sordid past !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It nearly broke us up when we first came on here a few years ago, with hindsight I wasn't ready for it.

This time we came on here it was my suggestion and so far we haven't had even a brief moment of jealousy. We talk everything through in detail, usually more than once and this time around I think its made us closer than ever

Kay xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has only strengthened our relationship, having the total honesty and transparency means there is no lack of trust!

We started out as swingers and occasionally we do play with other couples but our play time is becoming more cuckold/hotwife by nature and I personally love it.

I speak for myself but I feel closer and love RG more than anyone else before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, infact the opposite its brought as together more and made our relationship stronger.

We know what fantasies we both have, and what we are interested in doing. We know the types of people the other is into so makes it easier when it comes to meeting others.

We know each others boundaries when it comes to playing with others, and can trust each other in that regard.

We play as a couple for each other, not as individuals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"basically the questions in the title has anyone ever lost someone they loved or almost. or fell in love with someone else whilst swinging??? "

yes my relationship broke up due to a woman he met.

she got way to close to him and my children, called herself second mummy to them, tried to have ex's child and told me she might try it because everyone would be happy. so many other things and now they are dating because he loves her more than me and we are still living together which sucks!

I did fall in love myself with a guy and its been great for a long time now but I loved him and my ex very much, I didn't love one more but my ex did.

I won't be making the same mistake again.

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"No, infact the opposite its brought as together more and made our relationship stronger.

We know what fantasies we both have, and what we are interested in doing. We know the types of people the other is into so makes it easier when it comes to meeting others.

Definately agree and it has been so horny exploring diferent erotic pleasures and finding out what each other find horny, some quite surprising ones

We know each others boundaries when it comes to playing with others, and can trust each other in that regard.

We play as a couple for each other, not as individuals."

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"No, infact the opposite its brought as together more and made our relationship stronger.

We know what fantasies we both have, and what we are interested in doing. We know the types of people the other is into so makes it easier when it comes to meeting others.

We know each others boundaries when it comes to playing with others, and can trust each other in that regard.

We play as a couple for each other, not as individuals."

Definately agree and it has been so horny exploring diferent erotic pleasures and finding out what each other find horny, some quite surprising ones

We know each others boundaries when it comes to playing with others, and can trust each other in that regard.

We play as a couple for each other, not as individuals

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

if the relationship is at the stage where swinging could potentially break it up... its not something I would do in the first place.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if the relationship is at the stage where swinging could potentially break it up... its not something I would do in the first place....."

sometimes you just don't know what the other person's will do or your partner. they go crazy on NRE and forget you.

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