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"Are any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single men or are we being too picky" Well any consolation I am a genuine single man and no time waster OP | |||
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"Are any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single men or are we being too picky" There are still some of us genuine single guys around who don't mess couples about | |||
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"Are any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single men or are we being too picky" No you’re not being picky - we’re finding it a struggle, too 🙄 all we want is a genuinely single, genuinely bi guy, for some nsa fun! | |||
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"Are any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single men or are we being too picky No you’re not being picky - we’re finding it a struggle, too 🙄 all we want is a genuinely single, genuinely bi guy, for some nsa fun!" Single bi guy for meets with couples | |||
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"Are any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single men or are we being too picky" Depends where you are looking...🙋♂️😇😘😂😂xx | |||
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"Are any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single men or are we being too picky" No, you're not being picky at any level! It's your perogative! Having been on FAB for over 15 years out of 35 in this life choice, I've heard this comment numerous times by Ladies and Couples. There ARE real Single Males out there but inevitably, it comes down to sifting through to not only the profiles on offer, but also the style and attitude on display and within the approach message content from each individual! | |||
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"OP if you are relying solely on FAB to find meets it will be harder. Organised socials are the way to go, just by turning up any single guys there are in the top 5%" We find this a good rule in general with everone too to befair. I think anyone who puts skin in the game at a club or organised event is far more likely to be serious and know the ropes to some extent. Far less flaky than the Internet and far less pretenders. Plus its far easier to get an instant feel for people and chemistry in person. This is why we pretty much exclusively look for people out in the real world than online. | |||
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"Nothing wrong with being "Picky" as we are very "Picky" but there are some good ones on here but agree on best way to meet males is at socials events though as then you sort of know they know the rules/score ! " Fab profile alert | |||
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"Nothing wrong with being "Picky" as we are very "Picky" but there are some good ones on here but agree on best way to meet males is at socials events though as then you sort of know they know the rules/score ! " All well and good if you have a social event local to you, but who wants to travel miles to enter a room full of strangers? The only benefit I can see from that, is getting your profile verified, but verifications do not necessarily lead to actual meets... | |||
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"Nothing wrong with being "Picky" as we are very "Picky" but there are some good ones on here but agree on best way to meet males is at socials events though as then you sort of know they know the rules/score ! " if we were looking for a single guy this is where we would start.. or at least finding one with social verifications... Or regular club verifications especially with good feedback from club regulars. To be fair we apply this to couples and ladies too. | |||
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"Are any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single men or are we being too picky" Nothing wrong with being picky but for me there’s picky and there’s realistic/unrealistic and that applies to everyone’s searches/wants and needs. For me as a rule I won’t meet without verifications but its what works for you OP | |||
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"Well it's always more fun if there is some attraction and fun vibes between everyone who is playing, so yeah got tobe a little picky." I think this is a point that lots of guys miss, especially with a straight male couple. The platonic chemistry between the guys is also really important. It's team work after all and something for everyone to enjoy. So it's not all about impressing the woman, you need to gel well with the guy too. So you can't go about ignoring the guy, you have to gel with him too. Seen this a few times in clubs. Genrally guys don't like it and neither to their women. And even if the female likes you if the guy isn't getting the right vibes off you he's going to veto you out. 3 way chemistry is so important, even in a straight male couple. Which of course will always be more difficult to find than a one on one situations. (Obviously this may be a little different in some dynamics) | |||
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"Are any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single men or are we being too picky" I’ve found that once you get stuck in a rut of choosing not to meet people, sometimes it’s hard to get out of it. You’re not being too fussy. You’re probably used to being selective and have subconsciously lost confidence in men, so now have a mental barrier preventing you wanting to meet. | |||
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"Are any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single men or are we being too picky" Women/couples have it tricky, there’s just so much choice. There’s reason to be picky, of course. You think it’s hard getting a meet being a woman/couple? Trying being the genuine attractive single guy 😂 | |||
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"We we're out and looking the other week. We put it on status, and dropped messages to some on line and near. 3 of them said, yes & they we're on way. 1 said they we,re at our location and could'nt see us. All 3 we're no shows! NO, we don't need messages saying, ask you next time, or you would'nt let us down. I'm posting to show, couples get let down by single men too. " Had 2 single guys no show in the past year.... | |||
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"Are any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single men or are we being too picky" To be fair it doesn't help when chatting to a couple and then they block you because I said I was off out om a fab meet that night...🙄🤦♂️😢 | |||
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"Are any other couples finding it hard lately to meet genuine single men or are we being too picky" Yes incredibly hard on here as either flakey or fakey lol Not even many club nights that allow single guys either | |||
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"Unfortunately I do not think it's just men, I think it's swinging in general, it really does seem to be dying a death. Too many arrogant self entitled people making ridiculous demands. I think people have lost sight of what swinging is actually about "We're very choosy on the couples profile. Why would anyone not want to stick to their preferences and lower them just to get a meet? I think this is the common misconception some men have on swinging sites, that because there's an abundance of them that it should be easy for women and couples to find company. It's not. There could be double the number of men, but if all those extra people still don't fit what a woman or couple wants then the extra bodies just make for more work searching for the right people. I don't think people have lost sight of what swinging is about. I think many have joined the site with preconceived notions and high expectations that simply being here will somehow get them meets and sex. It won't. People being choosy is not a negative, especially when it comes to couples. They don't need to find someone else to enjoy sex. They have eachother. Adding someone else to their sex life is an additional element, not their entire sex life, so waiting to find the right person and not just settling should come as no real surprise. | |||
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"Unfortunately I do not think it's just men, I think it's swinging in general, it really does seem to be dying a death. Too many arrogant self entitled people making ridiculous demands. I think people have lost sight of what swinging is actually about
We're very choosy on the couples profile. Why would anyone not want to stick to their preferences and lower them just to get a meet?
I think this is the common misconception some men have on swinging sites, that because there's an abundance of them that it should be easy for women and couples to find company. It's not.
There could be double the number of men, but if all those extra people still don't fit what a woman or couple wants then the extra bodies just make for more work searching for the right people.
I don't think people have lost sight of what swinging is about. I think many have joined the site with preconceived notions and high expectations that simply being here will somehow get them meets and sex. It won't.
People being choosy is not a negative, especially when it comes to couples. They don't need to find someone else to enjoy sex. They have eachother. Adding someone else to their sex life is an additional element, not their entire sex life, so waiting to find the right person and not just settling should come as no real surprise. "Absolutely 100% this!! | |||
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"I think have seen on posts ? Treat Fab as a social ‘ hobby ‘ . Bonus if find friends to meet and yes enjoy company with. Plus added sex ? " As someone who started life on Fab as a single guy I'd 💯% endorse this approach. I never used it as the sole approach to finding company and sex. Swinging has always been a social activity. Whether you're a single or a couple. It's hugely different from just nsa hook ups. Of course people can use the site for those if they choose, but understanding that for many (couples and singles) their swinging lives are just a part of their life and not the sum of it, that it's not simply a means to get laid and that however small, there needs to be an element of connection with others and most definitely attraction to both someone's physical features AND their personality, will go a long way to realising why some people come across to them as choosy, picky, fussy or whatever they want to call it when they find it hard to meet others. Meeting people shouldn't be easy in my mind. That to me would indicate a mindset of being happy to settle for whatever is available at the time just to find a body to have sex with. 🤷♂️ | |||
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"Plenty of us out there.. what’s so difficult ?" What's so difficult is that many are flaky and fail the first fence when it comes to due dilligence | |||
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"I think have seen on posts ? Treat Fab as a social ‘ hobby ‘ . Bonus if find friends to meet and yes enjoy company with. Plus added sex ? As someone who started life on Fab as a single guy I'd 💯% endorse this approach. I never used it as the sole approach to finding company and sex. Swinging has always been a social activity. Whether you're a single or a couple. It's hugely different from just nsa hook ups. Of course people can use the site for those if they choose, but understanding that for many (couples and singles) their swinging lives are just a part of their life and not the sum of it, that it's not simply a means to get laid and that however small, there needs to be an element of connection with others and most definitely attraction to both someone's physical features AND their personality, will go a long way to realising why some people come across to them as choosy, picky, fussy or whatever they want to call it when they find it hard to meet others. Meeting people shouldn't be easy in my mind. That to me would indicate a mindset of being happy to settle for whatever is available at the time just to find a body to have sex with. 🤷♂️" There is another thread on forums about attraction , difficult getting meets . This yes couples . I look at couples and females profiles. If have photo’s then check them . Some meet criteria say mine and profile . But I do not like what I see. Just move on . Yes even at my age . | |||
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"I think have seen on posts ? Treat Fab as a social ‘ hobby ‘ . Bonus if find friends to meet and yes enjoy company with. Plus added sex ? As someone who started life on Fab as a single guy I'd 💯% endorse this approach. I never used it as the sole approach to finding company and sex. Swinging has always been a social activity. Whether you're a single or a couple. It's hugely different from just nsa hook ups. Of course people can use the site for those if they choose, but understanding that for many (couples and singles) their swinging lives are just a part of their life and not the sum of it, that it's not simply a means to get laid and that however small, there needs to be an element of connection with others and most definitely attraction to both someone's physical features AND their personality, will go a long way to realising why some people come across to them as choosy, picky, fussy or whatever they want to call it when they find it hard to meet others. Meeting people shouldn't be easy in my mind. That to me would indicate a mindset of being happy to settle for whatever is available at the time just to find a body to have sex with. 🤷♂️" Yep, this.  | |||
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