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By *andalorians OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Malvern

So, weve been on here a while and have spoken to quite a few lovely people and had a couple of meets. However, we find we are quite picky. Were not models, by any stretch of the imagination and have found that we really have to click with potential "playmates" etc. While we dont see this as a bad thing, we do sometimes think that maybe were just too picky! Has anyone else had this?

S&C

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex

If 'too picky' means not having sex with someone you don't really fancy them I'd say it's a good thing for all concerned

If it means that you're missing chances to have a really good time because you don't like the colour of someone's socks then I'd say it's a bad thing. Unless it's comedy socks then I think it's justified 😆

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By *andalorians OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Malvern

Hahaha not quite the sock, i always wear odd! Just, like to take our time and make sure all the stars are aligned before blasting off lol. Yeah we think we have missdd opportunities but we have a strict rule of, if something doesnt feel right, dont do it

S

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By *he MinionMan
3 weeks ago

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You like what you like. Why would you share yourselves with someone you dont like?

I dont see it as picky at all.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Hahaha not quite the sock, i always wear odd! Just, like to take our time and make sure all the stars are aligned before blasting off lol. Yeah we think we have missdd opportunities but we have a strict rule of, if something doesnt feel right, dont do it

S "

I'm much the same.

I sometimes wish I was more spontaneous and adventurous but I'm not so 🤷‍♀️

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By *ilyandronCouple
3 weeks ago

Bristol

Lily is very picky but always worth the wait.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago


"So, weve been on here a while and have spoken to quite a few lovely people and had a couple of meets. However, we find we are quite picky. Were not models, by any stretch of the imagination and have found that we really have to click with potential "playmates" etc. While we dont see this as a bad thing, we do sometimes think that maybe were just too picky! Has anyone else had this?

S&C"

I (Bev) have been accused of being too fussy on multiple occasions and I'm happy with that.

However, I don't think I'm fussy, but like you, I don't want to be jumping into bed with every guy that messages Hi.

Looks aren't overly important to me but for be to enjoy myself, I have to feel comfortable with a person & for me that means having a chat, then a social. Then and only then will I think about anything else.

We've done the last minute spontaneous meets, they simply don't float my boat.

Do I think I've missed out, absolutely not because no matter how attractive someone is, no matter how good they are in bed, I'm simply not going to enjoy myself if I'm not relaxed & comfortable enough so what's the point?

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By *_n_HCouple
3 weeks ago

donegal

We always find if we can chat and have fun with the couple that’s the main thing , and we are a bit picky 2 but mainly work and life gets in the way more times than not

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By *issmorganWoman
3 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Yep, I'm half a couple and very fussy.

It doesn't help that on most couple profiles, there isn't much of the man shown either.

My other half finds lots of the ladies attractive on couples account's and I generally then don't fancy the fella, when I finally see him.

This is why we've kept our single accounts (we met here).

I've never been a prolific meeter anyway and always need a connection and to find them attractive.

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By *andalorians OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Malvern


"Yep, I'm half a couple and very fussy.

It doesn't help that on most couple profiles, there isn't much of the man shown either.

My other half finds lots of the ladies attractive on couples account's and I generally then don't fancy the fella, when I finally see him.

This is why we've kept our single accounts (we met here).

I've never been a prolific meeter anyway and always need a connection and to find them attractive. "

Yeah i get that to be fair, me and C have different tastes in women so it makes a little difficult to get the right match between everyone

S

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By *andalorians OP   Couple
3 weeks ago

Malvern


"Hahaha not quite the sock, i always wear odd! Just, like to take our time and make sure all the stars are aligned before blasting off lol. Yeah we think we have missdd opportunities but we have a strict rule of, if something doesnt feel right, dont do it

S

I'm much the same.

I sometimes wish I was more spontaneous and adventurous but I'm not so 🤷‍♀️"

Totally get that! I have all the adventurous thoughts but my spontinaity is hard to find. Im neurospicy so i have a few obsticles in that regard

S

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Hahaha not quite the sock, i always wear odd! Just, like to take our time and make sure all the stars are aligned before blasting off lol. Yeah we think we have missdd opportunities but we have a strict rule of, if something doesnt feel right, dont do it

S

I'm much the same.

I sometimes wish I was more spontaneous and adventurous but I'm not so 🤷‍♀️

Totally get that! I have all the adventurous thoughts but my spontinaity is hard to find. Im neurospicy so i have a few obsticles in that regard

S"

I regret it in some ways but you can't radically change who you are as a person. The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak 🤔

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
3 weeks ago

Coleraine


"So, weve been on here a while and have spoken to quite a few lovely people and had a couple of meets. However, we find we are quite picky. Were not models, by any stretch of the imagination and have found that we really have to click with potential "playmates" etc. While we dont see this as a bad thing, we do sometimes think that maybe were just too picky! Has anyone else had this?

S&C"

Nothing wrong with being picky. We think it’s to be expected when you are having sex with new people especially when in a relationship.

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By *w funwifeWoman
3 weeks ago

near taunton

everyone should be picky as your looking for something for you...im very picky but lucky that over the many years on this scene have many good swinging mates too..

being picky means your doing things right

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By *WANDTGCouple
3 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

It's your choice , you have your reasons for being selective. That's why we like a social coffee or pint, if there's laughter and free flowing chat amongst the 4 of us then usually we are up for a second meet.

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By *issmorganWoman
3 weeks ago

Calderdale innit


"So, weve been on here a while and have spoken to quite a few lovely people and had a couple of meets. However, we find we are quite picky. Were not models, by any stretch of the imagination and have found that we really have to click with potential "playmates" etc. While we dont see this as a bad thing, we do sometimes think that maybe were just too picky! Has anyone else had this?

S&C

Nothing wrong with being picky. We think it’s to be expected when you are having sex with new people especially when in a relationship. "

Agree, when you've got a partner at home, you're not gonna just settle for anyone for the sake of it.

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By *erotic_adventureMan
3 weeks ago

London, Scotland & The North,

Picky or not it's ultimately your call and perogative to be as selective as you desire for whatever reason......I very much doubt others opinions should and would affect this if you've decided on your standards

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By *ynergyMan
3 weeks ago

Chelmsford


"So, weve been on here a while and have spoken to quite a few lovely people and had a couple of meets. However, we find we are quite picky. Were not models, by any stretch of the imagination and have found that we really have to click with potential "playmates" etc. While we dont see this as a bad thing, we do sometimes think that maybe were just too picky! Has anyone else had this?

S&C"

Me and the wife having same issues. Either have something but not the other. Frustrating

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By *isskxxyvWoman
3 weeks ago

Reading


"So, weve been on here a while and have spoken to quite a few lovely people and had a couple of meets. However, we find we are quite picky. Were not models, by any stretch of the imagination and have found that we really have to click with potential "playmates" etc. While we dont see this as a bad thing, we do sometimes think that maybe were just too picky! Has anyone else had this?

S&C"

I don’t think there’s such thing as TOO picky OP, you simply know what you want to add and won’t settle. You’ll find the right person/ people eventually!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
3 weeks ago

Leeds

Picky isn't a bad thing, if you aren't feeling it you aren't feeling it.

I need to like people and be attracted to them before I consider sleeping with them, some say that's picky & so be it.

Any holes a goal ain't my thing.

Mrs

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By *ezandCCouple
3 weeks ago

Telford

We are the same, been on here a while and haven’t found what we are looking for, chatted lovely people but not managed to arrange to sort something that works for everyone. Although we are getting much closer.

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