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Is spontaneity dead? Or dying.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
10 weeks ago

When I first started using this site 10 ish years ago people appeared much more interested in meeting up quickly for mutual fun. Now however it seams more and more want to “fall in love” even before the first meet.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
10 weeks ago

Leeds

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
10 weeks ago

Leeds

I don't think people want to fall in love, I think that's slightly dramatic.

People want to be safe and meeting some randomers they've hardly said two words to isn't safe, people want to be attracted to the cock owner they are about to sit in, that isn't wrong.

Spontaneous - a good way to end up on a Netflix documentary.

Mrs

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By *heltered- girlWoman
10 weeks ago

Darlington


"I don't think people want to fall in love, I think that's slightly dramatic.

People want to be safe and meeting some randomers they've hardly said two words to isn't safe, people want to be attracted to the cock owner they are about to sit in, that isn't wrong.

Spontaneous - a good way to end up on a Netflix documentary.

Mrs "

This

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By *enegadeMMan
10 weeks ago

Witney

Spontaneity can develop once you know someone …. So it’s still alive … I guess you / we can’t just expect it for a first meet everytime because attitudes change too…. And if someone feels safer then they can be more obliged to then develop into moments of ‘I have to have you now’

Maybe

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
10 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

We don't want to fall in love. We want to fuck and send the guy on his way.

But we would like to get to know them at least a little bit ya know?

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By *ike_looking_forMan
10 weeks ago

Cumbria

I've had more spontaneous fun in cities where you can actually be close to a lot more people But with a FWB who was in a place I travelled to a lot we had some very spontaneous meets

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By *phrodites AlchemistMan
10 weeks ago

Near you

I think its possible to gauge whether a person is authentic enough to realise such spontaneity.

It happened just the other week

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By *all me FlikWoman
10 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I wouldn't look for spontaneity on the Internet as you still have to organise yourself and it's never instant. I found my partner in a coffee shop, walked over and talked him...for me that's spontaneous. If I see someone I like on a club I'll make the move, for me that's spontaneous.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
10 weeks ago

East Sussex

A lot changes in ten years. We've been through a long period where we were in lockdown and semi lockdown. That makes people approach life differently.

I've never been spontaneous when it comes to meeting strangers from the net though. I always told my kids to be very wary of who they were talking to on the net and never to go and meet them without first establishing exactly who they were and their motives. I see no reason not to follow that advice myself. If that seems like falling in love to you I would agree. It's falling in love with staying safe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
10 weeks ago

Well it created debate so that’s good.

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By *haft009Man
10 weeks ago

Manchester

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By *tr8MrEMan
10 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

Here lays "spontaneous" may it rest in shattered pieces

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
10 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Spontaneity isn't dead. It's happy and alive in many aspects.

Unlike many people who met complete strangers off the internet in private locations on a whim.

I'm happy to be spontaneous with relatively safe situations 💜

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
10 weeks ago

wonderland.

We only do spontaneous at clubs though x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
9 weeks ago

Is that spontaneous if planned in a club??

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
9 weeks ago

wonderland.


"Is that spontaneous if planned in a club?? "
we don't pre arrange anything. So yes.

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By *urves and HeelsWoman
9 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I’m totally spontaneous it’s far more exciting

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