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By *adamm7406 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

leeds

Mrs has mentioned it several times now to visit a swingers club. We have spoken about it and fantasised about it alot.

It's now come to a point where she's actively telling me to make arrangements to visit.

I'm now nervous and scared. I love her to bits but I'm scared once we go it will never be undone.

Should I book something?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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11 weeks ago

East Sussex

First identify what is scaring you and why you think it can never be undone. Then talk to your partner about those things and establish boundaries to ensure those things don't happen. There will be things that scare her and make her nervous too.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
11 weeks ago

South Wales

You really need to be sure that you’re both happy to visit a club before going. And then boundaries, it’s so important to have that discussion beforehand to avoid any awkward situations in a club. Luckily theres no expectations that you have to do anything at a club so you could just take in the atmosphere on your first visit and agree that you’re just there to socialise and meet people and see if you like it xx

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By *adamm7406 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

leeds

Sounds super hot as a fantasy, and wev discussed boundaries etc, just unsure if when it happens there's no going back... we have been discussing it for over a year or so so it's certainly a hot topic

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
11 weeks ago

Central

Best to be sure first and have fully clear details and agreements on what's right and wrong for you.

Get her to review clubs and events, to find the right one for you.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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11 weeks ago

East Sussex


"Sounds super hot as a fantasy, and wev discussed boundaries etc, just unsure if when it happens there's no going back... we have been discussing it for over a year or so so it's certainly a hot topic"

No going back to what?

I think if you're worried that you'll think differently about your partner or relationship just by going to a club then it's probably best not to go.

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By *ou only yolo onceCouple
11 weeks ago

Shropshire

I agree with the others, talk about what you both have in mind and how far you want to go.

Remember, just because you're there doesn't mean you have to do anything with anyone.

We're going to xstasia on the 31st. It has a dance floor and a licence to sell alcohol. With this in mind, we can dance, drink and it can be a night out even if we don't swing, then we can take it or leave it and it was still a good night.

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By *adamm7406 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

leeds

I think I'm just overthinking it , I guess we'll never know till it happens

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By *iniskirtCouple
11 weeks ago

Paisley

For us it’s the Mr who is very keen, I’m just a bit wary about it, it feels like a huge leap and just worry that it might just not be what we want or need and it’s more the fantasy we like x

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
11 weeks ago

Stoke

It's just a club full of like-minded people, there is nothing to be scared of.

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By *intageandginge89Couple
11 weeks ago

Whitefield

We were both beyond anxious when we first went to one. All the anxiety left within about 15 minutes when we realised it was just like a night club, but with people having different fun.

You can make of clubs what you want to x

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
11 weeks ago

Norwich

As others have said. Knowing what you both want and expect from the night is a must. Do you both want to play, only one of you, do you just want to play together and be watched, do you just want to watch.

View it as a fun night out with likeminded liberated spirits, where you can have the fun you’d like without judgement and not having to wait until you get home.

As it’s a first visit find a couch that doesn’t have membership requirement as it could be a cost you don’t get back.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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11 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I think I'm just overthinking it , I guess we'll never know till it happens"

I don't think you've thought about it enough as you can't seem to say what you're nervous about.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
11 weeks ago

South Wales


"I think I'm just overthinking it , I guess we'll never know till it happens"

It might be an idea to treat your first visit as a social and maybe find a room for just the two of you if you fancy it. That way nothings going to happen that you’re not happy with and it gives you a feel for the place and the type of people xx

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By *aomilatteCouple
11 weeks ago

Midlands

This thread may be in the wrong forum (maybe a club forum or another forum). On other threads you've shown interest in dogging and wank meets so going to a club should be no problem. Most people get nervous going to their first club night and also any club nights after.

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By *lthomasMan
11 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"As others have said. Knowing what you both want and expect from the night is a must. Do you both want to play, only one of you, do you just want to play together and be watched, do you just want to watch.

View it as a fun night out with likeminded liberated spirits, where you can have the fun you’d like without judgement and not having to wait until you get home.

As it’s a first visit find a couch that doesn’t have membership requirement as it could be a cost you don’t get back."

That sounds perfect advice.

remember you do only what you want to do.

Look and chat if thats all you want,

always take things at your pace

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By *adamm7406 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

leeds


"We were both beyond anxious when we first went to one. All the anxiety left within about 15 minutes when we realised it was just like a night club, but with people having different fun.

You can make of clubs what you want to x "

Thank for sharing your experience that's quite positive to hear

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By *adamm7406 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

leeds


"I think I'm just overthinking it , I guess we'll never know till it happens

It might be an idea to treat your first visit as a social and maybe find a room for just the two of you if you fancy it. That way nothings going to happen that you’re not happy with and it gives you a feel for the place and the type of people xx "

That's quite a good way of looking at it. Thanks

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By *adamm7406 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

leeds


"I think I'm just overthinking it , I guess we'll never know till it happens

I don't think you've thought about it enough as you can't seem to say what you're nervous about. "

Nervous about seeing my mrs take another cock..

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By *teveanddebsCouple
11 weeks ago

Norwich


"I think I'm just overthinking it , I guess we'll never know till it happens

I don't think you've thought about it enough as you can't seem to say what you're nervous about.

Nervous about seeing my mrs take another cock.."

Well what's good for the goose is good for the gander?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
11 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I think I'm just overthinking it , I guess we'll never know till it happens

I don't think you've thought about it enough as you can't seem to say what you're nervous about.

Nervous about seeing my mrs take another cock.."

Do you think it would change the way you feel about her or the way you feel about yourself?

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By *adamm7406 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

leeds


"I think I'm just overthinking it , I guess we'll never know till it happens

I don't think you've thought about it enough as you can't seem to say what you're nervous about.

Nervous about seeing my mrs take another cock..

Do you think it would change the way you feel about her or the way you feel about yourself? "

The way I feel about myself for putting her in that position...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
11 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I think I'm just overthinking it , I guess we'll never know till it happens

I don't think you've thought about it enough as you can't seem to say what you're nervous about.

Nervous about seeing my mrs take another cock..

Do you think it would change the way you feel about her or the way you feel about yourself?

The way I feel about myself for putting her in that position...

"

Ok. Is she just going along with what you want or is it something she genuinely wants to do?

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By *adamm7406 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

leeds

I initiated the fantasy over a year ago. She's grown to like the idea of it. She openly brings it up when she is horny now. She's bought up the topic of going to a club her self lately.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
11 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I initiated the fantasy over a year ago. She's grown to like the idea of it. She openly brings it up when she is horny now. She's bought up the topic of going to a club her self lately. "

I would say don't go any further with this until you've sorted this out between you.

I wasn't sure how I'd feel about seeing Mr N with another woman at first so we met single men for a bit. Turns out I was fine with it but I think it's better to hold back if you're unsure.

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By *uriouscouple105Couple
11 weeks ago

Fife

1st visit to a club is always going to be a very scary experience. The thing is you don't have to have sex with anyone else. Mingle,have a drink and some chat. You and the Mrs could have some play on your own but near other couples to see how you feel. Gives you something to go home and talk about before making that next move. We have only been a few times but every time we go we always have something new to discuss the next day before planning our next visit

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By *adamm7406 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

leeds


"I initiated the fantasy over a year ago. She's grown to like the idea of it. She openly brings it up when she is horny now. She's bought up the topic of going to a club her self lately.

I would say don't go any further with this until you've sorted this out between you.

I wasn't sure how I'd feel about seeing Mr N with another woman at first so we met single men for a bit. Turns out I was fine with it but I think it's better to hold back if you're unsure. "

Its definitely been a long fantasy on the bucket list to at least see her soft swing with another male...

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By *adamm7406 OP   Man
11 weeks ago

leeds


"1st visit to a club is always going to be a very scary experience. The thing is you don't have to have sex with anyone else. Mingle,have a drink and some chat. You and the Mrs could have some play on your own but near other couples to see how you feel. Gives you something to go home and talk about before making that next move. We have only been a few times but every time we go we always have something new to discuss the next day before planning our next visit"

Hi I think that's what we need to do. Just go and not expect anything but it'll open our eyes and see what we'd like for the next time.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
11 weeks ago

East Sussex


"I initiated the fantasy over a year ago. She's grown to like the idea of it. She openly brings it up when she is horny now. She's bought up the topic of going to a club her self lately.

I would say don't go any further with this until you've sorted this out between you.

I wasn't sure how I'd feel about seeing Mr N with another woman at first so we met single men for a bit. Turns out I was fine with it but I think it's better to hold back if you're unsure.

Its definitely been a long fantasy on the bucket list to at least see her soft swing with another male... "

Well the ball is very firmly in your court. The only thing I'll say is if you do go ahead and feel badly about it afterwards try to talk about it calmly and without blame

Whatever happens I wish you luck with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

Best thing is have a chat then go to a club with no expectations and see how it works.

Weve not played with anyone as yet but regularly have sex in the voyeur room and on a gang bang sofa. So go play have fun and no means no.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

Best thing is have a chat then go to a club with no expectations and see how it works.

Weve not played with anyone as yet but regularly have sex in the voyeur room and on a gang bang sofa. So go play have fun and no means no.

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