FabSwingers.com forum: Dom advice

By *eff0077 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Liverpool

About a year ago the Mrs said she wanted me to take charge and boss her in the bedroom (came as a bit of a shock as she's quite bossy in general life haha) but it's something we've both had fun with and I've definitely enjoyed it. From time to time she seems to forget and can be hesitant or have to be told a few times/reminded (not in a she doesn't want to do it kind of way) we've been together a long time and I've got a good idea of what is & isn't ok with her.

I said maybe I need to punish her when she doesn't do as she's told, and she was keen that that's something I should do.

I've been confident in bossing her around, however left myself drawing a bit of a blank thinking how to punish her haha just wondering if anyone has any advice or suggestions?

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By *iss DevilWoman
12 weeks ago

Bedford

Orgasm withdrawal on one hand- so basically edging without allowing her to cum. Or the opposite, orgasm overload, making her cum almost constantly until she's begging for mercy.

Spanking, flogging, hair pulling. Restraints

Sensory deprivation while restrained - using blindfold for sight, headphones for hearing etc

If she enjoys the impact play, withdrawing any of those and going for soft treatment - feather, light stroking, tickling, etc.

Withdrawal of things she enjoys

Making her wear a particular item of clothing for a set amount of time- for example, making her wear a short skirt only, nothing else, while cooking dinner

Withdrawal of attention - she's restrained on the bed, and you casually just leave her there for a set amount of time

Etc. You know your wife best, and know what's going to be punishment enough

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By *vaRoseWoman
12 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

Have you tried asking her?

I know you’ve been together a long time but any movement into D/s should include some really open non judgemental discussions about everyone’s wants, needs, limits, boundaries and expectations.

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By *eff0077 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Liverpool

Yes orgasam withdrawal was one of the things I was thinking of, I've think that would drive her mad (in the right way) making her cum repeatedly probably wouldn't work haha

She's not into spanking, however hair pulling and restraints definitely, and being made vulnerable

She's also not ticklish at all so any soft touching or anything like that, I don't think would work

I did comment yesterday "maybe I need to tell you what to wear, I think you'd like that" and she confirmed... so that's something

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By *eff0077 OP Man
12 weeks ago

Liverpool

I've tried asking yes, I was told "well it's for you to figure out"

We have spoke about it and both agree on things and limits, there's never really been a time She's not been comfortable doing something and i know if she wasn't she would say

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