FabSwingers.com forum: Can you have to many verifications.

By *lambel OP Man
12 weeks ago

belfast

I just had the weirdest message. I sent a message to a couple just to try an initiate a chat, the reply I got was, you have 50 odd verifications, "do you honestly think we want to be another notch on your bed post".

Obviously I laughed as that's a first ive heard that, and alot are from being on cam so they obviously didn't read any.

Question is can you have too many verifications that lead to people thinking your sleeping around to much.

What's your thoughts.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Horses for courses I'm sure some people don't mind and others do (which is a bit strange for a swinging site but each to there own)

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By *randMrsLPCouple
12 weeks ago

london

'As above - some do care re too many and others dont

we care about having none, then men with dozens

What makes us, me decide who to meet based on what we have agreed is, most don't bother reading our profile and come out with stuff we dislike and that results in an ignore or block

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By *he Silver FuxMan
12 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"I just had the weirdest message. I sent a message to a couple just to try an initiate a chat, the reply I got was, you have 50 odd verifications, "do you honestly think we want to be another notch on your bed post".

Obviously I laughed as that's a first ive heard that, and alot are from being on cam so they obviously didn't read any.

Question is can you have too many verifications that lead to people thinking your sleeping around to much.

What's your thoughts.

It is a double edged sword - experienced vs. slut. Only a couple incidents of negative feedback for me.

however I do think you are stretching the Bi-Curious label OP 😄. You are clearly way beyond the curious stage…

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
12 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

Our last account had about 130, mostly from social meets and club nights and maybe 12 total were from sexual encounters.

We would be turned down based on the number alone as some people (men, women and couples) assumed we had more diseases than the Outbreak monkey

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

To some yes, to others no.

I have a few, none shown are sexual because I dislike them, all social & ladies night.

I could get 10+ verifications in one night just by attending a social so it doesn't bother me personally, what's in them can put me off though.

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By *randMrsLPCouple
12 weeks ago

london

I'd like to add - too many vefifications of male profiles as well as MF profiles scares me as they must be very, very expereinced and we may not be their type or they may want too much too soon

having said that, profile is only part of the pre-assessment, its the quality of feedback and some peoples feedback and often males, the feedbacker has hidden profiles EG recently looked at a couple of men that contacted us and those that left them a review had their profiles hidden, so i ignored.

So look at reviews but also the way they into self etc and then chat to you. A big turn-off for me is as i do the looking is those that can't be arsed to even look at your profile and its easy to tell.

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By *ndymac888Man
12 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I actually see a few profiles that are put off by verifications either because it’s intimidating or disgusting.

For some I think they might see it as detrimental to intimacy and I kind of get it. But if your looking for something extreme then lots of positive verifications might help someone feel safe.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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12 weeks ago

East Sussex

You can have too many verifications for a lot of people.

Some like to feel they're one of few and that a form of intimacy has developed between them and their casual sex partners.

Others enjoy the experience in the moment and aren't bothered by how many partners the people they meet have had.

I often think that just because someone doesn't have multiple verifications doesn't mean they don't have sex with multiple people...

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By *dintvTV/TS
12 weeks ago

your bed

"You can have too many verifications for a lot of people.

Some like to feel they're one of few and that a form of intimacy has developed between them and their casual sex partners.

Others enjoy the experience in the moment and aren't bothered by how many partners the people they meet have had.

I often think that just because someone doesn't have multiple verifications doesn't mean they don't have sex with multiple people..."

Completely agree with this. Low verifications doesn’t mean low body count! We’re all on here for the same kind of reasons. More verifications that are positive kind of suggest the likelihood of a good time is higher. Just my thoughts mind you x

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By *ositiveVibesJBxMan
12 weeks ago

Birmingham/Wigan

Haha I love this thread as I too recently had this kind of message from a woman say she did want to be number 52.

As I stated politely that most are from socials and she could have atleast read them or some than assume. I guess you can’t please everyone x

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

We have over 100 verifications but we have been here over 10 years & I'd say 90% were from socials.

We often get the comment that we have 'alot of veris' generally by people who haven't taken the time to read them

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
12 weeks ago

South Wales

I don’t see any problem with having a lot of veris at all. Just because someone has very few doesn’t mean they’re not active, they may just not show them. We have quite a few, some social and some not.

If someone turns you down because of the number of veris that’s on them……if you like your veris then display them xx 😄

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By *cottish guy 555Man
12 weeks ago

London

I've had this response from some people. It shows that they haven't bothered to read them.

C'est la vie.

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By *r SensualMan
12 weeks ago

London

I hate this rhetoric so much. Never had it said to me via initial messaging but I have had it said to me in some capacity or another when someone’s seen my profile after we’ve met.

Put this way, I’m more inclined to communicate with someone has in person meet verifications as opposed to someone who doesn’t depending on how long they’ve been on the site.

If someone wants to judge me because I actively participate in this lifestyle sexually AND more importantly socially, they’re probably not the kind of people I’m going to be compatible with anyway.

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By *lambel OP Man
12 weeks ago

belfast

Some very good responses, I dint think they have bothered to read them as a lot are from camming.

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By *hat.coupleCouple
12 weeks ago

Kent

It just goes to show that they have made a snap judgment and not actually read your profile, so probably not the type of couple you'd like to have fun with. If they'd have done a tiny bit more reading they'd have learned that a fair % of those are webcam veris and not all in person meets. Also who is to say that you don't host parties and those are attendees veris?. Shallow mindedness causes ignorance. I personally would view high veris that you are good in the sack and probably have a lots of repeat meets, can't please them all!

Mrs x

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By *exyScientistsCouple
12 weeks ago

Castlebar

Obviously I laughed as that's a first ive heard that, and alot are from being on cam so they obviously didn't read any.

Question is can you have too many verifications that lead to people thinking your sleeping around to much.

What's your thoughts.

I have heard that been said before to someone. I wonder how many people read all of them. If someone has a lot I wouldn't read them all just a few.

I had a message asking if I just meet people for coffee or do I play with any guys? Clearly my verifications aren't graphic enough! Everyone is looking for something different.

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By *infullyObedientWoman
12 weeks ago

Woodley

I don't display all of mine and hide the summary. I've been here a few years, not all meets have verified me and some have been from socials only so the summary can give a bad impression.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
12 weeks ago

London

"I don't display all of mine and hide the summary. I've been here a few years, not all meets have verified me and some have been from socials only so the summary can give a bad impression. "

It can only give a bad impression to those who are of that mindset.

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By *43SomeCouple
12 weeks ago

Staines

I’ve had about 6 verifications and yet one only has fucked me. I never asked for them after social meets, yet they felt the need to say I was great and each one insinuated that they had fucked me.

If a guy has asked me for a veri I have worded it specifically to indicate that it was just a social but with a lovely person.

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By *tr8MrEMan
12 weeks ago

somewhere near Sheffield

I think it's not the amount received, it's over what period of time and how

There are quite a few who have lots but they've been achieved via cam and personally via a meet

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By *eyeYCouple
12 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

A weirdly counter intuitive one.. Dozens regarding play within a month we kinda get the off putting feels.

Dozens within the last 2/3 years, not so much!

Add in to the mix, if you visit a club and play with no one, just socialise, you can easily gainer half a dozen versis purely about your attitude and approachability..

Any throwing out the accusations that you have too many verifi's have neither paid attention to the scenario or are open minded enough to do so.

Just our thoughts 👍😘

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By *ucka39Man
12 weeks ago

Newcastle

I wouldn't say that a person could have too many verification

Because as many get them from social events

Clubs

But does show how active someone is whether sexually or socially

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
12 weeks ago

Norwich

I think if you're looking for a regular fb or fwb. If somebody has lots of verifications from different people and they're not from clubs or socials then yes you might think they're not likely to want the same thing as you.

However I have a few verifications and wouldn't want to be judged on them.

It's best to find out a bit more and then decide.

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By *en ukMan
12 weeks ago

harrow London

Who really wants to meet, meets, I met couples of single women who did not exchange more than 10 15 messages here on the site after which we saw each other, we chatted face to face and each time we had a fun evening together. We did not have verifications at that time but we started by having a face to face discussion and we had a lot of fun and without much verification

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