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"I have been off here for a few years while in a relationship that has recently ended. Came back last month and got talking to a really nice couple who were looking for a chap to join them. They are relatively new to the scene - they joined while I've been away. Chat has gone well, funny, flirty and earlier today they sent me a pic of them and the woman is someone I've worked with for the past decade and know very well - although obviously not as well as I'd thought! We've shared a couple of flirty conversations at work but nothing more so I'm not sure she's into me. Do I risk sending a return pic or is that just asking for trouble? Is the etiquette in these situations to just block and never mention anything to her?" Ooooooh that is a tricky one! I personally would probably send a picture back of yourself commenting that you didn't realise she was in the lifestyle too. Who knows, maybe she already knows its you? Mrs x | |||
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"I have been off here for a few years while in a relationship that has recently ended. Came back last month and got talking to a really nice couple who were looking for a chap to join them. They are relatively new to the scene - they joined while I've been away. Chat has gone well, funny, flirty and earlier today they sent me a pic of them and the woman is someone I've worked with for the past decade and know very well - although obviously not as well as I'd thought! We've shared a couple of flirty conversations at work but nothing more so I'm not sure she's into me. Do I risk sending a return pic or is that just asking for trouble? Is the etiquette in these situations to just block and never mention anything to her?" I've had it happen a few times. I guess it depends on how much you'd fancy them | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue." The only correct way to handle this. | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue." Came here to say exactly this ![]() | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue." I think this is the approach I will take. Don't want to put the fear of God into them, but if they are interested then maybe they'll risk taking it further. | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue. I think this is the approach I will take. Don't want to put the fear of God into them, but if they are interested then maybe they'll risk taking it further." Good luck op | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue." 💯 this. | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue. I think this is the approach I will take. Don't want to put the fear of God into them, but if they are interested then maybe they'll risk taking it further." . Good advice! I’d go with this approach too. | |||
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"We've shared a couple of flirty conversations at work but nothing more so I'm not sure she's into me." Just because she's not into having an affair with you behind her husband's back doesn't mean she wouldn't swing with you! | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue." This. | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue." If you do say that, it’s only fair you reveal who you are or they will be constantly wondering. | |||
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"Okay, so as an update to this, I messaged them and highlighted I knew one of them and asked what they'd like to do. After what seemed like weeks, but was only a few hours, they responded and asked who I was. I sent a face pics and said "surprise!" I got a quick response of OMG! hahaha. After a couple more messages it's been decided that we won't meet to play (sadly) but wife and I are having coffee on Friday to chat about the lifestyle etc. So, all good!" Are you disappointed at that? | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue." Another vote for this approach | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue. I think this is the approach I will take. Don't want to put the fear of God into them, but if they are interested then maybe they'll risk taking it further." They may initially be a little worried, or it may be the exact scenario that they are looking for. Personally I would at least reveal myself so that you are on a level playing field. Personally, I do not think anything else comes into it, after all you are only swinging, it is not as though they are your permanent partner. If it all goes wrong, move on - no need for any drama when they are not your partner. | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue." Yeah, completely agree. Think it would be really poor etiquette to just block - might give her some unnecessary insecurities x | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue." This gets my vote. Blocking seems rude with no explanation. This lets them decide even if you still decided you don't want to move forwards. | |||
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"Okay, so as an update to this, I messaged them and highlighted I knew one of them and asked what they'd like to do. After what seemed like weeks, but was only a few hours, they responded and asked who I was. I sent a face pics and said "surprise!" I got a quick response of OMG! hahaha. After a couple more messages it's been decided that we won't meet to play (sadly) but wife and I are having coffee on Friday to chat about the lifestyle etc. So, all good!" This is still a good outcome, if nothing else you can build on your friendship. Enjoy your coffee meet ![]() | |||
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"Okay, so as an update to this, I messaged them and highlighted I knew one of them and asked what they'd like to do. After what seemed like weeks, but was only a few hours, they responded and asked who I was. I sent a face pics and said "surprise!" I got a quick response of OMG! hahaha. After a couple more messages it's been decided that we won't meet to play (sadly) but wife and I are having coffee on Friday to chat about the lifestyle etc. So, all good!" I think this is a pretty good outcome and meeting for a coffee and a chat will make sure things aren’t awkward in the future and you remain friends xx 😘 | |||
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"Okay, so as an update to this, I messaged them and highlighted I knew one of them and asked what they'd like to do. After what seemed like weeks, but was only a few hours, they responded and asked who I was. I sent a face pics and said "surprise!" I got a quick response of OMG! hahaha. After a couple more messages it's been decided that we won't meet to play (sadly) but wife and I are having coffee on Friday to chat about the lifestyle etc. So, all good! Are you disappointed at that?" A little bit. It's difficult to get meets at the best of times, and she is is very attractive. But, I think there are far more potential negatives than positives - even though the positive is a big one! Meeting with her tomorrow so looking forward to hearing her thoughts on the matter, but certainly not going to push for anything further at this stage. | |||
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"Okay, so as an update to this, I messaged them and highlighted I knew one of them and asked what they'd like to do. After what seemed like weeks, but was only a few hours, they responded and asked who I was. I sent a face pics and said "surprise!" I got a quick response of OMG! hahaha. After a couple more messages it's been decided that we won't meet to play (sadly) but wife and I are having coffee on Friday to chat about the lifestyle etc. So, all good! Are you disappointed at that? A little bit. It's difficult to get meets at the best of times, and she is is very attractive. But, I think there are far more potential negatives than positives - even though the positive is a big one! Meeting with her tomorrow so looking forward to hearing her thoughts on the matter, but certainly not going to push for anything further at this stage. " Soz, I didn't see this update before I posted my other comment OP, enjoy the coffee & chat tomorrow 👍 | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue." I agree with this best be honest and not fuck people around ![]() | |||
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"Okay, so as an update to this, I messaged them and highlighted I knew one of them and asked what they'd like to do. After what seemed like weeks, but was only a few hours, they responded and asked who I was. I sent a face pics and said "surprise!" I got a quick response of OMG! hahaha. After a couple more messages it's been decided that we won't meet to play (sadly) but wife and I are having coffee on Friday to chat about the lifestyle etc. So, all good! Are you disappointed at that? A little bit. It's difficult to get meets at the best of times, and she is is very attractive. But, I think there are far more potential negatives than positives - even though the positive is a big one! Meeting with her tomorrow so looking forward to hearing her thoughts on the matter, but certainly not going to push for anything further at this stage. " How did it go? | |||
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"I'd just say, before we go any further I recognize you from your photo, I didn't know previously but we do actually know each other, and leave it up to them if they'd like to continue." 💯 this Good luck ![]() | |||
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