FabSwingers.com forum: Time Wasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know time wasters are always a problem on a site like this but i often meet men who aren't on this site also to have sex but whether they're from here or not i often find time wasters will either not turn up or will and do the two pump and bring me home or dump me on the side of the road after the shag or even take me to and party or club, get all the sex then bring me home without me getting anything from anyone. So my question is how do you handle time wasters ? I often wait till i get home then text asking them not to come back again and they take it very personally and abuse me and i often feel heart broken after that. So again how do you handle time wasters and what advice have you got for me so i don't end up feeling so hurt ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well your user name may be giving them the idea your here just to be used. Personally I haven't had any of the problems you describe but I am selective who I will meet and take my time filtering out the also ran's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time wasters and disrespectful people will only ever become a problem to you because you let them.

Modify your selection process to find more respectful people who will treat you the way you want them to.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Time wasters and disrespectful people will only ever become a problem to you because you let them.

Modify your selection process to find more respectful people who will treat you the way you want them to.

agreed..

take control and make it work for you the way you want it to..

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I've never had this problem, but then I do spend a lot of time ensuring the men I meet I do actually want to meet them and that they are respectful, so I would suggest you need to look at your own selection process, and I will admit as someone has already said, I do think usernames, do plant a seed in certain peoples heads.....just a thought but good luck x

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

How many pumps do they need to do, to push them over the time waster threshold ?

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Without wanting to sound harsh, they are only treating you this way because you are letting them.

Sounds like you need to change your selection process.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well your user name may be giving them the idea your here just to be used. Personally I haven't had any of the problems you describe but I am selective who I will meet and take my time filtering out the also ran's. "

Think I'm missing sonething or OP has changed her username but I don't get why being a BBC lover gives the message she wants to be used.

OP review your selection criteria is my advice and don't meet guys you think might be disrespectful. Loads of decent guys on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a time waster was stood up once but nothing bad

You treat this site how you want it

If you want respect and don't want t be used and stood up etc etc etc then change your attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol... your doing it to yourself! Your not only on here - but other site(s) for sex... and moaning that your only getting 1 round?!? Girl if your wanting more, get more! Self respect, confidence an being SELECTIVE are a good way forward!If you want a fb that will deliver the goods... say so up front n make him want it...

An it may take time. Some guys don't like seeing a girl is happy shagging anyone ... as long as has a bbc... so maybe a new start, new profile etc.

Before anyone jumps down my throat, im being resl witg her! Not trying to upset her.

Good luck huni x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never had a time waster was stood up once but nothing bad

You treat this site how you want it

If you want respect and don't want t be used and stood up etc etc etc then change your attitude "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Without wanting to sound harsh, they are only treating you this way because you are letting them.

Sounds like you need to change your selection process.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know if I'm confused or just being a bit thick, but I don't understand how it's time wasting? They come round for sex, have sex with you twice then leave. What am I missing?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Without wanting to sound harsh, they are only treating you this way because you are letting them.

Sounds like you need to change your selection process.

Good luck x

this..... if you let them treat you like this, you are the common demoninator...

sounds like the selection process needs a complete overhaul if these are the people you are attracting

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"I know time wasters are always a problem on a site like this but i often meet men who aren't on this site also to have sex but whether they're from here or not i often find time wasters will either not turn up or will and do the two pump and bring me home or dump me on the side of the road after the shag or even take me to and party or club, get all the sex then bring me home without me getting anything from anyone. So my question is how do you handle time wasters ? I often wait till i get home then text asking them not to come back again and they take it very personally and abuse me and i often feel heart broken after that. So again how do you handle time wasters and what advice have you got for me so i don't end up feeling so hurt ?

there are various different things wrapped up in what you call timewasting...

the only definition of timewasting I go back is that if they are affecting something I wouldn't be doing otherwise... so not showing up is that, but the rest of what you are commenting about isn't timewasting to me...

so the two pumps thing... or dumping you on side of road ect ect, that is very much a selection issue... thats on you!

and if it is happening again and again then that says to me you are not learning from the mistakes of your selection issues....

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

How does the username give that idea? Please elaborate.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

been on these kind of sites for years and never experienced anything like you have described ... you are the common denominator so if I was you I would look for the answer closer to home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How does the username give that idea? Please elaborate."

Thats exactly what I thought!!

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside

Spend time getting to know somebody online before you meet them. See if they are prepared to put effort in getting to know you as a person not just a potential meet. See if they are willing to wait to meet you or are looking for a quick fuck. As you get to know them online first use your gut instincts. Getting to know people online first will out the idiots, time wasters fantasists and axe murderers. They way you have written your post it seems as though men have been using you. To a certain extent you have allowed them do that. Take no crap from anybody you may meet in the future. Let then know not only are you looking for mutually enjoyable sex you also want to be treated with respect and dignity.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

What I dont understand if I am making a choice about I dunno a car, or a new bit of electrical stuff I will read up on it research it and take time till I am happy I have made the right decision.

However on a site thats aimed at sex this sort of common sense goes out the window.

To summise the anology Im going for here, take some time get to KNOW people before you decide to rub your genitiles against theirs.

Above all if YOU are constantly the common issue then problem lies with YOU your selection criteria and the way you are doing things and the sensible approach would be to re evaluate the way you pick those with whom you wish to bump uglies in the future.

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

"Without wanting to sound harsh, they are only treating you this way because you are letting them.

Sounds like you need to change your selection process.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Allowing a man to dump you at the side of the road honestly proves your selection process is dire!!

Chose carefully in future my dear

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