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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

Chippenham

Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I know what you mean. Same thing just happened to me. Nice profile btw

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"
you’d be surprised the few of us that are left are also getting a lot of let downs or time wasters I’ve had multiple in the last two weeks

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By *amantha_NiteTV/TS
13 weeks ago

The Lake District


"Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"

got swomped during/after lockdpwn times

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By *WANDTGCouple
13 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

We just had this in Spain, chatted 6 weeks before going out ( they live there) then more in depth chatting up to final week before departure. Then spoke Saturday with intentions of meeting on the Sunday, all was ok. Then Sunday before our 6.30 pm arranged date, they messaged at 5.15 pm to say something has came up so they can't do it. By the end of the week they had left the site !!!

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By *ids2000Couple
13 weeks ago

Worcester

Happens all the time. It’s why we deleted our previous account. Only log in now to check for social and club events

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

Chippenham


"Happens all the time. It’s why we deleted our previous account. Only log in now to check for social and club events "

I'm thinking of deleting the profile, what's the point if no one meets anymore

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By *olden PoleMan
13 weeks ago

Bromley

Had a lady wanting to meet this morning. Was very persistent so I changed my plans to accommodate her only to be left hanging all day. Why? Just why?

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By *heGigglersCouple
13 weeks ago

Leeds (Just Visiting)

We've stopped making plans/arranging meets in advance now because of the amount of letdowns

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By *ockhard247Man
13 weeks ago

nottingham


"Happens all the time. It’s why we deleted our previous account. Only log in now to check for social and club events

I'm thinking of deleting the profile, what's the point if no one meets anymore "

Looking at your profile, cant believe they let you down, very sexy looking and would be great to have a play with you both

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By *inetimecoupleCouple
13 weeks ago

Wirral

We have had this happen three times just recently, all for a meeting and then at the very last moment radio silence.

Up side of this each time we have been let down we have gone to a club and have had a great play with couples we have met on the night.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
13 weeks ago

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Just stick to meets recommended through friends, from clubs, or a extensive veri check on profiles

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By *iaminoxfordMan
13 weeks ago

Oxford


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"

just wanna volunteer not to be a dissapointment and not turn up

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By *xfordjohnMan
13 weeks ago

Oxford

I've certainly had my share of let downs and last minute no shows, but have also had real meets, so it's not everybody. Some of us are managing to meet.

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By *ewtfaceMan
13 weeks ago

Bracknell

Mr & Mrs B......I'm a little outside your age range, but well within distance of your location and happy to play

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By *leasingmyhubsCouple
13 weeks ago

Holbeach

It's the norm on here now.

Let down mid week. Yet ANOTHER single guy changed his mind about 3hours ago after giving it the Big one. No doubt his Wife or GF suddenly changed their plans!!

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By *Bqwerty69Man
13 weeks ago

Stourport

You're definitely not alone. It's happened a couple of times for me too.

Starting to see the pattern now, though.

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By * and BCouple
13 weeks ago

Durham

We used to be let down time and time again, very rarely we arrange a meet these days. Clubs are the way, it's where we go to meet people these days. We've had let downs with folk saying they'll meet us in a club we are going to, but we have already decided to go to club for us to have a night out, so a let down in this environment doesn't bother us, as we are dressing up to go out anyway (or dressing down)

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By *atentHeelsCouple
13 weeks ago

Salford

Yeh. Arrange 4X more than you need then if you have too many, it’s a better problem than none and a waste of time haha

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
13 weeks ago

Chippenham


"Yeh. Arrange 4X more than you need then if you have too many, it’s a better problem than none and a waste of time haha"

I like your way of thinking

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By *lthomasMan
13 weeks ago

Birmingham

It does seem to becoming a more regular occurrence.

It’s been a thing single guys have suffered for a time, but it seems to be spreading to couples now.

Just don’t get it

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By *uzzieboyMan
13 weeks ago

taunton


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"

I know the feeling of being let down and time wasters OP but genuine guy here

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

I have had this happen also, it's really annoying as effort does go into planning a meet.

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By *each needs some creamWoman
12 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

It happens more often than you realise.

I had 3 meets lined up this week two cancel (one half an hour before meet) and one no show.

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By *assy LassieWoman
12 weeks ago

Lanarkshire

If no shows and let downs are happening to you on a regular occurrence maybe change the way you carry out your due diligence.

Continue with the same pattern you will get the same result.

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By *exylovingcoupleCouple
12 weeks ago

Uxbridge


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"

That is ridiculous, you look like everymans dream woman to me. (Hubby).

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By *ice_couple2012Couple
12 weeks ago

Leicester


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"

Unfortunately we've lost track of the number of let downs we've had via Fab which is why we try to ensure all first meets are at clubs now. Even the most 'genuine' looking profiles who state they are 'not like the others' can be capable of disappointment. And we might add, it's not just single guys

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By *ikeC81Man
12 weeks ago

harrow

I think last time I had a hotel meet was before Covid…for me it’s always a club meet!!!

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By *ankoveryouMan
12 weeks ago

hull

Happened to me loads times. The amount of women that start period early just as you say your setting off. Unreal

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By *oiluvfunMan
12 weeks ago

Penrith


"Happened to me loads times. The amount of women that start period early just as you say your setting off. Unreal"

Ahh yes, the old “Mother Nature hates me” message……

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By *riffield cplCouple
12 weeks ago

Beverley

Most “ single men” bi or straight seems to be married and we can’t seem to find anyone who actually wants to meet. Most of the wants to have a chat have a wank and be done with it.

Putting any effort in the message seems way beyond most people’s ability 😤

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By *iscombobulated1523Couple
12 weeks ago

Worcestershire

We get it too

This is why we now only meet single males in clubs unless we're in the mood to invite one to ours (and even then we get the oh I can't make it tonight can I come on Wednesday instead 🤦 no if we wanted you to join us then we would have said would you like to meet on Wednesday)

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
12 weeks ago

Chippenham


"If no shows and let downs are happening to you on a regular occurrence maybe change the way you carry out your due diligence.

Continue with the same pattern you will get the same result."

Yes I get what you are saying but the same due diligence has worked for the last 8 years without any problems. Why in the last 6 months or so has all of the time wasting started?

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
12 weeks ago

Chippenham


"We get it too

This is why we now only meet single males in clubs unless we're in the mood to invite one to ours (and even then we get the oh I can't make it tonight can I come on Wednesday instead 🤦 no if we wanted you to join us then we would have said would you like to meet on Wednesday)"

We don't always want to go to a club, our local one only holds an event to suit us once a month so we want to host occasionally. Why is it so difficult.

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By *ue and robCouple
12 weeks ago

ware

This why we only meet at clubs and parties now

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By *ellinever70Woman
12 weeks ago

Ayrshire


"Happens all the time. It’s why we deleted our previous account. Only log in now to check for social and club events

I'm thinking of deleting the profile, what's the point if no one meets anymore "

People do meet though.

Maybe it's time to change how you go about things

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By *harAndBryCouple
12 weeks ago

Downham Market

So far this year: thirteen meets arranged, seven no-shows.

People say to go to clubs - we hate clubs, other than the occasional quiet daytime events.

People say to change how we vet - we only meet people with meet verifications (that we thoroughly check back) themselves within the last twelve months and only within an hour as these used to be the common denominators of no-shows. Now it's just nobody thinks how their actions affect others it seems.

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By *ifeforelivingMan
12 weeks ago

Middlesbrough

I can't understand some people if I'm lucky enough to be invited I always do my upmost to turn up its only polite and you might actually have some good experiences

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By *IXEN200Woman
12 weeks ago

newcastle upon tyne

Let downs have been part of my reasons for not meeting g at present, it's soul destroying even worse when they don't turn up and you get no explanation of why

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By *ess n BenCouple
12 weeks ago

Didcot

We like to meet guys but now after being let down so many times we only arrange to meet them in clubs so when they let you down your night is not ruined

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By *.hrisMan
12 weeks ago

Bath


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"

I'm not far from you, you should keep me in mind as back up incase of a no show

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By *each needs some creamWoman
12 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

People say go to clubs I am a single woman that doesn't drive. It would take me approximately 6 to 8 hours to get to a swinging club by bus and train. I would have got a room as I would have to stay over.

So it would mean taking up 2 days and cost approximately £200 plus expenses as in getting into the club, food and drink.

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By *9funboyMan
12 weeks ago

Harrogate

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By *K herts mMan
12 weeks ago

Fleetwood

Sadly let downs are a big thing here.

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By *9funboyMan
12 weeks ago

Harrogate

I've had the same thing with a few couples over the last few months. Lengthy chats, plans in place, then the vanishing act!

I like to think I'm upfront re my circumstances and accept that for many they don't want to meet attached guys, but several couples indicate this is not an issue.

Of course we can't insist people meet, and I'm not naive re that, but as with many in this thread, it's frustrating, time wasting.

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By *amesetonMan
12 weeks ago

Eton

I’ve had 8 no shows

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By *eventhheaven2022Couple
12 weeks ago

accrington

This happens to us, sadly single guys are the Main Culprits and is Happening more often. The site seems Plagued by so called single guys giving it the big one but are in reality just ego trippers and Fantasists. Still keeping the Faith though xx

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By *owestoft ManMan
12 weeks ago

Lowestoft


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"

When the Ex and I started, there was no internet lol and in Africa. We relied on word of mouth and Taxi drivers. When the internet came along we were living here and found it difficult to find anything so we turned our attention to Dogging which was full of fun. The only 2 good swinger sites we had ever found was when I got a long term contract in Oz. Met many fantastic single/married men who didn't let us down. Also met a good few couples that were into the same thing as us over there.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"

It happened to me last night.

A couple approached me on here. Swapped photos etc kept asking me to come over. When I agreed, they vanished🤷🏻‍♂️

I’m not bothered by it and you shouldn’t be. I think some are either attention seeking, not ever planning to meet. They’ve found something “better” or just bottled it.

Don’t worry about it. Be you and enjoy it when it happens 😉

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By *eo BillsMan
12 weeks ago

Westcliff On Sea

After seeing your profile I would definitely be interested in meeting a great couple like you! Shame you’re a bit too far away for me but if you’re ever in my area please look me up

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By *oiluvfunMan
12 weeks ago

Penrith


"We get it too

This is why we now only meet single males in clubs unless we're in the mood to invite one to ours (and even then we get the oh I can't make it tonight can I come on Wednesday instead 🤦 no if we wanted you to join us then we would have said would you like to meet on Wednesday)"

Nothing worse than entitled couples who think a guy will come running at the drop of a hat, just because they’re free that evening….

After over 13 years in Fab, I’ve never let anyone down for a pre-arranged meet. I have been cancelled on last minute, and ghosted plenty of times though, and even taken the oft-quoted advice of “Just go to a club”……..only to discover what discrimination actually feels like…

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By *oPantsJustVibesMan
12 weeks ago

Staines

Happened to me a couple of weeks ago. Went to meet a couple who I’ve been chatting to for a couple of months, got to our meeting place, they kept saying they’re on their way while I was waiting, then they stopped responding. Like… why?

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Happened to me couple of times as well it’s nightmare.. but you mentioned they’re meet verified accounts that’s doesn’t mean they’re will attend 100% just time wasters

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By *ohnshjgMan
12 weeks ago

manchester

Same. Just meet in clubs now

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By *assy LassieWoman
12 weeks ago

Lanarkshire


"If no shows and let downs are happening to you on a regular occurrence maybe change the way you carry out your due diligence.

Continue with the same pattern you will get the same result.

Yes I get what you are saying but the same due diligence has worked for the last 8 years without any problems. Why in the last 6 months or so has all of the time wasting started? "

Maybe the advice this poster is giving couples to better their chances is how the folk arranging meets are managing their meets.

'Arrange 4X more than you need then if you have too many, it’s a better problem than none and a waste of time haha'

For every meet there will be 3 let downs.... you (not personally) become the timewaster. Ergo this is shit advice🤷‍♀️🙄

This place is like everywhere, peaks n troughs of meets n dry spells. Nature of the game 🥰

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By *wabathMan
12 weeks ago

Bath


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"

Genuine from Bath here x

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By *xonman53Man
12 weeks ago

Thame


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"

I will not confirm a meet until certain if making time/place/date....

Recently been chatting to a few couples/ladies... All seems fine then suddenly no longer there!!

Annoying especially on one where I had set off to meet train journey... Luckily checked phone at station!!!

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
12 weeks ago

Chippenham


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?

I'm not far from you, you should keep me in mind as back up incase of a no show "

I had a guy that I could have messaged and he would have arrived within minutes (he lives a 2 minute walk away) but I just cba, it's so disheartening. But thank you for the offer

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
12 weeks ago

Chippenham


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?

The is a well known dogging site not far from us. It's not something that we've ever been tempted to try. What if we make the effort to go and there's no one that I would want to have sex with, another wasted night.

When the Ex and I started, there was no internet lol and in Africa. We relied on word of mouth and Taxi drivers. When the internet came along we were living here and found it difficult to find anything so we turned our attention to Dogging which was full of fun. The only 2 good swinger sites we had ever found was when I got a long term contract in Oz. Met many fantastic single/married men who didn't let us down. Also met a good few couples that were into the same thing as us over there."

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
12 weeks ago

Chippenham


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?

I will not confirm a meet until certain if making time/place/date....

Recently been chatting to a few couples/ladies... All seems fine then suddenly no longer there!!

Annoying especially on one where I had set off to meet train journey... Luckily checked phone at station!!!"

Date and time was confirmed, I had given him our postcode but not house number. I messaged him 2 hours before he was due to arrive and radio silence and not heard from him since.

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By *owestoft ManMan
12 weeks ago

Lowestoft

LOL

It would seem from the majority of replies on here that FabSwingers should be renamed FakeSwingers lol

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By *lix CoxMan
8 weeks ago

CF39

Been let down before many times even meeting someone in the first place. I have learned by my mistakes too.

But need a bit of advice on this.

I been seeing someone off and on for some years and at varied times, when we meet it is good and both enjoy.

But recently been let down twice by them not turning up at a specified place and an agreed time beforehand they don't message to let me know until I message them first.

What would you do?

How would you feel?

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

I’m sure everyone has had the same experience.

Trixie

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By *orphia2003Woman
8 weeks ago

Tonypandy.

I've been ghosted and stood up multiple times.if I'm given reasonable advance notice, I'll give a second chance. Otherwise I either block or stop contact.

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By *inky PerkyCouple
8 weeks ago

Kingston

Yup. It's endemic across all online dating / hookup / swinging sites unfortunately. The reality is that people get cold feet, change their minds, get better offers, whatever. In an anonymous world it's generally easier to ghost or lie that it is to have an awkward conversation.

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By *J coupleCouple
8 weeks ago

stone

We’ve just had a social meet with a single fella. We are now hoping to plan a more intimate meeting sometime soon. I hope we don’t go to the trouble to get let down.

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
8 weeks ago

newcastle

I think most just do it for kicks and it seems to be men. I got lucky with hubbies friend but I have met with 2 from here and long term. The rest you could tell were rubbish. Blocking etc xx

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By *ltimate VoyeurMan
8 weeks ago

everywhere

Absolutely love a wet worn pair to play With x

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

Are you actually telling me that there's single men out there lucky enough to organize a meet on this site with a woman when the odds are so heavily stacked against them, and they don't show? Like do you know the level of effort this shit takes? Wow dude. They're the reason my messages aren't going through. Because a woman's inbox is cluttered as fuck and I'm competing with them. Nice

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By *cotsman269Man
8 weeks ago

Falkirk


"Are you actually telling me that there's single men out there lucky enough to organize a meet on this site with a woman when the odds are so heavily stacked against them, and they don't show? Like do you know the level of effort this shit takes? Wow dude. They're the reason my messages aren't going through. Because a woman's inbox is cluttered as fuck and I'm competing with them. Nice"

Exactly

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By *londebiguyMan
8 weeks ago

Southport

I just do not understand why at all.

If I arrange or agree to meet ,either social or anything more, then I show up.

I keep contact if I'm delayed and warm in advance that I'm a rubbish timekeeper pretty often.

It amazes me that couples would mess others around

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By *inky PerkyCouple
8 weeks ago

Kingston


"Are you actually telling me that there's single men out there lucky enough to organize a meet on this site with a woman when the odds are so heavily stacked against them, and they don't show? Like do you know the level of effort this shit takes? Wow dude. They're the reason my messages aren't going through. Because a woman's inbox is cluttered as fuck and I'm competing with them. Nice"

Dude, you've only been here for two weeks. The effort hasn't even begun yet. It's really not unusual to go months without anything - and that applies to both sides.

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
8 weeks ago

newcastle

Yeah we did. Had a good meet. Turns out he's hubbies friend. Doesn't even have a profile here I've looked. But I have met 2 good men for long term. So I wouldn't give up but I admit most of it is rubbish xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

Fair but the thing is, it's still absolutely ridiculous for men to at least get their foot in the door by being noticed, let alone have a conversation going

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By *inky PerkyCouple
8 weeks ago

Kingston


"Fair but the thing is, it's still absolutely ridiculous for men to at least get their foot in the door by being noticed, let alone have a conversation going"

From our experience, about 5% of guys understand how this site works and have multiple meets under their belts. The other 95% are clueless, have nothing and will get nothing. Don't be the 95%

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

I'm not discrediting or delegitimizing the struggle that women have on this site to meet a proper man. What I'm trying to get through is that for us single guys, we have trouble even making contact because we're the majority on the site and because women have flooded inboxes which makes it hard to stand out and maintain a conversation. Sure there's different issues present for couples and women but not communication

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

I've had a quite a few No Shows and a few Timewasters..

But, I've also had a great couple of Play Meets, an Organised Social and made a Friend (No Benefits)..

Regretfully, No-Shows and Ghosters are everywhere, as someone stated above, it's not just here! Keep your Filters tight, keep to Your preferences and Accept You'll get twits..

But us Genuine Ones are Out there (or buried under 300 messages in Your Inbox lol)

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By *eepshow1Man
8 weeks ago

London

Only yesterday I was messsaged by a lady on here who made all the running. About 3 hours of what seemed like positive back and forth messaging and then all of a sudden silence. I just thought she was busy with something and she'd reply a bit later but no. Checked a few times today and she'd been logged in several times but didn't respond.

I don't mind a no response or a no thank you I've changed my mind but why go to all the trouble of contacting me and the 3 hours of messaging. It just doesn't make any sense.

Sadly, this happens a lot, not just this example. Almost a daily thing.

Also, getting a lot of arranging a meet only to be asked for money at the last moment.

Find it funny how people are saying that theres no genuine guys on here. Well, theres one right here! This one never lets anyone down and would never dream of messing anyone around.

I have met some really nice and lovely people on here too but my God, my sanity is being sorely tested to the point where I'm thinking of just giving up. Only so much timewasting one can take.

I just don't understand what anyone gets out of it.

Even noticed it in clubs, used to be a lot of fun, but since Covid I've noticed that they seem to be a lot more cliquey and focused on just getting the money in, so kind of stopped going.

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By *eepshow1Man
8 weeks ago

London

Also recently had a few meets arranged, where I've shown up only to have my 'I've arrived and outside' message completly ignored and never heard from them again.

I mean, why make someone travel, if you are not serious? Wasted time, cab fares etc. It's really frustrating.

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By *uvs2watchherCouple
8 weeks ago

newcastle

Ok I'm a wife. And I took page off hubby. Do you not think it's the husbands just getting jollies. Do you message the wives? I'm not being funny but that's why I did this and changed passwords etc. And it's better now I'm in control of who I meet xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago


"Ok I'm a wife. And I took page off hubby. Do you not think it's the husbands just getting jollies. Do you message the wives? I'm not being funny but that's why I did this and changed passwords etc. And it's better now I'm in control of who I meet xxxxxx"

When I message a Couples Profile, I always address the Messages to Both as Both should be in Control. But if it suits you better to be in charge then fair play

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By *omRachCouple
8 weeks ago

Wirral

Is it single men letting you down, or couples?

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By *ythenMan
8 weeks ago

.

It’s the height of ignorance 😩

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By *isser36Man
8 weeks ago

fylde Coast

Pretty standard carry on for on here now I've found. Couples and women or more likely sad attention seeking men. If they aren't willing to prove they are genuine pretty early on i just move on. Sad reality is for men on here the competition is endless and you just get lost in the sea of time wasters,ego trippers and men pretending to be women / couples. Take it all with a pinch of salt.

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By *he Gentleman 4uMan
8 weeks ago

aston

Soo many time wasters on here now, single males who do want to meet dont get any responses. Its certainly not what it used to be.

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By *inky PerkyCouple
8 weeks ago

Kingston


"I'm not discrediting or delegitimizing the struggle that women have on this site to meet a proper man. What I'm trying to get through is that for us single guys, we have trouble even making contact because we're the majority on the site and because women have flooded inboxes which makes it hard to stand out and maintain a conversation. Sure there's different issues present for couples and women but not communication"

...and that top 5% have figured out the best ways to stand out and make contact. Our inbox is flooded with guys who make little to no effort. It really doesn't take much to not be like them

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By *est_Yorkshire_GentMan
8 weeks ago

Leeds

Unfortunately it seems to be happening to everyone at the moment 😕 wish me luck for the social I’ve got tonight.. 😐..

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By *aymoMan
8 weeks ago

s

Any couples in Kent/Surrey looking for a genuine male

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By *outhman15Man
8 weeks ago

southampton

Been let down several times, left the site several times but get drawn back on here

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
8 weeks ago

Next Door

This year I've been ghosted 3 times and a last minute cancellation (he met someone eise).

All were by (so called) single men.

🤷‍♀️

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By *ral_lover55Man
8 weeks ago

Gravesend

I've been let down 4 times, twice by the same person.

I am waiting to meet someone in less than an hour, so far this one is still on. We have met before so shouldn't be cancelled.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
8 weeks ago

Leeds

Enjoy your meet

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By *helroyCouple
8 weeks ago

Skegness

we been let down 2 times in 24 hours

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By *r TriomanMan
8 weeks ago

Malmesbury


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"

Sorry to hear about your experiences OP. It would seem like it's becoming more common lately on here.

Like you guys, I've been on Fab for many years and it's only happened once to me but then I only get one or two meets a year. I'm not sure how it can be avoided, especially as the people you're meeting seem (from their profiles) to be reliable.

By the way OP, there is at least one very reliable man in your area 😉👋

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By *annyFoxCouple
8 weeks ago

Hagley / Halesowen

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By *i versMan
8 weeks ago

Kirkcaldy


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"
I'm up for meeting and won't disappoint ans would love to meet but I feel that you won't as I get this all the time so I feel your pain

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By *annyFoxCouple
8 weeks ago

Hagley / Halesowen


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"

Happens to us regularly.

It's not us, and it's not you.

It's just a lot of profiles on here really aren't genuine

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By *hoenix_1Man
8 weeks ago

richmond

When my ex and I had a couples profile, we had 2 no shows. I went unlos and the other forgot it was his sons birthday

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By *ecretxLoverWoman
8 weeks ago

Glasgow

Unfortunately it happens to most of us at one point or another x

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By *fterEightAffairWoman
8 weeks ago

Farnham

Simply fantasists. Through various research I’ve deduced that over 75% of women here, are in fact just men and almost 60% of couples here, are also, in fact just men!!

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By *hoenix_1Man
8 weeks ago

richmond


"Simply fantasists. Through various research I’ve deduced that over 75% of women here, are in fact just men and almost 60% of couples here, are also, in fact just men!!"

I would have gone with 25% and 40% fakes here

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By *uck69xMan
8 weeks ago

cramlington


"Simply fantasists. Through various research I’ve deduced that over 75% of women here, are in fact just men and almost 60% of couples here, are also, in fact just men!!"
I've had the same from females who we chat get along everything is great we both forefill each other's wants and desires then comes to meet their a no show . I had one female apologies the next day saying she fell asleep after a long day at work and would make it up to me . The next meeting was arranged again never turned up reported to admin but nothing was done about it and she wasn't removed

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By *allySlinkyWoman
8 weeks ago

Leeds


"Through various research I’ve deduced that over 75% of women here, are in fact just men and almost 60% of couples here, are also, in fact just men!!"

Impressive research. What did it entail ?

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By *r TriomanMan
8 weeks ago

Malmesbury


"Through various research I’ve deduced that over 75% of women here, are in fact just men and almost 60% of couples here, are also, in fact just men!!

Impressive research. What did it entail ?"

I'm guessing that they work for Sydney University 😱

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By *w funwifeWoman
8 weeks ago

near taunton

nope every meet ive arranged via this account or our joint account has been spot on but i put the effort in to make sure they are real and i do it all via fab no other apps no phone no email just fab ...ive not been lrt down for years ... and i meet very often

the real problem is so many of our ladies and couples are ideed men faking it

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

We seem to be on a good run at the moment! We always meet for a social only first & although we've had one cancel on the day, every other has gone ahead. I think part of the reason for this is even socials are arranged days in advance & I make sure in the interim, we keep chatting so the fantasists & married guys tend to get bored and disappear.

When we used to meet last minute/no prior social we'd get alot of no shows.

Alot of people don't want a social, I know and that's fine for them, but it works for us & any meets arranged go ahead.

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago


"I'm not discrediting or delegitimizing the struggle that women have on this site to meet a proper man. What I'm trying to get through is that for us single guys, we have trouble even making contact because we're the majority on the site and because women have flooded inboxes which makes it hard to stand out and maintain a conversation. Sure there's different issues present for couples and women but not communication

...and that top 5% have figured out the best ways to stand out and make contact. Our inbox is flooded with guys who make little to no effort. It really doesn't take much to not be like them"

You're saying that fab has an esoteric kind of logic and best practices for making contact etc. and that there's a few good ways to present yourself/message to gain some woman's attention or interest?

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By *TWboyMan
8 weeks ago

kings Lynn

If I agree to meet then I’m there.

It’s actually on my profile.

There do appear to be a large number of both single men and couples time wasters in east Anglia though

The south West and North West seems better….

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By *hat.coupleCouple
8 weeks ago

Kent

Happens to us all the time, even verified accounts can be fake on here. Its constant.

Mrs x

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By *ohndoe999Man
8 weeks ago

bournemouth

It's such a shame there isn't a way of dealing with this... 2 parties agree to meet (they both confirm) press a button saying yes to confirm... Then if it goes ahead then press option yes all was good... If it was cancelled then leave feed back how & when or no message... I get everyone has lives away from swinging but just don't be knobs

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By *otshot123Man
8 weeks ago

wexford

Its happend to me many times

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By *JB1954Man
8 weeks ago

Reading

Earlier in the thread. Someone suggested arranging 4X meet same day. My thought . If all four were genuine. 3X let downs. Is that good , practice and manners. ?

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By *uck69xMan
8 weeks ago

cramlington


"Earlier in the thread. Someone suggested arranging 4X meet same day. My thought . If all four were genuine. 3X let downs. Is that good , practice and manners. ? "
might be better that the site bans no shows for life . The no shows spoil it for the genuine members

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By *ssex BareMan
8 weeks ago

Southend

As I can't accommodate I'm happy to travel within reason. So far been let down by 1 couple and 3 single women. The couple waited till I had travelled to the meeting point to say not coming so did one of the singles. The other 2 just stopped chatting. All within the last 6 months. Only local meets now.

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By *rust a TradieMan
8 weeks ago

Lichfield

It’s a regular occurrence for me

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By *ighlander-n-KittyCouple
8 weeks ago

Hull

Happened to us a few times!

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By *ee1967Man
8 weeks ago

watford

I've had 5 meets arranged. All 5 let me down

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By *izandpaulCouple
8 weeks ago

merseyside

FAB is good for parties, holidays, clubs, see who's near.

But for 121 meets we wouldn't bother, the number of timewasters makes it too much of a chore to try and sort the wheat from the chaff.

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By *uckurcumMan
8 weeks ago

Bishop Auckland

Until they actually turn up I never believe it will happen .... Don't travel if I can help it anymore as they have a habit of either blocking you,not responding or that magic fab trick 'User left site' ....

It's like Disneyland without the rides !

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By *ensman100Man
8 weeks ago

Hounslow

Haven't met many off here.. but have met everyone i have made arrangements with.

Wouldn't dream of not turning up! That's just rude.

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Chippenham

The guy that generated this thread by letting us down by stopping messaging a few hours before the meet then got in touch a week later apologising and want wanting to meet that night. He said that he got cold feet and expected a second chance. I don't think so.

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Chippenham


"Until they actually turn up I never believe it will happen .... Don't travel if I can help it anymore as they have a habit of either blocking you,not responding or that magic fab trick 'User left site' ....

It's like Disneyland without the rides ! "

This is how we feel now, it spoils the experience as I don't get excited then theres no disappointment.

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Chippenham


"Is it single men letting you down, or couples?"

Single men, we have up.on couples a long time ago

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By *r and Mrs B xx OP   Couple
8 weeks ago

Chippenham


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?

Sorry to hear about your experiences OP. It would seem like it's becoming more common lately on here.

Like you guys, I've been on Fab for many years and it's only happened once to me but then I only get one or two meets a year. I'm not sure how it can be avoided, especially as the people you're meeting seem (from their profiles) to be reliable.

By the way OP, there is at least one very reliable man in your area 😉👋"

It seems that we are blocked

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By *host63Man
8 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham


"Are we the only people on Fab to experience yet another let down? This is the fourth one over a couple of months. All of them were meet verified, 2 gave the usual excuses but 2 just stopped messaging on the day. Where are all of the genuine guys gone?"

Unfortunately the amount of times I have been stood up i have lost count of.

What's even worse is when they arrange a date and on the day yiur going say they are broke and need money because of a sick relative or as recently asking for money for a computer game to keep their 12yr old nephew who they are lollingbafyer because his aunt died to keep him occupied while she went out with me.

I mean I wonder how successful she was with that one?

I did give her 10 points for bullshit

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By *elboy1957Man
8 weeks ago

Weston-super-Mare

That's why it's best to meet for a social first, not only know if you're suitable but if no show you still get a night out.

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By *aldaVelvetTV/TS
8 weeks ago

London

Just for the record, I haven't had any no shows or wavering beforehand. All couples, women and TVs have shown up pretty much on time.

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By *onnie 90Woman
8 weeks ago

Leeds


"It's the norm on here now.

Let down mid week. Yet ANOTHER single guy changed his mind about 3hours ago after giving it the Big one. No doubt his Wife or GF suddenly changed their plans!!"

This. The site is rife with cheats. It must be gutting for them when their wife/girlfriend ruins their plans.

Always busier during the day when they're out at work. Gives the cheaters more opportunity to put in a poor performance (should be their partners on here looking for a decent shag 😆).

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