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The pressure of a meet!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
14 weeks ago

So I’ve got probably too much experience with women but have never even got close to a threesome. I keep looking at meets and socials and of course the majority of couples on here have really busy personal lives.

The pressure come from the fact that most couples have very limited time and what if they don’t fancy me. I would hate for a couple to come to me or me to them and feel like I would be waisting their time if I wasn’t for them or they weren’t for me.

I guess it’s no different from going on a date with someone and not fancying them but when it’s a couple it seems even worse if that was the case.

Does that make sense?

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By *wo-Of-a-KindCouple
14 weeks ago

Middle Earth

from a couples pespective, there's also a similar pressure from us when meeting a guy, we are always nervous, even cautious, so this works both ways.

This is why non pressured socials are a good thing for some.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
14 weeks ago

Yeh I like that idea a lot. Most socials though don’t want single men which is understandable but annoying. I think for members like me it’s probably about consistency and keeping going until that first meet and I’m sure it gets easier then.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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14 weeks ago

East Sussex

We always meet a guy for coffee or a drink and emphasise that it's social only. Nobody is under any pressure then. We go away and chat to each other and he can give it some thought then he can let us know if he's interested or not and we can do the same.

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By *ussraneCouple
14 weeks ago

Romford


"We always meet a guy for coffee or a drink and emphasise that it's social only. Nobody is under any pressure then. We go away and chat to each other and he can give it some thought then he can let us know if he's interested or not and we can do the same. "

Ditto

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By *acky RacersCouple
14 weeks ago

Lincoln


"We always meet a guy for coffee or a drink and emphasise that it's social only. Nobody is under any pressure then. We go away and chat to each other and he can give it some thought then he can let us know if he's interested or not and we can do the same. "

That's exactly how we do it. The no pressure thing helps to put everyone at ease and means we're all at our best.

Sadly, many single guys aren't entirely single so often don't want to meet socially in a public place with us...it's another filter to be honest and when it works, it works really well.

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By *arparkquickyMan
14 weeks ago

Harpenden

Yes, I agree. I imagine someone not willing to meet is either up to no good or just looking for notches x

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By *allySlinkyWoman
14 weeks ago

Leeds


"So I’ve got probably too much experience with women "

What makes you think you have too much experience ?

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By *_hot_hornyCouple
14 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

There's definitely the same feeling from the couples side as well, as others have said! We don't really have the time for social only meets, but we do like to have a quick call/video chat before meeting just to get a vibe check and reassurance that we're the people in the pictures - even after that, when we meet there is always a clear no expectation rule that applies on both sides. We'll always make it VERY obvious if we're attracted and wanting to play, and hopefully it's reciprocated!

There's only been one occasion where we were interested in playing and we assumed they weren't, so we called it night - afterwards he messaged saying how disappointed he was that we didn't want to play, despite giving him all the come ons and them flying over his entirety! Haha!

You have nothing to lose by turning up, if you don't tick their boxes, hopefully they're polite about it and you can have a nice chat and go home. If they're not nice about it, then would you really want to play with people like that in the first place?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
14 weeks ago

Haha I just mean I’ve been with lots of women!

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By *ikeC81Man
14 weeks ago

harrow


"There's definitely the same feeling from the couples side as well, as others have said! We don't really have the time for social only meets, but we do like to have a quick call/video chat before meeting just to get a vibe check and reassurance that we're the people in the pictures - even after that, when we meet there is always a clear no expectation rule that applies on both sides. We'll always make it VERY obvious if we're attracted and wanting to play, and hopefully it's reciprocated!

There's only been one occasion where we were interested in playing and we assumed they weren't, so we called it night - afterwards he messaged saying how disappointed he was that we didn't want to play, despite giving him all the come ons and them flying over his entirety! Haha!

You have nothing to lose by turning up, if you don't tick their boxes, hopefully they're polite about it and you can have a nice chat and go home. If they're not nice about it, then would you really want to play with people like that in the first place?"

I have had this before m, an old friend got a shower in my hotel then said a few days later why didn’t I join her lol…she was having a shower I didn’t know she wanted fun as well lol

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By *VANDYMan
14 weeks ago

Dawlish


"So I’ve got probably too much experience with women but have never even got close to a threesome. I keep looking at meets and socials and of course the majority of couples on here have really busy personal lives.

The pressure come from the fact that most couples have very limited time and what if they don’t fancy me. I would hate for a couple to come to me or me to them and feel like I would be waisting their time if I wasn’t for them or they weren’t for me.

I guess it’s no different from going on a date with someone and not fancying them but when it’s a couple it seems even worse if that was the case.

Does that make sense? "

I know how you feel Steve, I’m finding it difficult to even meet a single lady. I always suggest a social meet in a place of their choice and make it clear that there has to be a mutual spark. I understand the “no play on the first date” thing but I like when it’s “have a drink and see where it leads on the night” because I think you know within a short time if there’s a spark. I think having a meet and having to wait for approval sounds a bit strange, like a job interview, but again I’d respect that. I’d rather they “went to the wall” and had a chat.

But anyway, who am I to say, I’m still a Fab Virgin but I do have an amazing FWB that introduced me to the site.

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By *outhsuffolkcoupleCouple
14 weeks ago

Ipswich


"We always meet a guy for coffee or a drink and emphasise that it's social only. Nobody is under any pressure then. We go away and chat to each other and he can give it some thought then he can let us know if he's interested or not and we can do the same. "

Alway this. Works perfectly for us

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