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"Please assemble here.. "Nice manners. Good girl | |||
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"Well I do like to be in control and can be demanding. Does that make me dominant "It's a start. | |||
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"You’ll probably get dozens of inboxes professing their dominance, usually with a long descriptive fantasy. Without fail EVERY single one of the self professed Doms that have messaged me has offered to serve on their knees within a few messages. Do your due diligence when interviewing prospectives xxxx" Sound advice
After all my years, I can tell the difference between a respectful Dom and a chancer, thankfully.
Had a few messages saying they want to make me their 'bitch' ... yawn.
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"Please assemble here.. "good use of please, well done | |||
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"Can someone who's a real dominant man here, explain what it actually means to be a dominant man with women without being toxic with masculinity..." Firstly, this isn't a space where masculinity is to be feared. D/S play in general can be seen as toxic by those that don't understand. To dominate requires someone to submit, someone to relinquish control to someone they trust and with a shared interest for carnal base pleasures. The Doms role is to take that gift of submission and explore it, reward it and test it. Physically and mentally, pushing boundaries whilst learning what sensations or feelings yr sub requires. Like everything, there's many levels and flavours so there's no one right answer, but with a good level of honesty, trust and once you find that heady judgement free place of true release, then there's no need for concerns of toxicity, just pleasure, in whatever form it is. But, my idea of dominating isn't measured by bruises and it isn't a salve to a bruised ego. That does sometimes need to be said. | |||
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"Very well said, by both "It's sad to see how many crave to explore their submissive sides but are put off by "Doms" who are just out for their own physical satisfaction. The cerebral side is so often neglected as is aftercare. I will say this to any starting out into D/S play, kinky play can be amazing, it can bring pleasures and sensations youve only tried to imagine, it can be cathartic and heal wounds you never knew you had, but it can throw an emotional curveball at any time. Aftercare shouldn't be a chore, it's 2 consenting adults helping each other on a journey and if you want to enjoy the good bits, then be there for each other when it sucks too. It makes the bond stronger, the trust deepens and then the deep desires can be explored. Besides, there's nothing quite like that soft kiss and cuddle back to reality when just moments before you were in a place of sweet depravity. So take the rough with the smooth, it's worth it. | |||
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"You’ll probably get dozens of inboxes professing their dominance, usually with a long descriptive fantasy. Without fail EVERY single one of the self professed Doms that have messaged me has offered to serve on their knees within a few messages. Do your due diligence when interviewing prospectives xxxx" They are only human... 🤣 I'm not dominant, but more the 'initiator' with Mrs as I generally have to be, and have to take the lead - but I'd cut straight to the chase and get on my knees x | |||
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"Please assemble here.. "Mmmmm… yes please… 💋💋💋 | |||
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"Good luck OP. I'm sure you'll get a hundred chancers messaging from it. I find it a lot better to meet kinky people at events and munches, you get a better feel for them there 💜" Agree with this | |||
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"Please assemble here.. "I give the orders not the other way around, now stand against that wall and stick out that big bum | |||
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💋💋💋"I’d love to dominate you | |||
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"They exist but seems there's more con-doms than anything Luckily they tend to be easy to spot I wish you luck in your quest OP, hope you find your match " Con-doms hahaha that killed me ha xx | |||
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"You’ll probably get dozens of inboxes professing their dominance, usually with a long descriptive fantasy. Without fail EVERY single one of the self professed Doms that have messaged me has offered to serve on their knees within a few messages. Do your due diligence when interviewing prospectives xxxx" Would you prefer I whispered in your ear my intentions? | |||
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"Definitely not I just see arrogance " Arrogance on the side of the Dom? I get how it can be viewed that way. What I will say is that the best subs are usually the strongest kick arse women in vanilla life, it is a visible gift of submission, relinquishing control with trust and a hunger to experience pleasure. It's not arrogance that drives me and though it might some, I'd ask a sub if it feels like arrogance before judging too harshly. | |||
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"I've experienced amazing Doms who are respectful and put me first. Their confidence in what they do, makes me more sub than I thought I could be. That's how I know, he's a Dom. My day to day life. I take no sh*t and super independent. Sexually, I love that I can be someone different, my inner me." And to thine own self be true | |||
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"I've experienced amazing Doms who are respectful and put me first. Their confidence in what they do, makes me more sub than I thought I could be. That's how I know, he's a Dom. My day to day life. I take no sh*t and super independent. Sexually, I love that I can be someone different, my inner me. And to thine own self be true" Absolutely. Thank you for your input here | |||
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"Definitely not I just see arrogance Arrogance on the side of the Dom? I get how it can be viewed that way. What I will say is that the best subs are usually the strongest kick arse women in vanilla life, it is a visible gift of submission, relinquishing control with trust and a hunger to experience pleasure. It's not arrogance that drives me and though it might some, I'd ask a sub if it feels like arrogance before judging too harshly." arrogance | |||
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"Definitely not I just see arrogance Arrogance on the side of the Dom? I get how it can be viewed that way. What I will say is that the best subs are usually the strongest kick arse women in vanilla life, it is a visible gift of submission, relinquishing control with trust and a hunger to experience pleasure. It's not arrogance that drives me and though it might some, I'd ask a sub if it feels like arrogance before judging too harshly. arrogance " Rude! | |||
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"Definitely not I just see arrogance Arrogance on the side of the Dom? I get how it can be viewed that way. What I will say is that the best subs are usually the strongest kick arse women in vanilla life, it is a visible gift of submission, relinquishing control with trust and a hunger to experience pleasure. It's not arrogance that drives me and though it might some, I'd ask a sub if it feels like arrogance before judging too harshly. arrogance Rude!" very, looks like she as blocked me  | |||
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"Definitely not I just see arrogance Arrogance on the side of the Dom? I get how it can be viewed that way. What I will say is that the best subs are usually the strongest kick arse women in vanilla life, it is a visible gift of submission, relinquishing control with trust and a hunger to experience pleasure. It's not arrogance that drives me and though it might some, I'd ask a sub if it feels like arrogance before judging too harshly. arrogance " Fair enough, it can look that way. Do you feel its the same level of arrogance with a Domme and a male sub? | |||
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"i love a sexually asertive guy but i avoid anyone who say's they are dom as so many are just porm film fantasist . i was meeting or should say trying to meet sexually dom guys in the early days and everyone turnned out to be a dreamer so i changed how i look now and getting sucess still hard to find but i prefer that rather than end up with a waste of time. you ask guys what dom means most will give you a porn script or chains n whips" And there's the problem, too many wannabes or bruised egos trying to play a role, putting people off with ineptitude and a misunderstanding of what's needed. | |||
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"Oh my I miss my last D/s dynamic play mate so much, my own fault as I caught the feelings and had to cut it off after two years. But a true Dom is a rare find. It was never about pain or inflicting anything other than pure pleasure with restrictions and knowing who held the cards in distributing that pleasure! The after care was the best, and whilst a strong woman in the real world in his arms I was wholly submissive and soft and vulnerable yet safe. I can only dream of that again. "It's such an awesome place to be when the dynamic just clicks, something you have to experience as words just don't do it justice. | |||
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"We deliberately don't have it in our profile, but we do have a D/s dynamic between us. Difference for us between an actual Dom and a 'con-dom' (also stealing that) is what role the Dom plays - if you think it's just about telling the sub what to do then you've missed the point, but if you are taking the time to find where to push and have them wanting to submit and enjoy giving up the control then it's a great feeling. " think must met wrong man he was just arrogant and put me off when I tried this | |||
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"We deliberately don't have it in our profile, but we do have a D/s dynamic between us. Difference for us between an actual Dom and a 'con-dom' (also stealing that) is what role the Dom plays - if you think it's just about telling the sub what to do then you've missed the point, but if you are taking the time to find where to push and have them wanting to submit and enjoy giving up the control then it's a great feeling. think must met wrong man he was just arrogant and put me off when I tried this " It sounds like it tbh - I'm guessing their interpretation of a Dom is just telling you what they wanted and expecting you to do it? I would also add that as a dynamic it takes time to get the best out of it. I (Mr) spent quite a while learning her responses to different actions, finding what she liked and where her boundaries were, before slowly introducing blindfolds and restraints. There needs to be a good level of understanding and trust between both people that allows the submissive to let go of the control while still feeling safe. That's also why it's not on our profile - some people would get the wrong impression and think we'd expect/allow that of them if we played, but it would take multiple meets before we'd consider introducing it | |||
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"We deliberately don't have it in our profile, but we do have a D/s dynamic between us. Difference for us between an actual Dom and a 'con-dom' (also stealing that) is what role the Dom plays - if you think it's just about telling the sub what to do then you've missed the point, but if you are taking the time to find where to push and have them wanting to submit and enjoy giving up the control then it's a great feeling. think must met wrong man he was just arrogant and put me off when I tried this " | |||
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