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By *ds313 OP   Man
18 weeks ago

East Co Galway

Am I ugly. ? weird looking ?, too old or is there just far to many men for women? All I would like is to meet for a coffee and chat.

This would be the kind of message i would send :::

Hi there, My name is Steve. I am originally Scottish but living in east Galway for about 25 years. I was reading your profile and felt I had try and contact you. I am very easy going, dependable and respectful guy. I am an independent Biologist, so my work hours are as flexible as I want. I have been married for over 20 years and the “spark” is gone from the bedroom. I feel its important and heathy to keep your desires alive and enjoy yourself as long as you can. I would hope to meet a lady who feels the same. I am not hung up on colour, size, race, religion etc. All I really want is to meet a fun, happy and a “Let yourself go” Person. I would never ask anybody to do something they did not want to do; I have the greatest respect for others. I can travel some days no problem. My house would be free, but I would only know at short notice. If we ever did get the chance to meet, I’m sure we will work something out.

I can give you my Email or WhatsApp anytime.

Would be great to grab a coffee or chat on facetime first.

Hoping you reply,

Steve.see if we would like to meet again.

If my profile is terrible please tell me what am I doing so Wrong?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
18 weeks ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
18 weeks ago

East Sussex

Your message tells me that you're married and bored with your sex life. It implies that you'd be happy to meet in your marital home but doesn't say if your wife is happy with that.

I'd say that and no other reason is why you're not seeing results here.

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
18 weeks ago

Norwich


"Your message tells me that you're married and bored with your sex life. It implies that you'd be happy to meet in your marital home but doesn't say if your wife is happy with that.

I'd say that and no other reason is why you're not seeing results here."

This plus potentially one bathroom photo. Always gives us the ick as suggests other half is unaware of your proclivities. Not that we are looking for guys, would be similar if ladies pics were only in bathroom.

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By *ds313 OP   Man
12 weeks ago

East Co Galway

Thanks all for your advice. I am going to re start from the beginning.

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By *lderflower_AppleWoman
12 weeks ago

Basingstoke

Hi OP, I'd recommend that you make your message more personalised to the recipient. You say 'I felt I had to contact you'. Why not say what it was about their profile that you felt was compelling or attracted you. Otherwise it can read a bit like a copy and pasted message that you've sent to all the local ladies that fit in your criteria.

Is also reduced the length of the message and simply say that you're married and indicate whether your spouse is aware. Many women won't meet married guys - especially if they're here without knowledge, and to disclose this gives them the information they need upfront over whether to reply.

Take note also that many women say in their profiles they won't meet married men, so save yourself time and effort and don't even bother to message them.

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By *ack1971Man
12 weeks ago

Cork

I'm not going to criticise any single guy reaching out for help at all, but in your favour, you have a nice verification which does help.

I just feel your profile is engineered for a dating website more than a swingers website.

I don't think the two are generally compatible and you seem definite about what youre seeking, which is fine, but may not work for a lot of people who are seeking a swinging lifestyle.

It's very easy to muddle everything up on a website thinking it's all the same, but that's where a lot of people make mistakes.

I think your profile does not match your target audience.

You know what you're looking for, but have a look at a lot of profiles and see is it what others seek?

I wish you the best of luck, I know east Galway very well so meeting people shouldn't be too much of a problem.

Galwegians are a friendly bunch.

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By *ndymac888Man
12 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I think you have maybe filled 10 messages there pal, its good to be honest but the site is more casual than that, if you get a deeper connection over time that’s great and to some extent what most of us want find.

It’s also a little lonely hearts style, someone might find it sweet in a different setting but on Fab people might have a reluctance to sign up straight away.

Good news is the forums are a great place to make connections and maybe build the deeper friendships your looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

You're a cheat to many that's an immediate no.

You stating you don't care about size, shape, race etc gives any holes a goal thoughts, it's not something that needs stating unless you have a particular preference.

On here you are one of many, you need tough skin, be prepared for rejection.

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By *ack1971Man
12 weeks ago

Cork


"You're a cheat to many that's an immediate no.

You stating you don't care about size, shape, race etc gives any holes a goal thoughts, it's not something that needs stating unless you have a particular preference.

On here you are one of many, you need tough skin, be prepared for rejection."

Where did you come up with the fact that he poses as a cheat to many??

Nothing on his profile alludes to it, in fact he's clearly stated where he's at in life, and you went for the jugular?

Bad minds think bad things, it may be your experience but he actually put effort into his profile even if it doesn't do him any favours.

People moaning about profiles being empty but still moan when they are full and explicit???

Complaining about any holes a goal because he said he didn't mind age, race, or shape?

You completely disregarded any effort on his profile or the fact he asked for assistance, but yet you assassinated him.

That's toxic.

SMH.

Name one positive you put forward?

Block game is strong. No one needs that from anyone.

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