FabSwingers.com forum: Succses rate on fab

By *crumdiddlyumptious OP Man
13 weeks ago

Open to all,

When you're looking for a meet, not a social but a actual meet for sex do you have more success from the forums, browsing profiles, chat rooms, clubs,

or do you stick to tried and tested previous meets ?

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By *eri24Woman
13 weeks ago

Bridgend

I usually just update my status

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By *andomly FriendlyCouple
13 weeks ago

Hull

"Open to all,

When you're looking for a meet, not a social but a actual meet for sex do you have more success from the forums, browsing profiles, chat rooms, clubs,

or do you stick to tried and tested previous meets ?"

Pretty miserable to be honest lol

A couple of our Veris are from meets off Fab the rest are clubs.

Curls x

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By *MCMan
13 weeks ago

London/EA

"I usually just update my status "

Slightly different success rate for single males with this approach😂 Unless I direct it to my friend list.

I prefer to message and speak with someone first so I’ll usually send a message.

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By *stoppMan
13 weeks ago

Durham

A mix of browsing profiles and update of profile status..

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By *lan157Man
13 weeks ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Previous meets are best if you can achieve it but it's not what everyone wants. Women swingers have only so much time available and reasonably seek variety.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
13 weeks ago

Herts

"Open to all,

When you're looking for a meet, not a social but a actual meet for sex do you have more success from the forums, browsing profiles, chat rooms, clubs,

or do you stick to tried and tested previous meets ?"
a mixture of everything really. I don't religiously try to chase anything and have been lucky enough in most cases for the meets to naturally happen. That and I'm obviously gorgeous

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By *umagain58Man
13 weeks ago

London

A mixture of most of these but most at parties not related to fab. Majority on here after a fair bit of nice chat. Once met do like repeat meets with lovely people on here

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By *ever2old4toysCouple
13 weeks ago

Abingdon

Back when I was a single male on here my success came from talking and leaving open door offers rather than "sealing the deal".

I remember talking to one husband about his fantasy and "yes and.."ING details. We talked for weeks and veered off into other subjects like gym, rugby, computer games and all sorts. I was cool with nothing happening and just getting to know more of this awesome and open minded community.

Weeks later despite the fantasy talk he came back and said "talked it through with (wife's name) she wants to wank two cocks and watch them cum. What are you doing tonight?"

It was that simple in the end. Just getting to know people.

Major mistakes I've seen are: badly written profiles, single sentence or single word answers, trying to lead the fantasy into what you want and not what the couple wants, trying to get the wife and ignore the husband and finally and most importantly whining!

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By *exyDiversCouple
13 weeks ago

Surrey / Hants

We can’t agree more as had a similar experience recently too, just getting to know people and remember they have lives outside of the lifestyle too

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By *lackmamba2004Man
13 weeks ago

dublin

The best way Ive found is to take pictures of yourself. Having no photo or pfp doesn’t help yourself

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By *ealitybitesMan
13 weeks ago

Belfast

I haven't been looking to meet for a few years now but when I was it was always by messaging profiles and chatting for a while and then meeting socially.

I've never been to a club or used chatrooms and most of the group socials I've been to have been in the last five years when I haven't been actively looking to meet.

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By *upersonic SamMan
13 weeks ago

wigan

All my meets become regular FWB scenarios so I only search a new playmate maybe once or twice a year.

I'm in no rush as I'd rather have connection an quality over quantity.

I normally just search who is near, if we match what we are looking for I drop them a personalised message.

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By *hil most chillMan
13 weeks ago

London, South East & Europe

My last couple of meets have come from me messaging ladies. In the past I've had a lot of meets through forum interaction, it really is great for getting to know others without the formality and expectations that can be associated with messages. Whenever I've posted a meet in the meets section all I hear is crickets though

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By *neeyeshutMan
13 weeks ago

surrey

As a single guy , you have to put the effort in.. make yourself available and do a bit of research so pitch yourself to the correct audience..and things tick over.

when I was on here as a couple.. it was much easier..just dangle a bit of bait out and pick and choose who to follow up with 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️

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By *renzMan
13 weeks ago

Between Chichester and Havant

As a single male, who's been on and off of the site over the years, I've found it easier to get meets in the earlier years. All from messaging, not from clubs or socials. I would meet between 6 and 10 new couples/single females a year which I was more than happy with. Now it does seem to be more difficult to meet others, but then I am also a different age demographic to when I first joined!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I just update my status and let the messages roll in, hoping that amongst the ludicrous propositions, there is something usable.

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By *crumdiddlyumptious OP Man
13 weeks ago

Just to point out, I wasn't looking for advice as I'm not looking to meet, I was just curious how other people do their searches

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By *NormalMan01Man
13 weeks ago

Harrogate

I’d say the success rate from all of the above is in single figures… for me, anyway. I’m sure others have different experiences.

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By *xfordjohnMan
13 weeks ago

Oxford

It seems fairly random to me. I post in the forums, update my profile, add pictures and message couples I've found in browsing, and meets have come in different ways.

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By *parkle1974Woman
13 weeks ago

Leeds

99% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums x

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By *heVikingJarlMan
13 weeks ago

behind you

Still waiting for my first as once the face pic is sent i get nothing back

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By *iFruityCoupleCouple
13 weeks ago

Watermouth

"I usually just update my status "

That works, but not always mail from who we would like

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By *arkJonesMan
13 weeks ago

Bangor

The first veri is the most difficult ..what do I need to do to get one ..I'll try most things!

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By *ony MannMan
13 weeks ago

South Newton

I've found I have more meets from chat rooms and here than from adverts.

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By *elboy1978Man
13 weeks ago

Jarrow

I am finding it hard to get a meet on both

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By *arkJonesMan
13 weeks ago

Bangor

"I've found I have more meets from chat rooms and here than from adverts. "

Ty I'll try

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By *parkle1974Woman
13 weeks ago

Leeds

"The first veri is the most difficult ..what do I need to do to get one ..I'll try most things!"

Go on cam.

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By *lubchuckerMan
13 weeks ago

Oxfordshire

Pretty dismal to be honest but hopefully things will pick up soon

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By *arkJonesMan
13 weeks ago

Bangor

"The first veri is the most difficult ..what do I need to do to get one ..I'll try most things!

Go on cam."

God idea ty

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By *ntman83Man
13 weeks ago

Walsall

Only been lucky enough to meet with 1 lady so far. I think I'd looked a her pics like a few and we chatted we were open and honest about what we both wanted. Met for a drink and had a couple of meets at my place, unfortunately for me she has since taken a break for swinging.

I feel I could probably have more success if I put a bit more effort in and messaged more people but also feel like I'm pestering people if I do that so tend not to. Most of the messages I get are from single men and if that's what i was looking for I'd have no problem with meets, but it's not what I'm looking for.

Based on the amount of messages i do get from single men i can understand why ladies and couples don't always answer, but very much appreciate when they do even if it's just a no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

Yes most of meets are at clubs and parties

Very rare a genuine meet develops off fab message

However when they do they are normally amazing

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By *adbod2godbodMan
13 weeks ago

Manchester

Zero.....zero success

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By *uffsandkinkCouple
13 weeks ago

leeds

Quite low clubs are a much higher success rate

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By *elightful 2Couple
13 weeks ago

Not living in the UK

When we was here before with our old profile we did ok but we put plenty of time and effort into looking.. on this profile we are more into the forums and clubs.

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By *umagain58Man
13 weeks ago

London

"The best way Ive found is to take pictures of yourself. Having no photo or pfp doesn’t help yourself"

Not always the case as I don’t have pictures and still have decent amount of fun. Admittedly I used when first verified

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By *umagain58Man
13 weeks ago

London

"99% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums x"

That’s a shame!

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By *till ExploringMan
13 weeks ago

Newark

Pretty much exclusively clubs as a single male.

On a couples profile, we had some meets through messaging, and a couple of time responded to "Meet" adverts, but now stick to clubs out of choice.

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By *ellhungvweMan
13 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I will usually ping a status out and look to see who has meets up. Regulars are always good and if someone was around then I would drop them a message.

I don’t tend to do clubs unless I have planned to meet someone there (see above

). The forums are not a meeting place for me.

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By *allnHandsome12Man
13 weeks ago

Teesside

I’ve messaged a few that we’ve got on well in forums but it’s never developed further..yet.

All my meets have been profiles outside of forum users but in the local area, don’t think I’d be suited to a club environment.

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By *ngelLordCouple
13 weeks ago

Newport

Big big 0 now if u ask us about let downs dreamers time wasters way to much success

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By (user no longer on site)
13 weeks ago

The main battle I find on here and I guess it's the same for single blokes is the initial connection. Whether it's via forums, sending a message directly or dropping them a sly little wink, it's very hard to get that initial connection, having a natter to get to know someone before arranging a meet whether it's for a social or otherwise.

So based on my method of doing things it's a zero for me but I keep going as I know that there are many people on here to make lifetime friends with and who knows the holy grail of a fwb...

I live in hope they are out there

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Chichester

Clubs are always 100% successful for me

Off websites prob a third of time maybe

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By *rettCoolMan
13 weeks ago

Dunfermline

Went really well to start let's say it's stalled recently .. live in hope tho

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By *andPextraCouple
13 weeks ago

North West

Clubs- by a country mile

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By *ounmacCouple
13 weeks ago

Market Harborough

"Big big 0 now if u ask us about let downs dreamers time wasters way to much success "

We know that feeling let down twice already this week had a meet planned he bailed made other plans he was a no show.

We have found one or two but not many still hoping to find something someday …

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By *oiluvfunMan
13 weeks ago

Penrith

The chatrooms in here are dire, I gave up on those years ago.

I've met two ladies as a direct result of forum interaction.

I've been to 9 clubs as a single guy, to a total of 19 visits overall. I won't be going to any others unless I have a meet arranged beforehand. Clubs are shite as a single guy...

I have (at time of writing) 4 lady friends I see regularly, and just use Fab out of idle curiosity, with half an eye on the potential for making new friends

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By *each needs some creamWoman
13 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

When I first joined Fab it didn't take long to browse a few profiles and get a meet for sex.

Now it hard and hard with so many time wasters and fake profiles. After that there is a lot of no shows.

Obviously clubs it's 100% getting some action.

Meeting it's 50/50 now.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
13 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

"Open to all,

When you're looking for a meet, not a social but a actual meet for sex do you have more success from the forums, browsing profiles, chat rooms, clubs,

or do you stick to tried and tested previous meets ?"

I just pick one from my burgeoning inbox

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By *wabathMan
13 weeks ago

Bath

Very very poor xx

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By *_Mia_XTV/TS
13 weeks ago

Ilkeston

Clubs for me as i could get 100% success rate if i wanted it

Then probably here as its 50/50 if it actually happens as people have a fantasy but that dies quite quickly

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By *ony MannMan
13 weeks ago

South Newton

"When I first joined Fab it didn't take long to browse a few profiles and get a meet for sex.

Now it hard and hard with so many time wasters and fake profiles. After that there is a lot of no shows.

Obviously clubs it's 100% getting some action.

Meeting it's 50/50 now.

I'll turn up lass.

I do find people just fade away after asking for pictures or saying 'what will you do to me'. I assume they have had their wank and had no intention of meeting.

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