FabSwingers.com forum: the thing with single guy's

By *hazkiand OP Couple
over a year ago

crawley

having put up a post for single guy's to come round for a gangbang last week, w were inundated with responses all eager to join us, great you would think so imagine our suprise on the day when every one of them gave there excuses, now how often do we hear how hard things are for the poor single guy's on here. it seems to me that alot of them are just fantasists who when it comes to the crunch either bottle it or they cant come up with an excuse for their wives, it really makes me mad all that time and effort potentially wasted, only the fact that ian didnt want to let me down he managed to get a luvly group of guy,s at short notice and my fantasy was fulfilled, has anyone else had these kind of problems?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd imagine it happens all the time! Unfortunately a large percentage of the single guys on here are exactly how you described them, and its them that ruin it for the seemingly minor few good ones!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

All the time. Arranging a GB is a time consuming and soul destroying exercise which I only carry on doing because once in a while you get a really good group of men.

The only thing that helps is to invite about double the amount of men you want because its usual for 50% to drop out. Don't arrange too much in advance because they get cold feet. On the other hand don't leave it too late because they will then say they have plans. Check verifications to see if they have done GBs before, as people who haven't will get cold feet. Make sure they know its a GB so they can't say they didn't know, and get a mobile number to text them in advance.

If they don't turn up report as no shows and never invite again. If they do turn up make sure you verify them. Good behaviour should be recognised. Above all, remember its supposed to be fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd imagine it happens all the time! Unfortunately a large percentage of the single guys on here are exactly how you described them, and its them that ruin it for the seemingly minor few good ones!"

Like me, I'm a 100% genuine single bloke and can't get a meet haha, just gotta keep trying and be patient I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those type of guys don't ruin it for me! I find they make it easier actually for us gemuine, single guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm amazed at how many ladies have these stories about single men; I'm always so overjoyed to get a meet, I always turn up with bells on.

I do think that there are a lot of 'plastic mac' types on here; like the idea of shagging but haven't got the equipment or bottle for it and get some thrill out of 'securing the opportunity'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Those type of guys don't ruin it for me! I find they make it easier actually for us gemuine, single guys!"

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By *av1970Man
over a year ago

Tattershall

Had a meet couple weeks ago, couple put it up and was advertised as a multiple people for a greedy girl with a twist. I had never done anything more than couples and haven't yet got to a club (trouble travelling) so was nervous as hell.

I was a bit gutted to discover that al the others had cancelled and some on very short notice, still I got to enjoy the lady with her friend so not a total washout. Still felt 'bad', is not the right word but you know what I mean, for her and organiser.

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

If I am lucky enough to get an invite and we agree a time and a place I will be there.

I was once invited by a couple to meet them, I told them I wasnt free at the time they wanted me, so they reported me as a time waster !!!

There are. as has been said, a lot of talkers, who say a lot and dont deliver on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be said - if people are regularly being let down by singles, couples or whoever - then maybe the initial selection and vetting process isn't quite as robust as it should be?

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"and its them that ruin it for the seemingly minor few good ones!"

Nooope!

To the OP, always invite double or even triple the number of men you actually require for a gangbang. LIKE ANY OTHER group on sites like these, people get stage fright and/ or cold feet. The sheer number of men amplifies this number.

Best of luck.

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"Has to be said - if people are regularly being let down by singles, couples or whoever - then maybe the initial selection and vetting process isn't quite as robust as it should be?

Also this.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

many male partners of couples play alone with consent, they may be better

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Those type of guys don't ruin it for me! I find they make it easier actually for us gemuine, single guys!"

this.......

"Has to be said - if people are regularly being let down by singles, couples or whoever - then maybe the initial selection and vetting process isn't quite as robust as it should be?

and this......

although I am sure all the white knights will be out in a mo trying to make themselves look different as well...

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By *hazkiand OP Couple
over a year ago

crawley

thanks for all comments, and advice, as this was a new thing for us we thought we wouldnt overload the numbers incase they all turned up but we were lucky in the fact they actually told us early enough to do something about it but i just wish people would be honest its not to much to ask, if we say we will be somewhere we are there!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand why some guys do this... I mean it is easy to get really nervous. But I've never arranged to meet and then made an excuse not to show...

The very first time I met someone off here I was SO nervous... It was a little tempting to kinda chicken out but I just kept reminding myself that it was something I DID want to do... If I didn't want to meet I wouldn't be on this site, I wouldn't have arranged to meet... And I just wasn't allow myself to chicken out on what could have been a really fun experience...

And it was! Luckily my first meets on here were REALLY nice people and I had a good time

But then again it's not just single guys that give you lame excuses! The lamest one I've had was from a single woman about my age who told me that she had agreed to watch lord of the rings with her mum that night and she'd just now remembered about an hour before the meet lol...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Has to be said - if people are regularly being let down by singles, couples or whoever - then maybe the initial selection and vetting process isn't quite as robust as it should be?

Ordinarily I'd agree, but arranging anything with groups of people means that a percentage won't turn up, however carefully you vet them. You could chat for days, go through the evening minute by minute, soothe their fears about performance, text them right up til it starts, and they still don't turn up. I am not sure what can be done to prevent GB no-shows, apart from book more than needed. And even then you run the risk of no-one coming, or all of them coming. Although I know which I'd prefer.

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By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

"thanks for all comments, and advice, as this was a new thing for us we thought we wouldnt overload the numbers incase they all turned up but we were lucky in the fact they actually told us early enough to do something about it but i just wish people would be honest its not to much to ask, if we say we will be somewhere we are there! "

Unfortunately, this has become part of the swinging lifestyle, the timewasting. You take it in your stride. It goes both ways, there are a lot of couples who are absolute time wasters and don't have the decency to let you know in advance they can't make it. Everyone treats everyone as disposable so I guess it's a natural progression from that. Just hang in there and your non timewasting set of Magic Mikes will come..

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By *hazkiand OP Couple
over a year ago

crawley

we only had one guy who was honest enough to say he was worried about his performance in a group because he'd never done it before and we respect him for that and will probably meet him on his own, we will definately do it again some time but on advice will invite more,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm amazed at how many ladies have these stories about single men; I'm always so overjoyed to get a meet, I always turn up with bells on.

I do think that there are a lot of 'plastic mac' types on here; like the idea of shagging but haven't got the equipment or bottle for it and get some thrill out of 'securing the opportunity'"

Jingle bells ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those timewaster guys are and always will be CYBERWANKERS,they never have any intention of meeting simply sit at home masturbating over the thought of "you doing your meet"

Ive personally played the gangbang scene for 20 years, with the invent of webcams easy image sending etc its nowadays even worse.

The best way I found was to book 3/4 times the required numbers , Can be scary when they start with upwards of 80 /100 (but that soon changes when they read your ground rules)

Never send more than one image of yourself,

Demand a face image and mobile of the guys , so that you can block them the next time,if they dont show (no excuses)

"god guys are lame with those"

Send out all your meet info in one reply and dont play email/or text /message ping pong,"pre the meet"

stick to one message

finally get all of your guys to text you on the day to confirm if they fail to text strike em off

The more you enforce your ground rules, youll notice youll get less applicants but higher attendee numbers,

Self culling I call it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a fantasist or time waster isn't a trait that is unique to the single men. But because they vastly outnumber every other group on here, the perception is that men are worse for it (though maybe they are for all i know).

As others have said, check verifications, invite extra people, and select carefully.

Good luck, and have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hey this isn't true. I organised one myself.

ended up being on only me and her

just expect 25% turnout

and invite ME next time

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

"Being a fantasist or time waster isn't a trait that is unique to the single men. But because they vastly outnumber every other group on here, the perception is that men are worse for it (though maybe they are for all i know).

As others have said, check verifications, invite extra people, and select carefully.

Good luck, and have fun!"

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By *hazkiand OP Couple
over a year ago

crawley

"Those timewaster guys are and always will be CYBERWANKERS,they never have any intention of meeting simply sit at home masturbating over the thought of "you doing your meet"

Ive personally played the gangbang scene for 20 years, with the invent of webcams easy image sending etc its nowadays even worse.

The best way I found was to book 3/4 times the required numbers , Can be scary when they start with upwards of 80 /100 (but that soon changes when they read your ground rules)

Never send more than one image of yourself,

Demand a face image and mobile of the guys , so that you can block them the next time,if they dont show (no excuses)

"god guys are lame with those"

Send out all your meet info in one reply and dont play email/or text /message ping pong,"pre the meet"

stick to one message

finally get all of your guys to text you on the day to confirm if they fail to text strike em off

The more you enforce your ground rules, youll notice youll get less applicants but higher attendee numbers,

Self culling I call it "

sounds like great advice thank you very much, will put it into practice next time

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

Had the opposite last Friday. I agreed to host and sort a few guy's out.

Had to find a last minute sub as one guy faded away.

All seemed OK, blokes present - couple with greedy girl did not show and were offline and not answering mobile.

Doubt I'll do it again (host and help arrange blokes that is).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm amazed at how many ladies have these stories about single men; I'm always so overjoyed to get a meet, I always turn up with bells on.

I do think that there are a lot of 'plastic mac' types on here; like the idea of shagging but haven't got the equipment or bottle for it and get some thrill out of 'securing the opportunity'

Jingle bells ?

It can be arranged!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't understand why anyone would back out of a confirmed meet, I always feel pretty nervous beforehand but don't we all, just adds to the overall experience and excitement.

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By *ovkid66Man
over a year ago

Warwick

I have always turned up to meets because like you said it takes time and effort. I have been to three gangbangs and met 2 couples. I am a genuine guy who if i say I'll be there I will. Do have trouble with meets. The main reasons being I am a single dad of 4 who can't accom and for meets I have to arrange a very expensive babysitter, but people seem to think this means I have a partner, also I am orally bi, this seems to put people off too, but if the couple or the gangbang is straight, then that's what i am. I am genuine honest and respectful, know people have boundaries and I respect that, it might be nice then if when answering meet request other people were respectful and not tar every man with the same brush. You may be surprised what you could find.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally understand, I had the chance of my first threesome this week, I was there, the host was there... the third no showed, no message and yes you guessed it... no longer a user....

I had a great time, more for me...

so thankyou to the host very much.

That elusive threesome still eludes me...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Those type of guys don't ruin it for me! I find they make it easier actually for us gemuine, single guys!"

That's my _iew. I don't get this "tarring all with the same brush" thinking!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Has to be said - if people are regularly being let down by singles, couples or whoever - then maybe the initial selection and vetting process isn't quite as robust as it should be?

You'd think so wouldn't you, but it appears some keep on doing what's not working in the vain hope they'll get lucky!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I have a very strict process of how I meet men, but I was let down yesterday! Though in my defence, I did have a inkling he would as he went quiet the whole week before hand, so I didn't even get bothered to get ready

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