FabSwingers.com forum: Clubbing without playing

By *ottm OP Couple
20 weeks ago

Nottingham

Hey all, (written by Mr)

Our kinks? Voyeurism and exhibitionism—clubs are perfect for that kind of fun, right?

We’re mainly here for some social naughtiness—chatting, mingling, and soaking up the electric atmosphere.

Now, onto a debate we’d love your thoughts on…

We recently saw a TikTok claiming that people who attend clubs just to enjoy the vibe without playing are being “selfish” because they take up space from more active guests. Now, while we don’t personally agree (after all, isn’t the lifestyle about choice and freedom?), we’re curious—what does the court of kinky public opinion think?

Are we guilty of club-hogging, or is this just another case of gatekeeping gone wild?

Let us know your thoughts—and if you’re heading to the Attic on the 29th, maybe we’ll see you there.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
20 weeks ago

Herts

You do you

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
20 weeks ago

Next Door

Is there a rule about having to play when you attend clubs?

No.

I go to clubs and I often don't play but I get off on watching and the vibe.

If people think im taking up space then that's their issue not mine.

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By *arriedminxCouple
20 weeks ago

here

Everyone attends for different reasons!

We also like to be watched and to watch… just because we’re there doesn’t necessarily mean we want others to join….at least not all the time

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
20 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

I rarely go to sell out events. If I wasn't there then it'd just be more empty space.

If people think I shouldn't be there if I don't want to fuck them, fuck them 💜

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
20 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It's pretty normal.

I seldom end up playing in a club because it trashes my make up

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By *eathrow pineappleCouple
20 weeks ago

Hounslow

Many a time we've been out without playing, it's not a given.

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By *irsSubCouple
20 weeks ago

Darlington

100% don't think it's selfish to go with the intention of not playing. It says to me that whoever made the video doesn't really understand what it's about.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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20 weeks ago

East Sussex

Tik Tok. Enough said...

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
20 weeks ago

Essex

Nobody has to do anything they don’t want, we find it liberating to be in an open minded environment whether we play or not. Sometimes it’s fun to just watch

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By *erry bull1Man
20 weeks ago

doncaster

People paying their entry fee can play or not

I’ve met some who are just happy to chat

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By *uxurycollectionCouple
20 weeks ago

Port Talbot

We go with the mindset of having a walk around, chatting to people and if we click with someone, then we’ll play which is a bonus, if we don’t, we don’t, but we’ve always had a good time.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Not at all, as an exhibitionist old slut who loves people watching me sucking cocks and being fucked I am very happy if there are people around who are just watching!

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
20 weeks ago

Bristol

We never expect to play when we go to a club as you never know if you will meet someone on the night you click with.

Everyone has their own preferences and turn ons/offs so if they want to go to a club and play I imagine there are plenty of others they can do that with. Does it mean that everyone who doesn't match up with what they are looking for should miss out on attending the night, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

Been to clubs 50 plus times. Played with others twice.

We pay our money to get in and most of the time just enjoy the facilities that we wouldn’t have at home (swing etc)

Sometimes people can see us play, sometimes they cant.

We please ourselves first and foremost.

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By *artytymemeMan
20 weeks ago

Mansfield

Me and my fuck buddy have thought about going to a club.

Problem is she has a latex allergy and there would be lots of condoms in use so even if we just watched being close or touching someone or something could set it off.

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By *ulieScrumptiousWoman
20 weeks ago

North West

Not many events sell out. So whoever started the discussion is being somewhat disingenuous to start with.

Going to enjoy the facilities, the atmosphere, show off your lingerie to other people are all perfectly valid reasons to go to a club. For me, the chances of actually clicking with someone new on the night is pretty low anyway.

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By *aomilatteCouple
20 weeks ago

Midlanders on Tour

We're guilty on many club nights of dancing, people watching and just playing with each other and being watched. Some people can't see the point, we were playing with each other in a voyeur room and someone outside the door said "what's the point in coming if they're gonna play on their own? They may as well have gone to a hotel or stayed at home". We could have said" we don't have a voyeur room at home". We're at the Attic on the 29th, we may be really naughty and have a 69 in the silhouette room followed by some dancing 💃

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
20 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

"Me and my fuck buddy have thought about going to a club.

Problem is she has a latex allergy and there would be lots of condoms in use so even if we just watched being close or touching someone or something could set it off."

That must be an extreme allergy.

I have a standard latex allergy, and as long as I keep my own latex free supply for people I play directly with and make sure I don't suck any dicks that have just been wrapped in latex, it generally doesn't kick anything off.

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By *enatton2Couple
20 weeks ago

West Midlands

Well I’m planning on going with a friend of mine, I can’t imagine she’ll play on first visit as she’s not in the lifestyle(yet)and I won’t abandon her to play alone.

I’m really not concerned what others expect from us

Tani

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By *obbiKentMan
20 weeks ago

maidstone

I have a friend who would love to go without the commitment to play,to dance,enjoy the vibe and attention, feel her way into the scene,maybe some flirting and soft play.

Hoping this is all acceptable at clubs !! She really wants step by step into swinging

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By *ngelLordCouple
20 weeks ago

Newport

"Hey all, (written by Mr)

Our kinks? Voyeurism and exhibitionism—clubs are perfect for that kind of fun, right?

We’re mainly here for some social naughtiness—chatting, mingling, and soaking up the electric

atmosphere.

Now, onto a debate we’d love your thoughts on…

Are we guilty of club-hogging, or is this just another case of gatekeeping gone wild?

Let us know your thoughts—and if you’re heading to the Attic on the 29th, maybe we’ll see you there."

Bullshit you go for your own desires and only do what u want not what is expected that's it

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By *oxycouple28Couple
20 weeks ago

bexley

I tend to find tiktok accounts etc are more about people trying to shout 'look at me' than any real substance.

We dont always play at clubs with people, it depends on who is there...that doesnt mean we are wasting peoples time etc.

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
20 weeks ago

South Wales

We often go to clubs and don’t play and know loads of people that do the same. We enjoy the atmosphere and chatting to people but I never feel there’s any expectation that we should play just because we’re at a club. You’re not going to find people that you’re attracted to and vice versa every visit but that shouldn’t mean that can’t attend and have a nice time regardless xx

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By *herrybakewellCouple
20 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We've been going to clubs for several years now and have only played together.

Im not sure i would ever choose to play with anyone else in a club to be honest.

Mr.

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By *inkyandthebrain2023Couple
20 weeks ago

Cheshire

"Hey all, (written by Mr)

Our kinks? Voyeurism and exhibitionism—clubs are perfect for that kind of fun, right?

We’re mainly here for some social naughtiness—chatting, mingling, and soaking up the electric atmosphere.

Now, onto a debate we’d love your thoughts on…

Are we guilty of club-hogging, or is this just another case of gatekeeping gone wild?

Let us know your thoughts—and if you’re heading to the Attic on the 29th, maybe we’ll see you there."

Pretty sure any club would prefer that you attend and enjoy doing what you choose, over not attending because you feel pressured to play.

The fact you have another club night planned shows you aint letting this bother you too much anyway.

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By *riendlyFunSeekersCouple
20 weeks ago

Gloucester

We love to club and enjoy the vibe. Playing is not a given and the uncertainty is part of the fun. No one gets to force anyone.

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By *he MinionMan
20 weeks ago

"Tik Tok. Enough said...

☝️ this

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By *uffsandkinkCouple
20 weeks ago

leeds

We definitely aren’t bothered what people choose to do or not do on club visits but do find it annoying when the play rooms/ right outside them become a place to socialise x

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By *ed and WolfieCouple
20 weeks ago

Gravesend

We've been to clubs and played on our own, in the same room as others, with others, or just had a drink and a laugh, a dance, a chat with friends, or a quiet nap in the corner.

That's the beauty of this life, people are generally non judgemental and you can do what you like.

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By *urvyLady4BlackMenWoman
20 weeks ago

Norwich

I wouldn't play at a club.

I would go for the experience and social aspect.

Sure I might flirt quite a bit though.

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By *an8iMan
20 weeks ago

Bilston

I go to clubs without any expectations and the last two times I've been haven't played its more of a social night out for me with like minded people.

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By *os19Man
20 weeks ago

Edmonton

"Hey all, (written by Mr)

Our kinks? Voyeurism and exhibitionism—clubs are perfect for that kind of fun, right?

We’re mainly here for some social naughtiness—chatting, mingling, and soaking up the electric atmosphere.

Now, onto a debate we’d love your thoughts on…

Are we guilty of club-hogging, or is this just another case of gatekeeping gone wild?

Let us know your thoughts—and if you’re heading to the Attic on the 29th, maybe we’ll see you there."
. You go to a club on your terms.If that means you only want to watch or have a play by yourselves then so be it.Anyone who doesn’t like it tough.

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
20 weeks ago

wonderland.

We often go to clubs and just watch or play with each other.. even as singles we did this more often than playing.

No own minds. X

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By *aughty-oneMan
15 weeks ago

Nazeing

As a single guy, I go to clubs with a strong desire to play and that is exactly what I expect from my expensive entrance fee.

I will hang around the play areas hoping to push my way into any situation that might offer the slim chance of action, walking around with my hands firmly attached to my penis whenever the slightest sight of female flesh as as a paying customer, I’m perfectly entitled to stalk my pray in a swingers environment as I’m definitely not going to seem like a creepy pervert and totally different to what the ladies at work may think.

If I see a couple or two slip off to a private room them I will try to open the door or even climb the wall so that I can hopefully get there attention, as I have no control over my behavior or actions as I know that I am totally irresistible and that because these females have come to the club and as a single male I don’t have to make any effort to engage in conversation or to use any kind of charm, as these women are only there to be objectified as the cock hungry sluts they are.

I’m just so glad that it’s not my sister or daughter attending these kind of places as it’s only filthy promiscuous whores that enjoy sex.

;-)

And hopefully, the sarcasm is easy to see and that not everyone will believe that above is a true reflection on the single males that attend these places.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
15 weeks ago

Coventry

You're absolutely welcome in clubs. We've come across a few couples over the years who just go to clubs to watch and/or be watched, not to play with anyone else. You're not selfish at all and you're enriching the night/club both socially and adding to the vibe.

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By *aciamiCouple
15 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

Why should we be expected to play? Often there's nobody we particularly fancy when we go. Is the same tiktoker suggesting people have to play with people they don't fancy, just because they say so? WALOB

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By *orthern36G!Woman
15 weeks ago

wigan

Ive had guys just watch me and that isn’t an issue at all for me xx

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By *each needs some creamWoman
15 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

I do feel that people that don't play are looking down and are trying to shame others for playing. It's like you are beneath us kind of look they give off.

I know it's not just me that have felt that way, but I am probably the only one that is going to say it.

They are probably unaware of the atmosphere they are causing.

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By *aciamiCouple
15 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

" I do feel that people that don't play are looking down and are trying to shame others for playing. It's like you are beneath us kind of look they give off.

I know it's not just me that have felt that way, but I am probably the only one that is going to say it.

They are probably unaware of the atmosphere they are causing. "

Wow! Bold statement there! Maybe that’s down to the clubs you are going to but we have never experienced that

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By (user no longer on site)
15 weeks ago

The idea that somehow anyone is obliged to do anything sexual is incredibly wrong, even in a club context! I think you’re right, OP.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
15 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We've met various couples and singles over our 3 years in the lifestyle via fab for full swap fun.

We've also been going to clubs for 3 years and never played with anyone else.

We love sexual fun with other couples.....just don't like the dynamics of clubs.

Everyone is different.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
15 weeks ago

Staffordshire

" I do feel that people that don't play are looking down and are trying to shame others for playing. It's like you are beneath us kind of look they give off.

I know it's not just me that have felt that way, but I am probably the only one that is going to say it.

They are probably unaware of the atmosphere they are causing. "

This right here has to be the most ridiculous comment I've seen on here for a while.

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By *he Silver FuxMan
15 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

Like my local pub baseball team - fucking losers

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By *irty_little_blondeWoman
15 weeks ago

manchester

I’ve been plenty of times and not played.

My last club night was with my female friend, we went just to socialise and we ended up locking ourselves in a room just to chat and catch up 😂

Other reason is I won’t have sex or play with just anyone. If I don’t vibe or attracted to anyone I won’t play

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By * and BCouple
15 weeks ago

Durham

Clubs we feel are for folk to express themselves without judgement, even though we do know there are some who judge but let them do their crazy. It's great there are people doing what they want to do. The world would be a better place if folk just got on with what they do and not criticise others for not falling into what they THINK should be. All about respect towards others we say, however some find that difficult

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By *ualityNotQuantityUKCouple
15 weeks ago

Leicester

Using that logic, people who go to the pub for an orange juice shouldn't go because they are using up tables which could be used by hardened drinkers. The trouble with wannabe influencers is that they try and be controversial to get a response and views. On a normal night couples going in just to voyeur still increase the amount of couples in the club which can effect the amount of single males so you are actually increasing the amount of attendees. Best thing to do is get off tictok

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By *iveshowcouple2Couple
15 weeks ago

Manchester

We have been to many, many clubs over the years and I don’t think we have ever left without playing with someone. Not once.

But that’s just us. In principle we are against rules or pressure that push people to participate.

So if someone wishes to attend and simply chat in the bar all evening then that’s perfectly fine as far as we are concerned.

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By *each needs some creamWoman
15 weeks ago

Ilfracombe

" I do feel that people that don't play are looking down and are trying to shame others for playing. It's like you are beneath us kind of look they give off.

I know it's not just me that have felt that way, but I am probably the only one that is going to say it.

They are probably unaware of the atmosphere they are causing.

This right here has to be the most ridiculous comment I've seen on here for a while.

Why ?

Have you not heard people say that club is clicky.

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By *eachbums40Couple
15 weeks ago

Midlands

" I do feel that people that don't play are looking down and are trying to shame others for playing. It's like you are beneath us kind of look they give off.

I know it's not just me that have felt that way, but I am probably the only one that is going to say it.

They are probably unaware of the atmosphere they are causing. "

Never ever felt that in a club, and we have been loads of times!!

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By *entleman JayMan
15 weeks ago

Wakefield

"We're guilty on many club nights of dancing, people watching and just playing with each other and being watched. Some people can't see the point, we were playing with each other in a voyeur room and someone outside the door said "what's the point in coming if they're gonna play on their own? They may as well have gone to a hotel or stayed at home". We could have said" we don't have a voyeur room at home". We're at the Attic on the 29th, we may be really naughty and have a 69 in the silhouette room followed by some dancing 💃"

I like the Silhouette Room. We did it doggy in there. lol.

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By *rumpyandsexyCouple
15 weeks ago

mansfield

We sometimes go to the attic and sher wont swap but we sometimes leave the top of the door open so have been watched by couples

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By *eyeYCouple
15 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

The number of time's we've been to clubs and not played with others outweigh the time's we have.

I'm quite the exhibitionist and have zero interest in involving others unless we fancy them as I know I fancy my man and he's a great fuck 😈🔥

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By *uffnmuffCouple
15 weeks ago

London

"Hey all, (written by Mr)

Our kinks? Voyeurism and exhibitionism—clubs are perfect for that kind of fun, right?

We’re mainly here for some social naughtiness—chatting, mingling, and soaking up the electric atmosphere.

Now, onto a debate we’d love your thoughts on…

Are we guilty of club-hogging, or is this just another case of gatekeeping gone wild?

Let us know your thoughts—and if you’re heading to the Attic on the 29th, maybe we’ll see you there."

we have been going to the same club for just over 8 years and we have never played with anyone in the club. We go to socialise with the friends we have made over the years and to dress up and have a good time. Couldn't careless what other people think x

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By *uffnmuffCouple
15 weeks ago

London

" I do feel that people that don't play are looking down and are trying to shame others for playing. It's like you are beneath us kind of look they give off.

I know it's not just me that have felt that way, but I am probably the only one that is going to say it.

They are probably unaware of the atmosphere they are causing. "
that's your problem not ours x

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
15 weeks ago

scunthorpe

" I do feel that people that don't play are looking down and are trying to shame others for playing. It's like you are beneath us kind of look they give off.

I know it's not just me that have felt that way, but I am probably the only one that is going to say it.

They are probably unaware of the atmosphere they are causing. "

We’ve never been made to feel like that in a club and when we’ve been and not played, we’ve certainly never felt that way about people.

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By *uffnmuffCouple
15 weeks ago

London

" I do feel that people that don't play are looking down and are trying to shame others for playing. It's like you are beneath us kind of look they give off.

I know it's not just me that have felt that way, but I am probably the only one that is going to say it.

They are probably unaware of the atmosphere they are causing.

We’ve never been made to feel like that in a club and when we’ve been and not played, we’ve certainly never felt that way about people.

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exactly paranoia we go to have fun together never even think or care about what others are doing x

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By *ony MannMan
15 weeks ago

South Newton

I once took a lady to party. Everyone sat in a circle and nothing happened, so we thought we would get things going and went to bed. We left the door open, a few came in and looked, some looked more than others.

We were the only ones that played all night. The other 20ish never loosened a button, even with invites to jion in.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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15 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

" I do feel that people that don't play are looking down and are trying to shame others for playing. It's like you are beneath us kind of look they give off.

I know it's not just me that have felt that way, but I am probably the only one that is going to say it.

They are probably unaware of the atmosphere they are causing.

This right here has to be the most ridiculous comment I've seen on here for a while.

Why ?

Have you not heard people say that club is clicky. "

The perception of a club being 'clicky' has no relevance to people playing or not, and is usually more to do with people sticking to their own groups of friends when socialising or playing.

I've been to plenty of clubs over the last two decades where, ye, there seems to be an element of some being there just to meet friends and who won't be looking to get naked with anyone else who may be there. But that's entirely their prerogative.

I was at a busy club night on Saturday with my partner. There were some who only played with people they already knew, some who got involved with strangers and others who didn't remove a single item of clothing all night.

I've never once seen or experienced people not playing doing anything other than watch, and certainly never felt looked down on by anyone else. The notion that people would go to a swingers club to shame people for playing is a little odd if I'm honest.

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By *untogetherCouple
15 weeks ago

Malaga, Spain, Not in U. K.

It's your life, do what makes you happy!

As long as all involved are in agreement and happy, and boundaries are respected. Have fun in whatever way you see fit.

We often don't play with others in clubs. I ( Mrs.) need to feel a vibe and be attracted to someone to fuck them. In the beginning we would go into the orgy room and I would just go with the flow. The more I did it, I realized that I don't like going with the flow. I only what to play with people I'm attracted to. I will happily send hubby off to have a threesome, if I'm not into the fella of another couole. We have just recently decided to try out separate room in clubs. That way hubby gets involved in what he wants and I get involved in what I want. We have set boundaries for this new dynamic and will be testing it out on Saturday night at the club.

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By *w funwifeWoman
15 weeks ago

near taunton

" I do feel that people that don't play are looking down and are trying to shame others for playing. It's like you are beneath us kind of look they give off.

I know it's not just me that have felt that way, but I am probably the only one that is going to say it.

They are probably unaware of the atmosphere they are causing. "

i /we often dont play at clubs why well thats easy there no one too take mine/our fancy .

sorry but i will not play kust for the sake of it thats a massive turn off what others do is down to them some peoplewill play with anyone but alot wont.

swinging has always been about choice and no presure to play or not so if someone thinks because they are playing and others are looking down at them then that says alot about those playing not those who choose not to

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By *ony MannMan
15 weeks ago

South Newton

" I do feel that people that don't play are looking down and are trying to shame others for playing. It's like you are beneath us kind of look they give off.

I know it's not just me that have felt that way, but I am probably the only one that is going to say it.

They are probably unaware of the atmosphere they are causing.

i /we often dont play at clubs why well thats easy there no one too take mine/our fancy .

sorry but i will not play kust for the sake of it thats a massive turn off what others do is down to them some peoplewill play with anyone but alot wont.

Totally agree.

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By *igboobstCouple
15 weeks ago

barrow

It's allowed

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By *rdere OpusCouple
15 weeks ago

Brum - ish

" I do feel that people that don't play are looking down and are trying to shame others for playing. It's like you are beneath us kind of look they give off.

I know it's not just me that have felt that way, but I am probably the only one that is going to say it.

They are probably unaware of the atmosphere they are causing. "

I have never once, in 20 years of attending clubs, thought that of others or experienced it on the many nights I’ve not played.

No one should feel obliged to play to appease others and if it’s not harming others, it’s no one else’s business what anyone else does in a club.

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By *luefire2Couple
15 weeks ago

just somewhere around here

To be honest, most clubs are less sexy than people think. Play is less common as people think in clubs.

Just go, enjoy the atmosphere and meet people. If you like who you meet, arrange to meet away from a club. Sex is rushed and uncomfortable in clubs due to time. Make connections and meet away from the club......it will be worth it!

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By *hesubtlegentMan
15 weeks ago

surrey

"Is there a rule about having to play when you attend clubs?

No.

I go to clubs and I often don't play but I get off on watching and the vibe.

If people think im taking up space then that's their issue not mine.

THIS !!!! ^^^^^^^^

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
15 weeks ago

scunthorpe

"To be honest, most clubs are less sexy than people think. Play is less common as people think in clubs.

Absolutely this!! Some of our best nights have been when we haven’t played but we have met some fantastic people who we have gone on to meet again.

Donna x

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
15 weeks ago

wonderland.

" I do feel that people that don't play are looking down and are trying to shame others for playing. It's like you are beneath us kind of look they give off.

I know it's not just me that have felt that way, but I am probably the only one that is going to say it.

They are probably unaware of the atmosphere they are causing. that's your problem not ours x"

Exactly this.. clubs are not just for playing.... x

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By *en_Dover79Man
15 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle

Do what you like when attending clubs, nothing is compulsory

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15 weeks ago

I've been to quite a few club nights now and never played in a club.

I don't see anything wrong with it, I've met some amazing people and will keep going.

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By *antasticMrFucks07Man
15 weeks ago

plymouth

"Hey all, (written by Mr)

Our kinks? Voyeurism and exhibitionism—clubs are perfect for that kind of fun, right?

We’re mainly here for some social naughtiness—chatting, mingling, and soaking up the electric atmosphere.

Now, onto a debate we’d love your thoughts on…

Are we guilty of club-hogging, or is this just another case of gatekeeping gone wild?

Let us know your thoughts—and if you’re heading to the Attic on the 29th, maybe we’ll see you there."

Hey! I own a club myself, and honestly, people are welcome to come for whatever reason they choose—whether that’s to play, watch, chat, or just soak up the atmosphere—as long as they respect the club rules and the vibe of the night.

Not everyone wants or needs to play every time, and that doesn’t make their presence any less valid. Clubs thrive on variety, consent, and freedom—not gatekeeping. So come, enjoy, and do you.

Hope you have a brilliant time at the Attic!

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By *omvampmMan
15 weeks ago

south east

What you do and if you chose to play or not or watch or chat is entirely up to you that’s the beauty of this lifestyle no pressure no assumptions everyone to there own and all should respect that.

I don’t think Tik tok is really a definitive guide to what’s right and wrong and no you certainly are not selfish in your choice and as for taking up space lol. I ve been around a few year more than I’d like to mention and I’ve never been to a club where everyone is at it that’s the beauty of clubs you can chose to do what you desire I regularly go to clubs with partners and friends and we don’t always play it’s as much social as the fun last night we danced allnight and chatted and it was a great evening week before we had a threesome that went on for two hours equally fun. Lol my point is I guess as I started you do as you chose and tik tok knows nout have fun and enjoy xxx

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By *lthomasMan
15 weeks ago

Newport

Just do what you do.

Everyone attends for different reasons some like to be watched, others like to watch and others not to get full on involved.

And the amount of involvement is clearly up to you whether you stand around and watch and enjoy the atmosphere, whether you touch each other but don’t indulge with anybody else whether you play with each other and only let people watch, it’s always up to you.

Clubs are open minded people into all types of things

Just do what you enjoy, and don’t worry about what anybody else thinks.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
15 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Elitechic.

I can't believe you found the need to private message your disagreement to our opinion and then block before anyone can reply.

People are entitled to use a club and not fuck anyone if they dont find a suitable partner. Nobody should feel they have to play with someone....just because.

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By *b750Couple
15 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Just do what you want on the night sometimes is just as hot watching as participating

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By *igT-Kis-Showa-Fuk-OralMan
15 weeks ago

Bedfordshire Lu6 Nr-m1-j11a-Let's chat social-fun if Click

Iv done it

Club no play

Twice, was nice to be there , watch and enjoy.

Love people and seeing them enjoy and have fun

BigLittleT xx

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By *aciamiCouple
15 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

"Elitechic.

I can't believe you found the need to private message your disagreement to our opinion and then block before anyone can reply.

People are entitled to use a club and not fuck anyone if they dont find a suitable partner. Nobody should feel they have to play with someone....just because.

Quite. It's all about consent.

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By *igT-Kis-Showa-Fuk-OralMan
15 weeks ago

Bedfordshire Lu6 Nr-m1-j11a-Let's chat social-fun if Click

"Elitechic.

I can't believe you found the need to private message your disagreement to our opinion and then block before anyone can reply.

People are entitled to use a club and not fuck anyone if they dont find a suitable partner. Nobody should feel they have to play with someone....just because.

Quite. It's all about consent."

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Obviously iyho

As you as a couple have BLOCKED all single guys

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
14 weeks ago

Norwich

I don’t think we have been to a club and not played together. That’s the main reason we g, have fun in dungeon put on a show for the voyeurs and have a chat and a giggle with a fair few people while we are there.

We view clubs as a hedonistic sex positive space, able to have the fun we like to have on a night out without fear of being thrown out by bouncers in a vanilla club

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By *aciamiCouple
14 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

"Elitechic.

I can't believe you found the need to private message your disagreement to our opinion and then block before anyone can reply.

People are entitled to use a club and not fuck anyone if they dont find a suitable partner. Nobody should feel they have to play with someone....just because.

Quite. It's all about consent.

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Obviously iyho

As you as a couple have BLOCKED all single guys

And your problem with that is what exactly?

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