FabSwingers.com forum: Not receiving a veri in return

By *infullyObedient OP Woman
20 weeks ago

Woodley

How does it make you feel when someone doesn't leave you a veri in return?

I was asked to leave a veri for someone, which i did and it's great and he displays it. But despite asking a few times, and him saying he would, he never left one in return.

And just to add this wasn't a one off, we met multiple times over a number of months. Every other veri he's recieved he's left them one in return.

Guess I wasn't good enough for him to return the veri. It makes me feel worthless and undesirable.

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By *olden PoleMan
20 weeks ago

Bromley

You’re far from worthless and undesirable. Have you asked him why he feels the need to not veri you.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"How does it make you feel when someone doesn't leave you a veri in return?

I was asked to leave a veri for someone, which i did and it's great and he displays it. But despite asking a few times, and him saying he would, he never left one in return.

And just to add this wasn't a one off, we met multiple times over a number of months. Every other veri he's recieved he's left them one in return.

Guess I wasn't good enough for him to return the veri. It makes me feel worthless and undesirable. "

Maybe he just wants to keep you to himself, as you were that amazing?!!!

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By *infullyObedient OP Woman
20 weeks ago

Woodley

Yeh I asked, he never really gave an answer just made a joke of it.

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By *xydadbodMan
20 weeks ago

Milton keynes

Well, you're certainly not worthless or undesirable that's for sure

I used to put a lot of emphasise on veris, then realised that it's not that big of a deal really at the end of a day. If someone wanted to leave a veri, then great.. but if not, thats fine as well

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By *FGIHMan
20 weeks ago

Chesterfield

"You’re far from worthless and undesirable. Have you asked him why he feels the need to not veri you. "

Just common courtesy, I would delete yours if you can

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"Yeh I asked, he never really gave an answer just made a joke of it.

Has he left anyone a veri ?

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By *ellhungvweMan
20 weeks ago

Cheltenham

I would like to say I don’t mind. It doesn’t really bother me but it does leave a bit of a sour taste if they have asked you for one but not reciprocated.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"How does it make you feel when someone doesn't leave you a veri in return?

I was asked to leave a veri for someone, which i did and it's great and he displays it. But despite asking a few times, and him saying he would, he never left one in return.

And just to add this wasn't a one off, we met multiple times over a number of months. Every other veri he's recieved he's left them one in return.

Guess I wasn't good enough for him to return the veri. It makes me feel worthless and undesirable. "

You’re a beaut! I’d love to be able to leave you a veri

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By *infullyObedient OP Woman
20 weeks ago

Woodley

"Yeh I asked, he never really gave an answer just made a joke of it.

Has he left anyone a veri ?"

Everyone else who's left him one except me

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By *infullyObedient OP Woman
20 weeks ago

Woodley

"I would like to say I don’t mind. It doesn’t really bother me but it does leave a bit of a sour taste if they have asked you for one but not reciprocated."

Exactly this. Others haven't left me one and I don't mind because they didn't ask me to leave them one.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"Yeh I asked, he never really gave an answer just made a joke of it.

Has he left anyone a veri ?

Everyone else who's left him one except me"

Very odd

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By *rKingsmanMan
20 weeks ago

sutton

"How does it make you feel when someone doesn't leave you a veri in return?

I was asked to leave a veri for someone, which i did and it's great and he displays it. But despite asking a few times, and him saying he would, he never left one in return.

And just to add this wasn't a one off, we met multiple times over a number of months. Every other veri he's recieved he's left them one in return.

Guess I wasn't good enough for him to return the veri. It makes me feel worthless and undesirable. "

You’re definitely worth the time and effort… don’t let him make you feel like that x

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

I find that disrespectful actually. If you've specifically asked him and he can't give you a straight answer it sounds like he's a bit of a knob. I wouldn't put up with someone treating me like that.

Personally I don't care about veris, but it clearly matters to you, op, and I expect anyone I meet to at least be a decent human and respect my feelings. As a minimum.

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By (user no longer on site)
20 weeks ago

"How does it make you feel when someone doesn't leave you a veri in return?

I was asked to leave a veri for someone, which i did and it's great and he displays it. But despite asking a few times, and him saying he would, he never left one in return.

And just to add this wasn't a one off, we met multiple times over a number of months. Every other veri he's recieved he's left them one in return.

Guess I wasn't good enough for him to return the veri. It makes me feel worthless and undesirable. "

His loss you look amazing and going by your other veris you sound great fun (mr)

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By *ealitybitesMan
20 weeks ago

Belfast

When I was first on here I wondered why some people didn't verify even though I had given them one (no pun intended) or why they wouldn't display my verification but were happy to show every other one they received?

Then I realised that some people use verifications as currency or can get very political with them and how they use them.

They are happy to meet but don't want certain individuals to know you have met or on the flip side use the verification as a badge of honour to show they are swinging in certain circles.

I don't give it any thought these days and just let them get on with whatever game they are playing.

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By *hank you sirMan
20 weeks ago

colchester

This seems harsh to me. I can't understand why he wouldn't return the favour

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
20 weeks ago

The bottom of the River Ankh

"Yeh I asked, he never really gave an answer just made a joke of it.

Has he left anyone a veri ?"

Yes from what I can see the OP said

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By *aura-pTV/TS
20 weeks ago

dorset

I know why I rarely get verified it’s because they say straight on their profile so don’t want that to put women off meeting them , and I’m not alone in this I’ve also verified them but they delete never mind I enjoyed myself anyway x

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By *r Mind CandyMan
20 weeks ago

Cheshire

There can be many reasons people don’t leave verifications on here, as others have said, it can be used as a type of currency or badge of honour.

I have met with ladies in the past who have not only asked for a verification, but have basically written the verification themselves and asked me to write it word for word. Or once I have written one, asked me to change it for something they specifically want to hear. Obviously I refused as that is just weird.

Also guys have to be careful as they can be judged, I have heard many stories of girls getting the “ick” by a playmate getting a new verification from the wrong person, or a person they don’t like for whatever reason, or they don’t like guys who have too many. All of which has happened to me.

It’s hard enough for guys on here so they will do whatever it takes not to offend or upset other ladies or potential playmates.

Personally I do think it’s a bit rude if you’ve specifically asked for one and he hasn’t left you one.

I never ask for verifications, because my verifications are really special and mean a lot to me, only because they have integrity and are what people have genuinely wanted to write without any coercion or pressure.

Hence I’m incredibly proud of all my verifications and display them with pride.

I have a couple of regular playmates that have never verified me, and that’s also cool, I meet people because I enjoy playing with them not because I need or want a verification from them. On the flip side I have had playmate who use their verifications to almost mark me as their territory.

As long as you’re having fun it doesn’t matter about a verification, as let’s face it they are for the benefit of others anyway.

On a final note. You’re beautiful and any man should be proud to leave you a verification. X

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By *rivervaderMan
20 weeks ago

bolton

You look very desirable and looking at your veris good fun

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By *mmaleiaWoman
20 weeks ago

Trowbridge

I’ve left a few people veris that haven’t returned them, I don’t overthink it because they were from socials, I would however be put out if it was somebody I was being intimate with, as I’d assume they’d be embarrassed to have been with me.

Personally I’d walk away. Hope you get your response from them op

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By *oiluvfunMan
20 weeks ago

Penrith

I’ve had this happen OP, but it’s only been with people I’ve met in clubs, and although they were happy to accept, and display a veri from me, they didn’t reciprocate. It does leave you wondering why, but you can’t figure some people out, so I just put it out of my mind. If I were to meet them again though, face to face, I would ask them why.

I would happily exchange veris with you, as I feel you and I would get on very well together

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By *CExeCouple
20 weeks ago

Lincoln/Exeter

Had this a few times ourselves. It is odd, and it doesn't feel great when they've asked you to leave one. Just knock them off your list of likely meets and move on sadly. As others have said, you're gorgeous and it's his loss if he behaves like a bellend.

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By *tickler2000Man
20 weeks ago

St Agnes

That is a him issue. Don't dought yourself because of one selfish individual.

Had the same done to me.

I'm sure you will find someone much more respectful.

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By *infullyObedient OP Woman
20 weeks ago

Woodley

Thanks for all the replies. Appreciate the feedback and different view points.

I don't need it, or even really want it now but not knowing why it wasn't reciprocated is the issue.

Guess I'll never know why, and just have accept it for what it is.

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By *omRachCouple
20 weeks ago

Wirral

He came back many times, you were definitely doing something right.

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By *uffhandymanMan
20 weeks ago

selby

I’ve had this a few times, just got to take it on the chin and hope the next one does!

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By *atthewandjane.1984Couple
20 weeks ago

northampton

but naughty we always return

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By *heTattooedDomMan
20 weeks ago

Winnersh

It’s only happened once for me. A couple new to the scene that I chatted with at a club. I gave them their first verification and they said they would, but never did.

It was annoying at the time, but I have moved on.

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By *couseFun2.0Man
20 weeks ago

Liverpool

I would not over think it too much

. If he has met you several times you must be certainly doing something to make him want more

. Maybe he has issues himself he needs to address before meeting people he is not willing to respect

. It's his loss not your's, i'm sure there is more than enough respectful gents who would replace him in a heartbeat

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
20 weeks ago

Durham

Could it be the dynamic of your profile. Your submissive and he's dominant so he's trying to exert some sort of control.

Could be a little mind game as he wants to get under your skin.

He obviously enjoys your meets or he wouldn't keep coming back x

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By *idsHornyCpl40Couple
20 weeks ago

West Mids area

When accounts close down, then you also lose those verifications.... We meet a few couples that have split up over time and closed their joint account down.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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20 weeks ago

East Sussex

"How does it make you feel when someone doesn't leave you a veri in return?

I was asked to leave a veri for someone, which i did and it's great and he displays it. But despite asking a few times, and him saying he would, he never left one in return.

And just to add this wasn't a one off, we met multiple times over a number of months. Every other veri he's recieved he's left them one in return.

Guess I wasn't good enough for him to return the veri. It makes me feel worthless and undesirable. "

If you've told him that and he still hasn't returned the veri I'd suggest he's not worth your time moving forward . Blocking a profile will remove your veri if you're so inclined

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By *rpeggioCouple
20 weeks ago

Baughurst

Have you considered that for him it might be a childish power play, as in playing dominant and treating you as a submissive, therefore he would not leave a submissive play partner a verification?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
20 weeks ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I get this happen to me from guys who think verifying me in return will hurt their chances with others on here.

It's still very annoying when they've been absolutely all over you, making it clear that they value you and think you're sex on legs, but don't verify you after you've done a nice one for them.

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By *otcplmidsCouple
20 weeks ago

Warwick

Happened to us too a couple of times. At first I thought it was because he didn't enjoy it and didn't want to lie in a veri. I'm tougher now and it doesn't bother me. We also don't need a veri. Xx

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By *tickler2000Man
20 weeks ago

St Agnes

"When accounts close down, then you also lose those verifications.... We meet a few couples that have split up over time and closed their joint account down."

I think you still keep it in the number of meets you've had. But, the details as of who verified you is gone.

I have a few that are still showing but not the detail of the couple since they left. 🙂

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By *estructionDollyWoman
20 weeks ago

The Deep Dark Woods

So with verifications I don't ask for people specifically to leave me one these days. I have plenty of veris from events I've been to etc so people have a fair idea of what I am like and that I am genuine. And there are people I've played with lots of times and we never verified eachother.

But if someone asks me, I am always happy to verify eachother. It does baffle me tho when someone asks me to verify them and then they don't return it. I just think it's quite rude

especially if they have displayed mine. You do think hmm maybe they don't want people to know we have met, but then displaying my verification advertises that fact on their own profile anyway so it's unlikely to be that. Maybe they didn't have as good a time and don't know what to say? Maybe they don't want the traffic coming to their profile from yours? Maybe they are just rude.

You could spend ages overthinking it so it's best to just let it go.

If it's really bothering you raise it and say if he doesn't want to return the veri and won't explain why you would rather not see him again as its causing you upset. Nobody should make you feel bad about yourself

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By *eyond PurityCouple
20 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

If it’s annoying you and you’ve fallen out over it then blocking him will result in the veri you left him not being displayed.

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By *arksTwoCouple
20 weeks ago

Warwickshire

Definitely not on the same scale of disrespect but we hate it when loads of guys are watching and perving and then don't both to write a verification. Some ppl are just selfish

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By *lueeyedboy1965Man
20 weeks ago

southport/Birkdale

Happened 3times☹️

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By *ickandHilaryCouple
20 weeks ago

Barnstaple

"How does it make you feel when someone doesn't leave you a veri in return?

I was asked to leave a veri for someone, which i did and it's great and he displays it. But despite asking a few times, and him saying he would, he never left one in return.

And just to add this wasn't a one off, we met multiple times over a number of months. Every other veri he's recieved he's left them one in return.

Guess I wasn't good enough for him to return the veri. It makes me feel worthless and undesirable. "

Was he a complete shit in other ways too ?

Tbh, rotten that YOU feel bad because HEs a twat…..

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By *ickandHilaryCouple
20 weeks ago

Barnstaple

"I find that disrespectful actually. If you've specifically asked him and he can't give you a straight answer it sounds like he's a bit of a knob. I wouldn't put up with someone treating me like that.

Personally I don't care about veris, but it clearly matters to you, op, and I expect anyone I meet to at least be a decent human and respect my feelings. As a minimum. "

Totally this

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By *reamerBMan
20 weeks ago

Fantasy

What if you got some, but they were gone the next day? Went to a social, chatted, got two new verifys, really nice ones, but were gone the next day. Now I'm unsure wether to attend another or not. Did something happen, or am I over thinking it?

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