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By *raverage2025 OP   Man
2 days ago

Surrey

What where they before exploring this, for example her having fun with a guy with a much larger cock.

Did you discuss things prior or just see what happened along the way

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By *iGuy197747Man
2 days ago

Stamford

Good morning.

C never stopped seeing her boyfriends from the moment that we got together and I'm sure that I was vaguely aware, but we didn't talk about it, she'd just go for weekends away with them.

Many years into the marriage when I raised the point that I was really turned on by her having sex with other guys and we became a formal cuckold couple, I actual I really enjoyed the process of looking at her matches on dating sites, when she let me. Her excitement of going on a date and the occasional report of the skill of her lovers (the ongoing relationships were only with guys who could really satisfy her) more than made up for any jealousy.

We've moved on again and she's "don't ask, don't tell" and non sexual with me, just teasing me. It's still a great dynamic, but different again.

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By *ev_1Couple
2 days ago

Bickliegh

You can only work with what you have simple as that if everyone worried about other guys cocks think 95% of the guys on here would be worried cucking is just about cock sizes

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By *ynergyMan
2 days ago

Chelmsford

Don't do it if your insecure simple as that

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
2 days ago

London

I think if you're panicking about insecurities it would be wise to at least test the water before you do anything significant.

There is so much more than just cock size but if that's your one thing then probably try something first with someone who is smaller or similar to you.

Many many men have the fantasy to see their partner with another man but it doesn't mean it should be lived out for some.

You have to be very secure in yourself and your relationship.

What is it that worries you about it

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By *dz69247Man
2 days ago

Manchester

Honestly, my cock is just above average, it’s not small, but it certainly isn’t massive. I’ve been involved in prob over 100 gangbangs, and never once have I ever cared about my cock size.

And I’ve been involved in gangbangs with chaps that are 10+ inches, it’s not the size, it’s the performance.

You will have ladies that enjoy the feeling of being full, and unfortunately you are not going to be what they are looking for, and in all honestly, they prob won’t do anything for you either when you are in there.

But for the majority of ladies, as long as it’s a reasonable size, can get rock hard and stay rock hard, then you all are going to have some fun.

One of the old GB lads has a cock like a baseball bat, honestly it’s thick and huge, but he has to pop about three viagras just to get hard, and it never lasts. He disappointed every time, but he was always the one they had pictures with, as it looked magnificent, but that was it, it was a show’er not a grow’er

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By *aveJones76Man
2 days ago

Rotherham

I wouldn't be insecure, I'd be happy for her if she ever tried.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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2 days ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"What where they before exploring this, for example her having fun with a guy with a much larger cock.

Did you discuss things prior or just see what happened along the way"

Works both ways. I've experienced guys who have been insecure when meeting me and partners before.

Despite them claiming to be huuuuuge online. 🤷‍♂️😂

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By *ustus5555Woman
2 days ago

Mansfield

The thing that most guys don't seem to realise is that if a woman is in a relationship ( OK. Married ) or long term , is that she's getting something other than just a f*^k from that person she'd with long term.

Yes a dick can be bigger & some women like that (I'm not one of them) & can make her feel different whilst in the act, but that connection she has with her long term/permanent partner just can't be matched by anyone else.

My hubby often has a knowing smirk on his face whilst I'm busy with other partners for a good reason, he knows I'll always go back to what I love most. The intensity of love making. That can only be achieved with someone you love.

Sorry for wittering on.

My 2peneth. X

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By *urFantasy21Couple
2 days ago

Shrewsbury


"The thing that most guys don't seem to realise is that if a woman is in a relationship ( OK. Married ) or long term , is that she's getting something other than just a f*^k from that person she'd with long term.

Yes a dick can be bigger & some women like that (I'm not one of them) & can make her feel different whilst in the act, but that connection she has with her long term/permanent partner just can't be matched by anyone else.

My hubby often has a knowing smirk on his face whilst I'm busy with other partners for a good reason, he knows I'll always go back to what I love most. The intensity of love making. That can only be achieved with someone you love.

Sorry for wittering on.

My 2peneth. X"

👏 couldn't have put it better myself x

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By *sj75Couple
2 days ago

castleford

If you're insecure don't do it. If you're not, let her fuck. She'll thank you for it and you'll love it

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By *ale4FunCouple
2 days ago

Canary Islands/Glasgow

We would agree with _ustus5555.

No insecurities here. Sharing for fun and loving are two different things, never to be confused!

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By *iFruityCoupleCouple
2 days ago

Lagos Portugal/ Watermouth

We never had the problem, we met in a club. So we just get on with things.

In the past I had a few years with a woman swinging, but she would lie about separate meets. I did not mind her seeing other men, but she couldn't admit it to me. The only one she told me about was her husband.

The bottom line is you have to be confident in your relationship or swinging can turn into a big worry. Remember she comes back to you for a reason, the rest are just fancies.

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By *urbo321123Man
2 days ago

BEWDLEY

I guess it's usually a bit of a journey for most couples but often different circumstances. Some might start following a d*unken night out with another couple, others might talk about it and it starts becoming more of a fantasy until they want to try it. Some have always been like it etc.

I'm assuming you mean how do they start swinging rather than specifically just want big cocks. Either way the same applies.

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By *urbo321123Man
2 days ago

BEWDLEY

Just to add it's natural to be insecure but if it's a big issue you have to decide if it's for you. Probably best to try and work that out before jumping in the deep end lol

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By *raverage2025 OP   Man
2 days ago

Surrey

It's not my insecurity I'd quite like to see a bigger guy then myself with wife I was just seeing what else people thought where insecurities of possibly sharing their wife

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By *asha86Couple
2 days ago

walsall


"The thing that most guys don't seem to realise is that if a woman is in a relationship ( OK. Married ) or long term , is that she's getting something other than just a f*^k from that person she'd with long term.

Yes a dick can be bigger & some women like that (I'm not one of them) & can make her feel different whilst in the act, but that connection she has with her long term/permanent partner just can't be matched by anyone else.

My hubby often has a knowing smirk on his face whilst I'm busy with other partners for a good reason, he knows I'll always go back to what I love most. The intensity of love making. That can only be achieved with someone you love.

Sorry for wittering on.

My 2peneth. X"

This is absolutely spot on! As a guy who also has the same knowing smirk in that moment i can say I know she's still coming home with me

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
2 days ago

Bristol

Couples who aren't secure enough probably shouldn't venture into this lifestyle - unless the jealousy is somehow part of the kink - but for us it's a secure relationship where we know we can enjoy variety, but ultimately we go home together and retreat back into our loving relationship that makes this doable.

What I would say tho, is that everyone has to overcome that first moment.

You can both tell each other you are ready and fine with it, but until it happens the first time I don't think you can be 100% sure - communication and that first de-brief is massive to working out whether it's something you can mentally cope with going forward.

The communication bit never gets less important, but after the first meet you can at least be sure neither of you are going to have a wobble

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By *oxy jWoman
2 days ago

somerset

a swinging couple who do this properly who have talked about it and both wanting it would have no Insecurities at all..

this is why there are so few swinging couples it take a strong together couple to swing and if your not crack will appear ...you'll get some couple say its normal but its not ..Insecurities will just creat cracks in the relationship and most wont survive ...

swinging is not for all especially those who cant control emotional stuff swinging cannot repair or save weak relationships i/we have seen over the years more couples fail than couples who carry on.. strong together relationship thrive whiles weak fall apart..

Insecurities are yourself telling you something is not right and if its not right then why are you doing it

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By *asha86Couple
2 days ago

walsall


"Couples who aren't secure enough probably shouldn't venture into this lifestyle - unless the jealousy is somehow part of the kink - but for us it's a secure relationship where we know we can enjoy variety, but ultimately we go home together and retreat back into our loving relationship that makes this doable.

What I would say tho, is that everyone has to overcome that first moment.

You can both tell each other you are ready and fine with it, but until it happens the first time I don't think you can be 100% sure - communication and that first de-brief is massive to working out whether it's something you can mentally cope with going forward.

The communication bit never gets less important, but after the first meet you can at least be sure neither of you are going to have a wobble"

100% that the De-brief is much needed! For us we debrief everytime it makes it work much easier having an open line of communication.

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By *exxyyDy11Man
2 days ago

North West

If you're insecure then don't do it. Otherwise it will just cause aggravation.

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By *lueDressWoman
2 days ago

Bath

Ive witnessed quite a few couples who split up due to insecurity issues.

A bit more than that if you ask Me...

Specially when they ask to see someone secretly.

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By *eedsmale36Man
2 days ago

Leeds


"The thing that most guys don't seem to realise is that if a woman is in a relationship ( OK. Married ) or long term , is that she's getting something other than just a f*^k from that person she'd with long term.

Yes a dick can be bigger & some women like that (I'm not one of them) & can make her feel different whilst in the act, but that connection she has with her long term/permanent partner just can't be matched by anyone else.

My hubby often has a knowing smirk on his face whilst I'm busy with other partners for a good reason, he knows I'll always go back to what I love most. The intensity of love making. That can only be achieved with someone you love.

Sorry for wittering on.

My 2peneth. X"

Well said

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By *tickler2000Man
2 days ago

St Agnes

If you're unsure how it will affect your relationship with your missus then done do it without taking at length with her.

You could both end up loving it. But can end relationships.

Seen it happen.

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
2 days ago

Bristol


"Couples who aren't secure enough probably shouldn't venture into this lifestyle - unless the jealousy is somehow part of the kink - but for us it's a secure relationship where we know we can enjoy variety, but ultimately we go home together and retreat back into our loving relationship that makes this doable.

What I would say tho, is that everyone has to overcome that first moment.

You can both tell each other you are ready and fine with it, but until it happens the first time I don't think you can be 100% sure - communication and that first de-brief is massive to working out whether it's something you can mentally cope with going forward.

The communication bit never gets less important, but after the first meet you can at least be sure neither of you are going to have a wobble

100% that the De-brief is much needed! For us we debrief everytime it makes it work much easier having an open line of communication. "

To be honest, the de-brief normally leads to more sex! 🤣

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By *oethecuck1Man
2 days ago

leeds

I’m not the biggest the first time my wife played I felt sick to the stomach but wanked myself silly till she came home xx

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By *ustus5555Woman
2 days ago

Mansfield


"Couples who aren't secure enough probably shouldn't venture into this lifestyle - unless the jealousy is somehow part of the kink - but for us it's a secure relationship where we know we can enjoy variety, but ultimately we go home together and retreat back into our loving relationship that makes this doable.

What I would say tho, is that everyone has to overcome that first moment.

You can both tell each other you are ready and fine with it, but until it happens the first time I don't think you can be 100% sure - communication and that first de-brief is massive to working out whether it's something you can mentally cope with going forward.

The communication bit never gets less important, but after the first meet you can at least be sure neither of you are going to have a wobble"

I forgot this bit, just thought I'd waffled on enough with my generalisation. But yes, the debrief. It's so important. Trust me its not all about the words that are said, there's so much more said with the eyes and general expressions. You will both know if it's for you just from that conversation. If there's any doubt whatsoever in either person, then you shouldn't carry on. It's not worth it.

OK. So now I've added my 3peneth. 🤣🤣🤣

I'll shut up. X

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By *ertcoupleCouple
2 days ago

Hatfield

We just look at it as fun.. pure and simple x

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By *_t4fun1983Couple
2 days ago

Milton Keynes

When we are looking for a single male, we always look for a big cock, hubby is average & satisfies me just well, but occasionally I want bigger, he helps me choose. With couples dick size doesn’t really matter.

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By *asha86Couple
2 days ago

walsall


"Couples who aren't secure enough probably shouldn't venture into this lifestyle - unless the jealousy is somehow part of the kink - but for us it's a secure relationship where we know we can enjoy variety, but ultimately we go home together and retreat back into our loving relationship that makes this doable.

What I would say tho, is that everyone has to overcome that first moment.

You can both tell each other you are ready and fine with it, but until it happens the first time I don't think you can be 100% sure - communication and that first de-brief is massive to working out whether it's something you can mentally cope with going forward.

The communication bit never gets less important, but after the first meet you can at least be sure neither of you are going to have a wobble

100% that the De-brief is much needed! For us we debrief everytime it makes it work much easier having an open line of communication.

To be honest, the de-brief normally leads to more sex! 🤣"

Exactly the same here

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By *BWmetalcouple666Couple
2 days ago

houghton


"The thing that most guys don't seem to realise is that if a woman is in a relationship ( OK. Married ) or long term , is that she's getting something other than just a f*^k from that person she'd with long term.

Yes a dick can be bigger & some women like that (I'm not one of them) & can make her feel different whilst in the act, but that connection she has with her long term/permanent partner just can't be matched by anyone else.

My hubby often has a knowing smirk on his face whilst I'm busy with other partners for a good reason, he knows I'll always go back to what I love most. The intensity of love making. That can only be achieved with someone you love.

Sorry for wittering on.

My 2peneth. X"

Perfectly put

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
2 days ago

Glasgow


"Couples who aren't secure enough probably shouldn't venture into this lifestyle - unless the jealousy is somehow part of the kink - but for us it's a secure relationship where we know we can enjoy variety, but ultimately we go home together and retreat back into our loving relationship that makes this doable.

What I would say tho, is that everyone has to overcome that first moment.

You can both tell each other you are ready and fine with it, but until it happens the first time I don't think you can be 100% sure - communication and that first de-brief is massive to working out whether it's something you can mentally cope with going forward.

The communication bit never gets less important, but after the first meet you can at least be sure neither of you are going to have a wobble"

Yes this! Our first experience was at a club and we had both talked at length and fantasised for a good few months to a year before deciding we were ready . A was my first serious boyfriend so I had never been with anyone else. I ended up having sex with a guy at the club. After it I didn’t feel as good as I thought should I had terrible feelings of guilt and was worried A would think of me differently or be angry, jealous. We went to a quiet part of the club I had a wee cry and we talked. A reassured me that I had nothing to feel guilty about and that he loved watching me and if anything had fallen in love with me all over again. After that initial wobble we’ve never looked back

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By *raverage2025 OP   Man
2 days ago

Surrey


"Couples who aren't secure enough probably shouldn't venture into this lifestyle - unless the jealousy is somehow part of the kink - but for us it's a secure relationship where we know we can enjoy variety, but ultimately we go home together and retreat back into our loving relationship that makes this doable.

What I would say tho, is that everyone has to overcome that first moment.

You can both tell each other you are ready and fine with it, but until it happens the first time I don't think you can be 100% sure - communication and that first de-brief is massive to working out whether it's something you can mentally cope with going forward.

The communication bit never gets less important, but after the first meet you can at least be sure neither of you are going to have a wobble

Yes this! Our first experience was at a club and we had both talked at length and fantasised for a good few months to a year before deciding we were ready . A was my first serious boyfriend so I had never been with anyone else. I ended up having sex with a guy at the club. After it I didn’t feel as good as I thought should I had terrible feelings of guilt and was worried A would think of me differently or be angry, jealous. We went to a quiet part of the club I had a wee cry and we talked. A reassured me that I had nothing to feel guilty about and that he loved watching me and if anything had fallen in love with me all over again. After that initial wobble we’ve never looked back "

Fantastic stuff thanks for sharing

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