FabSwingers.com forum: Male profile vs Female profile.

By *am4sin OP Man
11 weeks ago

Mansfield

There is a massive difference between the two profiles, (yes i know ones male and ones female) and they way they work on here.

I was part of a cpl up until December, and them profiles work the same as female ones. A woman only need to make a profile, no pics no write up and no verifications, and with in minutes of it being here, she will be getting messages.

A guy can put hour of work into his, great pics good write up and not get 1 message, it's just how it works.

On top of that, if we send 100 messages out 50% wont even get read, 49% won't get a reply and if your lucky 1% will be interested. So if you feel its a copy and paste text, just imagine how many texts he's probably sent and got nothing back.

Give us a chance, we are trying, but the male to female ratio on her is massively in the woman favor. Even a "sorry not for me" is appreciated.

Anyway, i just wanted to say to the girls, we are trying, it's just not as easy for us as it is you one here.

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11 weeks ago

"There is a massive difference between the two profiles, (yes i know ones male and ones female) and they way they work on here.

A guy can put hour of work into his, great pics good write up and not get 1 message, it's just how it works.

Give us a chance, we are trying, but the male to female ratio on her is massively in the woman favor. Even a "sorry not for me" is appreciated.

Anyway, i just wanted to say to the girls, we are trying, it's just not as easy for us as it is you one here."
as someone who was part of a couple you should know how difficult it is to answer every message we turned on messages from single men this morning to play a few games on the forum I’ve answered a lot of questions today but definitely not them all messaging from single men have now been turned off because it’s to much and that’s just a few hours 🤦‍♂️😂

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By *am4sin OP Man
11 weeks ago

Mansfield

Absolutely, it's because iv seen both sides i put the post out. Its like being on a different site.

But some people won't know that and thing guys just can't be bothered to put any effort in. I'm just trying to give an explanation, nothing more than that.

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By *ealitybitesMan
11 weeks ago

Belfast

I disagree.

I'm one half of a fab couple and in the 2 or more years we've had that profile we have had less than 40 messages in total.

I know lots of women who only receive a handful of messages now and again.

I don't know if you said 100 messages just to highlight your percentages but I would be asking why anyone would send 100 messages if they were not getting a response.

I would be very surprised if I had sent 100 messages in the 9 years I've been here. In fact the last time I sent an opening message was before covid in January 2020.

None of that has stopped me from having lots of conversations with those who contact me though.

It's not easy but it's really not that difficult either.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"Absolutely, it's because iv seen both sides i put the post out. Its like being on a different site.

But some people won't know that and thing guys just can't be bothered to put any effort in. I'm just trying to give an explanation, nothing more than that."
if someone puts some effort in we do answer them back and yeah a lot of the time it is a polite decline and for the record most of the single guys we’ve politely declined have taken it well . But one word messages get deleted especially hi

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11 weeks ago

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By *ilsaGeorgeCouple
11 weeks ago

kent

"There is a massive difference between the two profiles, (yes i know ones male and ones female) and they way they work on here.

A guy can put hour of work into his, great pics good write up and not get 1 message, it's just how it works.

Give us a chance, we are trying, but the male to female ratio on her is massively in the woman favor. Even a "sorry not for me" is appreciated.

Anyway, i just wanted to say to the girls, we are trying, it's just not as easy for us as it is you one here."

In regards to couples, I disagree. We receive very few messages, and when we do send one, about 50% of the time it goes answered. Nothing here is a walk in the park, and nor should it be. Those are real people behind the sexy pictures and words, people with challenges, problems, faults and issues, people with family and friends and dependents and responsibilities. Answering some random stranger’s message on a swinging site just isn’t a priority. Try not to lose sight of that and you won’t be too disappointed - not receiving a reply isn’t a slight against you, so don’t take it as one x

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"I disagree.

I'm one half of a fab couple and in the 2 or more years we've had that profile we have had less than 40 messages in total.

I know lots of women who only receive a handful of messages now and again.

I don't know if you said 100 messages just to highlight your percentages but I would be asking why anyone would send 100 messages if they were not getting a response.

I would be very surprised if I had sent 100 messages in the 9 years I've been here. In fact the last time I sent an opening message was before covid in January 2020.

None of that has stopped me from having lots of conversations with those who contact me though.

It's not easy but it's really not that difficult either. "
you must have had message filters very strict tho there’s no way your numbers would be so low if you had messaging from single guys turned on

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By *eri24Woman
11 weeks ago

Bridgend

The majority of messages I get from men are one liners from profiles with no pictures or bio

And they wonder why I don't reply

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By *razymindMan
11 weeks ago

Dublin mainly

Unfortunatelly i agree too with OP..sometimes it gets boring to be here..as sometimes you put in time to write a nice message to woman with profile you are very interested in..but for woman it a just so easy to just delete it. And she has perfect right to do so, however then some men might copy paste same message or just send shorter messages in hope of getting reply from at least some of the women they are interested in

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By *ORBCouple
11 weeks ago

Dundalk

"I disagree.

I'm one half of a fab couple and in the 2 or more years we've had that profile we have had less than 40 messages in total.

I know lots of women who only receive a handful of messages now and again.

I don't know if you said 100 messages just to highlight your percentages but I would be asking why anyone would send 100 messages if they were not getting a response.

I would be very surprised if I had sent 100 messages in the 9 years I've been here. In fact the last time I sent an opening message was before covid in January 2020.

None of that has stopped me from having lots of conversations with those who contact me though.

It's not easy but it's really not that difficult either. you must have had message filters very strict tho there’s no way your numbers would be so low if you had messaging from single guys turned on"

"I disagree.

I'm one half of a fab couple and in the 2 or more years we've had that profile we have had less than 40 messages in total.

I know lots of women who only receive a handful of messages now and again.

I don't know if you said 100 messages just to highlight your percentages but I would be asking why anyone would send 100 messages if they were not getting a response.

I would be very surprised if I had sent 100 messages in the 9 years I've been here. In fact the last time I sent an opening message was before covid in January 2020.

None of that has stopped me from having lots of conversations with those who contact me though.

We don't have guys blocked from messaging at all. We aren't currently meeting but I think we have only ever received one message from another couple and that was part of a forum game.

Every other message has been from single men.

We have never had an influx of messages at any stage.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"I disagree.

I'm one half of a fab couple and in the 2 or more years we've had that profile we have had less than 40 messages in total.

I know lots of women who only receive a handful of messages now and again.

I don't know if you said 100 messages just to highlight your percentages but I would be asking why anyone would send 100 messages if they were not getting a response.

I would be very surprised if I had sent 100 messages in the 9 years I've been here. In fact the last time I sent an opening message was before covid in January 2020.

None of that has stopped me from having lots of conversations with those who contact me though.

I disagree.

I'm one half of a fab couple and in the 2 or more years we've had that profile we have had less than 40 messages in total.

I know lots of women who only receive a handful of messages now and again.

I don't know if you said 100 messages just to highlight your percentages but I would be asking why anyone would send 100 messages if they were not getting a response.

I would be very surprised if I had sent 100 messages in the 9 years I've been here. In fact the last time I sent an opening message was before covid in January 2020.

None of that has stopped me from having lots of conversations with those who contact me though.

We don't have guys blocked from messaging at all. We aren't currently meeting but I think we have only ever received one message from another couple and that was part of a forum game.

Every other message has been from single men.

We have never had an influx of messages at any stage. "
maybe it’s age related then we get a lot of messages from couples and today we turned on messages from single men and we received lots in only a few hours

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By *andPextraCouple
11 weeks ago

North West

"Absolutely, it's because iv seen both sides i put the post out. Its like being on a different site.

But some people won't know that and thing guys just can't be bothered to put any effort in. I'm just trying to give an explanation, nothing more than that. if someone puts some effort in we do answer them back and yeah a lot of the time it is a polite decline and for the record most of the single guys we’ve politely declined have taken it well . But one word messages get deleted especially hi "

Pretty much this. And pretty much most of who we say no to could have avoided the disappointment by reading the profile. Its the words above the pictures…..

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By *eyeYCouple
11 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

"The majority of messages I get from men are one liners from profiles with no pictures or bio

And they wonder why I don't reply "

That! Or don't even bother to take note of the 'looking for' bit..

Mr was a single guy previously so has sympathy, but the nondescript shite we get from the majority 🤷🤦

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

"Absolutely, it's because iv seen both sides i put the post out. Its like being on a different site.

But some people won't know that and thing guys just can't be bothered to put any effort in. I'm just trying to give an explanation, nothing more than that."

We get message s from guys with a lot more effort than women and couples well your lucky to get any message bk from a women and sometimes couples but they seem to be very blunt and soon vanish .

Least the guys most of the time send fa em pics and chat yeah ok a lot just want dirty talk or pics but not all of them .

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By *itSurreyCoupleCouple
11 weeks ago

Reigate

Even if we get more than a one word message from men, you can instantly tell they haven’t read the profile and it’s a copy and paste message.

We put in as much effort as i sent.

Plus, if you don’t want to reply or read a message, you really have no obligation to so.

Coming from a couple that really don’t get many messages from new people at all.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
11 weeks ago

Cambs

My response is completely dependant on how much effort is put in, copy n paste messages are usually so generic that I don't even bother to check out the profile, "hey" "faf" type messages get short responses if at all and a well worded message, will attract me to look at a profile, if they match my interests and I get a good vibe from them, their pics, write up, veris, then I'll reply accordingly whether I'm interested or not.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
11 weeks ago

Lincolnshire

I’ll pretty much say for certain that guys who have cock pics and action shots with another woman, will get less replies than a profile that has intriguing pics.

FAB is a numbers game and every pic you post could either enhance or decrease your chances.

How you sell yourself makes a huge difference on here.

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By *hampersDarlingWoman
11 weeks ago

Norwich

I don't get lots of messages and I'm a single female. I do delete any messages without reading them, when men have clearly have not taken the time to read my profile or respect my preference.

Also there are a lot of time wasters, fake accounts and picture collectors on here.

These all give you a little less patience to reply to all messages.

I realise it may seem rude but no response is a response.

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By *eri24Woman
11 weeks ago

Bridgend

"I don't get lots of messages and I'm a single female. I do delete any messages without reading them, when men have clearly have not taken the time to read my profile or respect my preference.

Also there are a lot of time wasters, fake accounts and picture collectors on here.

These all give you a little less patience to reply to all messages.

I realise it may seem rude but no response is a response.

Pictures with another woman is worse than no pictures at all 😁

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