FabSwingers.com forum: Ladies, what are the straight guys doing wrong?

By *DoorsDown OP Man
over a year ago

Windsor

As a bi guy I find myself looking at a lot of male profiles. I see a lot of straight guys struggling to get meets on here and I'm not sure why. There are LOTS of men on here who are good looking, have great bodies, nice profiles etc. They seem to tick a lot of boxes but are getting no attention...so I'm just wondering where they're going wrong?

Come on ladies (and other bi guys) let's give these straight fellas some advice and get them some action!

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By * Jay69Man
over a year ago

Bridgwater - Somerset

"As a bi guy I find myself looking at a lot of male profiles. I see a lot of straight guys struggling to get meets on here and I'm not sure why. There are LOTS of men on here who are good looking, have great bodies, nice profiles etc. They seem to tick a lot of boxes but are getting no attention...so I'm just wondering where they're going wrong?

Come on ladies (and other bi guys) let's give these straight fellas some advice and get them some action!"

Can't we keep it all for ourselves?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i agree there are some good looking men on here who dont get much luck on here, then there are some very average looking men who do get to meet lots of women.

maybe some men havnt got the gift of the gab, they dont say the right things.

maybe some women meet the plain looking men because they have low self esteem.

someone might be good looking but they could have a personality disorder.

i think women are attracted to confident men, not arrogant men though.

some people come across as too needy and desperate.

different types of women like different types of men though.

like attracts like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my reasoning is that the guys who get the meets are the ones that come to local socials us fems get to know then and we take it from there because it aint a shagging sex site its a swingers site and personality has to come into it as well. thats my tuppence worth in anyways lol have fun

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By *DoorsDown OP Man
over a year ago

Windsor

"i agree there are some good looking men on here who dont get much luck on here, then there are some very average looking men who do get to meet lots of women.

maybe some men havnt got the gift of the gab, they dont say the right things.

maybe some women meet the plain looking men because they have low self esteem.

someone might be good looking but they could have a personality disorder.

i think women are attracted to confident men, not arrogant men though.

some people come across as too needy and desperate.

different types of women like different types of men though.

like attracts like.

So it's just the luck of the draw then really. I hate seeing fine men going to waste lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" There are LOTS of men on here who are good looking, have great bodies, nice profiles "

You have just answered your own query to a degree

There are LOTS of them

(all fishing in a very small pond)

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By *DoorsDown OP Man
over a year ago

Windsor

"my reasoning is that the guys who get the meets are the ones that come to local socials us fems get to know then and we take it from there because it aint a shagging sex site its a swingers site and personality has to come into it as well. thats my tuppence worth in anyways lol have fun

I hadn't really thought of it that way. I guess 'MM' meets are a bit more straightforward but FM meets require more legwork and some of the straight chaps don't realise that.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Advice that is asked for in that respect is rarely heeded I'm not optimistic that unsolicited advice will be taken on board. It's a natural selection process just like in real life only the ones best able to adapt to the prevailing conditions survive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" There are LOTS of men on here who are good looking, have great bodies, nice profiles

You have just answered your own query to a degree

There are LOTS of them

(all fishing in a very small pond)"

so how come they dont always get much luck, when not very good looking men do then?

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"Ladies, what are the straight guys doing wrong? "

They keep messaging US when our profile clearly states you must be at least orally-bi.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"So how come they dont always get much luck when not very good looking men do then?"

Personality/confidence probably. x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'm having to turn people down due to lack of time. Not boasting just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" There are LOTS of men on here who are good looking, have great bodies, nice profiles

You have just answered your own query to a degree

There are LOTS of them

(all fishing in a very small pond)

so how come they dont always get much luck, when not very good looking men do then?"

and there are some not very good looking men that don't

looks alone don't guarantee a meet, they simply help the process along

as well as focussing on what we seek and ensuring those that we seek are looking for the same, opportunity, timing and chance play a huge part in someones success on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From past experience, and liking them to verify on cam... some don't fo cam, do to me would pretty much be a no go now after a meet 2 years ago was nothing like tge pics he sent in. Also, too many see it as an easy way to get laid! A different chick each time etc, where as many wimen like it to be a connection.. trust building etc! Also, many women won't sleep with cheats! The profiles may seem kosure - doesn't mean it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" There are LOTS of men on here who are good looking, have great bodies, nice profiles

You have just answered your own query to a degree

There are LOTS of them

(all fishing in a very small pond)

so how come they dont always get much luck, when not very good looking men do then?

and there are some not very good looking men that don't

looks alone don't guarantee a meet, they simply help the process along

as well as focussing on what we seek and ensuring those that we seek are looking for the same, opportunity, timing and chance play a huge part in someones success on here

Also fair points!!x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm having to turn people down due to lack of time. Not boasting just saying. "

yeah you are

show off lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i agree there are some good looking men on here who dont get much luck on here, then there are some very average looking men who do get to meet lots of women.

maybe some men havnt got the gift of the gab, they dont say the right things.

maybe some women meet the plain looking men because they have low self esteem.

someone might be good looking but they could have a personality disorder.

i think women are attracted to confident men, not arrogant men though.

some people come across as too needy and desperate.

different types of women like different types of men though.

like attracts like.

Im straight, dont get meets anymore, know how they feel, sorry for sneaking in as a female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What, you mean no veris had no meets lol, is that what you mean by no action?

So now you want us straight guys to take advise from bi guys?

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By *uteguy06Man
over a year ago

Swindon

I'm reading this post in detail as I am one of these single males on here who is struggling, been here over a year and not had meet yet. I have sent many messages, added new pics, re-written my profile a few times with no joy still.

So any advice would be appreciated & if you like what you see say hello lol

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By *DoorsDown OP Man
over a year ago

Windsor

"What, you mean no veris had no meets lol, is that what you mean by no action?

So now you want us straight guys to take advise from bi guys?"

Is this aimed at me? I am verified (across two profiles)...just don't publish the verifications. That's what 'verfied genuine profile' means. All a bit rich coming from someone with a hidden profile...

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By *DoorsDown OP Man
over a year ago

Windsor

"I'm reading this post in detail as I am one of these single males on here who is struggling, been here over a year and not had meet yet. I have sent many messages, added new pics, re-written my profile a few times with no joy still.

So any advice would be appreciated & if you like what you see say hello lol

What I'm taking away from the comments here is that you straight guys can't treat this as an insta-fuck kind of place. Most of the women seem to want to get to know you a fair bit first...chatting, social meets etc. You have to read and pay attention to their profiles and only contact them if you are a match...don't just test your luck regardless.

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By *uteguy06Man
over a year ago

Swindon

I agree with you there _doorsdown, that's what I'm looking for get to know each other first see of we click I'm not in any rush not looking to sleep with the whole world either lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find you just have to get into the right group of people on here and let them pass on their views about you, just make sure their positive 1s

lol it does work, I've ended up ok, even had a good few ffm 3somes, I LOVE fab

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"[Removed by poster at 03/05/13 10:02:45]"

This guy was gonna say how cool I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What, you mean no veris had no meets lol, is that what you mean by no action?

So now you want us straight guys to take advise from bi guys?

Oooo claws! This place ahhhh missed it lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 03/05/13 10:02:45]

This guy was gonna say how cool I am.

LOOOL and you really don't have a big heed eh

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"I agree with you there _doorsdown, that's what I'm looking for get to know each other first see of we click I'm not in any rush not looking to sleep with the whole world either lol"

Have you tried clubs or socials? what you are doing obviously isn't working so try something different..

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I don't necessarily think that sexuality has much bearing on it. It would appear that

1. guys who have 'luck' wtf? make an effort

2. They socialise with the fems

3. They do not regard this site as instashag

4. they do not see it as an automatic right to get a meet

5. They are usually quite active on the forums/clubs etc - funny/interesting threads not look at me threads..

6. They have taken the time to have good profiles not whingy ones about how crap fab is and what a hard time the single guys get

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By *uteguy06Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Not not ever tried but I am thinking about it just got to find one and get over the nerves

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By *pecifically1Woman
over a year ago

Hull

"Not not ever tried but I am thinking about it just got to find one and get over the nerves"

what have you got to lose???

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By *DoorsDown OP Man
over a year ago

Windsor

"Not not ever tried but I am thinking about it just got to find one and get over the nerves

what have you got to lose???

He's got nothing to lose and everything to gain...go for it dude!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

" There are LOTS of men on here who are good looking, have great bodies, nice profiles etc. "

And the social kills of a smartie

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I read recently that less than 1% of fab members use the forum. Out of those we see a fair few posting about lack of success. What we don't see is all the men who do get meets, bragging about it.

We all quietly get on with the business that is shagging

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814

" What we don't see is all the men who do get meets, bragging about it.

We all quietly get on with the business that is shagging "

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"I read recently that less than 1% of fab members use the forum. Out of those we see a fair few posting about lack of success. What we don't see is all the men who do get meets, bragging about it.

We all quietly get on with the business that is shagging "

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By *uteguy06Man
over a year ago

Swindon

I am definately going to try a social and see how it goes, like you all said nothing to lose but everything to gain

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

There are women and couples who struggle on here as well. It just seems like more men do because of simple mathematics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reason is becose most couples(not ladies) on here are looking to swing..

Swing is the new term for the 1970,s words "wife swap".... Normally takes two to swap and two to swing.

Now,if as a single guy it was that easy to get a fuck from a ladie or couple on here the surly the whole world and there dog would have a profile on this site.

As a couple,we have been on a journey which includes that first chat about swapping,that first pub meet and then the all important swap! It was great fun as a couple to go on that trip so why should it be that easy for a single guy to just put a pic of his cock and then think that the whole workd was going to wanna play...no no no,get a girlfriend and then start your own journey and who knows,maybe oneday we might meet!

This is our oppinion only!

Xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aaaah, so all the recent (and not so recent) threads from BI guys complaining about not getting meets are just a blip??

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"[Removed by poster at 03/05/13 10:02:45]

This guy was gonna say how cool I am.

LOOOL and you really don't have a big heed eh

It was too good an opportunity to miss!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

It's because they don't make an effort, they have a very lazy profile and when you arrange a meet, they get cold feet and stop speaking!

So, looks like I will be having a quiet weekend, after having a meet arranged for tomorrow, that wont be happening due to the above!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It's because they don't make an effort, they have a very lazy profile and when you arrange a meet, they get cold feet and stop speaking!

So, looks like I will be having a quiet weekend, after having a meet arranged for tomorrow, that wont be happening due to the above!

Tossers like that give all the guys a bad name

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"It's because they don't make an effort, they have a very lazy profile and when you arrange a meet, they get cold feet and stop speaking!

So, looks like I will be having a quiet weekend, after having a meet arranged for tomorrow, that wont be happening due to the above!

Tossers like that give all the guys a bad name

And that is after me spending a lot of time getting to know him! So not all due processes work,

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto

"It's because they don't make an effort, they have a very lazy profile and when you arrange a meet, they get cold feet and stop speaking!

So, looks like I will be having a quiet weekend, after having a meet arranged for tomorrow, that wont be happening due to the above!

Tossers like that give all the guys a bad name

Nope, they give THEMSELVES a bad name. Their stupidity doesn't affect me on here one bit.

The sooner people stop using that as a crutch, the better their mindset will be when it comes to using this or other sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's because they don't make an effort, they have a very lazy profile and when you arrange a meet, they get cold feet and stop speaking!

So, looks like I will be having a quiet weekend, after having a meet arranged for tomorrow, that wont be happening due to the above!

Tossers like that give all the guys a bad name

He ain't giving ME a bad name! I don't even know the guy! In fact, its 'tossers' like him that make it EASIER for me.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"It's because they don't make an effort, they have a very lazy profile and when you arrange a meet, they get cold feet and stop speaking!

So, looks like I will be having a quiet weekend, after having a meet arranged for tomorrow, that wont be happening due to the above!

Tossers like that give all the guys a bad name

And that is after me spending a lot of time getting to know

him! So not all due processes work,

Aw.....and you look like a lovely lady....You will have to comfort yourself in others ways

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Ok point taken. Not all men. Just him. The Tosser.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"It's because they don't make an effort, they have a very lazy profile and when you arrange a meet, they get cold feet and stop speaking!

So, looks like I will be having a quiet weekend, after having a meet arranged for tomorrow, that wont be happening due to the above!

Tossers like that give all the guys a bad name

And that is after me spending a lot of time getting to know

him! So not all due processes work,

Aw.....and you look like a lovely lady....You will have to comfort yourself in others ways

So much for planning a fun long weekend! So looks like wine for me only

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By *DoorsDown OP Man
over a year ago

Windsor

"It's because they don't make an effort, they have a very lazy profile and when you arrange a meet, they get cold feet and stop speaking!

So, looks like I will be having a quiet weekend, after having a meet arranged for tomorrow, that wont be happening due to the above!

He must be crazy, Foxy!

I suppose nerves get the better of us all at some point. I've got a meet today that I'm stupid nervous about...but I'm not backing out!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Pre meet nerves are good, not turning up is bad.

After meet nerves are a bit iffy.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Sure plenty of bi single men are having the same problems.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"It's because they don't make an effort, they have a very lazy profile and when you arrange a meet, they get cold feet and stop speaking!

So, looks like I will be having a quiet weekend, after having a meet arranged for tomorrow, that wont be happening due to the above!

He must be crazy, Foxy!

I suppose nerves get the better of us all at some point. I've got a meet today that I'm stupid nervous about...but I'm not backing out!!"

Probably more like a fantasist! I was kind of expecting lol So I wasn't too surprised! Hope your meet went well though

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By *DoorsDown OP Man
over a year ago

Windsor

"It's because they don't make an effort, they have a very lazy profile and when you arrange a meet, they get cold feet and stop speaking!

So, looks like I will be having a quiet weekend, after having a meet arranged for tomorrow, that wont be happening due to the above!

He must be crazy, Foxy!

I suppose nerves get the better of us all at some point. I've got a meet today that I'm stupid nervous about...but I'm not backing out!!

Probably more like a fantasist! I was kind of expecting lol So I wasn't too surprised! Hope your meet went well though

My meet went VERY well...still smiling a day later

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By *ral4bothMan
over a year ago

Harrow

What are single guys on here doing wrong....Messaging me

Straight ones that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Um, as of this afternoon doing nothing wrong

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