FabSwingers.com forum: Is forty too old for a man on Fabs?

By *aughty-one OP Man
21 weeks ago

Nazeing

How comes so many of the attractive women on here only want messages from men aged under 45?

Are younger guys more likely to be used as disposable fuckboys who are more interested in sexual conquests and than older men with more engaging topics of conversation?

Is it that once men reach middle age they are no longer wanted by sexually liberated females for physical bedroom activities?

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By *aciamiCouple
21 weeks ago

Hertfordshire

Not from our experience 😉

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By *abtastic Mr FoxMan
21 weeks ago

A den in the Glen

"How comes so many of the attractive women on here only want messages from men aged under 45?

Are younger guys more likely to be used as disposable fuckboys who are more interested in sexual conquests and than older men with more engaging topics of conversation?

Is it that once men reach middle age they are no longer wanted by sexually liberated females for physical bedroom activities?"

Some old guys are boring as fuck I'll have you know 😉

So yes 45 is too old. Just quit whilst you're ahead.

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By *ornycougaWoman
21 weeks ago

WHEREVER I LAY MY HAT

"How comes so many of the attractive women on here only want messages from men aged under 45?

Are younger guys more likely to be used as disposable fuckboys who are more interested in sexual conquests and than older men with more engaging topics of conversation?

Is it that once men reach middle age they are no longer wanted by sexually liberated females for physical bedroom activities?"

It's an insult to guys under 45 to say they can't hold a conversation. A lot of them can. And last for hours and/or repeat again and again 😈

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By *ggdrasil66Man
21 weeks ago

Saltdean

40 is not too old for anything dude, it’s the new 30 innit!

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By *lint25Man
21 weeks ago

newport

I don't think so, I've been on and off here for years and still get attention now in my mid 40s, ultimately its preference and some will love our age group, whilst some want someone older or younger. All want someone they are attracted to and that has nothing to do with age IMHO.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
21 weeks ago

East Sussex

You have an age limit op I don't your reasons for it but I respect it.

What will help is if you search for women who are looking for your age group.

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By *issmorganWoman
21 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

47 will be too old for some op, yes.

It won't for others though, it obviously depends on their age and preferences too. For example it's probably too old for ladies in their twenties, but not women in their 40s and 50s.

Plenty of men aged 45 plus, do well on here.

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By *arahfromwarringtonTV/TS
21 weeks ago

warrington

Over 40 is fine until you start talking about trains.

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By *uxurycollectionCouple
21 weeks ago

Port Talbot

I hope not…….

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By *am4sinMan
21 weeks ago

Mansfield

I think everyone looks for younger to try and recapture their youth. I have little interest in old than me, not an insult, just not for me.

Most of my partners have been 5 to 10 years younger than me, one was 18 years younger (yea, that was to much younger) so on here for me it's not a deal breaker as this is just a swing site, but for a partner, I would definitely be looking for younger.

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By *am4sinMan
21 weeks ago

Mansfield

"Over 40 is fine until you start talking about trains."

But what if it was Thomas the Tank Engine lol

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

I hope not!

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By *aughty-one OP Man
21 weeks ago

Nazeing

"You have an age limit op I don't your reasons for it but I respect it.

What will help is if you search for women who are looking for your age group. "

Of course there is going to be a preference for a certain age range, but my point is to open discussion on this as it seems to be a heavy leaning towards the cougar and cub dynamic of a mature woman with a younger “stud”.

Is this the general trend with swingers where it bucks mainstream society’s view of the older gentleman and the attractive young lady.

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By *ealitybitesMan
21 weeks ago

Belfast

I didn't join fab until I was 52 with zero experience of anything like this.

I've never once had a conversation about my age or felt even slightly restricted by it.

It's like so many other things on fab where the only barrier is the one you build yourself.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
21 weeks ago

East Sussex

"You have an age limit op I don't your reasons for it but I respect it.

What will help is if you search for women who are looking for your age group.

Is this the general trend with swingers where it bucks mainstream society’s view of the older gentleman and the attractive young lady."

Ok I understand. I think that there are some women who prefer a younger man but there are just as many who like men around their own age. There are many, many men who prefer younger women though and I can't say I blame them. Youth has much to commend it when it comes to sex.

Don't assume that all women like the same thing though.

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By *ggdrasil66Man
21 weeks ago

Saltdean

"Over 40 is fine until you start talking about trains.

But what if it was Thomas the Tank Engine lol"

I won’t hear anything against Thomas the Tank Engine, or the Fat Controller!

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By *aughty-one OP Man
21 weeks ago

Nazeing

It's like so many other things on fab where the only barrier is the one you build yourself. "

That quote should be pinned to the front page of this site.

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By *urge72Man
21 weeks ago

Hull

People are entitled to put what they want, they just need to realise they may be missing out on fun with experienced respectful older guys.

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By *naswingdressWoman
21 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

No. I think the hard declines for interest in men are 50 and 60. 30-50 are, I guess, peak for men on Fab

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By *naswingdressWoman
21 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

"People are entitled to put what they want, they just need to realise they may be missing out on fun with experienced respectful older guys.

I can assure you, everyone who sets age limits has thought about what they might be missing, and they're 100% fine with it.

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By *ealitybitesMan
21 weeks ago

Belfast

"People are entitled to put what they want, they just need to realise they may be missing out on fun with experienced respectful older guys.

I disagree. I've never given a thought to anyone outside my age filters.

How can I miss out on something I wasn't looking for in the first place?

The same applies to all the filters I fall outside of.

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By *vaRoseWoman
21 weeks ago

Ankh-Morpork

"How comes so many of the attractive women on here only want messages from men aged under 45?

Are younger guys more likely to be used as disposable fuckboys who are more interested in sexual conquests and than older men with more engaging topics of conversation?

Is it that once men reach middle age they are no longer wanted by sexually liberated females for physical bedroom activities?"

Is it a trend? Not sure I rarely look at other ladies profiles.

You have preferences, only 10 years older but will go 22 years younger. Nobody is here to judge that and you’re entitled to search for the connections you want. Surely the ladies here can do the same?

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
21 weeks ago

Chichester

Nope 40 seems about average age in swinging I find

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By *an8iMan
21 weeks ago

Bilston

I hope not im 45 in April

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By *olte121Man
21 weeks ago

just up the road and first left

There had better not be an ageism thing going on

I’m just finding myself and still not hit my peak yet

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

"How comes so many of the attractive women on here only want messages from men aged under 45?

Are younger guys more likely to be used as disposable fuckboys who are more interested in sexual conquests and than older men with more engaging topics of conversation?

Is it that once men reach middle age they are no longer wanted by sexually liberated females for physical bedroom activities?"

I thought 45 was more the average age on this site no?

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By *layfull pairingCouple
21 weeks ago

Bristol

God help me... Seems I’m way past it then

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By *ustus5555Woman
21 weeks ago

Mansfield

Hope not. Or that's the couples account finished 😱😱

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

I hope not

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By *havennaturistsCouple
21 weeks ago

Banff

There are a lot of younger women who appreciate the gentle attentions of a genuine, mature bi married couple, that's for sure.

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By *ympho6969Woman
21 weeks ago

glasgow

I hope not. I'm approaching 40 faster than I'd like

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

Yes , people over 40 shouldn’t be having sex , they should be knitting etc

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By *lex D.Man
21 weeks ago

London

It's not about your age, it's how you carry yourself IMO.

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By *ergus1622Man
21 weeks ago

Dundee

I sure hope not ! Lol

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By *eroLondonMan
21 weeks ago

Mayfair

Seriously, at my age not only are you over the hill but you're half way down and picking up speed.

I hope my luck turns with this place. It's soul destroying.

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By *xfordjohnMan
21 weeks ago

Oxford

How can 40 be too old when some of us are over 70 and still meeting? I know a lot of people have upper age limits that exclude me but lots don't and I still get enough interest to keep me busy.

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By *he Old School RockersCouple
21 weeks ago

Gloucester

Trust me not all women want under 40, personally I prefer older gentlemen to younger guys.

Kink

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By *harAndBryCouple
21 weeks ago

Downham Market

" Is it that once men reach middle age they are no longer wanted by sexually liberated females for physical bedroom activities?"

Assuming those sexually liberated females are under 58, OP?

(Bry)

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By *aughty-one OP Man
21 weeks ago

Nazeing

Assuming those sexually liberated females are under 58, OP?

(Bry)"

Like I’ve said before, this thread is to open discussion on this topic as it seems to be a heavy leaning towards the cougar and cub dynamic of a mature woman with a younger “stud” within the swinging community.

My age preference is not there for scrutiny or to pass judgement, we all have reasons for an age range, with I think the most common reason being to not fuck someone that could be the same age as your children or older than your parents.

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

Depends if the 45 year old has the stamina of a 30 year old.

Do you op?

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By *naswingdressWoman
21 weeks ago

Manchester (she/her)

Assuming those sexually liberated females are under 58, OP?

(Bry)

I can't say I've noticed a cougar/cub thing going on. I notice a strong 30-60 demographic

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By *aughty-one OP Man
21 weeks ago

Nazeing

"Depends if the 45 year old has the stamina of a 30 year old.

Do you op?"

Depends if you want to put it to the test….. hopefully I’m not too worn out by old age!

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By *heelerMan
21 weeks ago

Northants

Hope not otherwise I'm well over the hill

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By *atte Lover 82Man
21 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

I hope not. But I'm taking notes just incase. 🤔 Must work on stamina

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By (user no longer on site)
21 weeks ago

I hope not , otherwise I’m very late for the party

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By *parkle1974Woman
21 weeks ago

Leeds

I prefer older

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By *atte Lover 82Man
21 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

"I prefer older

x"
damn. 😭

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By *parkle1974Woman
21 weeks ago

Leeds

"I prefer older

x damn. 😭"

Though slightly younger does work too

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By *atte Lover 82Man
21 weeks ago

BERWICK-UPON-TWEED

"I prefer older

x damn. 😭

Though slightly younger does work too

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