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Why it is so difficult to find couple dates?

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By *ombieBears OP   Couple
16 hours ago

Oxfordshire

Well, around 2-3 months on fab, it is so difficult to find a real date here. We get tons of messages and winks, we reply enthusiastically too. There is initial spark as well, but it hardly converts to date.

We are free on weekends and ideally looking for dates within 50 miles of our area, why is so dry in here????

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By *heeky12399Man
16 hours ago

Shrewsbury

Because everyone on here has their own agenda and there a lot of fakes that put other couples off actually meeting. It's sad that guys do that

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By *Wnewbies 40Couple
15 hours ago

Morecambe

We are finding it extremely difficult too

Too many people who don’t read profile and also so many fake couples and ladies x

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By *ombieBears OP   Couple
15 hours ago

Oxfordshire


"We are finding it extremely difficult too

Too many people who don’t read profile and also so many fake couples and ladies x"

We feel you!

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By *andPextraCouple
15 hours ago

North West

We find the biggest difficulty is scheduling

We can't meet at the drop of a hat.

A meet often needs to be in a few months time.

That puts lots off.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
15 hours ago

East Sussex

Two verifications in two months is pretty good going

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By *ombieBears OP   Couple
15 hours ago

Oxfordshire


"Two verifications in two months is pretty good going"

Thanks, both were lame socials

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
15 hours ago

East Sussex


"Two verifications in two months is pretty good going

Thanks, both were lame socials "

Ouch! Do you really want to be saying that where the people you met can read it?

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By *oxy jWoman
15 hours ago

somerset

if people put all their eggs in one basket then of course its going to be hard ... the swinging scene is far bigger than one web site even if fab is the best for online ...

clubs are where the best info is get known and then doors open for much much more than just clubs ie private invite only parties some couples only some have single women too men are very very vetted ie they must know some of the couples invired ..

so whats the difference well face to face your meeting real swingers and that cant be said for online that is very male driven with wanking porn fantasy pretending to be couples or women ie half of couples and women are not who they say they are ...

even meeting men is easier via clubs 90% of guys i meet are from clubs and couples and women i meet is 100% awat from online and over the years have built a very big network of friends ..

nothing falls into your lap effprt is needed and not in one location..

and i say all that but fab is by far as swinging goes the best site you just need to avoid the non swingers and fakes

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By *ombieBears OP   Couple
15 hours ago

Oxfordshire


"if people put all their eggs in one basket then of course its going to be hard ... the swinging scene is far bigger than one web site even if fab is the best for online ...

clubs are where the best info is get known and then doors open for much much more than just clubs ie private invite only parties some couples only some have single women too men are very very vetted ie they must know some of the couples invired ..

so whats the difference well face to face your meeting real swingers and that cant be said for online that is very male driven with wanking porn fantasy pretending to be couples or women ie half of couples and women are not who they say they are ...

even meeting men is easier via clubs 90% of guys i meet are from clubs and couples and women i meet is 100% awat from online and over the years have built a very big network of friends ..

nothing falls into your lap effprt is needed and not in one location..

and i say all that but fab is by far as swinging goes the best site you just need to avoid the non swingers and fakes"

Thanks that's some real good advice. Have to look at the club scenes.

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
15 hours ago

Around the Midlands


"Two verifications in two months is pretty good going

Thanks, both were lame socials

Ouch! Do you really want to be saying that where the people you met can read it? "

We thought the same thing 😱

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By *enis ColadaMan
15 hours ago

Totnes

You need to get yourselves to clubs,lots of couples looking for the same thing

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By *issmorganWoman
15 hours ago

Calderdale innit

It's hard for couples, looking to meet other couples, I'm half of one.

You have to factor in 4 way attraction and then availability of all parties, as many like me and my other half do shift work.

If all aren't free for a while, the chat can Peter out or become very boring.

Why not consider a club?. You could put on your status that you're attending too,see if anyone else you like the look of is.

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By *orester891Man
15 hours ago

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Struggling to believe you are having problems . Must be so many fakes in here .

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By *annyandwalterCouple
15 hours ago

south London

We're new, and tbh, possibly a bit scared. In the end, you're meeting total strangers, and it's nerve wracking. Hopefully got our 1st meet tomorrow, just a drink, but that's all we're after for now.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
15 hours ago

East Sussex


"We're new, and tbh, possibly a bit scared. In the end, you're meeting total strangers, and it's nerve wracking. Hopefully got our 1st meet tomorrow, just a drink, but that's all we're after for now. "

I was really nervous the first time we met someone for a drink. I still get nervous now but not quite like I was the first time . I had to keep stopping on the way to pee

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By *emdomCouple2024Couple
15 hours ago

dudley

We struggle to find couples that want to meet, we had a previous profile with alot more verifications but after losing access to it trying to build up a new profile is difficult as circumstances have changed its impossible for us to go clubs together anymore so people haven't actually seen us as a couple rather then just a single woman xx

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By *ombieBears OP   Couple
15 hours ago

Oxfordshire


"It's hard for couples, looking to meet other couples, I'm half of one.

You have to factor in 4 way attraction and then availability of all parties, as many like me and my other half do shift work.

If all aren't free for a while, the chat can Peter out or become very boring.

Why not consider a club?. You could put on your status that you're attending too,see if anyone else you like the look of is. "

Thanks! Yes we see, and these have been the difficulties. More and more we are thinking about club scenes.

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By *issmorganWoman
15 hours ago

Calderdale innit


"It's hard for couples, looking to meet other couples, I'm half of one.

You have to factor in 4 way attraction and then availability of all parties, as many like me and my other half do shift work.

If all aren't free for a while, the chat can Peter out or become very boring.

Why not consider a club?. You could put on your status that you're attending too,see if anyone else you like the look of is.

Thanks! Yes we see, and these have been the difficulties. More and more we are thinking about club scenes."

Good luck, we made more connections through clubs than just using fab.

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By *ombieBears OP   Couple
15 hours ago

Oxfordshire


"It's hard for couples, looking to meet other couples, I'm half of one.

You have to factor in 4 way attraction and then availability of all parties, as many like me and my other half do shift work.

If all aren't free for a while, the chat can Peter out or become very boring.

Why not consider a club?. You could put on your status that you're attending too,see if anyone else you like the look of is.

Thanks! Yes we see, and these have been the difficulties. More and more we are thinking about club scenes.

Good luck, we made more connections through clubs than just using fab. "

Any favourite in south east?

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By *annyandwalterCouple
15 hours ago

south London


"We're new, and tbh, possibly a bit scared. In the end, you're meeting total strangers, and it's nerve wracking. Hopefully got our 1st meet tomorrow, just a drink, but that's all we're after for now.

I was really nervous the first time we met someone for a drink. I still get nervous now but not quite like I was the first time . I had to keep stopping on the way to pee "
that's not nerves for me, just a middle aged man issue!

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By *ab FunstersCouple
15 hours ago

Midlands

Chams in Darlaston is perfect for a first club visit. Everyone is so friendly and never any pressure to do anything you would not feel happy to do. This was our first club and still remains our club of choice.

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By *tarcrossed_SwingersCouple
15 hours ago

Loughborough

Spending your time chatting with the wrong type of people if you want instantaneous action rather than a social which leads onto a private meets!

It's just like in real life, you can't click with everyone. And those you do click with, they need to factor in free time to make something potentially happen!

Just go to a club if you want to try and crack on!

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
15 hours ago

Stockport


"Well, around 2-3 months on fab, it is so difficult to find a real date here. We get tons of messages and winks, we reply enthusiastically too. There is initial spark as well, but it hardly converts to date.

A 4 way connection can be hard to find

But we think it's more likely that a profile is being driven by one or the other of a couple

And with 1 of them just along for the ride , or to keep the peace

We are free on weekends and ideally looking for dates within 50 miles of our area, why is so dry in here????"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
15 hours ago

East Sussex


"We're new, and tbh, possibly a bit scared. In the end, you're meeting total strangers, and it's nerve wracking. Hopefully got our 1st meet tomorrow, just a drink, but that's all we're after for now.

I was really nervous the first time we met someone for a drink. I still get nervous now but not quite like I was the first time . I had to keep stopping on the way to pee that's not nerves for me, just a middle aged man issue!"

Oh dear

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By *r K and Mrs LCouple
13 hours ago

Leicester

We’re struggling at the minute.x

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By *ombieBears OP   Couple
12 hours ago

Oxfordshire

Well, feeling really nice! thank you guys for advice. Seems clubs are the way ...

All we want, is real prople!

Also both of us are really d*unk now!

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By *ornyJ3000Man
12 hours ago

Near you

I’m one half of a couple and the 4 way attraction, the limited availability of us both sometimes, makes it difficult.

Clubs are lots of fun though; even if you don’t find a couple you’re attracted to, you can still have fun. 🤪😈

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